So, you and your significant other decided to take the next step by going on vacation together as a couple? Congrats! This is a big milestone in any relationship, and traveling with your partner can be an amazing way to bond and discover new things about each other while surrounded by beautiful scenery.
However, while a vacation to a tropical paradise sounds like a total dream come true, it also has the potential of breaking a relationship apart for good. Fear not, though, because this list will provide you with all of the necessary tips in order to survive your first vacation together.
10 Don't Spend Every Waking Minute Together
Of course, when you go on vacation with the love of your life, all you want to do is spend every second together. After all, the trip that the two of you decided to spend all this money on was meant to be dedicated to your relationship. Why would you risk spending time apart? Here's why: It is the key to survival. As much as you might want to superglue your hand into your partner's, if the two of you don't have any alone time at all you might end up going crazy.
No couple, no matter how in love, should neglect their independence in order to spend all their time with that special someone. You both need some time to breathe and recharge in order to appreciate each other more. Dedicate some alone time to yourself by bringing a book to enjoy while bathing in the sunlight. Bring your headphones so you can listen to your favorite music while strolling upon the shore. Take a swim alone. Having some time to yourself is healthy, and it will only increase your bond with your partner.
9 Try Not To Have Unrealistic Expectations
Sure, the thought of being on a romantic island with your favorite person seems like heaven on earth, and it very well could be. But it's very easy for anyone to set their expectations way too high while going on vacation with their partner, and therefore become angry when every second of every day isn't the magical cloud 9 experience they hoped for.
If you go into it with more realistic expectations and realize that this is a vacation rather than a Disney Movie, you will enjoy yourself more without feeling the pressure to have the most unrealistically perfect experience as possible. Find joy in the imperfect moments, and relax! You are on vacation, after all.
8 Remember The Purpose Of Your Vacation
It's so easy for anyone to get stressed out on vacation. There's so much pressure to see and do everything on the list. This sense of stress just comes naturally with traveling in general, but it truly doesn't have to if you don't let it. Keep in mind the purpose of your vacation: to enjoy yourself!
Vacations are all about having fun and letting yourself relax after months of hard work. If you keep in mind the goal of this trip (to let loose and appreciate your lovely surroundings), you will have nothing to worry about. Let the fun and excitement come naturally without trying to force it. This is the worst thing you could do for you and your partner. Sure, every couple can face a small argument here or there, but if --for the most part-- your trip is spent with relaxation and enjoyment, your partner will want to take you on millions of vacations in the future. Who wouldn't love that?
7 Set Equal Time To Do What You Both Love
When going on vacation with your significant other, it is very likely that the two of you will not always want to do the same thing. Instead of getting into countless fights over whether or not you should spend your beach day relaxing on the sand or going jet skiing/water tubing, keep in mind that relationships are all about compromise.
If you set an equal amount of time to do what they wants and what you want, you will both find satisfaction. For example, if you go on a ski trip and all they want to do is spend time inside cuddling with hot chocolate by the cozy fire while all you want to do is hit the slopes, find an equal amount of time to do both. It's also good to come up with activities that you both want to do equally. All of these compromises will set up for the perfect couples retreat.
6 Try Not To Hog Them All To Yourself
It's easy to get possessive with your partner, especially on a vacation that is dedicated to your relationship and bonding time. Although their main focus should, of course, be you, at times they might put their attention elsewhere, and that is okay. For example, if they befriends the energetic surf instructor, let them have their little bonding moment. If they needs to talk to their sister or their boss on the phone for an hour, let them.
Remember that you both have a life outside of the relationship. As long as their main focus is you on the trip, you can't get upset if they focus on other people as well. You wouldn't want your partner to get angry at you for befriending the cool bartender, would you? There is no need.
5 Try Not To Overdo The Drinking
The fact that you're on vacation seems like an easy excuse to chug down as many martinis as possible, because when else would you allow yourself to? It's fine to have a couple of drinks while on your trip, but remember to know your limit. The last thing you want to do is spend your time hurling in the hotel bathroom while your partner begrudgingly holds your hair back.
Couples are also more likely to get into over-the-top fights when they've over-indulged. Usually, it's not pretty, and the next morning will be just as ugly. Have fun, but remember to drink in moderation.
4 Mix Up Downtime With Adventure
This is important advice for any vacation you might take, but especially with your romantic partner. If you are constantly spending your vacation on your bum, you both risk having a pretty lazy/boring trip. Of course, it's important to relax, but if that's all you're doing, your vacation might not be as memorable.
On the other hand, if you're constantly going on adventures and participating in wild activities without any downtime, you both run the risk of becoming cranky due to how tired you are. If you mix up the two, you will have the perfect experience.
3 Appreciate The Small Things
A vital part of any relationship requires you to consider all of the small things that your partner does for you. Oftentimes on vacation, we consider the big picture. An image will come to mind of all these fantastic and romantic adventures, but make sure you appreciate all of the little things your partner does for you too. They will certainly add up.
For example, if your partner carries your luggage for you or orders room service for you in the morning, let them know how much you appreciate this. These are all the small ways that they show you how much they care about you.
2 Plan Things Out Ahead Of Time
It's always good to have an idea of how you want to spend your vacation before actually embarking upon the trip. Spend some time researching the location with your partner and come up with different ways to organize your time. This will save you a whole lot of hours spent trying to plan out your vacation while actually on it.
It's also a good way to avoid any complications and stress. Of course, you don't have to plan out every hour of every day, but having an idea of how you want to spend your time is always wise.
1 Limit The Time You Spend On Your Phones
This one is super important for anyone who plans on taking a vacation. A lot of couples in our generation feel the need to post millions of pictures to upload to the world, in order to show off how lucky they are to be in such a great relationship. This is fine, and you have every right to post cute couples photos of your vacation adventure, but showing off shouldn't be your main priority.
If you spend too much time trying to get the cutest couples photo, you will fail to experience what it's like to live in the moment with your partner. Documenting the vacation can be nice, but actually experiencing the trip is even better. Focus on the moment, rather than the Insta post.