At one point or another, we’ve all pushed away someone we love, or perhaps someone who loves us. Maybe we did so as a defense; fearful of getting too close and getting hurt, or maybe we were having a bad day and took it out on someone we care about. Intentional or not, the truth is we’ve done it and chances are we’ve done it more than once. Sometimes we have no idea why we push people away, but, yet, we continue to do so.
Our zodiac sign can hold more truth to our behaviors than we realize. While the stars can’t predict everything in our lives, or about us, there are common traits found amongst those born under specific signs. In fact each zodiac sign is characterized by these specific traits and characteristics. That doesn’t mean we all don’t have personality features that aren’t characterized by our zodiac sign, but chances are we do find our personalities have strong connections to traits characterized by our sign. These characterizations can even cross beyond our signs and can be seen amongst out sign’s elements.
Whether we do so consciously or subconsciously, sometimes the answer to why we push away the people we love, can be explained just by looking at our zodiac sign.
16 Fire Signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius): Knows What They Are Looking For
The three zodiac signs that belong to the element of fire are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius. It’s not surprising that these signs are fire elements. They are all outgoing, firey individuals who are quite the force to be reckoned with. They also are known to have explosive tempers when provoked. But as long as you’re not on their bad sides, these signs are very warm-hearted people.
That being said, these signs know what they’re looking for in love and in life. They can be a bit impulsive but once their mind is set on something they’re all or nothing! So when something or in this case someone isn’t matching up with where they see their life going or where they want it to go, these signs will push that person away. They don’t mean to push away people they love, they just need to focus on what they want at that point in time.
15 Aries - You're Just Not That Into Them
Aries are prone to being impulsive by nature. This means they’ll often act before they think. But this isn’t always a bad thing with this sign. It means they follow their hearts. So as much as they think they love someone or rather as much as they want to, if their hearts really aren’t into them, then Aries will push them away. It may take their heads awhile to catch up with their hearts in this scenario though. After all, they’ll be wondering why they can’t come up with a good enough reason for pushing someone away, while there heart is ready to move on. Aries are very attuned to their feelings and emotions. If they try to fight their feelings, they will only draw a wedge between themselves and their relationships. Aries may end up distancing themselves from people but at the end of the day, it’s only a result of them listening to their heart!
14 Leo - Has A Fear Of Settling
When a Leo pushes away someone they love they do so out of their own fears and insecurities. Leo has a fear of being rejected and will often push people away before they can do it first. But more than that, Leo will convince themselves that pushing someone away is for the best. Better for them and the other person in the long run. Leo can be extremely picky when it comes to dating, and hold people to incredibly high standards. While there’s nothing wrong with having standards, Leo uses them as a means to convince themselves to break away from someone. Leo is afraid of settling and committing to the wrong person – because when a Leo commits to something they’re in it for the long haul. Leo pushes people away out of fear and out of a sense to protect themselves.
13 Sagittarius - Too Quick To Put Others On A Pedestal
Sagittarius are quick to push people away, loved ones especially when they are dissatisfied with their life. Sagittarius is a sign that loves to have fun and enjoy life. When they realize that their life isn’t living up to their expectations they seek a change. At first, they will push someone away to think through why they feel their life is missing something, and then they will push people away because they are trying to figure out who they want in their lives or not. Often Sagittarius are quick to put people on a pedestal. They only see the good in someone and hold unrealistic ideas about them. However, sooner or later reality hits and they see these people for who they really are. When this happens, Sagittarius will push them away because they need to figure out if the real version of someone fits into their life or not.
12 Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn): Comfortable With Life As Is
Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn are the three signs that make up the Earth element. These signs are extremely loyal and will stand by those close to them through thick and thin. Most people would describe the earth signs as very grounded people. They like to keep a strong foundation in their life. They prefer stability to spontaneity and are more practical than emotional based.
Earth signs tend to be set in their ways. They grow comfortable with their lives and become hesitant to change. When something or someone enters their life and brings a major change, earth signs can be expected to resist. In fact, regardless of how they feel about someone in their life, if they feel things are becoming unstable or changing too much they will push them away. This stems from their fear of change and the uncertainty that comes with it.
11 Taurus - You Struggle To Welcome Others Into Your Life
Taurus is extremely stubborn and set in their ways. That being said, they become very comfortable with the day to day of their lives. When someone new enters the picture they can keep that arm's length for a time. This doesn’t mean they won’t be friendly, but they need time before they are ready to open up to them wholeheartedly. For the most part, Taurus need to feel secure in all aspects of their lives, relationships are no exception. That being said Taurus may push people away for fear that it will change their lives. Taurus are very hardworking and they don’t want anyone interfering with their goals and ambitions. Even if they love someone, if a Taurus believes that person will get in the way of the path they’re taking they will push them away.
10 Virgo - Fears They Will Ruin The Relationship
Virgo has a tendency to push away people they love because they are afraid of hurting them. The last thing a Virgo wants to do is hurt someone, especially a person that they care about. When a Virgo is comfortable in the relationship they have with someone they will always harbor the fear of losing it in the back of their minds. In their attempts to prevent losing a relationship they have with someone, Virgo can inadvertently push away the people they love. Whether it is friendship or romantic relationships if Virgo thinks that the relationship could end or that they will do something that messes it up, they will keep their distance. They’re more worried about being the reason the relationship ends than the other person ruining it.
9 Capricorn - Doesn't Think Others Are On The Same Page As You
Capricorn will push people away if they feel like they’re not on the same page as them. Capricorn is a sign that is very confident in themselves. They know what they want in life and they will work hard to make sure they succeed. No matter who a person is to them or how much they love them, Capricorn will push this person away. This is especially true if Capricorn sees that this person does not support them or have ambitions of there own that match up to Capricorn’s level. This is not personal by any means, and Capricorn has no intention of hurting anyone’s feelings. However, they are very driven and need to surround themselves with people that share the same values that they do. Anyone else just wouldn’t match up to Capricorn’s lifestyle, and so they will push those people away.
8 Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius): Needs To Be Comfortable In Themselves Before Anyone Else
The three zodiac signs that fall under the air element are Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius. Air signs are very social signs. They love people and love to socialize with friends, as well as making new friends. They enjoy adventures and are always on the go. Nothing is ever boring with an air zodiac sign.
However, as much as these signs love people, they sometimes have the habit of pushing those very people away. Seems a bit counterintuitive to their social nature. That being said, they do have a good reason for doing so, even if they don’t realize it. Air signs need to feel comfortable with themselves fore they can surround themselves with the people in their lives. Normally, that’s an easy feat for those of this sign; however, sometimes circumstances arise that leave them questioning their sense of self. When this happens these signs will push people away, including the ones they love until they find themselves again
7 Gemini - Doesn't Want To Lose What They Have
Many people tend to think Gemini is always out and about looking for the next best thing. While this is true to the extent it’s not entirely the case when it comes to the people and relationships that are in their lives. When the fear that these relationships are in danger of ending creeps into a Gemini’s mind, they will react by pushing away the other person first. Gemini wants to avoid the pain of losing a friendship or a romantic relationship so they will remove themselves from the situation first by putting distance between them and the other person. Their intention is to avoid the hurt, not to hurt another person. Maybe they hope by pushing away the ones they love they can salvage some of their relationships rather than allowing it to fall apart on its own. Whatever the mindset that drives this action, Gemini push people away in order to avoid being hurt.
6 Libra - Wants To Focus On Themselves First
Libra will go out of their way for any friend or partner. Through thick and thin, whatever they need, Libra will be there for them. So it’s hard to imagine this sign actually pushing anyone away. However, as surprising as it may seem Libra are prone to pushing people away when they feel like they need to work on themselves. Libra needs to have a strong sense of self in order to progress in relationships. They often put others before themselves but sometimes they just need to take a break and work on themselves. Life can be complicated, and Libra doesn’t want to bring that complication into any of their relationships so they’ll push people away until they can work on themselves. Don’t take it personally when a Libra pushes you away as it has nothing to do with you; they only need to take some time for themselves
5 Aquarius - Doesn't Expect Anyone To Understand Them
Aquarius can be a very particular sign. They can and will march to their own beat and do so with self-confidence. They love to have adventures and to have a good time. However, this sign has a tendency to push others away. Aquarius only pushes people away when they feel that those people don’t understand them. In fact, Aquarius will also push away people they love if they don’t understand them. This sign knows they have their quirks, and they fully accept that. They can’t accept people who judge them or want them to change. If Aquarius feels this is the case they will push that kind of negativity, and the person spewing it, out of their lives, even if it comes from a person they love. Aquarius just wants to be accepted for who they are, and will push people away you can’t accept that.
4 Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces): Can't Let Others Get Too Close
The water element is made up of the zodiac signs Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces. Water signs are highly sensitive and intuitive. They have a strong connection to their emotions as well as the emotions of those around them, making them a great friend to confide in. Above all else, water signs crave security from their relationships.
It is their need for security that causes these signs to push people away. They fear letting others get too close to them. Since water signs are highly sensitive, they can become fearful of the vulnerability that comes when you grow closer to others. To develop this level of a relationship can take time. Water signs are extremely caring and devoted to those they love, so they rarely push people away; if they do, chances are it won’t be for long.
3 Cancer - Fearful Of Their Emotions
Cancer feels everything deeply, and while this is generally one of the positive features of this sign, it can also create some conflict. At times Cancer can become overwhelmed by their own emotions. When a Cancer pushes away someone that they love, it's not because they are scared about how the other person feels, it’s because they can’t handle their own emotions! Cancer can be overcome by their fear of losing the relationship or not being good enough for someone, as well as the fear they feel too much for a person. Emotions can be overwhelming and this is especially true for this sign. It’s next to never that a Cancer will push someone away for any other reason other than their own emotional state being thrown into chaos. When a Cancer pushes someone away, it’s only so that they can focus on sorting themselves back into order.
2 Scorpio - Trust Issues Keep You From Getting Too Close
The one thing Scorpio really struggles to get past is their trust issue. This sign can be extremely trusting, loyal, and devoted without a second thought. However, if you betray them, lie to them, or give them any reason to doubt you Scorpio will turn on you real fast. That trust they once had is gone and will be nearly impossible to repair. Because trust is such a delicate concept for Scorpio, they will often have a hard time allowing people to get too close to them. This sign does not want to be betrayed and wants to keep themselves guarded. Inadvertently, this may push people away from them. If willing to take the time to get to know the Scorpio and prove that you are trustworthy than Scorpio will be in your corner for life.
1 Pisces - Fear Of Being Hurt And Rejected
Like all the water signs, Pisces can be highly sensitive. That being said, Pisces may actually be the most sensitive out of the entire zodiac. Because of this, Pisces are fearful of being hurt or rejected, since they know how intensely they will feel the pain of that. For this reason, Pisces are quick to push those away as soon as things start getting a little problematic. Rather than subject themselves to potentially being hurt, Pisces will convince themselves that things are just not meant to be, and will distant themselves from the situation and the people involved. Later on, they may look back and end up regretting their decision to push someone away; however, in the moment, they let fear and their emotions get the better of them. It’s never Pisces intentions to hurt anyone; they are just trying to keep their own heart safe when they push someone away.