You may have heard of Amber Rose, with her stunning blonde buzz and statuesque figure, she's pretty hard to miss. A lot of people know Amber to be a pretty polarizing figure. She is certainly not one to shy away from expressing her opinion, and she's okay with the fact that you may not like what she has to say. She's also aware of the fact that a lot of people don't like women who are outspoken, and the fact that she couldn't care less is what makes her a feminist icon. Unfortunately, the star is rather misunderstood. Many people sadly only know Amber Rose for the men she's dated, or the arguments she's gotten into with the Kardashians.
One aspect of Amber you may not be aware of is her role as a mother. Though it's not one of the aspects of her the media focuses on most (except to criticize her), it's the one she's most passionate about. Once you realize more about the rules Amber lives by as a mother, you just might find yourself inspired. Amber's style of parenting may seem nontraditional to some, but it works for her, and we think you might like some of her tips too!
15 She's Raising Her Son, Sebastian Taylor, To Be A Feminist
A lot of moms focus on raising strong women that prioritize their rights, but not everyone thinks about raising boys that are also informed about women's rights. However, Amber has had enough experience with men to know how important it is to have more men in the world that respect women and are willing to be their allies.
While doing an interview with People, Amber told the magazine a great deal about her plans for raising her son Sebastian Taylor. She admitted, "I''m raising him to be a feminist." We love that Amber is already thinking about what sort of person she wants her son to be as he grows up.
In between changing diapers and planning for preschools, it can be pretty hard to also remember the sort of ideologies you want to instill in your kids at such a young age, but Amber seems to be doing a great job of balancing it all.
It's clear that Sebastian's idea of strong women is going to start with Amber, "Having him was like, you know what, I have to be stronger than I ever have been in my whole life, for him. He needs to look at his mom as Superwoman." We're pretty sure he will!
14 She Wants Him To Prioritize Being A Leader Over Being Liked
Amber has all of the characteristics of a leader. She is willing to speak up for herself and others regardless of any negative consequences it may bring about. Of course, it makes sense that she would want to instill the same qualities in her son. According to Refinery 29, Amber told People, "When my son goes to school and his friend calls a girl a [expletive], I want him to be the first person to say, 'Man, that's not cool. You don't talk to women like that.' That's very important to me." Clearly, this also goes right along with Amber's intention to raise a feminist.
We can see that she wants to raise a son who stands up for want is right and speaks up for people that aren't there to defend themselves. Like any good parent, Amber wants to give her son a healthy moral compass. It's especially important to teach kids that they cannot follow everything their peers do and to know that they should think for themselves. Regardless of who Sebastian becomes, he most likely will not be liked by everyone around him. Teaching him to stand up for the right thing no matter what will also help Sebastian realize that there are more important things than being liked, and to know that what's most important is him being comfortable with who he is.
13 He Already Has A Vocabulary That's Probably Bigger Than Ours
Amber just might be raising a future president! In addition to teaching Sebastian to be a feminist and a leader, she is also helping to make sure he has an expansive vocabulary. According to The Mirror, she told People: "I read to Sebastian every [single] day when he was in my arms, and now he can articulate a sentence like no other, and he's 3 years old. He knows every big word. And every time your baby says something like 'Oh, this is relaxing,' you be like a thesaurus and give [them] a different way to say it every single time so they learn.' We love that Amber is so focused on advancing Sebastian's learning even though he's still so young.
One of the best parts of being a parent is when you get a chance to learn with your child, and Amber is doing just that.
She told the magazine that Sebastian has already begun showcasing how good he is at using his new vocabulary. According to Celebritybabies.people.com, Amber revealed: "I gave him a piece of strawberry gum, and he was so dramatic when I gave it to him because he said, 'Ooh mommy this gum feels so therapeutic.' And I laughed on the floor until I cried." Just imagine a three-year-old saying the word therapeutic. So precious!
12 She Understands That Worrying 24/7 Is Part Of The Job
Every mother knows that one of the hardest parts of the job is the nonstop worrying. It's very difficult to suddenly be responsible for someone that is completely reliant on you and to know it's your job to make them into the best human being they can be. Amber definitely seems to understand this responsibility, and she told People that she worries just like any parent: "As a mom, you have a million different fears. You don't sleep at night. You think about all the worst things that could possibly happen to your baby, and it really sucks." We can imagine how hard it must be to have to worry about so many different things at once.
Even the best parents can't protect their children from everything because it's impossible to know what the world will throw at them. Even despite all of the effort Amber puts into being a parent, she has a lot of fears she can't control either, which is a good reminder to all the parents out there. Fortunately, many of the negative things kids go through actually teach them valuable life lessons. We're certain Sebastian will be able to take these lessons to become a better person because his mom gave him such a good foundation to start with.
11 And She's Very Protective Of Sebastian
It's understandable that Amber would feel the need to be protective of her son. In addition to all of the typical things parents have to protect their children from, there's also the fact that Sebastian has to deal with the extra complications that come with having famous parents. Already, Amber has faced a great deal of scrutiny for how she is raising her son, a fact that will probably just continue to intensify as he grows older. She told People, "I read every single book, when I was pregnant, about being a mom and being pregnant and doing the right thing."
Sadly, once you become a parent for real, no amount of reading will really teach you what to do in unexpected situations.
However, according to The Mirror, Amber insists, "Your maternal instinct comes in, and you figure it out along the way. And that's the fun part about it." It's clear that Amber is doing everything she can to protect Sebastian from all of the people and things that might hurt him. However, we get the sense that she knows not to let her desire to protect Sebastian go so far that she keeps him from having important experiences. Nevertheless, she definitely makes people that try to criticize her son on social media think twice, so don't test her.
10 But She Is Unapologetic About Prioritizing Herself, Too
A lot of women, unfortunately, fall under the assumption that becoming a mother means giving up their lives if they want their children to be healthy. Fortunately, a new generation of mothers are combating this assumption, and Amber is definitely at the forefront of this movement.
According to the Tribute Content Agency, Amber declared "Moms are allowed to be sexy. We are allowed to still have fun. We are allowed to go out at night when our kids are asleep and still have a good time. Our lives are not over because we have children." We love that Amber doesn't have a problem declaring this fact to the world!
So many people make mothers feel guilty when they go and do something themselves, and they are held to a totally different set of expectations from fathers. Amber is obviously an excellent mother who is completely dedicated to her child, but she still finds a way to take care of herself as well. It's proof to all the mothers out there that it is totally possible to do both. Of course, she is also serving as a good role model for Sebastian by teaching him how important self-care is, even when one is completely committed to taking care of the people they love.
9 And She Understands That Being A Mom Doesn't Mean Giving Up Her Individuality
Being a parent certainly takes a lot of energy and dedication. So much so that a lot of parents have to make sacrifices like giving up free time and hobbies. As a result, their identities become wrapped up in their roles as parents and they lose their sense of individuality.
It can be especially difficult to do so for single parents, so Amber is fortunate to have the help of Sebastian's father, Wiz Khalifa.
According to the Tribune Content Agency, Amber is very aware of how important it is for Sebastian to see her enjoying her life as well, "I want my son to see me still do amazing things and grow up and be like, 'Man, my mom was having a good time. She took care of me, she got up for school,' I just believe that moms can do it all." It's so great that Amber is so determined to be a great mom and a woman with a strong sense of individuality and healthy social life.
It's unfortunate that some women feel the need that they need to compromise one or the other, but she stands as evidence for those that want an alternative to know that it doesn't have to be that way. Amber is aware of this fact too; "I almost go overboard on purpose to kind of piss people off and make them say mean things about me so women can be like, 'I need that, I need to see that." A mother, a feminist, and now, a martyr?!
8 She Lets Her Son Express Himself
Of course, Amber's ability to express her individuality is just as important as her son's. Adolescence can be a difficult time for some people if their parents are too restrictive and don't allow them to do and say the things that they want. Amber is very aware of this being a problem, and she's determined to help her son be himself, even if it makes certain people unhappy.
Amber took to Instagram to share with her fans a recent situation that had occurred with her son and his hair. She captioned a photo of Sebastian with blond hair that looks just like hers: "Lol he begged me for a whole year to dye his hair blond like mine so we started with a little patch and I told him when he turns 5 I will make him a full blond like his mommy. He will be 5 on the 21st of February!...P.S. love your children unconditionally and let them be creative this world will be a better place." It's so sweet the way Sebastian looks up to his mom, so much so that he wanted to have hair just like hers.
The blond looks so awesome on him, and although a lot of parents are hesitant to let their kids dye their hair, we think it's pretty cool that Amber let Sebastian express himself and that they made a decision on how he would change his appearance together. Of course, kids are not equipped to make all their own decisions, but it's still pretty important to let them have a say in things that will affect their own bodies!
7 ...Despite The Endless Social Media Criticism
It's very fortunate that Amber has such tough skin because there was always people eager to criticize her decisions, especially now that she's a mother. When she posted the picture of her son's hair after it had been dyed blond on Instagram, she obviously anticipated that it would inspire a lot of criticism. When she captioned the photo, she also said: "He's so happy and none of you dirty little trolls can take that away from him or me!" It's like she already knew that they'd try!
Even though there were many supportive comments on the picture, there were, unfortunately, some that did not have anything nice to say.
While many commentators argued that Sebastian was too young to have his hair dyed, others were sadly overly judgemental. It's obviously pretty difficult to reason with the latter group, but the former is unreasonable for making assumptions about how Amber dyed her son's hair. They assume that it was unhealthy without knowing what sort of product she used, whether it was organic, or really any of the details. At the end of the day, there's really no pleasing everybody, and it's a relief that Amber doesn't even try to. Hopefully, Sebastian will know that like his mom, he should do what makes him happy even if other people don't approve (as long as he isn't hurting anyone).
6 And She's Okay With The Fact That He's A Swiftie
We wouldn't expect Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa to be big fans of Taylor Swift, but apparently, their son is. After previously showing a video of Sebastian singing along to Taylor Swift's "Look What You Made Me Do," Amber took to Instagram to share this sweet video of Sebastian opening up a "surprise" from Taylor Swift herself! Spoiler alert, it's tickets to Taylor's concert!
We know there are a lot of people out there that would go crazy for those tickets, so Sebastian is one lucky fan! Because Sebastian was criticized for liking Taylor Swift, Amber took to Instagram to defend her son, E! News reported. She said, "...liking a certain type of music will not make you 'pick' your sexuality...He can listen to whatever music he likes, he can like whatever color he wants and we let him be passionate about whatever his little heart desires. We don't let our son live by society norms..." We love that Amber's inter-sectional take on feminism also prioritizes fighting homophobia on social media.
It sounds like Sebastian is going to grow up to be an incredibly open-minded and uninhibited person. Not everyone allows their kids to completely be themselves, but Amber Rose is luckily amongst the celebrity moms that realizes how important this is. We can just picture Sebastian growing up to hang out with the likes of Jaden Smith and Angelina Jolie's kids. They would make one incredible non-conforming, free-spirited squad. We're already jealous.
5 She Is Already Encouraging His Musical Talents
Considering his father is a rapper, it's not too surprising that little Sebastian is musically inclined. While his mom has filmed him singing along to Taylor Swift, People reports that Sebastian's dad, Wiz Khalifa, also posted a video of him singing along to him to the Chicago hit "Hard to Say I'm Sorry." Of course, Sebastian is also a fan of his dad's music, so it's clear he already has a pretty wide-ranging taste.
It's exciting to see Sebastian's personality began to form, and though he is clearly taking inspiration from both of his parents, we can tell he already has a pretty distinct taste.
Perhaps Sebastian will become a musician like his dad one day, though he may eventually choose a career outside of the limelight. All in all, Amber is clearly preparing him to be a rather intelligent and compassionate human being. Considering how passionate she is about social causes, he may also feel inspired to go into politics, which is a great place for a leader, after all.
Then again, he really doesn't have to choose! Amber has always found a way to balance all of her passions, so perhaps Sebastian will explore the arts through music while finding a career outside of that world. The sky is the limit!
4 She's Prioritizing Sebastian's Mental Health
Amber seems to be very aware of how important it is for young people to feel accepted by their families. This is one of the reasons she feels it's so important to let Sebastian express himself, no matter what people might say. Amber told People that one of her greatest fears for Sebastian is "just for him to be depressed and unhappy in his life." This is rather thoughtful of Amber, since Sebastian is still so young, and many people don't become concerned with mental health in kids until they become teenagers.
Most parents with five-year-olds are mostly concerned with the physical health of their children, making sure they don't get sick or do anything unsafe. Sadly, some parents don't consider that it takes a toll on children when every aspect of their lives is controlled. Amber wants to make sure Sebastian is not one of those kids.
She continues, "I want him to do literally any and everything that makes him smile and be happy forever." Sebastian is very lucky to have a mom that is going to love him unconditionally, no matter what he chooses to do with his life. Unfortunately, a lot of parents do sever their relationships with their children over the way they live their lives, whether its because of sexual orientation, or choosing to date outside of their race, or even career choices. Luckily Sebastian won't have to face any of that, which is a promising start for his mental health.
3 She's Committed To Co-Parenting With Her Ex-husband
Having to co-parent with an ex can obviously be a very difficult task, but Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa are being adults about it. These two go the extra mile; rather than just being civil, they've even coordinated outfits for both Halloween and Sebastian's birthday.
According to People, the two decided to dress as characters from Suicide Squad for Sebastian's fifth birthday. Amber dressed as Harley Quinn while Wiz was The Joker. The magazine reports that Amber and Wiz got married in July 2013, but Amber filed for divorce in September 2014 and cited irreconcilable differences.
However, even after their romantic relationship fell apart, these two seemed dedicated to remaining amicable.
In an old Instagram post, Amber declared: "Wiz and I are family and we will be family for the rest of our lives for Sebastian." According to E Online, Amber even defended a photo of her and Wiz kissing, which had made people mistakenly think the two were getting back together: "We've been through hell and back so a kiss on the lips for a photo and a night out of fun is not a big deal for either of us, we are in a great place but we are very much still divorced and not back together." As he gets older, we're sure Sebastian will appreciate the effort his parents have made to remain friends despite their divorce.
2 She Values The Lessons Her Mom Taught Her
Amber credits her mom, Dorothy, for a lot of the things she does as a parent herself. She told People that one of the most important things her mom taught her was self-confidence. She told the magazine that "no matter what I put on, my mom used to let me get dressed by myself every day and regardless of if I had mismatched socks on or different colored shirt and pants, she always told me how amazingly beautiful I was and that really helped me throughout my life to just be confident in everything I do." We can tell that Amber has taken inspiration from the way her mom allowed her to be creative and to express herself, and that's probably one of the reasons she let Sebastian dye his hair blond.
It's also very important that Dorothy instilled self-confidence in Amber, regardless of how she looked — so we think Sebastian will also know that confidence is about much more than appearance.
Amber's mom is still very supportive and has even defended her daughter over the things Kayne West has said about her on social media. She has also attended Amber's annual feminist walk in Los Angeles, Us Weekly reports. We bet she's a wonderful grandma as well!
1 She Isn't Afraid To Own Up To Her Mistakes
Amber has made her share of mistakes. However, she seems to be very good at admitting when she's wrong. Amber has a rather complicated relationship with the Kardashians. In addition to being Kayne's ex, she is also best friends with Blac Chyna, who has a child with Rob Kardashian, as well as a child with Tyga, who is now dating Kylie Jenner.
As reported by People, despite all of the drama, Kim and Amber famously buried the hatchet with a selfie, after which Amber declared: "...I like her, I think she's a nice girl".
Unfortunately, Amber has had quite a few exes say some bad things about her. According to Us Weekly, Kayne West famously declared that he "had to take 30 showers" before moving on from Amber.
Not only was this a very disrespectful statement to make about someone he had spent two years with, it was also heavily misogynistic, which Amber discussed in her infamous annual feminist walk.
Kayne even took things further during a Twitter fight with Wiz Khalifa, declaring; "I own your child!!!!" which is a really odd thing to say. Despite everything that's happened between her and the Kardashian family, Amber continues to publicly offer her sympathy during bad times, like most recently with Khloe's cheating scandal. Though it would be easy for her to gloat — considering the terrible things the Kardashian clan has said about her — Amber has acknowledged both sides have been in the wrong. We love that Amber admits to her mistakes.