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Mixed Signals Decoded: 15 Text Messages He Sends & What They Really Mean

Dating’s hard, and texting makes it even harder. It definitely makes it easy to talk with a guy you like because it’s less intimidating than talking to him on the phone, but the problem is texting with guys can be so frustrating. Guys tend to send short messages, and you have to read between the lines to understand what he really means. You find yourself constantly analyzing his texts that it sometimes drives you up the wall. You’re not sure if you’re just a casual hookup, or if he likes you the way you want him to like you.

You get all giddy and happy when he sends you a text. Your heart flutters every time until you’re confused by his cryptic texts. His “I miss you” text could mean anything. It’s possible that he’s into you and thinks of you as a potential girlfriend, but it’s also possible that he has an ulterior motive, and he’s just stringing you along. He wants to make sure that you’re still emotionally invested in him even though he doesn’t want a committed relationship with you.

It’s hard to decipher his texts without hearing his voice or seeing his face, so it’s easy to misinterpret them. You’ve probably asked yourself a couple of times after reading some of his texts: “What does that mean?”

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15 "Hey stranger."

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What he really means: "I just saw your picture on Instagram, and I remembered how attractive you are. "

When a guy texts you this after you guys haven’t talked to each other in a long time, then he might have an ulterior motive. If the text was from a guy you hooked up with in the past, then it’s because he’s interested in hooking up with you again. He forgot how much fun he had with you until he saw your picture on Instagram and remembered how attractive he finds you. If the text was from a guy who tried to sleep with you before, but you were either in a relationship or wasn’t feeling him at that time, then he wants to give it another try. He wants to see if you’ll be down to “hang out” with him this time around. Some guys just don’t know when to give up.

14 "Sorry, I missed your text! I've been busy."

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What he really means: "I saw it. I didn't get back to you because I'm not into you."

It could be true that he’s been too busy to see your text. Maybe he was in the middle of something when you sent it, and then he forgot about it because of his busy schedule. Let’s face it — it’s a bit hard to digest this “busy” excuse when everyone seems to be glued to their phone at all times. You should know that if he really likes you, then he would’ve made time to text you to let you know that he’s busy instead of leaving you hanging for hours or even days. He probably texted with other people while he was ignoring you. Basically, he saw your text and didn’t bother to respond because he’s not into you like that. You should forget about him if he continues to do this.

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13 "We should hang out sometime. What are you doing later?"

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What he really means: "I'm free tonight, and I want to hook up with you."

You might think hanging out means watching Netflix, talking over drinks, or other PG things. It could be, but when a guy uses the word hang out, it usually means that he wants to sleep with you. It’s especially true when he only wants to hang out with you late at night. He doesn’t text you till after 12 AM because apparently, he’s only free then. When he asks if you have any plans last minute, then you know what’s up. Remember: if he only wants to hang out with you at night, and it ends with you making out with him, then sorry girl, he has no intentions of dating you. He just wants to get laid. He doesn’t want you the way you want him to want you.

12 "I'll call you later."

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What he really means: "I'll call you if I want to call you. I'm not sure when, but maybe when I'm bored."

It makes you wonder, “What’s later? Is he going to call me at the end of the day or tomorrow?” He texts you that he’ll call you later because he wants to end the conversation with you, and there’s no better way to do it than this. It’s possible he has something to do or somewhere to go, but if he has feelings for you, then he’ll be more specific like, “can I call you after I’m done?” When he uses the word later, it could take days. When he makes you wait, you’re not a priority to him, and it’s a sign that he’s probably not romantically interested in you. Overall, his text really means he’ll call you whenever he feels like it — when he’s bored. He might not call, either.

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11 "K." "Sure." Yeah."

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What he really means: "Whatever. I don't care."

Guys tend to send short text messages, but it’s not a good sign when he constantly sends one-word texts. It’s like he’s trying to get the conversation over with. It’s frustrating when he sends a one-word text after you sent him a long one. He responds with a “K” after you text him to confirm a date or ask if he’ll be okay with meeting up with some friends at the bar afterward. He doesn’t seem into it. Basically, he doesn’t make any effort to write more. It’s possible that he could’ve been busy, but let’s be real, if this is something he often does, then he’s losing interest in you especially if he wasn’t like this before. If you thought he might be into you, chances are he’s not.

10 "I can't make it tonight. Maybe another time."

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What he really means: "Something more exciting than seeing you came up."

When a guy cancels the date with you at the very last minute without any explanation, it’s because something more exciting than seeing you came up. If it’s work-related stuff, he would’ve told you he has to stay at the office longer. When he doesn’t tell you anything and keeps you guessing, he probably got a call from his friends inviting him to watch a sports game at a bar or something. He also doesn’t feel sorry for canceling the plan. If he likes you, then what you think of him should matter to him. He would’ve given you an excuse and also rescheduled the date. He instead texts, “maybe another time.” Basically, he’s not eager to spend time with you. You should walk away when you get a text like this.

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9 "Did you have fun last night?" "Hello???"

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What he really means: "Did you get with anyone at the party when I wasn't there?"

When a guy double texts, it usually means he likes you, but this text could be misleading. When a guy texts you this, he wants to know if you’ve hooked up with anyone at an event or a party you attended when he wasn’t there. He wants to know if you had fun without him and see if you missed him at all, so when you don’t respond to his text within a certain time frame, he texts, “Hello???” The text means something else when he’s someone you occasionally hook up with, and he ONLY texts you when he knows you’ll be with other guys after ghosting you. He’s checking in to make sure you’re still available. He doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you, but he doesn’t want you with anyone else.

8 "Can't fall sleep. You up?"

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What he really means: "I want to hook up with you right now."

It’s in the middle of the night, and he texts you if you’re up because he can’t fall asleep. This one’s pretty obvious. He wants one thing — he wants to get it on with you. He wants to see if you want to come over to his place or if he can go to your place so that you guys can get freaky with each other. Even if you guys don’t meet up, he wants to talk dirty with you through texting. He’s bored, and he’s feeling needy. You should know that this is straight up a booty call. He doesn’t think of you as a potential girlfriend if he constantly texts you this at odd hours. You should ignore his text if you don’t want to be just his hookup buddy.

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7 "Good morning (Good night) beautiful."

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What he really means: "I'm thinking about you when I lie in bed without you."

It’s perceived as a good thing when a guy texts you good morning or good night text because it means he’s thinking of you in the morning when he wakes up and at night right before he goes to sleep. It’s pretty generic when he only texts, “Good morning,” because there’s a possibility that he also sent it to other people. When he adds other words like beautiful or even your name, it makes it a bit more personal. You really are on his mind when he opens his eyes in the morning, and you’re the last person he wants to talk to before he goes to bed. It’s a sweet way to show you that he likes you. He wouldn't make an effort to text someone he has absolutely no feelings for especially when he wakes up.

6 "My friends and I are going out for a drink. You should come!"

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What he really means: "I want to spend time with you before asking you out on a date."

If you’ve constantly been texting and flirting with this guy for a while, and he invites you to hang out with him and his friends, then it’s likely that he wants to make a move on you. He wants to be in a relationship with you, but he doesn’t want to ask you on a date just yet. He wants to spend time with you, and most importantly, he wants to know how you really feel about him. Everyone fears rejection. Basically, he likes you, and he wants to take things slow. He doesn’t want to rush into things and make things awkward in case you only think of him as a friend. He’s testing the waters before he asks you out on a date. Overall, it’s a good sign when a guy invites you to meet his friends.

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5 "I don't know what my plans are, but I'll let you know."

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What he really means: "I'm saying no in a nice way."

When you receive this text from him, it could mean two things. He might’ve been out when you texted him, and it’s possible that he has to check his schedule before letting you know that he’s free on that day. If he doesn’t get back to you, then hate to break it to you, he doesn’t want to hang out with you. When he’s not willing to make plans with you, he’s not interested in you. Another thing is, if a guy’s really into you, then he’ll have a specific date to meet up with you because he’s eager to be with you. He wouldn’t want to keep you waiting. So, usually, when a guy texts you that he’ll let you know what his plans are later, he’s saying no in a nice way instead of rejecting you.

4 "Are you seeing anyone lately?"

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What he really means: "I hope she's single... This could be my chance to get with her."

He wants to know if you’re with anyone because he likes you. Before he asks you out to dinner or movies, he needs to be sure that you’re single. He doesn’t want to get involved when you’re committed to someone else because that’s just wrong. You know he’s really into you when he occasionally asks you if you’re with your boyfriend when you’re in a relationship. It could seem annoying like he’s waiting for you to be single so that he could have his chance with you, but it all depends on how you feel about this guy. Is he the guy friend you confide in, and you enjoy his company? Basically, when a guy asks if you’re seeing anyone, it’s because he wants you to himself. He wants to be with you.

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3 "I miss you."

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What he really means: "I can't stop thinking about you."

When a guy texts you that he misses you, it makes your heart flutter because it means he’s thinking about you when you’re not around. This text could be confusing though. It’s sweet if you received it from a guy you spend time doing things other than just sleeping with each other. It means he truly misses you, and he can’t stop thinking about you because he loves spending time with you. If you received it from a guy who only calls you late at night to do the dirty, then his “I miss you” has a different meaning. He’s bored, and he misses the fun time he had with you in bed. He probably texts that he misses you because he wants to make sure that you’re still emotionally invested in him.

2 "I like this girl. I'm not sure if she likes me back. What should I do?"

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What he really means: "I like you, and I want your advice."

It might be a turn-off when you receive this text from a guy you like, especially when you feel like what you guys have now could turn into a relationship. Some guys don’t understand that talking about another girl could hurt your feelings even if he has good intentions. It’s a trick they use when they like you and want to know if you like them, too. He wants to see your reaction, but mostly, it’s his way of indirectly finding out how you’d like to be approached if a guy were to like you. He honestly doesn’t know what to do, so he asks for your advice. When we give advice, we usually give it from our own experience, and he wants to use your advice on you.

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1 "Wish you were here. Do you want to come over?"

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What he really means: "I want to see you and also have you-know-what with you."

He’s alone, and he misses you. He wants you to come over to his place because he wants to see you, but also because he wants to have you-know-what with you. It’s true when he only texts you late at night. He only has one thing on his mind, and that’s to sleep with you. If you guys go on dates and do other things together besides getting freaky with each other, then it’s not just about getting you in bed when he sends you this text. He really misses you and enjoys your company. He wants to spend quality time with you. He wants to laugh and cuddle with you. Of course, he eventually wants to get intimate with you, but you’re more than a casual hookup.

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