Relationships naturally go through a cycle of ups and downs. How two people deal with their differences determines whether or not the relationship is going to hold on for the long haul. When a relationship starts to have problems, the most important thing the couple can do is communicate. However, communicating effectively can also be the hardest part of a relationship for some people.
When you enter a relationship, you are giving another person total trust not to hurt you, which is a huge deal to a lot of people. And then, this pesky little voice starts whispering in our heads, telling us the whole thing is doomed and our partner wants to leave. How can you decide whether that little voice is just messing with you or if it is speaking the truth?
Well, the answer may have been staring you right in the face this whole time. Your boyfriend’s actions and words are more than likely telling you exactly want you need to know. Whether this guy is still your lover or is a new ex you need back in your life, he’s probably showing several signs that could sadly mean he is moving on. If you’re still confused, these should help. Here are 20 signs that definitely need to be paid attention to in your relationship. If your “perfect” guy shows any of these, he might not be on the same page as you.
20 He Starts To Ignore Your Texts
Nearly everyone is glued to their phones nowadays. If your man isn’t responding to your texts throughout the day, and you know he’s not busy working or in class, he’s probably slowly moving on. Texting is literally so quick and easy, there are few acceptable reasons for him to be blatantly ignoring your messages.
If it’s an ex-boyfriend you are texting and he is ignoring you, then he is almost definitely moving on from you and you should too. Texting is how people stay in touch and communicate a lot of the time. So if he isn’t responding, chances are, he’s not feeling it.
19 He Gives Your Stuff Back
The moment he starts returning things you’ve gifted him or accidentally left at his place is the moment you should really start questioning where his head is at. Getting rid of all things that belong to you could be his way of preparing for a clean break.
It is probably best for both of you if you just plain ask him why he’s returning your belongings or gifts. Who knows, maybe his mom or buddies gave him a hard time and he can’t take that heat right now. On the other hand, though, he could be starting to drift away from where the relationship once was.
18 He Is Moving Out Of Town
There are many reasons a person moves to a new town. He could have taken on a new job, or his family moved. Maybe he’s leaving for school or wants to experience new things.
No matter the reason, though, they all likely include him also moving on from the relationship.
When a guy is completely smitten with a girl, he’s going to try everything in his power to stay where she is. If he moves without so much as a second thought, it’s not because he’s always dreamed of having a long-distance relationship. Those things are tough and a lot of work.
17 He's Asked If You'd Find Someone New After Him
Hypothetical questions can be fun. You know, things like, “Would you still love me if I went bald?” or “If I started to talk in song, would you still hang out with me?” Questions like, “If we broke up, would you find someone new?” are definitely not fun, and almost always deserve an investigation.
If the guy you’re with or interested in is asking you questions about life after him, he might be thinking about a life without you.
If the thought is on his mind, he’s knowingly or subconsciously moving on. Either way it’s probably happening, and you should prepare yourself.
16 He’s Happier Hanging Out Without You
Overtime, your significant other becomes your best friend. You start wanting to do things with only that person. Even if you still take the needed time to hang out with your friends, your lover is on your mind. You definitely are not happier hanging out without them.
If your guy starts showing signs he would rather hang out with someone else, he is most likely no longer 100 percent committed to the relationship. If he seems to dread spending any one-on-one time with you, he could be trying to tell you that he is just reading to move on.
15 He Makes Big Decisions Without You Involved
A relationship is a partnership between two people. You don’t need to get permission for things you do, but you do give your significant other a certain level of respect when you let them play a part in big life decisions. A lot of the time, these big decisions will have some kind of effect on them, too.
When your boyfriend or newly ex-boyfriend starts making big life changes without consulting you or letting you in on his choices before they happen, he’s not thinking about you as a big part of his life anymore.
You’re not in an equal partnership.
14 He Starts Flirting With Other Women
This should be an obvious one. When your guy starts eyeing other girls, he’s not only putting you in an awkward and hurtful place, he’s letting other girls think he’s available. If he’s flirting with someone else, he’s keeping his options open. Why would he need to keep his options open if he isn’t planning on making an exit from your relationship?
Consider this, would he be okay if you were flirting with other men? Most likely, the answer is no. It’s probably feels like he is purposely trying to make you jealous. He is pushing you away by getting too friendly with other girls. If you leave him first, he won’t have to do the hard work.
13 He Constantly Picks Fights
Did that missing remote become the end of the world to him? Was he super angry when you left a little hair on the counter? When he does these things, he probably thinks you really are to blame.
When he starts moving on internally but feels like he is still stuck in the relationship, he might start showing signs of resentment toward you.
By picking fights over everything, he’s releasing his true feelings about the relationship. Chances are, this guy isn’t happy being committed to you. You might be able to reconcile things and resolve whatever issues he is having, but he has to be willing to make amends, too.
12 He Says You Deserve Better
Look out for those weird clichés. If your guy starts saying things like, “You deserve better than me,” and “Maybe we’re just not meant to be,” he could be leading up to ending the relationship.
Breaking up with someone can be hard, so he might be trying to test the waters to see how you would react to a breakup.
According to relationship coach and therapist Anita Chlipala for Bustle, “These annoying statements should tip you off to the fact that your partner is just saying stuff to see what you'll say, but they're already halfway out the door.”
11 He Isn't Very Affectionate
Affection is one of the most important parts in a good relationship, next to communication. If he has dropped the ball on affection, he is probably close to dropping the whole relationship.
He is showing signs of wanting to end the relationship when he no longer reciprocates those “I love yous.” According to Bolde, he’s moving on when “he never gives you random kisses or cuddles anymore and makes excuses to move away when you initiate.” Guys like affection just as much as girls. It brings a special closeness between a couple. A happy couple is overly affectionate in the best of times.
10 His Friends Don't Talk To You Anymore
When you’re with a guy for a while, you’ve probably spent a lot of time with his closest friends. They have probably even become your friends, too. All of a sudden, his friends start ghosting you and acting really strange. They seem to know that something is up but feel they can’t tell you what’s happening.
Your guy more than likely shared information about wanting to move on with his friends. They know, but they can’t tell you. Their buddy will always come before you. If he is moving on, they have to move on, too.
9 He Complains About Little Things You Do
He used to think that little snore you have when you sleep was cute. Now, he absolutely can’t stand it. He hates when you don’t keep the house perfect, and he can’t stand when you don’t shave your legs. If your guy has started to complain about every little thing involving you, he’s not happy in the relationship.
His unhappiness will likely lead to the beginning phases of moving on. If he’s not happy with you, he’ll show you with his actions and words.
He will soon realize what needs to be done. You shouldn’t want to be with someone who isn’t happy with you, anyways.
8 He Stops Communicating
Communication is the number-one key to a healthy and lasting relationship. If he has dropped the communication line, is there really even a relationship left? When the two of you get together, he prefers watching a movie in silence over discussing the day’s activities.
He doesn’t care to know how you are, and he doesn’t seem to like talking to you at all.
These are all signs of a man who is clearly moving on from the you. Ending the communication is just one small step from ending the entire relationship.
7 He Won't Commit To Plans
You keep trying to get him to commit to going to your best friend’s birthday party next month, but he just won’t say yes. Why? Because he doesn’t exactly know if he will still be with you in a month.
If you start to notice that your boyfriend won’t lock down any official future plans, you have to question why that is. He is showing you that he is pulling away from the relationship, whether he knows he is doing it or not. If he doesn’t see a future with you, he’s not going to commit to any event that takes place in the future.
6 He Changes His Facebook Profile Picture To One Of Just Him
While this one may seem silly or trivial, it can actually be a big deal. When your relationship was new and happy, he probably had no problem changing his profile picture to one of the two of you. Now, it’s a picture of just him, and he is looking really good in it.
This could easily mean he is trying to prepare himself for when he is single.
His profile starts to look like that of a single man’s. He stopped sharing cute statuses with you or photos of you. He may have even made his relationship status private. If any of these happen, he’s likely looking to end the relationship.
5 He Starts Trying New Things Without Inviting You
Trying new things is exciting. The thrill and exhilaration a person feels when they do something new is so special, and most of the time, you want to share that feeling with someone who means a lot to you. If your guy has started trying new hobbies or doing crazy things without asking you to join him, your importance in his life is fading.
He is likely trying to find things to do without you so he can start to create a distance between the two of you.
Once that distance starts, it won’t be hard to keep in growing until he has completely moved on.
4 You Are No Longer A Priority
"When a person stops having the time or desire to be with you, then you know that your relationship is on life support system, and that you might just have to be the one who has the guts to pull the plug," explains relationship coach Cindi Sansone-Braff to Bustle.
If your partner starts to feel too busy for you, it’s because he’s trying to make it seem that way.
If he is replacing your plans with something else, you aren’t a priority. That “we’ll get together soon” he always tells you may hold you on for a while, but it’s just until he’s ready to completely let go.
3 Special Dates Never Happen Anymore
If you aren’t living with your special guy, those “hot” and romantic dates are so important. If he lets weekends pass without even trying to set something up with you, he’s not committed to you like he should be. According to Bustle,
“If you're early in a relationship and you don't go out at all over the weekend, then things may be a bit wobbly.”
This goes with long-term relationships, too. If dates have stopped, you need to pause and ask yourself why. If you can’t figure it out, make your partner face up to it and answer why.
2 He Slowly Starts To Pull Back
You’ll be able to feel this one. You go in for a kiss and he goes for a hug. You try to cuddle, and he gets up to go to the bathroom. You text him you love him, and he takes hours to reply. Everything he does seems to be putting space between you guys.
These are all signs he is pulling away, and if he is pulling away, he is likely moving on completely.
He isn’t looking for some explosive ending to the relationship, so he is probably going to try to slowly break away from you.
1 Your Gut Tells You So
This is the one sign you should listen to the most. If your gut is telling you something is wrong, something probably is wrong.
A woman’s intuition is a powerful thing; it’s pretty much proven to be our awesome super power. If you are feeling a persistent feeling of dread, it is not a good sign.
Your instincts could be wrong, but chances are they aren’t; they are simply looking out for your best interest. It’s hard to face a reality without your partner, but if he has started moving on, there probably isn’t really anything you can do to change his mind.