As women, we think we know exactly what men want. Usually, we assume they only want "one thing", but this is usually far from true. There are a lot of terrific men out there who are looking for a whole lot more than a fun time, but what exactly does "a whole lot more" entail? Here are 12 subtle things that men are secretly into when it comes to his relationship with you. Factor these tips into your romance, and he will be head over heels in love with you like never before.
12 STAY PASSIONATE OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP
Of course, having a fiery relationship that bursts with passion is a wonderful part of any romance, but make sure you don't waste every ounce of passion you possess on your relationship. It's okay to have passions outside of your relationship. In fact, it's preferable that you do. For example, if you are in love with art, don't stop painting because you're now in a steamy relationship. Men love someone who has goals and ambitions outside of their romantic connection. It helps him see you as an individual human being rather than a person who simply relies on him in order to feel something.
11 MAKE HIM LAUGH
Men love it if someone has the ability to make him laugh. Making your man laugh will get him to see you as charming and clever while at the same time full of surprises. Don't be afraid to be the jokester in the relationship because your puckish wit will only cause him to fall more deeply in love with you.
Don't believe us? Believe science! Scientific studies prove that couples who laugh together stay together. If you don't think you're funny, no need to worry. You don't have to become the next Amy Schumer, but if you find little ways to be playful with him, the humor will naturally exude out of you.
10 GIVE HIM SPACE TO CHASE AFTER YOU
As much as your man tells you that he wants to spend every second of every day with you, if you're too available, both of you will lose sight of your individuality. If this occurs, it is possible that the two of you will develop co-dependent habits and that's just never healthy. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, so be sure to spend some time alone or with family and friends. You need to give him time to miss you in order to keep the passionate spark.
He will love you for knowing that you have a life of your own without him and you have your own dreams, goals, and ambitions that have nothing to do with the relationship. It will make you go from being his partner to being his dream if you set aside time for yourself and keep your individuality. Don't play games in order to get him to chase you, just make sure you have a colorful life outside of your romance.
9 MAKE HIM FEEL BEAUTIFUL
Sometimes we mistakenly assume we are the only ones who like those gushy compliments, especially the ones about our appearances. While we may compliment our men on their job promotion or their perfect score on a test they've worked hard for, we sometimes don't realize that they would like to feel physically attractive and beautiful too.
Most men struggle with self-esteem issues when it comes to body image as much as us women do, so be sure to give him a compliment every so often about how handsome you think he looks. If he recently got a haircut, tell him how dapper it is. If he pays attention to his clothing, compliment him on his style. Men aren't robots, they have feelings too, and they would love to feel attractive for their partner just like we love to look good for our man.
8 PLAN DATE NIGHT EVERY SO OFTEN
We have been told from a young age that men like to take charge. Although this is true for most men, they would also love it if their partners would take the reins every so often. This includes planning out events such as date night, which we usually expect our boyfriends to provide. Although most men in relationships love planning ideas for a night of romance with their favorite person, it can be exhausting to constantly come up with different restaurants, bars, and activities to do every time date night comes around.
Why don't you plan date night every so often? Men secretly love to be swept off their feet every once in a while as well, so don't be afraid to be assertive and come up with a night of excitement for the two of you to enjoy together. Perhaps a fun night of laser tag or a playful splash-off at the nearest pool? He'll love your adventurous side so get creative and come up with date ideas you know he'll have a blast on.
7 BE HONEST WITH HIM
This one seems like it should be a given and we all know that honesty is the best policy, but sometimes we tend to hold our feelings in for the sake of maintaining harmony and avoiding conflict in the relationship. The problem with this is if we hold in our anger towards whatever our partner did to make us upset towards him, we risk becoming passive aggressive.
You can never expect your partner to be a mind reader, so unless you're dating Houdini, don't expect him to know exactly what you're thinking without telling him. If you are direct with your man, he will truly appreciate your willingness to communicate as an adult rather than holding it all in until you burst.
6 TEASE HIM
Men love it when someone teases him. Of course, you never want your teasing to actually be mean spirited, there is no room for that in any relationship, but if you joke around with him in a playful manner it will help build up some major chemistry while at the same time it can relax the situation. By playfully teasing him, you're showing your man that the relationship between you two doesn't always have to be formal and proper. Teasing is the best way to flirt and to build a secret world that only you two exist in.
5 APPRECIATE HIS FRIENDS
You want your man to enjoy the company of your friends, right? Well, he wants the same thing. It is very important to men that you at least attempt to get to know his friends and make the effort to appreciate them in the same way that your partner does. If you think his friends are the most annoying people you have ever met, maybe keep that to yourself.
It might break his heart if he hears that you disapprove of the people he most likely considers family, and some men will even see his woman's distaste for his friendships as a deal breaker. If you love him, you should love all of him, including his circle of friends. If you absolutely can't stand them and they go against all of your values, you might want to examine your relationship and see if this guy is worth it.
4 DISAGREE WITH HIM EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE
The fact of the matter is, couples get into arguments. It's just part of being in a relationship and there is nothing unhealthy about having disagreements every so often. In fact, men will like that you have a mind of your own and your own stance on certain topics or issues. He will find it extremely attractive that you are your own individual person who isn't about to change your worldview just to please him. You're not his pet dog, you are a person with your own personality and perspective. Use it! Of course, if you both agree on everything then that's great too, but if that's the case then you are either A) still in the honeymoon phase or B) characters from a Disney movie.
3 YOU DON'T NEED TO BE SO NICE ALL OF THE TIME
Of course, men love someone who is naturally kind in nature, but no one in the world is nice and polite 24/7. Everyone has their bad days, everyone gets upset, everyone has their bursts of anger. It's just part of being a human being. If your man expects you to be cheery and bubbly all of the time, have him call up Zooey Deschanel because he is not looking for a partner, he is looking for a manic pixie dream girl or boy. Allow yourself to be human around him and he will totally dig your honesty.
2 GET TO LOVE SOME OF HIS INTERESTS
Most men are troopers when it comes to doing activities that his girlfriend or boyfriend loves, so it is only fair that you return the favor every once in a while and let him expose you to his interests.
If he loves video games and you can't tell the difference from X-box and Game Cube, humor him by letting your man introduce you to one of his favorite games. If he loves a band, listen to one of their albums even if you initially don't think it's your style. You don't have to share everything in common of course, it's always good to have separate interests, yet if there is something he is really passionate about whether it's a TV show or a sport, try exposing yourself to it. You might even end up loving it as much as he does.
1 SHOW HIM AFFECTION
One of the biggest mistakes we can make is assuming men don't want affection as much as we do. This is usually far from true and often times men just want to feel loved and comforted. Show him affection and love, whether it's rubbing his back after a hard day at work or letting him know how much he means to you. It will make him feel amazing and he will be so proud to have such a loving partner.