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How To Stop Thinking About The Guy That Never Mattered, Based On Astrology

Let's face it, getting over guys is sometimes hard for all girls. It doesn't matter if you're shy, brave, confident or cautious, there's always that one guy that you just can't stop thinking about. And when it comes to astrology and the zodiac, each and every star sign is just as likely to face this problem at some point in their life, and every girl has to face it - whether she's a Taurus or an Aquarius. Because if we don't face it and address these problems, it can cause a real negative impact on our lives, distracting us from what we really want to do.

So how do you stop thinking about him? Well, there's no easy answer. And that's because each girl will handle it in a different way, choosing their own methods to get over him and finally move on. But when you bring the zodiac into the mix, you'll find that there are some pretty interesting methods for this exact situation, tailored perfectly to each star sign. If you follow these simple, effective guidelines based on your star sign, you might just find that getting over that one guy who never mattered just got a whole lot easier...

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16 Air Signs — Think It Through And Completely Analyze What Went Wrong

Air signs are just as vulnerable to breakups as the rest of us. And when it comes to letting go of that guy that didn't really matter, it can be just as tricky for these gals to get over it and just move on. We're talking of course about Geminis, Libras and Aquarius girls, and these signs actually do have some genuine skills and abilities that they can use to their advantage to help them put it all in the past.

For example, air signs are amazing thinkers. They're often real intellectuals, and things like critical thinking, abstract reasoning, and simply thinking things through comes very naturally to people with this sign.

So when it comes to getting over that guy who never even mattered, what you have to do is pretty simple, and something that you already know how to do...

Just think it through. Instead of pushing those thoughts out of your mind, confront the past, think about what happened, and completely analyze the situation you're in. You need to give your mind time to totally digest what just happened, and if that means having some alone time and really going over everything in your mind, so be it. Finding out what went wrong might just give you the closure you need to move on, and learn from the experience.

15 Gemini: Rely On Others To Help You Get Through It, Even If That Means Starting A New Relationship

Geminis also suffer from breakup woes, and it hurts all the more when you realize that the guy you were with never really mattered in the long run. This star sign tends to experience everything pretty deeply, and it can be a challenge to effectively move on. But just like all the other star signs out there, you have some skills and abilities that will help you get over that guy in the end.

When it comes to getting over the guy you once cared about, there's one thing that's going to matter more than anything else — and that's the people around you. You're going to need help from those you love to get over this, but you probably already know this. Don't be afraid to reach out for those shoulders to cry on, or spend some quality time with friends and family.

You might also want to take things a step further, and dive straight into another relationship. While this might not be the correct course of action for other star signs, Geminis might actually benefit from it. This star sign is famous for rebounding pretty quickly, and that's no coincidence. Starting up a new relationship is the Gemini way of healing, and if it works for them, that's fine.

14 Libra: Realize That It's Going To Be Hard, And Try To Get It Off Your Chest

Libras are people who suffer from heartbreak just as much as the other star signs — sometimes even more so. These individuals are known for being very diplomatic and fair-minded, and they're constantly weighing up the two different sides of an argument in their head. The conflict that a breakup can cause is difficult to reconcile with for many Libras, but it is possible.

Like we said, Libras might actually take a little bit more time to get over breakups than other people. But Libras already know this all too well.

There's nothing wrong with that though, and taking the time to get over things is what makes this star sign so amazing at dealing with issues.

They know it's going to be hard, and if you're a Libra you should realize that your breakup won't be easy either.

While you shouldn't rush things as a Libra, you can definitely help yourself in the healing process. A big thing that can make things easier is for you to just get it off your chest. Communicate your feelings. Talk to your ex if you have the courage, by text, email, phone call, whatever. If it's not the right thing to do, then simply write down what you want to say on a piece of paper. Don't ever send it to your ex — but keep it and understand that merely expressing how you feel is of pretty huge importance.

13 Aquarius: Follow Your Heart And Intuition For Guidance

Aquarius is a star sign that is inherently emotional and deep-thinking, and that can be a recipe for some pretty devastating breakups, to be honest. Aquarius signs are also pretty intelligent and good at looking at the "bigger picture" however, so they're definitely not doomed to never get over that one guy who never really mattered in the first place. You just have to know what to do.

Since Aquarius individuals are so passionate and "in their own heads," a great way to deal with the pain of a breakup is by expressing themselves through art. Let your emotions have an outlet by pouring it all onto a canvas or into a song. But the most important thing about dealing with a breakup for Aquarius is on a much, deeper, spiritual level that all Aquarius girls will understand.

Aquarius is a very spiritual sign, even if you're not religious. You're constantly looking to the stars and your heart for guidance, trusting your intuition and that "gut feeling" when it comes to your next move. Continue along this path after a breakup, and not only will you find getting over it easier, but you'll also come to some interesting conclusions when it comes to the lesson behind it all.

12 Earth Signs — Find Stability In Your Life, Whatever That May Be

Earth signs suffer the pain of breakups just like the rest of us, and even though these signs are sturdy, grounded individuals, they may find themselves knocked off their feet by the "impact" of a terrible split. This is especially true if you come to the conclusion that the guy you cared about for so long never really mattered in the first place, and you feel like your whole world got turned upside down.

So what happens when the ceiling becomes the floor, and you find yourself floating through space without solid ground to stand on? Well, the answer is simple, and this is something that all Earth signs naturally gravitate towards.

You need to find something to reestablish that stability in your life and give yourself a launching pad from which to set out into the world once again.

But what does that stability mean? Well, it can be different for each person, and you need to ask yourself what brings stability to your life. Find that one thing that makes you feel like your life is stable, and hold onto it. It might be spending time with your family, doing a particular activity, or connecting with nature. But whatever it is, it should be something that reminds you of how no matter what, things will always be the same and your world is still very much firmly below your feet.

11 Taurus: Pamper Yourself And Focus On YOU

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We all know that Taurus is one of the most stubborn star signs out there, and plenty of Taurus individuals will admit that themselves without too much reluctance. Unless of course, they're being stubborn. While Taurus is always willing to put on a strong front, they too can be massively affected by the pain of a bad breakup, especially when it's with someone that didn't even matter.

The main thing to remember if you're a Taurus is to make it about you. Don't worry about how others see you or checking in with your friends to talk about the split. Do what you want to do, and what makes you feel better after the breakup. And honestly, you just need to do the things that come naturally. Yep, we're talking about binge-watching Netflix, eating some cookie dough ice cream, and generally pampering yourself and treating yourself to a relaxing time.

However, this focus on the self goes much deeper than that. As a Taurus, you need to remember that you have everything you need to succeed in life and remind yourself that you never really needed that guy anyway. This is your path, and you'll be damned if you let anyone else get in the way of it all — especially some guy who doesn't matter.

10 Virgo: Focus On The Future, And Dive Into Something That Interests You

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Virgos are some of the most interesting star signs in the world, and these are individuals who wander through life with open eyes, gleefully experiencing everything as if it's always their first time. Of course, this means that a bad breakup can really hit them hard, and coming to terms with what just happened can be tricky. But never fear Virgo girls, there's always a way out.

For the most part, Virgos will succeed in getting over that guy who never even mattered by focusing on the future.

Just think about what's in store for you down the road. Are you going to meet someone better? Probably. Was it meant to be? Yep. Thinking about all the lessons you've learned and how you're going to apply them in the coming years is what really makes Virgos optimistic about the future.

But how do you keep your mind focused on the good things coming your way? A good idea is to get involved in something that interests you, something that you can sink right into and forget your woes. The obvious choice for Virgos is to lose yourself in a really good book, but there are other options as well. Basically, you just need to dive headfirst into something that really interests you.

9 Capricorn: Become A Workaholic Or Find Something To "Fix"

Capricorns are some of the most traditional people in the world. Some would call them uninspiring and repetitive, but Capricorn girls know that sticking to the established rules and schedules is what makes life so great. So it makes sense that something like a breakup can totally throw them out of sync. But remember, Capricorns are also linked with freedom, and you can find yours again using some simple methods.

We all know that Capricorns are very success-oriented, with an obsession with accomplishments. While a breakup might seem like a breakup, Capricorns can make up for this by throwing themselves headfirst into their work. It might seem like a crazy, unhealthy thing to do, but in the case of Capricorns, becoming a workaholic can actually help them get over their breakup.

Even if you don't have a job that you can devote yourself to, there are other ways to distract yourself from the breakup that's weighing down on you. For instance, you might want to find something to "fix." This could be a broken computer, a set of curtains, whatever is laying around. This can really help the healing process and allow you to come to terms with what just happened.

8 Fire Signs — Push Your Creative Energy Into Something Other Than Love

As the name would imply, fire signs are very passionate. You don't want to stoke these flames, and a breakup can certainly get those fires blazing. But even though 'fire' is certainly associated with traits like being uncontrolled or having dangerous anger, this isn't always the case. The fire signs, those being Aries, Leo and Sagittarius, are also very creative, and those sparks are what make them master artists and innovators.

Of course, creative energy also finds its outlet in love and romance, which can be both a good thing and a bad thing.

It's a great thing when you're in a relationship, as fire signs are known as charming foxes and great lovers that tons of people want to get close to. But it can definitely be a downer when you break up with a guy and suddenly you don't have anywhere to channel those creative flames.

The solution should be pretty obvious — direct your creative energy to something not love-related. You probably won't need too many pointers here, as most fire signs are constantly involved with art or other creative outlets. Just take all that romantic energy and pour it all into something that you've wanted to create for some time — whether that's a short story, a painting, or some amazing new business idea. The sky is the limit — but you can't let that repressed creative energy stifle you.

7 Aries: Allow Yourself To Get Angry And Don't Stifle Your Emotions

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Aries girls are famous for being full of energy and enthusiasm, although they might be less than thrilled about the fact that the guy they've just been dating turned out to be a total downer. Breaking up with him and realizing that he never really mattered is as hard for Aries girls as it is for any other, but there are some pretty easy things to remember when it comes to getting over it all.

Your first natural instinct will probably be to smash something. Or yell. Or just simply get very, very angry, whatever that entails. And hey — that's perfectly fine. Yes, that's right, we're not going to tell you not to get angry, in fact, we're going to encourage it. As long as you're not getting aggressive or doing anything too crazy, it's actually helpful for Aries girls to get all of that rage and anger out of their system, instead of keeping it bottled up inside.

The number one thing to remember is not to stifle your emotions. If you do, it will make the process of moving on much harder. The good news is that if you allow yourself that freedom to let your emotions out, you might find yourself getting over that guy much quicker than some of the other star signs out there. You just need to allow that anger and emotional anguish to push you in a new direction.

6 Leo: Treat Yourself To Something Nice And Remember That You Have Options

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Leos are born leaders, and a breakup like this can feel like the ultimate betrayal. That guy who turned out to be a total waste of time will quickly be branded as a traitor in your mind, and it can be a little confusing about which way to turn next, seeing as that guy won't be following you anymore.

But Leos are strong people, and they can easily get over it with some easy steps.

Let's face it, Leo girls are pretty materialistic, and the first instinct might just be to go out and buy yourself something really nice to help you get over it. Go with it. Go on a shopping spree, don't hold back, and do what you need to feel whole again. While this tactic might not work with some of the other star signs out there, Leos will definitely benefit from the feeling of buying nice things.

And hey, you have options. Leos are typically some of the most desirable people out there, and if you really think about it, you've probably got a whole list of admirers waiting for an opportunity with you. Right about now, you're probably realizing that your ex was a total waste of time, but it's not like you're going to have trouble finding a new guy, once you get around to it. Thinking about this might help you get over it.

5 Sagittarius: Go On An Adventure And Surround Yourself With New Things

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Sagittarius is one of the most interesting star signs out there, and they have a ton of unique and compelling traits. They love to see and connect with the world around them, and they're famously open-minded. But even with an open mind, Sagittarius girls might find it a little tricky to come to terms with a bad breakup — especially if it's with a guy who never even mattered in the first place.

We all know that Sagittarius individuals love to travel... So why not do just that? After all, what better time is there to go on an adventure than right after a messy breakup, right? Aside from the perfect timing, going on a huge adventure will also be extremely beneficial to your state of mind following a breakup, and it will definitely help you get over that guy way quicker than usual.

Why is this so helpful for Sagittarius girls? It's pretty simple really — traveling takes you to a totally new world and surrounds you with things you've never seen before. The best part is that nothing you see will remind you of your ex, and that will help you push that dude out of your mind. And the best part? Traveling might just help you meet someone totally new, which is a nice added bonus...

4 Water Signs — Try To Put Yourself In Your Ex's Shoes, And Allow Yourself To Feel

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Water signs are known for being... well, like water! By that we mean that they're flowing, fluid people who can bend their minds and their wills to accommodate a lot of different points of views. They're really good at seeing the bigger picture, as well as being compassionate and understanding what other people are feeling. But in terms of a breakup, it can be a pretty emotional time for this element.

It can take a while for water signs to come to terms with what just happened, and don't be surprised if tears start flowing.

That being said, there are some simple ways in which water signs, in general, can help themselves get over that one guy who didn't even matter in the end, and these are things that people should find pretty easy to wrap their heads around.

It all comes from a place of understanding. As hard as it might seem, try to put yourself in your ex's shoes, and attempt to understand what he's feeling right now. Don't repress the emotions that might arise as a result of thinking this through. You might find yourself getting quite worked up when you think about the perspective of your ex, but in the end, it all helps the healing process.

3 Pisces: Try To Accept What Has Happened, And Embrace The Joys Of Single Life

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Pisces girls are some of the most empathetic people in the world, and they're able to be compassionate to even the people who have hurt them in the past. While this might seem like a really interesting and advantageous trait for one to have, it can be a little confusing when you're going through a breakup with a guy that you're now realizing you should never have dated.

There's something really paradoxical about Pisces and the way they handle breakups. On the one hand, they're some of the quickest people to get over the split. That's because they've probably seen the breakup coming way in advance, and they've already planned out how they're going to deal with it when the time comes. On the other hand, Pisces have a hard time letting go of loved ones, and they tend to keep in contact with them long after things are clearly over.

The best thing Pisces girls can do to get over a break up is to just accept what has happened. Even though you might think it's your job to heal your ex and make them understand, you have to let them go. Once you do, you'll find yourself fully enjoying the single life, and you'll be able to put it all behind you easier than many other star signs out there.

2 Cancer: Embrace Solitude And Take All The Time You Need

We all know that Cancer individuals are some of the most dramatic, easily offended people in the world, and they tend to take things very seriously. It's not easy being a Cancer girl, and even a trip to the grocery store can get pretty emotional. So can you even imagine what it's like for these people to go through a tricky breakup? There's no question that it will be hard, but there is some good news...

Cancer girls will already know that they get over their troubles by letting themselves get emotional. It's no good telling yourself to "be strong" or "keep going." You need that time to be sad and, for lack of a better word, sulk.

Make sure that you're allowing yourself to have that precious alone time where you can let your emotions out and really feel that anguish and inner turmoil.

While other signs might see this as "putting up walls" or "shutting people out," they just don't understand. Being alone actually helps heal Cancer girls at times like these, and you need to take all the time that you need. This is especially true when we're talking about a breakup with a guy who you're just now realizing never really mattered in the first place.

1 Scorpio: Don't Be Stubborn, Meet New People, And Don't Look Back

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Scorpios are some of the most determined, assertive people around, and they tirelessly seek the truth. So when these girls find out that everything they believed about their relationship was a lie, this can really hit them hard. Their stubborn nature can be beneficial at times, but when it comes to handling a breakup, it can definitely hold them back from moving on.

The good news is that there are so many things that can help a Scorpio girl move on after a hard breakup. The bad news is that with this star sign, you'll never truly move on. There will always be a little part of you that is attached to the person you split with. But that doesn't mean it has to ruin your life. In order to get past this hard time, it's important that you do everything you can to decisively close this chapter of your life.

While burning all of your ex's clothes might be taking things a little too far, that's kind of the right idea, minus the property destruction. You want to make sure that you're done with the person, once and for all — or at least as much as humanly possible. Don't ever look back. You can help yourself do this by meeting new people and starting a new chapter of your life.

References: astrology.com, elitedaily.com, thoughtcatalog.com

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