Jennifer Lopez is a true Hollywood super-mom. A loving mom to ten-year-old twins Emme and Max, partner to Alex Rodriguez, and idol to fans of all ages all over the world, she is truly worthy of being called a superstar.
There are so many things that she excels at, from having a successful profession in the music, film and television industries, to running a healthy and happy home with her family. Women at all stages of life are desperate to know the magic trick that turns J.Lo from an ordinary human being into a living legend.
Finding time for her busy working life and her family, it’s clear that she’s a master of balance. She also realizes the importance of looking after herself so she can perform at her best and be there for the people who need her. Her sunny outlook on life and the unconditional love she gives her kids make her not only a great mom but a top role model, too.
There may not be one single trick that helps J.Lo be such a success, but a lot of work definitely goes into managing her work, her family, and her life.
Keep reading to find out how Jennifer Lopez manages to balance being a mom and a diva.
J.Lo’s kids may have access to all the technology in the world, but that doesn’t mean they’re allowed to use it.
The singer has revealed that she imposes some strict rules on her kids, and one of them is a ban on iPads during the week.
There are also no video games during the week, because “it’s school time.” She has opened up about her childhood, where she wasn’t given an unlimited amount of gifts, and also believes in keeping her children humble and focused.
She’s super strict with her kids during the week, but every Sunday, it’s Funday in J.Lo’s house. “It starts with a late breakfast,” she explained. “We sleep in, even the kids sleep in. And Sunday Funday, they work towards that because they don't get to use their iPads during the week," she shares. "… It's something I made up so they could work towards it and behave!" More and more moms are adopting J.Lo’s idea into their own homes!
Although Max and Emme are used to Sunday Funday, they understand that it’s not a right, but a privilege. J.Lo has admitted that part of working towards it is not just behaving during the week, but also getting good grades at school.
The twins are not home-schooled like many celebrity children and have to perform well at school.
Especially if they want fun rewards like Sunday Funday and time with iPads and video games on the weekend. Not a bad policy to have!
When you’re as busy as J.Lo, sleeping isn’t as high a priority as working or taking care of your kids. So in order to give her body rest, she takes short naps whenever she can fit them in. The superstar revealed that one of the best times for her to nap is on the weekend when her kids have got their iPads out. “ … on Sunday, I let them go and I take a nap while they’re doing it,” she explained.
While she naps whenever she can, J.Lo also has a sleep schedule that she tries to stick to, as long as it doesn’t get in the way of parenting or work.
She makes sure that her kids understand the importance of getting rest, and don’t interrupt her sleep unless they have to.
“They know part of their job is helping me get sleep. If I’m sleeping in, they’re very quiet, like, ‘Mommy needs to sleep! She worked late last night!’ We’re a team.”
Because she works so much, J.Lo sometimes can’t avoid being away from her kids. But she has a clever trick to stop them feeling neglected when she has to work late. She told In Style that whenever she has to work late, and she gets home after the kids have fallen asleep, she creeps into their room and takes a selfie next to their beds. That way, she can show them the picture in the morning and they’ll know she was there.
J.Lo has said in the past that it’s her fans who keep her motivated to get out there and perform.
Her kids also seem to provide some inspiration, and every night on stage at her Vegas residency, she dedicates the song "I Hope You Dance" to them.
This is because when she first started performing in Las Vegas, the kids were about seven years old, and Emme drew a picture of her mom on stage singing the song. Cuteness!
We can tell from the iPad rule that J.Lo knows when to put her foot down and when to be stern with the children. She doesn’t like to be tough, but she has to be in order to teach them right from wrong. “I am a lover. And with my kids I am even softer,” she admitted. “I realize with my son, I have to sometimes be tough, especially now when he’s pushing boundaries. With my daughter, I can get a little stern with her and she pretty much will listen.”
Being as high profile as she is, J.Lo has to be very careful about who she lets into her life, not just for her own safety, but for the safety of her children too.
After all, her children are her top priority.
“Everything is about them, and you want somebody around who understands children and is capable of loving children,” she said. “When you have kids, you can’t have any random, selfish person come into your life.”
So how does J.Lo balance being a mom and being an international superstar? She believes that it comes down to multi-tasking, and learning to focus on more than one thing at once. Though she confirmed that “it’s not an easy thing” to do, she has faith in a mom’s ability to get it done: “Women are multi-taskers and we can do anything if we put our minds to it. I truly believe that … You have to juggle the kids and the working and the taking care of yourself.”
J.Lo is serious about keeping her kids healthy and is a passionate advocate and spokesperson for the March of Dimes campaign Sounds of Pertussis.
Though not all parents are on board with vaccinations, J.Lo is.
The campaign began in April of 2009 and encourages all new parents to receive the adult pertussis vaccine, Tdap, in order to protect their children from the disease. The singer has revealed that she is always up to date with her own immunizations and, luckily, isn’t scared of needles.
In addition to doing all she can to look after her children’s health, J.Lo also looks after her own health by cutting out the junk food, following a clean eating plan, and getting enough exercise. Just six months after giving birth, she was so determined to get back into shape that she worked towards completing a triathlon. “ … I was always athletic,” she said, “so I wanted to get back to that and set a big goal for myself.”
J.Lo split from the father of children, Marc Anthony, in 2011. Today she’s in a relationship with Alex Rodriguez, and together, they co-parent their children.
“I was so loving to his kids and he was so loving and accepting of mine, and they embraced each other right away,” she said of their new joined family.
And Rodriguez backed her up: “Our kids have become best friends and that keeps us both grounded and appreciative. We couldn’t have asked for anything better than the four of them getting along as they do.”
When she’s able to, J.Lo is hands-on with her kids instead of hand-balling them off to nannies. We saw just how hands-on she likes to be when she posted a snap on Halloween of her helping her kids to prepare their costumes and makeup. Emme looked adorable as a fox, and it was all thanks to J.Lo’s skills with the makeup brush! She’s also posted photos of helping the kids with their homework, and helping them to decorate the Christmas tree.
In the past, the kids have traveled with J.Lo on the road. She has been open about making sure that they’re always happy, wherever she brings them, and understands too much traveling and moving around can be hard on them.
Recently, the singer revealed that her kids were having trouble adjusting after the family moved from Los Angeles to New York.
While they understand that their mom’s a New York native, they miss L.A. where they grew up.
J.Lo may have nannies at her disposal and is very hands-on with the kids herself, but she also makes sure that they get some quality time in with her mom, Guadalupe. You can see through her IG posts that she really tries to encourage a sense of family in their lives and wants to surround them with as much love and support as possible. In 2012, Guadalupe accompanied her daughter to Australia, where she got the opportunity to spend time with her grandchildren.
Her kids may have to do more traveling than they’d like, and join their mom while she makes public appearances, but J.Lo also makes sure that her kids get a healthy dose of fun.
She’s often seen taking them to Disneyland and going on rides with them.
And according to the Selena actress, she encourages her kids to joke and laugh at home. It seems like she’s trying to get them to make their own fun without having to rely on video games!
J.Lo knows that she’s not perfect as a mom and makes mistakes every now and then, but she learns her lesson and moves on. She doesn’t see any point in dwelling on it for too long and feeling overly guilty. “… obviously no parent does everything right,” she explained. “It’s this weird thing that happens when you are striving to be as good as you can be so that they turn out well. And that requires you to be a really great, evolved, aware person in every moment.”
One of the policies that J.Lo follows in her house is that it’s better to lead by example.
If she wants her kids to do something, she makes sure that they see her doing it first.
“I’ve learned something about kids,” she said. “They don’t do what you say; they do what you do.” Sound advice! In this way, she also avoids being a hypocrite by telling her kids to do one thing and doing another herself.
Life can get stressful at times, especially when your job is as hectic as J.Lo’s, but she stays on top of it all by always trying to maintain a positive attitude: “I am positive—determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person.” If you look at J.Lo’s social media, it’s full of photos and quotes that spread the message of positivity. She definitely practices what she preaches!
Some working moms are shamed because people assume they don’t love their kids as much as non-working moms, or else they’d stay home with them all day. But that couldn’t be further from the truth!
J.Lo works hard to give her kids the best life she can and to keep herself fulfilled so she’s the best version of herself when she’s with them.
And she loves her kids just as much as other moms do. And her advice to new moms? “…I do think that you can never give your baby too much love and attention, so don’t hold back.”
Because she didn’t have children until she was a little older, there was a time when J.Lo thought that she might not be able to get pregnant. Part of her believed she had missed her chance. Now that she has two healthy children, she is grateful for them every day. “I almost thought it wasn’t going to happen for me,” she told Today. “I’m very aware that I was blessed with that. It could have been something different.”
J.Lo is often asked whether her kids are going to follow in her footsteps and become singers, actors or dancers. But her answer is always the same: “I don’t care what they want to be … I want them to be happy, fulfilled and to love themselves.”
Although she’s supportive of whatever they want to do, she has confessed that they did inherit her talent.
“They both sing, but I don’t know what else they will do,” she said.
She’s in a committed relationship with Alex Rodriguez, but J.Lo has learned that she doesn’t need a man to make her happy, save her, or complete her. Like many women, she was waiting for someone to come along and sweep her off her feet. But after a few missteps in relationships, she realized that she has to be the one to save herself. “I’m strong, I’m my own keeper, my own saviour,” she said. Something tells us she’ll pass this valuable lesson onto Emme!
J.Lo refuses to be intimidated by aging. Instead, she knows that she still has a lot to offer her family and her fans, even as she gets older.
“There’s no way in the world that just because women turn the number 40, they’re anything less than amazing,” she revealed.
“That’s crazy. If anything, you’re even more amazing!” Now approaching 50, the star is living her best life and still giving her family and her profession everything she has.
Sources: E! Online, Mamma Mia, ABC News