We all know that not every relationship is meant to last, and sometimes, it can be hard to meet someone who you even want to date in the first place! Being single can be fun for a while, but eventually, most people want someone to cuddle with at night, go on cute dates with, and even settle down and move in with. So, what’s a girl to do when she can’t find one eligible guy? Well, it might be tempting to give up and say that men are the problem, but a better solution would be taking a long, hard look at your own behavior and seeing if you’re doing anything that might scare a guy off.
No, we don’t mean that you should totally change your style or attitude for a man—that’s not worth it! But sometimes, a little self improvement and focus on personal growth can go a long way when it comes to the dating scene. So, how can you figure out the flaws you really need to work on this year? Your zodiac sign just might give you the answers that you need! Here’s why you’ve been unlucky in love, based on your zodiac sign.
16 Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
Fire signs, you may think that you’ll never have trouble finding love, but the truth is, that’s sadly not the case. Here’s the thing about fire signs: they will never have an issue when it comes to finding a friend with benefits or a summer fling. But finding someone to settle down and get serious with? This presents more of a challenge to fire signs. They often have very bold personalities, and therefore, they are not huge fans of compromise. But as everyone who has been in a long term relationship goes, you can’t date someone for years and years without making some pretty big compromises! Therefore, fire signs have a lot to improve on. Read on to find how each fire sign struggles with finding true love.
15 Aries: You’re Too Stubborn
Remember what we just said about fire signs hating compromise? Well, for the perfect example of this attitude, look no further than the very first fire sign in the zodiac, Aries! Aries is widely known for being an extremely stubborn sign. After all, they are represented by the symbol of the ram, so what else would you expect? Getting into a long term relationship with an Aries is difficult because often, they will simply refuse to budge even if a slight compromise would solve a big argument. Aries, if you ever want to find someone who will stick by your side for life, you will have to learn when to hold your ground and when to let someone else have a win for a change!
14 Leo: Others Think You’re Arrogant
Leo, you take a lot of pride in your high level of self confidence. And being confident and secure is great! There are so many people out there who struggle with low self esteem, so you should be proud of yourself for having such a positive mindset. However, be careful not to let your confidence turn into arrogance, especially when you’re trying to meet guys. Arrogance is a huge turn off to most men and women alike, so if you begin bragging on a date or acting like you’re better than everyone else in the room, the person you’re hitting on will probably back off. Remember, confidence is a wonderful trait, but so is knowing when to be humble—a little bit of humility will get you far!
13 Sagittarius: You Can’t Commit
Here’s the funny thing about Sagittarius: this sign knows exactly why they struggle to find real love, but often times, they do not bother to change. Hopping from fling to fling and guy to guy might seem fun and exciting in the short term, but in the long term, it’s going to get exhausting and demoralizing. Sagittarius, you are known for being afraid of commitment. You hate the feeling of being tied down to someone, but the answer is not to forego relationships completely. Instead, you need to find someone who will commit to you without holding you back—that would be a much better solution! Otherwise, you will end up feeling lonely and used later on in life, and who would want that to be their fate?
12 Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
Earth signs definitely make great partners—the trouble is that many of them are completely uninterested in the typical dating scene. Hooking up with random guys at parties? Nope, not for them. Scrolling through Tinder and hoping to meet someone worth chatting with? Not a chance—you’ll never catch an earth sign on a dating app. And many of them get frustrated even when they do meet someone they like. They’re not huge fans of texting, so they would rather hang out in person, but unfortunately, half of dating someone takes place on a phone these days. But don’t worry, earth signs, all hope is not lost—we’re going to break down exactly what you’re doing wrong AND how you can actually make some positive changes.
11 Taurus: You Don't Put The Effort In
Taurus, you put a whole lot of effort into yourself—you work out regularly, you get good grades, you probably do pretty well at your job, and you always try to keep a positive attitude. But when it comes to dating, half the time you feel like you just can’t be bothered! You would much rather curl up in bed with a good book than a boy you just met, and you’re definitely more of a homebody than a crazy party girl. You just don’t see the point of meeting a bunch of guys that you probably won’t stay with forever. You need to change your mindset: instead of thinking about meeting potential guys to date, just think about making friends instead, and eventually, one of those friends will naturally become something more!
10 Virgo: You Just Don't Care Enough
While Taurus simply doesn’t put much effort into meeting guys, Virgo actively tries NOT to. Yup, that’s right, Virgo, your struggles with finding love are entirely self-inflicted! You think that dating and falling in love will be a distraction from your bigger goals, so you actually make an effort to stay completely single. You avoid dating most of the time—it would take someone very special to get you to let your guard down! But fear not, Virgo, that special guy WILL come along—if you open yourself up to the possibility. Dating the right guy who treats you well will not detract from your other priorities in life. In fact, he will support you on your way to achieving your goals and chasing your dreams.
9 Capricorn: You Work Too Hard For A Relationship
Capricorn, let’s be real, you already knew that this was coming! You know that you have the best work ethic out of every sign in the zodiac, and you are super proud of all of your accomplishments. But have you ever considered letting loose every once in a while and just relaxing? You’re the type of person who is always working, 24/7, and even when you have free time, you try to squeeze in some other productive activity. We’re not here to discourage you from working hard—in fact, we could use a few more super motivated Capricorns in this world!—but when you find the right balance between work and play, you’ll finally meet a guy who shares the same mindset that you do.
8 Air Signs: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Air signs, you have some weird experiences when it comes to dating. You know that lots of guys are attracted to you, but actually finding someone who wants to get serious can feel impossible at times. In fact, even hooking up with a guy that you like can often become a major challenge! So, what’s a girl to do? Well, for starters, let’s explain why guys are super attracted to air signs but don’t always make the first move. You girls can come off as intimidating, but that’s only because you’re so comfortable with yourselves, and who would want to be with a guy whose scared off by strong women? But remember, give guys a chance—watch out for red flags, but don’t be too hard on them from the start!
7 Gemini: You’re A Player
Gemini, let’s be honest here—you are partially responsible for the fact that guys don’t want to get into serious relationships with you. You tend to jump from guy to guy, and you’ve always enjoyed the chase. You love those first few nights of texting with a guy and dancing that fine line between playing hard to get and showing him how you really feel. But this tactic can backfire when you get into this situation with too many guys right in a row! Eventually, they’re all going to figure out that you’re just playing the field, and you don’t want to commit to any of them. And then when you DO find a guy you really like, he’s going to get the same vibe. Take it slow!
6 Libra: You’re Way Too Picky
Now, we’re not about to criticize a girl for having high standards—in fact, a lot of girls could probably take some advice from you, Libra! You know exactly what you want, and you definitely don’t want to settle. But because you can be so particular, you have a tendency of writing off guys for silly reasons before you really even get to know them! Maybe a guy has the wrong hair color, maybe he has a weird sense of style, or maybe he told a joke or two that you didn’t find funny—whatever it is, you might be the type to say “Next!” But what if someone treated you like that? What if a guy didn’t give you a chance because of some tiny flaw? Treat others the way you would want to be treated!
5 Aquarius: You Might Be Stuck Up
Aquarius, you know that you’re unique. You have never felt the need to follow the crowd—ever since you were a little kid, you have done your own thing and been perfectly content with that. Yes, this can make it difficult to meet guys or even make friends, but you don’t mind, because you cherish quality over quantity. But sometimes, you can be as judgmental as Libra! This is partially because you have a higher level of self confidence than most people, and partially because you tend to reject mainstream trends—so sometimes, you end up looking down on people if you think they “conform.” Don’t be so quick to judge a person based on first impressions, and get to know them on a deeper level first!
4 Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
Ah, water signs, the most emotional group in the entire zodiac! Obviously, this can present some serious obstacles when it comes to dating, but that definitely does not mean you’ll be alone forever, so don’t freak out! Yes, you have probably struggled to find love at times because you get so emotional. For example, you may end up investing a whole lot of time and energy in someone who does not love you the way you love them and getting your heart broken. Or you may come on way too strong in the beginning of a relationship and freak the guy out. But don’t worry, we have some advice for you that can definitely meet the right guy and finally make it all work out.
3 Cancer: You’re Nice To The Wrong Guys
So, we just discussed how some water signs have a tendency to fall hard for guys who don’t really care about them. Cancer, you probably immediately knew we were talking about you! You may be the nicest sign in the whole zodiac, but this can spell trouble for you at times. Why? How could be being kind and generous come back to bite you? Well, you try to always see the best in people and give them the benefit of the doubt, but some of them do not deserve this treatment. You have probably ignored serious red flags from a guy before and gotten into some unfair, unbalanced relationships. Keep thinking positive, but don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and walk away if you start getting bad vibes.
2 Scorpio: You Blow Up And Overreact Over Small Things
Scorpio, you already are aware that your temper can cause some serious problems in relationships. But you always avoid working on this aspect of yourself because it feels like its impossible to change. So, how can you get into the right mindset and start making some real changes? You might benefit from practicing mindfulness, meditating, and doing yoga—you know, all that fun hippie stuff that helps you relieve stress and stay calm in tough situations! And when you feel like you’re about to blow up at a guy for something that you know is silly, take a deep breath and step back from the situation. Sometimes you just need a little time and space to calm down in order to de-escalate the whole situation.
1 Pisces: You’re Too Sensitive
Pisces, you have a similar issue to Scorpio. But while Scorpio gets super angry over small things that shouldn’t matter too much, you usually break down in tears. You just happen to be very sensitive by nature, but sometimes, it can go too far. You may also guilt trip your boyfriend into feeling bad for simple mistakes he made, or small disagreements. But there is a solution to this problem! You don’t have to brush off everything that bothers you, but instead of assuming that your boyfriend or a guy you’re talking to has the worst of intentions, just let him know what’s bothering you and be honest. If you can have a calm conversation, you can work things out in a much more mature and civil way.