It’s amazing how girls love to watch a show about a guy surrounded by other women. Isn’t that what we hate about dating to begin with? But there is just something about The Bachelor that draws us in and has us questioning who is going to get the last rose. Will he propose? Will they stay together? There are so many questions involved when it comes to a reality show about love connections.
The show is always jam-packed with drama and sprinkled with just enough “Aww” moments to keep us hooked until the next episode. Due to all the drama, it makes us wonder how real these episodes really are. It’s hard to believe that there have been 23 seasons of the show and it is still going strong. The producers have clearly found a formula that works.
Like a lot of reality shows, it has come out that some things are overdramatized or even manipulated in order to keep the audiences interested while some things do remain authentic. There are even some things that the audience might be surprised to find is actually real. Check out these eight things about The Bachelor that are totally fake, plus 12 that are actually not scripted.
20 Real: The Rings Are Beautiful And Real
It certainly has crossed our minds that a show which can be partially fake at times might also be using fake rings for their proposals. But that’s not the case. The goal of the show is that by the end of it one of the lucky ladies will get a proposal from the man of her dreams. The show spares no expense on the rings and often spends tens of thousands of dollars on them.
According to US Weekly, the ring that Whitney Bischoff received cost approximately $92,000. That’s certainly not small change!
19 Fake: The Identities Of Some Of The Contestants Aren’t Real
There are many ways of making a show successful and one of them is to cast characters as villains, even if they aren’t. Chris Bukowski was a prime example of how the show misconstrued a contestant’s true identity. Bukowski went so far as to say that the show damaged his relationships with his family and even derailed his life goals.
"You can be on that show and not say a word, and they can do whatever they want to you," he told The Cut. "I mean, they took me and made every kind of character out of me, and I signed up for it."
18 Fake: The Food Is Not For Eating
We see a lot of delicious meals in front of the contestants when they are hanging out with the bachelor but that food is just for show, it doesn’t get eaten at all. Contestants are asked to eat before their dates so that they don’t eat while on the date.
"The food on dates is usually good, but the catch is that you aren't supposed to eat it! No one wants to watch people stuffing their face on a date. If you're eating, you aren't talking," contestant Jaclyn Swartz told Refinery 29. The contestants usually get room service sent to their rooms while they are getting ready for dates.
17 Real: Ladies Are Expected To Do Their Own Cleaning
You probably thought the girls on the show were being pampered the whole time. A mansion of that size needs some upkeep and the contestants don’t have access to maids and laundry help. You may think that they have people there to do their laundry but that isn’t the case.
Not only do contestants have to do their own laundry but they also do their own cooking and have chores that they have to do around the house. Suddenly, it doesn’t sound like much fun. There is a cleaning crew that helps out, but the girls are responsible for themselves and the room that they stay in.
16 Real: People Quit Their Jobs To Be On The Show
The girls take a big chance when they decide to go on the show. Not only are they hoping that they find the man of their dreams but they give up a lot just to get on the show. The show takes roughly six weeks to film and during that time, the girls have to be away from the careers that they have back home.
Some quit their jobs to get on the show and then have difficulty finding jobs after the show. JJ Lane, a contestant on Season 11 of the Bachelor’s sister show The Bachelorette told MarketWatch, "I didn't understand the magnitude of the show and how hard it is to get a real job right after. Everyone knows who you are and employers see it as a distraction."
15 Fake: The Reactions In The 'Women Tell All' Specials
The Tell All Specials are always so exciting because we get to see genuine emotions from contestants who might not be so happy about how the show went down. It’s an opportunity for the contestants to see their own actions in a new light. We sometimes see surprise, irritation and tears on these shows. Are the reactions really genuine?
According to an audience member, these tapings are pre-recorded so the producers can use the reactions for any part of the show that they want. If there is a reaction that producers don’t approve of, it just gets replaced with another reaction.
14 Real: Ladies Are Expected To Spend A Lot On Their Look
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to go on one of these shows and have a gorgeous wardrobe provided for you? It sure would but that’s not the case for contestants on The Bachelor. Even though the show is supposed to be representing real life, the contestants are expected to look amazing on the show and that sometimes means spending thousands of dollars on new clothes.
If they can borrow clothing from a friend it would help with their wardrobe but Jillian Harris, the second runner-up from the 13th season of The Bachelor, wrote on her blog, "I had remortgaged my house and I spent something like $8,000 on clothing."
13 Fake: Producers Set Up Gimmicks For Contestants
If you remember contestant Ashley Palenkas, it was revealed on the show that she was obsessed with 50 Shades of Grey. But in real life she wasn’t, she just so happened to have the book on her nightstand and hadn’t even finished reading it. Ashley told Crushable that the producers created a persona for her out of that small fact.
Another gimmick producers will use to manipulate the audience is which girl is chosen to get out of the limo first. "I remember one of the producers said to me [before filming 'The Bachelorette'], 'You are going to be the first one out of the limo,'" Sean Lowe told Glamour. "I didn't think much of it. But then he said, 'Because you are first, everyone here thinks you are going to do well.' They want to get the show started off on the right foot."
12 Fake: One-On-One Interviews Are Scripted
When the show airs the one-on-one interviews, it’s an opportunity for viewers to get to know the contestants personally. It’s a breakdown of things that happened during the week and we get to see how the contestant felt about it. Unfortunately, these interviews are often scripted and the contestants are often fed what they are supposed to say.
Former Bachelor contestant Megan Parris said that “there’s nothing real about it” in regards to her one on one interviews. She even stated that they “berate you” until you say what they want, as Reality Blurred reports. It’s sad that interviews can’t be genuine for the contestants.
11 Real: Contestants Have To Do Their Own Hair And Makeup
The contestants on the show always look so fabulous that we assume that they get their hair and makeup done professionally, but that assumption is wrong. The show expects the contestants to look amazing at all time and it’s up to them to make sure that it happens.
The show helps them with hair and makeup during the premiere episode as well as the finale but everything in-between is left to the contestants to pull together. They get some tips from the makeup artist at the beginning of the show but they have to do their own makeup after that.
10 Real: There Is No Contact With The Outside World
It can be hard on contestants during filming because they have no contact with the outside world at all. We couldn’t imagine what that would be like for anyone that has children.
"There's no TV or internet in the house — the whole thing is to be about the Bachelor and the show," host Chris Harrison told Entertainment Weekly.
Ashleigh Hunt, a contestant from Season Four, told The Ashley's Reality Roundup, "We are not allowed to speak to friends or family until we get home. Phones and computers are taken away the day you get there. We [would] sit in the house or by the pool; it gets pretty boring."
9 Fake: Who Gets The Roses
We love the rose ceremony because we get to see if we are right about who the Bachelor is going to send home. We assume who gets to stay and who gets to leave is up to him. After all, it’s supposed to be about him finding love.
The roses that are handed out are actually real roses, for anyone that was wondering about that. But unfortunately, the choice of who gets to stay and who leaves isn’t fully up to the bachelor. The producers have a big say in determining who makes the cut. We have to wonder if the poor guy even likes the final four that he ends up with!
8 Real: All Contestants Get Gift Bags
The contestants have to provide their own clothing when it comes to appearing on the show but it’s nice to know that the show puts together a gift bag for them when they arrive. These poor girls are spending money on clothes and giving up their jobs, so we feel that they should get something to make it all worth it in the end. Not everyone gets to bring home a new husband.
The gift bags are filled with sponsored items and the bags typically include things like yoga mats, make-up or swimsuits. It’s a fun little treat that they can use on the show or take home with them.
7 Real: The House Is Filled With Food And Drinks
The contestants may not be able to eat while on dates but during any other time, the mansion is filled with food and drinks.
"Oh my god, there's so much food," Bachelor Season 20 contestant Katie Levans Loveluck told College Candy. "It's weird, but the mansion becomes your home so it's kind of like a really jacked up, well-stocked sorority house. The pantry, fridge, freezer, etc. were all overflowing with food to accommodate everyone's dietary restrictions."
That can be a good thing and a bad thing. "I gained weight through the process. There's a lot of food and (…) at your disposal, which is hard," Courtney Robertson (Season 16) told Allure.
6 Fake: The Final Four
The goal of the show is for the Bachelor to get to know the girls throughout each episode and then whittle down the group of women systematically until he finds the woman he wants to marry. Sometimes it appears that one episode can make or break a girl even if she was doing well beforehand. It may seem that a girl’s fate is sealed at any given moment but the final four are usually set up early on in the show.
It’s disappointing to think that a major part of the show isn’t real but that’s what we’re dealing with. Things can always change, especially if a contestant goes rogue, but the Bachelor is asked early on what four he wants to get to know better.
5 Real: Conversations On The Show Are Real
We discovered that the one-on-one interviews are scripted so naturally we would wonder if the conversations between the contestant and the Bachelor are scripted too. For any relationship on The Bachelor to work out, it’s important that they get to know each other. That includes whether they are compatible but also what their viewpoint is on family, children, finances and religion.
The conversations that we see on the show seem like they aren’t very deep but that’s because “important” conversations don’t make for interesting shows. They are discussed but that footage hits the cutting room floor while only the interesting conversations actually make it on the show.
4 Fake: Limo Exits Are All Fake
One of the fun parts of the show is the introduction of the ladies when they arrive in the limo. We have seen some pretty OTT entrances, like the woman that showed up in a police car or the one who arrived on a camel. There have also been women that showed up in wacky outfits, like this unicorn head, to make a great first impression.
These are all fake, of course, and the producers are always aware of what is happening. They know in advance what kinds of props will be used so they know what will happen when the women make their grand entrances.
3 Real: Friendships On The Show Are Real
Not all of the relationships that bloom on the show end up working out. In fact, there are more breakups from the show than there are successes. Producers, however, don’t care what happens to the relationship after the show has ended. They just care what happens during the show and whether the ratings are high.
The show has been a success over the years and it doesn’t look like it’s going away anytime soon. One thing that is real and lasting after the show ends is the friendships that the girls make with one another on the show. These friendships certainly stay strong long after the show has ended.
2 Real: They Consume A Lot Of Beverages
The producers make sure that there are a lot of beverages available for the contestants to drink at any hour of the day. That can be hard for some contestants. They do this because contestants are more likely to open up while drinking.
"It's how they get you to be more talkative, more sensitive," Season 17 contestant Leslie Hughes told The Daily Beast. "When I came in for the producers' weekend, I remember it was like 12 noon, and they were like, 'You want [something to drink]?' And I was like, 'It's 12 p.m., noon!' And they're like, 'Welcome to the Bachelor family.'"
1 Real: There Is No Way For Contestants To Stay Active
You would think in an atmosphere where contestants are expected to look their best that there would be a gym available to them. Especially since they have a lot of free time on their hands! The mansion does not have a gym, though. The girls sometimes have to get creative.
“There's no workout room here, but there's a hill in the back that girls would run up to exercise," Molly Mesnick (Season 13) told The Ashley's Reality Round Up. The hotels that they stay in do have gyms but they aren’t very big and can’t accommodate a large number of people.
Sources: Us Weekly, The Cut, Crushable, The Ashley's Reality Roundup, The Daily Beast, Entertainment Weekly