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The Kind Of Relationship We're Destined To Be In, Based On Our Myers-Briggs Personality Type

Have you heard of the Myers-Briggs personality types? By now, you probably have, as this framework of thinking about yourself has been popular for a while now. But just in case you haven't, here's the deal: there are 16 personality types, arranged into categories by whether the person is extroverted or introverted. Each personality type is either extraverted or introverted and then has three other qualities.

As the official foundation website states, "The purpose of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) personality inventory is to make the theory of psychological types described by C. G. Jung understandable and useful in people's lives. The essence of the theory is that much seemingly random variation in the behavior is actually quite orderly and consistent, being due to basic differences in the ways individuals prefer to use their perception and judgment."

In other words, people behave the same ways all the time, so it's good to know how they act, and how other people act, and how everyone is different.

Are you interested in knowing what type of Myers-Briggs personality you are?

You can take a test on the website referenced at the bottom of this article.

We figured out what this has to do with your love life. Yup, read on to find out the kind of relationship we're destined to be in based on our Myers-Briggs personality type!

16 ENTJ (Extraversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judgement): The Breadwinner

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You're a great leader and you make really quick decisions when there's something that comes up. You're also super confident, which is definitely something that you should be proud of. You are all about schedules, are really smart, and are a total bookworm. People are probably totally jealous of you for that because as you've most likely realized, not everyone is that organized (and that's an understatement). In fact, some people seem to be so flaky and live in such chaos. Based on your Myers-Briggs personality traits, it seems like it would drive you crazy and confuse you. This just proves that people can be so different from one another and need to embrace their true self more.

Because of those qualities, you're destined to be in a relationship where you are the breadwinner and essentially wear the pants in that relationship.

You're just so used to being a leader and being confident that you can't imagine not acting that way in your love life as well as your personal and professional life. This might not work for everyone because some guys might be threatened by your strength and independence, but the right guy will get you and love it.

15 ENFJ (Extraversion, Intuition, Feeling, Judgement): The Savior

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You're intuitive about how other people feel. You have a lot of empathy and adore helping other people. You're also a really social person. All of these are definitely positive qualities and you should feel good about yourself. You're also pretty unique since not everyone can say that they're both intuitive about the feelings of others but also a social butterfly. That's a cool combination for sure and you should enjoy those qualities and be confident with being who you are at all times.

You're destined to be in a relationship where you have to save the other person and change their life. This could be good if you inspire them to make big life changes and get happier. You know how sometimes you read stories where a girl totally changed a guy for the better and he realized that his life got so much more amazing once they were together? He felt like he was only waiting for her to come into his life and he then made so many positive changes.

But, of course, this could also backfire. You could get too caught up in someone else's struggles and problems, which would give you a savior complex and be a toxic, negative experience.

14 ESFJ (Extraversion, Sensing, Feeling, Judgement): The Social Butterfly Kind Of Girlfriend

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If you're an ESFJ, then you have some qualities that are definitely unique to you. You like keeping the peace in any situation. You're always reliable and work hard, so you're basically a dream employee (and maybe your teachers always wrote something along the lines of "a pleasure to teach" on your report cards). But you also like being recognized for that hard work, so you're no pushover. You're a team player who follows deadlines and loves group work, too, which is important to keep in mind and speaks volumes about the kind of relationship that you're destined to be in.

Since you love being around other people, you are fine with being in a serious relationship... as long as you and your partner have a lot of social plans all the time.

You can't just stay home with him all the time and be isolated from the outside world and the people that you know. That might work for other people and be a dream for them, but it's like your nightmare. As long as you have social plans and you two hang out with your friend group a lot, and you both meet new people all the time, you'll be all good.

13 ESTJ (Extraversion, Sensing, Thinking, Judgement): All About Commitment

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As this Myers-Briggs personality type, you're absolutely a  "just the facts" type of person. You're logical, an organizer, love details, and follow through with whatever is on your plate or whatever you put your mind to.

What type of relationship are you destined to be in? You absolutely need to be in a committed relationship where you always know where you stand. You would be driven crazy if you never knew how someone felt about you and you always need to know that you are both on the same page and heading in a certain direction.

You need things to make sense and that is something that you carry with you into both your personal and your professional life. If things don't make sense and if you don't have all the facts, you're unhappy and uncomfortable. That's just not going to work for you. Once you're in a relationship, you want it to make sense, and you want to feel like, yes, this is absolutely your person and you are totally meant to be together. This also means that you'll be with someone who is a good, decent, stand-up kind of guy. You're not going to accept anything less from your partner.

12 INTJ (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judgement): The Single Girl

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If this is your Myers-Briggs personality type, then it means that you have unique ideas, but having ideas isn't enough. You want to work on them and make them happen, which is pretty awesome and inspiring.

You're independent, anything but gullible, have been described as skeptical, and expect a lot from other people and situations. When it comes to what relationship you're destined to be in, the truth is that you're more destined to be single.

Based on the fact that you're so skeptical and expect a lot from people, it seems like you could only be single.

After all, getting into a relationship means letting go of your fears and skeptical beliefs. It means believing that this person could love you the way that you love them and that things could work out. And if your expectations are too unrealistic, then you might find yourself heartbroken and unhappy since no guy is going to live up to what you want him to be and how you want him to behave. It's not completely impossible for you to be in a romantic relationship that works, of course, because anything is possible. It just seems more likely that you could even love being single since you're a very independent person.

11 INFJ (Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Judgement): A Super Serious One

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As an INFJ, aka an introvert who has intuition, along with feeling and judgment, values matter a lot to you. You're a caring person and you can always tell when someone is upset. You can also tell what other people are thinking and feeling.

Since you care about others and have a lot of values, what kind of relationship are you destined to be in? It seems like, based on those personality traits and the kind of person that you are, you would probably want to be in a super serious relationship where you can take care of someone all the time.

Not everyone is a caring person like that, especially not in a relationship. A lot of couples end up breaking up because even if they really get along well and like each other (or even love each other), one person needs someone to take care of them and the other person just can't do that. It doesn't work when one person is a bit too independent and cold. You're definitely the opposite of that. You want to care about someone deeply and would make it your mission to be the best girlfriend ever once you were in a long-term relationship.

10 ISTJ (Introversion, Sensing, Thinking, Judgement): A Good Marriage

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As another introverted Myers-Briggs personality type, you're definitely on the quiet side. You're also very logical and reliable, which are two awesome personality traits to have and things that you should be very proud of. Don't let anyone tell you that you're too quiet or too introverted. You have so many good things going for you.

You're someone that everyone can always count on. You also organize your personal and professional lives to a tee, and you love tradition. You want to be married since you're such a traditional person. And you definitely want it to be a good, healthy and happy one.

When it comes to the kind of relationship that you're destined to be in based on your Myers-Briggs personality type, you're definitely into a good marriage.

You would never stay in something that didn't make sense, since you're so logical, and you also would make an amazing, caring wife since you're such a reliable person. You are literally just waiting to be with someone and be an incredible partner to them. Your marriage will be one to envy and your friends will definitely be jealous of you (and will probably tell you that on a regular basis).

9 ISFJ (Introversion, Sensing, Feeling, Judgement): A Peaceful, Private Relationship

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Since you're an ISFJ, an introverted Myers-Briggs personality type, this is something that is important to keep in mind. You're quiet since you're, well, introverted. You always want things to be peaceful. You're also a very loyal person.

What kind of relationship are you destined to be in? You want to be in a serious relationship that is very peaceful... but you're not going to display your relationship all over social media. You're also not going to spill the beans about your love story to your closest friends (or anyone else that you come into contact with). That's just not the way that you want things to go. Your friends who are more outgoing and extroverted than you are might be confused by this and even get kind of offended since they will assume that you don't want to share things with them. You can explain to them that's not it at all, you just want to be more private because your relationship is a personal thing.

Instead, you and your partner will have a peaceful, private, and super loving relationship. It will totally be you two against the world, and you'll be very happy and comfortable with that. You'll be living the dream and doing exactly what you want.

8 ENTP (Extraversion, Intuition, Thinking, Perception): The Serial Dater

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You're not shy about your ideas, thoughts, and feelings. Also, you can always tell when someone is thinking or feeling a certain way. This is what makes you unique (and what makes you so awesome and awe-inspiring).

Not everyone can both be open about how they feel and what they think about something but also be able to be intuitive about other people. These are personality traits to be proud of. This is why you're an extrovert who is also intuitive and thinks hard and perceives well. There are a few other things that are important to know about yourself, like the fact that you really hate schedules and you also hate when things are the same. That's not something that you're cool with. You also love learning new things and having new adventures.

It makes sense that you would want to date around and always be in a new relationship since boredom is just not your thing.

You're not the kind of person who can stay with the same person forever because you don't want things to get stale and you would be afraid that things would get really dull after a while. You are definitely destined to be a serial dater.

7 ESFP (Extraversion, Sensing, Feeling, Perception): A Long-Distance One

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If you're an ESFP, then you're definitely not shy, and you're also a social butterfly. You have a few other important personal qualities that you should know about. You're good with group work and although you're practical, you're always down to have a good time, even at the office. You love adventure and can meet both challenges and change with gusto and a smile.

Since these are the qualities that describe you, you would be fine with being in a long-distance relationship and might even like it better than other relationships.

Why is that? Well, it seems like, based on these factors, it would be because you would be free to have new adventures and meet new people while maintaining a relationship. Of course, long-distance relationships are a pretty tricky thing, and they're not a subject that people agree on. Some couples really thrive within that framework because they enjoy living their own lives, being independent, and they make the time that they do spend with their partner quality time and they make it count. Others hate it and feel like they don't know what's going on with their partner and feel it ruins everything. You would enjoy it and it would definitely work well for you if you're this Myers-Briggs personality type.

6 ISTP (Introversion, Sensing, Thinking, Perception): A Quiet, Normal Relationship

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You're definitely on the quiet side since you're an introvert (and one of the introverted Myers-Briggs personality types) but when something goes wrong, you're an "all hands on deck" type of person and will figure it out. You're a logical person and love facts.

When you're in a relationship, there won't be a big song and dance about it and it won't be dramatic. It'll be a quiet relationship for sure and that will be exactly the way that you like it. It's funny to think about how different people thrive in different kinds of relationships. Some people want adventure, some want a big grand love story full of grand gestures 24/7, and others are fine with seeing their partner only sometimes and otherwise just being free and independent. There is no right or wrong way to have a relationship, of course.

For you, it seems safe to say that your ideal, dream relationship is a quiet one where you and your partner are both on the homebody side.

You get along nicely, you get along with each other families, you like each others' friends, you agree on the big things in life and the things that really matter, and that's that. No drama, no conflict, no big deal.

5 ISFP (Introversion, Sensing, Feeling, Perception): A Long-Term Relationship Where You Move Slow

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As an ISFP, you're a really nice person, and even though you're quiet since you're an introvert, you still get along well with others and are fairly social. You don't want to be rushed when it comes to working on something. You're all about commitment if you like someone. Debates are not your thing, either.

Because you're not into being rushed, you're going to be in a long-term relationship that moves very slow, and that will be just fine with you. You don't want a romantic comedy kind of love story where everything happens immediately and you fall in love at first sight and you know this guy is The One (even if there are a lot of obstacles that the two of you have to deal with). Nope. You want a real relationship that means something and that matters.

You want to make sure that you don't rush into anything or get rushed by someone else, and if you like something, you will commit. So it makes sense that once you meet a guy who you really care about, you'll want to get to know him better, and won't rush into a relationship. Slow and steady wins the race, as the old saying goes, and it could bring you the man of your dreams.

4 ESTP (Extraversion, Sensing, Thinking, Perception): Getting Serious Super Quickly

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As an ESTP, you don't want to think about ideas, you want to be more active than that and find solutions. There are different types of learning styles. Some people learn by ideas, some learn by visual educational methods, and others want to be active and find solutions. You know, the whole "learn by doing and really getting in there" thing. The latter is totally you. You learn when you're active instead of just reading about something. You also live in the moment and have fun.

When you find a guy that you really like, you're going to fall for each other hard and fast since that's just the type of person that you are.

Instead of sitting back and thinking about whether this guy would be the right person for you and whether he would make a good boyfriend and what kind of relationship the two of you would have, you want to just dive right in and see what happens.

Not everyone can go into something with that type of passion and gusto and enthusiasm, so this is definitely only going to work for some people. Luckily for you, this would absolutely be the way that you would approach a relationship, and it seems like it would work well.

3 INFP (Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perception): The Jealous Type

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If you care about someone, you're going to be super loyal, if you're an INFP. You like learning and can roll with any changes, which is a really admirable quality to have. Not everyone can look at change and think, "Okay, cool, let's just go with it instead of freaking out." Most people are absolutely going to go the other way and freak out. But not you.

Also, if you care about someone or something and something bad happens, you're going to have a problem with that. You might bring that quality into your relationship and be a little bit of a jealous partner. It just seems like based on the fact that you are so loyal, you might want to be with your partner 24/7 and might get kind of clingy. And you probably know how well that works out.

The whole "clingy" thing is funny since not everyone thinks of it the same. For some people, seeing their partner every day is totally normal. They wouldn't dream of being in a relationship any other way and it just wouldn't make sense to them. For others, anyone that texts them too much or wants to hang out a few times a week is definitely clingy, and it's just a no go.

2 INTP (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, Perception): Short Ones

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You always need things to make perfect sense if this is your Myers-Briggs personality type. That's not true of everyone, but it's definitely true for you, and logic is a big deal for you. You never met an idea that you didn't want to analyze and think about and analyze some more.

For you, it's all about ideas, and you're more an ideas person than a social butterfly. Other people love going out all the time and being social butterflies and that's just not the life that you want to build and create for yourself. Your ideas mean so much to you. You're absolutely an introvert in that sense. You're prone to analyzing things/people and criticizing them.

Because of that, you're probably not going to have an easy time dating, and you'll always be in short relationships.

It's likely that you would be in one relationship after another. It would most likely work for you and make you happy because it's possible that you would get distracted by your ideas and that might upset your partner. You might hear from guys that you need to pay more attention to them and care more about their wants and needs, but that's not really what you're after. You're too focused on what you're doing with your career.

1 ENFP (Extraverted, Intuition, Feeling, Perception): An Adventurous Love Story

If this is your Myers-Briggs personality type, that means that you have some really awesome things going for you.

You have a big imagination and are a very positive person. You're a people person who likes to be there for others. Also, you would never turn down a compliment or hate hearing that you did a good job. Sure, everyone loves to get compliments and hear that they're successful, but this is especially true for you with your personality type. You're also not chained to your own ideas or routine and can adapt. That's amazing and something to be proud of because not everyone can say that. Most people hate change, are afraid of it, and do everything within their power to hold onto the old and not deal with anything new. That's just not you, though.

Your relationship would definitely be a changing, adventurous one. You and your partner might live an unconventional life and move a lot or do things that other people wouldn't expect. You might be like those inspiring couples who live in a new place all the time or who take a super long, extended vacation. That would work great for you and your love story will be epic and full of adventure.

Reference: Myersbriggs.org

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