Falling in love can be the most magical thing in the world. Going through the experience can be both exhilarating and nerve-racking all at the same time.
But sometimes it can be hard to tell if what we are feeling is true love or if it’s just because we like the comfort of having a boyfriend around. There are obviously a lot of benefits to having a man around that you wouldn’t have if you were single.
When you truly love someone, it’s hard to imagine how you ever got on without them before. It’s like you start a new life. Your past was “before” him and your future is now considered “after” meeting him. And there is a lot of joy that love can bring into your life. You obviously had a life before you met this person, but love is supposed to enhance your life in good ways.
Falling in love can be the greatest thing that ever happened to you. There are many ways of knowing that you are in love if you are unsure about it. Some people “just know” when they are in love while others don’t. Check out these 20 ways to know if you're actually in love or if you just love having a BF around.
20 You Worry About Getting Hurt
People who aren’t in love don’t worry about getting hurt because they don’t care. They have nothing to lose.
But if you are in love, you have that realization that your heart is now in someone else’s hands and that can be a trying experience.
One way to know if you are in love is if you have an anxiousness about being hurt. If you don't care, that might mean you're not truly in love. Plus, if your man loves you, he’s also going to not want you to get hurt. It’s his goal to make sure that it doesn’t happen.
19 Seeing Him Is The Highlight Of Your Day
When you are in love you can’t wait to see that one special person. You are counting the minutes until you are off work or done with class and able to wrap your arms around him. You never tire of seeing him and your day just seems to get better when you see him. Everything about your day just gets better, even if it already started off as a pretty great day. If you are just dating him to have a boyfriend, on the other hand, then seeing him wouldn’t be the best part of your day. It might even feel like more "work."
18 It Feels So Easy To Be With Him
You know you’re in love when it just feels so easy to be with him. The relationship doesn’t feel like work at all and you just want to be with him as much as possible because it's simple. Sure, relationships are work, don’t get us wrong. But when you are falling in love it doesn’t feel that way. It’s the kind of work that you are passionate about, something you are willing to put effort into in order to make it grow. It’s just like having a career that you are passionate about. It never feels like going to work because you love it so much.
17 He’s The First Person You Think Of
When you are in love, the man in your life is all you can think about. He’s what you think about when you get up in the morning and he’s got the leading role in the last thought you have before bed.
When something amazing happens to you, then he’s the one that you want to run and tell.
And when something bad happens in your life, then he is who you will lean on for support. This is your person and you will know you are in love because he will always be on your mind.
16 You Start Talking About The Future
When you start talking about the future together, that’s usually a telling sign. When you are in love, you start talking about the future without even realizing you are talking about planning your lives together. It’s like you just can’t help but want to plan on having a life together. It’s part of the “easy” aspect of life with him. You start talking to him about a concert you want to see in six months or the trip you want to go on next year. You want to talk to him about these things because you know that he will be there through it all.
15 You Feel Unnaturally Happy
Love will make you feel like you are literally out of this world. After all, there's a reason they call 'lovesickness' having your head in the clouds. You may even feel like you are out of your mind. It can be an amazing feeling.
And it’s certainly not the kind of feeling you get when you just want to have a boyfriend around.
A study conducted at the Kinsey Institute showed that a brain "on love" actually looks exactly the same as a brain that is on hard drugs. It’s all because of the dopamine that is released in both of those situations.
14 You Miss Him After Only A Day
So, you guys are having a day off from one another to go spend time with friends or family. As you get ready to go to sleep at the end of the night, you send him a text that says, “I miss you." But the clincher is, you really mean it. The reason why you mean it is because it’s true. When you are in love you find that you can miss someone only after a day or even a few hours. It’s not just a cute thing that you say to each other; he’s a huge part of your life, so you really miss him.
13 You Put His Needs Above Your Own
When you are in love with someone you want to take care of them. Love is selfless, after all. You start to prioritize his needs about your own. His likes and dislikes suddenly become much more important than your own.
If you were just interested in having a boyfriend around, then you would still just be focused on yourself above all else.
Love puts things in perspective for you and without even realizing, your priorities begin to shift to match your partner's. That’s how you know you’re in love, especially when accommodating him is less about being put-out and more about enjoying working things out together.
12 You Have Totally Forgotten About Your Ex
When you are in love with someone, then everyone else in your life just disappears. Your past is your past and you focus on him as your future. Love makes you forget both the good and bad in your history. You start to realize that you can’t remember the last time you even thought about your ex because he’s no longer important to you. He means nothing to you because he’s been replaced. Things are great with your new guy and you don’t see a reason to go backward. If you're beyond comparing your current love to your ex, it might just be for real.
11 You Would Do Anything For Him
It’s a classic sign of love and probably something you are already familiar with. When you think about your man there probably isn’t anything that you could think of that you wouldn’t do for him. He probably feels the same about you.
Love makes you do crazy things and part of that is making sure the other person is happy, whatever it takes.
You want them to be happy, so you do what it takes to make it happen. If you aren’t in love, then you will only go so far with trying to make that person happy.
10 You Don’t Feel Pain The Same Way
Did you know that love can literally be a pain reliever? It’s true. Stanford University School of Medicine did a study that found that people who were in love felt less pain. Participants were asked to look at a photo of someone they love and while doing so felt moderate pain 40% less and severe pain up to 15% less. That’s pretty remarkable. It’s not something that you would experience if you just wanted to have a boyfriend around. If you are thinking about getting a new tattoo or need to get blood drawn, you should bring your man with you to test this out in real life!
9 You Don’t Dislike The Things That You Used To
Maybe you always hated watching sports or going on roller coasters, and now when you do these things with him, they don’t seem so bad.
The things that you used to avoid doing might seem fun now that you are doing them with someone you adore.
Maybe you were terrified of the big rollercoasters, but that was before he would hold your hand the entire time. Your interests may change over time, too, because you are seeing them from a different perspective now. Who knew there was so much room in life and in love for new hobbies?
8 You Tell Everyone How You Feel
You know the saying that you want to shout from the rooftops how you feel? That’s exactly what it’s like to be in love. You want everyone to know and you don’t care how loud you are. Part of being in love is that you no longer fear expressing your feelings and you don’t even care about doing that publicly. You might find that wherever you go, you just can’t help but tell people how much you love your boyfriend. You aren’t shy about it either. If you only liked him, you would be holding back a lot.
7 You Can Be Weird Around Him
When we start to fall in love, we also start dropping our guard down. There is always a honeymoon phase in a relationship when everyone is on their best behavior. You are always looking your best and you keep the weird to a minimum.
But when you fall in love, you are generally more comfortable with the person you are with.
Now that you are in love you find that you are the one making the bad jokes and being silly whenever you want to. You worry less about trying to impress him because you feel secure that you can be yourself around him.
6 You Love His Imperfections
Now you know you are really in love now. Maybe he doesn’t have perfect teeth, or his nose is just a little off, or whatever the case may be, but regardless, you love his imperfections. You even start to think that the imperfections are attractive and they make him who he is. One Elite Daily user stated, “My girlfriend is the most beautiful girl I know, but she does have some imperfections. But, to me, they're not imperfections — they're unique qualities and things I love.” When you really love someone, you accept all their faults and love them anyway.
5 You Can’t Seem To Stop Staring At Him
Your partner has probably caught you staring at him lovingly a million times. That’s because you can’t seem to help yourself. And of course, your guy is going to look better to you than anyone else.
If it’s not true love, then you won’t find yourself staring at him for no reason whatsoever.
If you can’t get enough of your man’s face, it’s likely because you are head over heels in love with him. When you make eye contact, you are fixating on that person. A sign that you are totally in love is the fact that not only are you staring, but you're also making googly eyes!
4 Boring Things Become More Fun
Mundane things like doing your taxes, grocery shopping, or going to the pharmacy are all boring things that we would really rather not do.
But when you are in love, doing those things don’t seem so bad anymore.
In fact, you may find that grocery shopping becomes an adventure when you are doing it with the right person. You are going to discover that you are truly in love when these things start to change for you. If you just want to have a guy around, these things would appear to be annoying and frustrating to do with him.
3 You Start To Become A Better Person
Love makes the world go around, right? Love has been known to do some pretty amazing things, and it can even move [figurative] mountains. And, it can even make you a better person. We’re not saying that you are someone who is bad, but no one is perfect either. We generally all could use some improvements. If there are things that you can work on when it comes to your self, you are likely to start doing that when you are falling in love. You will want to become the best version of yourself, and he likely feels the same way.
2 Your Love Is Unconditional
When you are madly in love, it goes the distance and you don’t stop loving the person just because they do something you don’t like.
One way that you will know you are in love is if it comes with no conditions.
Someone who is looking to just have a guy around will have all kinds of conditions. You might get annoyed with certain behaviors, or you'll flip out over small issues that feel intolerable. Your feelings can change at the drop of a hat. But that’s not the case when you are in love. Your love is perfect, absolute, and totally unconditional.
1 He Becomes Your Best Friend
When you are falling in love you are creating a relationship that is untouchable. Many couples who are truly rock-solid end up becoming best friends. One Elite Daily user states, “Sometime along the way, my girlfriend became my best friend. I believe this to be true for most people who fall in love. Your significant other becomes your partner in crime. You feel like, together, you can take on the world.” It’s something close to magic that happens when you are in love. Trust us, you are going to know whether it’s love or whether you just want to have a boyfriend to fill a void.
Sources: Independent, Elite Daily, Cosmopolitan