Everyone has an idea of what their 'dream relationship' is. Whether it's realistic or not, we're all constantly striving towards that ideal that we've made up in our heads.
While we love a good challenge, this probably isn't the right path. We start telling ourselves lies when it comes to love in order to uphold our notion of the perfect relationship. Basically, we're willing to bend over backward in order to make sure that our relationship follows the plan we've come up with.
Lying to ourselves is not the key to making things work when it comes to love. It's time for us to stop lying when it comes to making love work. We have to jump back into reality and realize that these ideas we have are just way off from what we actually desire. Instead, they're actually setting us up for misery, rather than bringing us happiness.
It seems like each astro sign has their own perspective when it comes to relationships. We all keep telling ourselves that one lie that absolutely has to go. Once we're able to stop lying to ourselves, our love life will finally be able to flourish. These false pretenses are only holding us back when it comes to finding the love of our life!
Get ready to let go of the past and jump straight into the future!
24 Scorpio Woman: Relationships Require Sacrifice
As a Scorpio, you're willing to do whatever is necessary to get what you want. If this means having to give up a part of yourself in order for your love life to prosper, so be it. While we adore the determination, you're completely lying to yourself.
You can't keep pretending that sacrificing who you truly are is the key to making a relationship flourish. If your relationship is only able to survive by oppressing yourself, then you shouldn't even be in it. Instead, you should focus on putting yourself first, even in a relationship. Don't burn off parts of yourself in order to keep your partner warm!
23 Scorpio Man: Perfect Couples Never Fight
We promise you that even the most ideal couples on this planet fight with each other here and there. If you're keeping quiet in order for no fights to break out between you and your lover, you're doing it all wrong. Issues will eventually arise when the truth comes out.
A few minor fights here and there simply show that both partners are completely invested in the relationship. There is no point in pretending that everything is okay when it's not. If you instead go out of your way to prevent fights from happening, your relationship is sure to fall apart. The next time you find yourself disagreeing with your partner, realize that it simply means that both people care!
22 Sagittarius Woman: We Should Be Together 24/7
When you initially fall in love, you can barely spend any time apart from your lover. That's because you're completely in love with that special someone and simply can't spend any time alone. While it might be fun to be together 24/7 initially, you'll eventually have to spend some time apart.
It is completely unhealthy to be together all the time, even during those early stages in the relationship. Rather than pretending that you can't live apart, it might actually be a good idea to spend some time alone. This is a perfect opportunity to truly digest your relationship and double check that everything is indeed going well. When you eventually see your lover, you'll be even more obsessed with one another!
21 Sagittarius Man: She’ll Never Find Out
If you think that you'll be able to get away with whatever it is, think again. She is guaranteed to find out as the truth always surfaces. While you might think you can keep whatever it is to yourself, it's best to just come clean.
We all have a difficult past that we wish we can keep hidden. However, the longer we try to hide it, the more it wants to come out. If your relationship is truly as stable and healthy as you think it is, it's best to simply come clean about whatever it is. If the truth eventually comes out in the future, it'll be a bigger blow to your partner then than it would be now.
20 Libra Woman: It’s His Fault
It's time for you to stop blaming your lover and realize that it might also be your fault. While he might have totally been wrong, it's time to forgive him and move on. The only thing holding you back at this point is your negative perspective when it comes to love.
Once you realize that you have full control of your perspective on anything, you become liberated. If you take responsibility for your perspective, you'll be able to work toward anything that you desire. Rather than pretending that everything is someone else's fault, realize that you might have played a part in it. Also, make sure to fully forgive your partners for their mistakes, or move on.
19 Libra Man: Relationships Shouldn’t Be This Hard
While we all might want to pretend that happy relationships don't require a ton of work, they actually do. If you truly want a strong relationship that is able to grow over the years, you're guaranteed to come face to face with some difficulties. For a relationship to truly grow into the future, you're going to have to put in the work.
The relationships that are actually worth it are the ones that are truly hard. That means that you and your partner are willing to work through all of the bad things in order to push things where they're supposed to go. Don't stress out if you find yourself in a difficult relationship; it's probably worth it!
18 Leo Woman: Things Will Get Better
If you already find yourself in a relationship that's falling apart in the early stages, it probably won't get better. But your Leo attitude is always able to pull the positive out of any situation. While we love your attitude for hoping things will work out, they truly might just not.
Instead, it's time to take a realistic approach when it comes to love. If the future of your relationship is based on your partner changing their ways, you should give up now. You should never expect or demand your partner to change, as there is no guarantee that will happen. There is no point in sticking around in a relationship that simply isn't worth it.
17 Leo Man: All Relationships Get Boring Eventually
While all relationships tend to lose the butterflies that we initially feel, they don't exactly get boring. If you find yourself stuck in a long term relationship that just isn't fun anymore, that means something is way off in your love life. You can't blame a boring relationship on time.
Instead, it seems like both people have simply given up and aren't willing to put in the work to change things for the better. Don't blame the status of your relationship on time. Rather, put in the work and push your relationship in the direction that you want. We promise that you'll go absolutely crazy if you're stuck in a relationship that just doesn't make you happy.
16 Cancer Woman: He’ll Change
The worst lie you can tell yourself is that 'he'll change.' The truth is that he doesn't owe you anything, even a better version of himself. Instead, you're pushing yourself into a situation where your happiness is based on someone else. While you might be truly holding onto the idea that he will change, he probably won't.
We recommend that you switch this thought process and come to terms with who he truly is. If you're not willing to love his current self, then you should probably move on to someone new. He shouldn't have to change who he is for your happiness, even if it's in his best interest. Come to terms with how things really are rather than living in a fantasy that things will change.
15 Cancer Man: I’m Not Good Enough
The last thing you should be convincing yourself is that you're not good enough. Some of your relationships were unable to work out was based on the situation rather than your part in them. A Cancer is a complete catch and has every quality someone would desire in a relationship.
It's time to stop shifting blame to yourself and realize that things were guaranteed to end up this way. You have to find a lover that perfectly complements you rather than brings you down. Only then will you see your relationship truly flourish into everything that you have ever desired. Put yourself first and love will come in no time!
14 Aries Woman: It’s My Partner’s Fault
If you think that shifting blame onto your partner will make things work, think again. The last thing that your partner deserves is a lover who is always blaming them for any issues that arise. You'd be the first to admit that you always see issues as your lover's fault rather than yours.
It's time for you to take control of your thought process and stop blaming others for your mistakes. Instead, figure out if you had anything to do with the issue that arose. Once you realize you had a part to play in the issue, you'll stop shifting all the blame onto your partner. We promise that no one wants to date someone who can't take responsibility for their actions.
13 Aries Man: All Relationships Are Stressful
If you're constantly stressed because of your relationship, something is totally off. Especially if you're in the early stages of love. It seems like at this point you have completely convinced yourself that everyone is stressed when it comes to love.
While there are definitely some stressful moments, you shouldn't be losing sleep over your lover. Instead, it's time for you to realize that maybe there are some serious problems that just won't go away. It's best to figure out problems, even if it means ruining your relationship, rather than pretending that everything is okay but actually stressing over things. Get ready to deal with the issues at hand rather than losing sleep over your love life.
12 Virgo Woman: He Didn’t Mean It
In order to keep things going, we often lie to ourselves that everything is completely okay rather than realizing that they actually aren't. If you often find yourself justifying your lover's actions, you probably shouldn't be. Instead, it's time to come to terms with what actually happened and your partner's true intentions.
If he did something that completely crossed the line, he should totally own up to it. The last thing you want to do is justify his actions as a little mistake that he didn't mean to do. You have to take a hard look at his intentions and figure out if he meant to do it or not. You can't keep pretending that everything is going according to plan when your lover is constantly messing up!
11 Virgo Man: Communication Will Solve Everything
We often hear that communication is the key to letting a relationship prosper. We couldn't agree more as lies are promised to ruin everything you might have built with your partner. However, if you think that simply discussing everything is the key to making things last, you're so off.
Rather than making false promises to your partner, you're going to have to change your ways. They say that actions speak louder than words, and they are so right. You can't keep pretending that everything is fine when it just isn't. Instead, make sure that your actions uphold all of the promises that you're making. Only then will you see your relationship grow into something beautiful.
10 Capricorn Woman: It'll Go Away On Its Own
We absolutely promise you that any outstanding relationship issues that you might have will so not go away on their own. Instead, it's time for you to take some time and figure out how to solve them. Or else they will only grow into a massive issue.
While your Capricorn chill attitude might want to just go with the flow, that isn't what you should be doing. Instead, you should completely come clean with your lover about all of the things that are stressing you out. It'll be more than difficult to deal with these issues, however, it's what you should be doing. Don't keep living in a fantasy that everything will work out on its own because it won't!
9 Capricorn Man: No One Else Matters
When you find yourself in a new relationship, you are completely head over heels for your lover. There is no one more important than this special person since it feels like you've found the love of your life. While you might love them more than anyone, it doesn't exactly mean that they are the most important person in your life.
The last thing that you want to do is forget everyone around you just because you're in love with someone new. The people in your life so won't appreciate this and you'll begin to lose friendships. Instead, we recommend that you uphold other relationships outside of the one with your lover. You don't want to find yourself completely alone just because you ditched everyone around you for them!
8 Aquarius Woman: Everything Is Just Fine
Sometimes the worst lie that we tell ourselves is that everything is fine. Whether it's out of fear or hope, you can't keep living in this lie that you're beginning to believe. Everything is totally not okay and is instead falling to pieces.
If you find yourself in this situation, it's time to take hold of your relationship. Realize that what you're doing is completely wrong and is only making things worse. The sooner you come to terms with all of your problems, the sooner you will be able to figure them out. This is a million times better than living a life filled with constant lies. While it's guaranteed to be painful at first, it's what you should be doing.
7 Aquarius Man: She’s The One
Whenever you find yourself in a new relationship, you're more than obsessed with that new special someone. You're willing to do whatever it takes for her to fall for you and adore you for who you truly are. While you might be in love, that doesn't exactly mean that she's the one.
We recommend that you give yourself a little more time before deciding if someone is the one for you or not. We're guessing that the few months that you've been together isn't enough for you to decide that this person is your soulmate. If she truly is the one, then she will be right by your side in the years to come. Don't rush things and simply go with the flow!
6 Gemini Woman: Everyone Makes Mistakes
It is more than true that everyone makes mistakes, even in relationships. However, if you think that this justifies your lover's actions, you're more than wrong. It's fine to let a few minor mistakes here and there slide, but not when it's serious. The last thing that you should be doing is letting your partner walk all over you and justifying it for him.
Take control of your life and figure out if you should forgive your partner or not. Don't just let his mistakes slide; rather, hold him accountable for them. There is no point in pretending that everything is okay when it's totally not. Come to terms with what's going on and don't let anyone try to manipulate you!
5 Gemini Man: I’m Just Overreacting
Don't let anyone try to convince you that you're overreacting about a situation. You are the only one who knows how you feel, and you shouldn't have to explain your emotions. If you're not comfortable with a situation, make it known. While it might bring up some major issues, it's worth it if it means figuring out the problem.
The last thing that you want is to pretend that everything is just fine when it's not. Follow your emotions and do whatever is in your best interest. Your feelings are a perfect indication as to what you should do. If a situation has truly angered you, make it known rather than pretending that everything is okay!
4 Taurus Woman: It’s All My Fault
The absolute last person that you should be blaming is yourself. When love falls apart, it is totally the fault of both people. If you keeping on trying to convince yourself that it was your fault, you'll eventually start to believe it.
Instead, have a talk with your partner about the situation to try and figure out who is at fault. You shouldn't be putting yourself down when you're completely in the clear. You also might be shifting the blame onto yourself rather than your partner. It's time that you realize that both of you might be the ones causing the issues, rather than just one or the other.
3 Taurus Man: It Just Isn’t Worth It
If you truly believe that you've found the right person, you shouldn't give up. You should give the relationship your all in hopes of mending things. All relationships are guaranteed to go through some hard times, not just yours. These moments are actually incredibly important as they show whether your relationship has what it takes to get through the hard times.
The last thing you want is to run away from your relationship simply because it isn't going as planned. You can't ditch everything just because the road got a little tough. If you and your partner have what it takes, you'll be able to figure things out in a heartbeat. If not, then things were meant to work out this way!
2 Pisces Woman: I'm The Perfect Partner
While we absolutely adore that you see yourself so highly, that probably isn't the best when it comes to making a relationship work. Rather than pretending that you're the dreamiest partner anyone could ever desire, it's best to realize your strengths and faults.
You are completely awesome, but that doesn't mean that you don't have some issues you still have to work on. It's these problems that might be causing some stress in your relationship. The last thing you want is to pretend that you're doing absolutely amazing in your love life when you're actually not. Take some responsibility and see what you can do to change things!
1 Pisces Man: Someone Better Will Come Along
If this is the mindset you have in a relationship, then you shouldn't be in one. You can't push yourself into a relationship in hopes of someone else better coming along. That simply means that you aren't completely invested in the person that you're dating and should instead be single for a little while.
Also, if you're looking around while in a relationship, you probably aren't the right person to be in one. Or perhaps, this is simply a sign that you're dating the wrong person. Take some time to figure out what you truly desire and want. You shouldn't push yourself into a loving relationship when you're simply not ready. Spend some time alone, and you'll realize what you truly need.