He likes me, he likes me not?
If you often find yourself scrutinizing every text he sends you for signs that he's into you or analyzing to bits random coincidences, like meeting him at the corner store coffee house, as definite signals that he might be thinking of you as more than just a friend or acquaintance, then this list is going to make your day.
Yup — we are that confident.
Why? Because human beings don't communicate just through words when they interact physically. In fact, according to the world famous study done by Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the pioneering researcher of body language in the 1950s and current Professor Emeritus of Psychology at UCLA, verbal communication accounts for only 7% of human communication. Out of the rest, 55% is through body language and 38% through the tone of your voice and inflection.
That means if you really want to know if he's into you, all you gotta do is watch his body language.
So here are 22 body language signs that reveal he's definitely into you. Now let's count how many he has been showing so far so you can decide upon a game plan to sneakily get him to ask you out!
22 He Smiles A Lot When He's Around You
Quick! Think of the one person who you love with all your heart. Did your face just split into a wide smile as you remembered them? Mine did (I was thinking of my sister).
It's a basic human reflex; when we spend time with someone who puts us at ease and who we genuinely are very fond of, we can't help feeling happy and smiley around them!
The same happens to your guy.
So if he smiles as soon as he spots you in a crowd or sees you coming towards him, then continues to flash you a grin for as long as you stick around to talk to him, he's definitely into you. In fact, if you watch closely (and if he happens to be a fair-skinned guy), you might even see his face flush gently or the pulse in his neck quicken while he's smiling because his heart is beating a million miles a minute.
But watch out for fake smiles! The way to spot a real one is by the crinkles that form around the eyes. So if he is only flashing his pearly whites, but his eyes seem to be more way, hard luck. He probably is not that into you.
21 He Finds Excuses To Touch Or Hug You
This one's a no-brainer — we all do it when we are seriously interested in someone. Don't tell me you haven't found excuses to high-five your guy or haven't fantasized about the day when you can finally feel his arms wrap around you as you melt into his soft embrace.
The only difference is that guys tend to be bolder when it comes to finding excuses to touch the girl they are seriously into.
So if your main man likes tapping you on your shoulders playfully or tickle your stomach or pulls you into half hugs as you walk down the street, then yes, he's definitely into you. And bonus points if he has brushed your hair behind your ears or wiped off that stray cookie crumb stuck to your cheek. Because, girl, if he has done the latter, you really need to stop reading this list right now and find a way to get him to confess his feelings (unless you are bold enough to do it first!).
On second thought, don't stop reading yet. You are good to go only if your man shows at least 10 to 15 signs mentioned on this list. Anything less is a sign he hasn't made up his mind yet.
20 He Gazes Into Your Eyes
The eyes are the windows to the soul. No wonder we feel a zing right through our hearts every time our special person looks us in the eyes. But there are a few nuances here that could make all the difference in the world.
Number one: does he hold your gaze for longer than a few seconds? As in, longer than you would hold the gaze of your grocery bagger? If yes, you can add one point to your scoreboard. It's a definite sign that he sees you as someone more than just a passing curiosity.
Gazing into your eyes is his way of saying, "I don't know if you like me too, but one day I would love to know all the secrets hidden behind those beautiful eyes."
Number two: are his eyes relaxed and soft around the edges? If yes, you can add another point. In fact, you get bonus points if he has a mischievous twinkle in his eyes or has his eyebrows slightly raised in a cute way. Believe me, it's a big sign that he's interested in you because it's a sign that he's comfortable in your presence and thinks highly of you.
Number three: does he smile? Even the hint of a smile on his lips is good if he is an introverted individual.
Just watch out for hard eyes that seem to bore into yours. They are a sign of aggression and typically exhibited by someone who doesn't think kindly of you.
19 He Flashes His Eyebrows To Say Hi
Well, we mentioned the eyebrow flash as a bonus in the point above, and there's a good reason behind that. It's because men tend to reflexively do it when they see a woman they are interested in.
It's a human thing to do when we are curious about someone or something. That's why you will mostly find your face in a relaxed state with your eyebrows neutral when you are lounging with your best buddies or having dinner with your family. The eyebrows only "up" their game when you suddenly see someone who has definitely peaked your interest.
Bonus points if you watch his friends wriggle their eyebrows at each other with a mischievous grin on their faces when he greets you in the hallway. You can bet that they are going to tease him once you are out of sight. (And that's great because it means he has discussed you with his friends!)
Just remember: a man's brain is hardwired differently from a woman's and so they find most women attractive. So if the eyebrow flash is the only sign you have seen him exhibit in your presence, he probably hasn't interacted with you enough to start thinking of you romantically.
18 His Torso Is Angled Towards You
When we turn our torso towards someone, it's a sign that we are interested in the other individual. But don't jump to conclusions too fast. It can just mean he finds the conversation interesting and nothing more. So make sure you have more than just this sign on your scorecard.
Nevertheless, there are a few nuances when it comes to this body language cue.
Number one: does he angle his feet and his torso towards you when you are talking? If yes, that means he is giving you his entire attention and has closed off to the rest of the world.
Number two: when you are standing together in a group, does he angle his feet towards you even if he is unable to fully turn his entire body your way? If yes, it's a subtle sign that out of all the people in the group, you are the one he has singled out as more interesting than anyone else. So it's definitely a good sign.
Number three: when you are talking one-on-one and suddenly are interrupted by a third person, does he maintain his torso towards you even as he turns his head and speaks to the others? If yes, girl, he is definitely into you! This last one is a sign that he does not want anyone intruding on his private time with you.
17 He Stares At You... Especially When You Are Not Looking
Well, there are two ways of knowing this: either your friends have noticed it, or you have found him staring at you whenever you have looked his way. And the former has a bigger edge over the latter. Let me explain why...
If you are the only one who has caught him looking your way and none of your friends have picked up on it, it's probably because he knows you are looking at him and is checking if you are still staring. So it's not necessarily a sign of attraction, it's exactly what you would do if you happened to be sitting at the airport and suddenly realized a creepy dude was staring at you. You would keep glancing his way to check if he has stopped staring, right? So maybe, try and be a bit more discreet, cool, and collected.
That's why this body language sign (on his part) can be considered a valid sign of attraction only if your friends or other acquaintances have told you he has been looking your way from across the room while you were oblivious or turned away from him. It's because he's is hoping to catch your eye sooner or later so he can smile and wave hello.
16 He Leans Into You
Has your man done this? If yes, don't jump up and yell hurray yet. There are nuances to this body language sign that can make all the difference in the world.
We all mark a certain amount of space around us as our personal space. And while the size of it can enlarge (if you are alone in a room) or shrink (if you are packed in a small elevator with five stranger), in general, we become defensive when a stranger or someone we are not close to enters this space. That's why we tend to be so rigid in elevators. We just can't help but brush up against strangers then.
Just as we are territorial of our personal spaces, we also tend to respect the personal spaces of others we are not close to — but that changes once we fall for someone.
So if your main man often leans into your personal space by sidling up behind you and peeping at the book you are reading over your shoulder or leans in when you are speaking, then it's a sign that he is interested in you and wanted to get closer to you.
If instead, when he leans in, he crosses his arms and only edges his head closer to you or keeps his body as far back as possible while leaning his head in, he isn't interested in you that way and is only leaning in probably because he can't hear you clearly.
15 He Dresses Up Better And "Preens" Himself Around You
We all want to look our best when we are around the person we have a massive crush on. It's an instinct we share with all animals on this planet. It's a way we project ourselves as a suitable mate and try to stand out from the competition in the eyes of the one we are interested in.
That's why if the man you have been hanging out with suddenly starts to dress up better, maintain his hygiene, and overall becomes more presentable, it's because he is interested in you and wants you to see him favorably.
Bonus points if you tell him you like a certain color or clothes combination and he turns up wearing that the next day. Believe me, a friend of mine once told a boy she found the white-shirt-blue-jeans combination very attractive, and he showed up the next time wearing that exact combination! (The two are currently in a relationship.)
But men don't just dress up better when they are interested in you. They also "preen" themselves by stroking their hair or flexing their biceps when they are around you. It's a classic peacock move to make them seem like the obvious choice of mate to you.
14 He Doesn't Check His Phone When He's With You
Phones might not have been around for too many years, but they have already changed the entire landscape of how we communicate with each other and interact with the world. In fact, according to a meta-research, the average person in the west spends around 4 hours a day on their smartphone. And that's not even the scariest fact about our obsession with our phones.
That's why if someone willingly sets his phone aside when he is interacting with you, it's a big sign that he wants to connect with you and is interested in dating you.
It's got everything to do with chemicals in his brain. Here's how.
Research has proven that the chemicals produced by our brain when we fall in love, like dopamine and phenylethylamine, give us a natural 'high' when we are in the presence of the one we love and feel a crushing sense of despair and can't stop thinking about them when they are not around.
No phone can hold a candle to this surge of "love".
So if he doesn't check his phone when you are together and cancels almost all calls that come through, he is definitely into you.
Plus, it's a mark of respect because he is showing you through his actions that he thinks you are the most important person in the world to him.
13 He Tends To Fidget A Lot
Here's the deal with fidgeting. It can mean he is interested or it can mean he is itching to get away from your presence. It all depends on the other signs he is throwing all around. That's why body language is never a game of just observing one isolated sign. You need to observe his whole body.
So if he smiles when he sees you, finds excuses to touch or hug you, holds your gaze longer than usual, and then fidgets while he is standing (or sitting) with you and having a conversation, then he is definitely interested in you. He just doesn't know what to do with his hands or how he stood position himself so he looks his best.
And then there's the with his heart, which happens to be beating a thousand beats a minute because you are in front of him. So you can't really blame him for shifting his weight from one foot to another or putting his hands in his pockets with the thumbs out and then pulling them out after a minute because he was worried he was looking stupid.
The key here is to see if he is showing other signs of attraction along with fidgeting. Because if he is not, and if his feet happen to be pointed away from you, then girl, I am sorry to break it to you but he probably is not all that interested in you.
12 His Palm Touches Yours When You Hold Hands
Has your main man ever held your hand? Yes? Then let us take a moment to remember how that felt. Warm as butter and just as comforting, wasn't it? Almost as if that singular action changed a certain dynamic between the two of you. Brought the two of you closer.
Or did it? Because if his palm wasn't snuggly resting against yours, he probably isn't as interested in you as you are in him. So here are a few pointers when it comes to decoding the language of the hands when it comes to attraction.
First of all, when you are in the presence of someone you like, your hands tend to be become warmer and softer because of more blood circulation. (Your heart's beating extra hard, after all.) And the opposite is true when you are not comfortable and don't want to interact with someone. Your hands become cold and rigid.
So if his hands were warm, you already have a good foot in the door.
The second thing is about personal space. Our palms are one of the most sensitive and personal spaces of our body. Just stroke the center of your palm a few times and you will see. That's why if he holds your hand in such a way that his palm rests against yours, his body is essentially telling you that he doesn't mind you in his personal space and would like to get closer to you. So it's a definite win!
11 He "Mirrors" You
Human beings tend to mirror each other. It's called synchronization and it allows people to fit into communities and make others more likely to be benevolent towards them.
We do the same thing when we are trying to get someone to like us. We mirror them. It's called the courtship dance and it is a subtle, unconscious way of telling the other person, "See! I am just like you. You would be good together. Let's mate."
So if he scratches his head because you were scratching yours, or throws his legs one over the other because that's how you were sitting across from him, or mimics your facial expressions when he sees you reacting to something surprising or hilarious, he is definitely interested in you and is betraying his attraction by mirroring your moves.
In fact, if a guy is genuinely interested in you, he will also mirror your unique speech pattern over time.
That means, if you say a specific curse word a lot, you can expect him to drop those bombs more often when the two of you are discussing something, or if you pronounce a certain name a certain way, he might start doing the same too.
10 He Maintains A Strong Posture Around You
Slouching when we walk immediately tells the world that we lack confidence. And lack of confidence is one of the most unattractive things on this planet. You might be the most amazing human being to interact with when someone gets to know you, but if your posture isn't proper, you will fail to attract most people. And we human beings know this secret on a cellular level (if not the conscious level), which is why we always straighten up whenever we see the one we have a massive crush on.
It's the same for him.
In fact, if he is really interested in you, don't be surprised if he pushes his shoulders back slightly and stands taller while he is in your presence because it means he wants to appear strong before you and be the biggest male in the room.
Another powerful body language move men tend to pull off in the presence of the women they are super attracted to is manspreading. That is, when they lounge on a chair before you, they tend to spread their legs wide apart and drape their arms over the chair arms almost casually. This classic move projects an image of masculinity, power, and ease, making him seem like the alpha among all men. So watch out for this one too!
9 He Matches Your Pace When You Walk
This is probably the easiest way to gauge if the man you have a crush on is really interested in you or not. Let me explain why.
Have you ever found yourself trapped in a short walk from point A to point B with someone (maybe an obnoxious acquaintance or a stranger) who just wouldn't take a hint and go away? If you have, you would do either of two things to get away from them. You would have either slowed your pace so they shot ahead of you or picked up your pace so they are left behind. We don't do it consciously but it's obvious to everyone who is around us (and also the person we are trying to outstrip...if only they would take the hint!).
So if you have ever walked side-by-side with the guy you have a crush on and have noticed him doing the same – walking a few steps ahead of you or slowing down and lagging behind again and again even after you try matching his pace – then he probably isn't interested in you.
But if he slows down or speeds up to match your pace, then it's a big sign he's into you. Bonus points if you notice that your steps become synchronized after a while as if you are in a marching band. Then he's not only interested but also mirroring you unconsciously.
8 His Pupils Dilate
There are a few caveats with this body language, so don't put too much emphasis on this one as compared to the other signs on this list. Here are the reasons why.
First of all, our pupils naturally dilate when we are in darkness and constrict when we are out in the sunlight or in bright light. The former allows our eyes to take in more light so we can still see clearly in the dark, while the latter protects our retina from getting damaged by too harsh rays of light. So if you observe that his pupils are dilated but happen to be in a relatively dim room or lighting condition (like late evening), then it's not a sign of attraction but basic biology.
Nevertheless, our pupils do dilate when we see something we really like, especially if it's someone we have a huge crush on. It's because we are hardwired to want to take in more of what we like looking at.
So if the two of you meet and you suddenly observe his pupils expand and grow bigger, then you definitely are onto something here.
(But you need this to be accompanied by the other signs of attraction, like smiling or enthusiasm or mirroring, to be sure of his interest in you.)
Unfortunately, if he has dark brown or black eyes, observing this sign will be next to impossible. So only look for this if you are interested in someone with paler eye color.
7 He Voice Sounds More Manly
Research has proven that in the dance of courtship when a man is interested in a woman, the pitch of his voice becomes lower when the two of them are alone. It's done unconsciously in a bid to appear more masculine and powerful since men naturally have a deeper voice than women.
And it makes perfect sense. Just hear Justin Bieber speak first and then compare it to John Cena's voice. The former sounds musical and pleasing, but if you closed your eyes and did not know it was JB, you probably might conclude the voice belonged to either a woman or a growing boy. But that's not the case when you hear John Cena speak. Just a few lines in that rich, gravelly baritone and your feminine hormones will make you want to melt into his arms and never let go.
But there's a catch. If the man is interested in you, you will notice that he tends to speak at a higher pitch and talk more when you both are in the company of other men. All males of the animal kingdom do this to be heard over the "competition". So watch out for both these signs before you jump to conclusions.
6 He Laughs At Your Jokes...Even When They Are Bad
Human beings are social creatures. We love it when we are included in a group. In fact, those who rebel against the grain and reject popular gangs also love it when they finally find like-minded people they can connect and socialize with. And humor evolved as a great way to pave these connections.
According to a research cited in Psychology Today, it's easy to judge whether someone likes you or not. Just gauge how funny they find you. And this applies to all human relationships, whether at work or at play. When we laugh at someone's jokes, we are telling the other person that we like them and get their sense of humor, and that makes the other person see us in a favorable light.
No wonder those who laugh more at their boss' jokes often find themselves better appraisals at the end of the day...and the same applies to the game of attraction too.
So if you find it easy to make him laugh, even when you know your jokes aren't all that funny always, it's a big sign that he is into you. It's because the love chemicals bursting in his brain are making everything you say sound a lot more interesting and amusing! (Not that we doubt your jokes.)
5 He Puts On A Show When He Knows You Are Watching Him Play Sports
When a guy is seriously interested in you, he will put on a "show" whenever you are around. In fact, he might not even be interacting with you and maybe lounging with his friends close by, but as soon as you walk in, you will notice a sudden straightening in his posture and more enthusiasm in his actions. He could even outdo himself and throw his arms around more animatedly or try to "prank" his friends just so he stands out in your eyes.
We all pull these exaggerated acts when we are around someone we like (even if we latter kick ourselves for behaving like a complete moron!). But men tend to do it a lot more than women.
And since most men love sports with a fanatical intensity, especially the ones who play them, if he's good at a particular game and is interested in you, you can rest assured that he will ask you to come to see him play in some way and then play the game of his life when he knows you are watching him from the stands.
And this sign is visible even when he is not into sports. You will see him outperform himself if he knows you are watching him do what he loves doing the best. Just remember, this sign has to be accompanied by the other signs on this list. Otherwise, he might just be interested in your body and not in a romantic relationship.
4 He Fumbles When He Meets You Unexpectedly
This one's easy! How can he not fumble when he suddenly sees you walk around the corner when he was not expecting you at all? His heart is beating a million beats a minute, after all.
This action is precipitated by a sudden burst of adrenaline in his blood, which is the hormone secreted by our body (adrenal glands to be more specific) when we are in danger or are in the presence of the one we desire tremendously. So don't be surprised if his voice sounds unusually high, his eyes wider, and his hands a lot colder and clammier when you hi-five. You may even see a faint sheen of sweat on his head as he frantically tries to think of an appropriate response to charm you but fails to do so in his mind.
It's actually quite cute if you ask me. And a great boost for your ego because it immediately makes you feel more powerful and confident in his presence, both of which are extremely attractive traits.
So if you want to be sure he's interested in you, find ways to meet him in places where he's least expecting to meet you.
Maybe show up for his soccer practice one day, even though you are a sworn nerd, and then watch if he fumbles with the ball initially. He will calm himself down eventually, but if he follows it up with an exaggerated gameplay and seems to be playing close to where you are sitting, then he's definitely interested in you.
Just make sure your surprise appearances are spaced out with at least a week or two in between. Otherwise, he might think you are stalking him!
3 He Behaves Protectively
Gender studies scholars might say that most men and women behave a certain way more because of social conditioning than because of inherent traits in their physiology. But that does not change the fact that we are still living in a world where most men like to take on the role of the protector and the provider while most women like to be the nurturer and the receiver.
So until we get a more gender-neutral main generation (which might happen by the end of this century), this body language sign still holds true about a man's interest in you.
That means, if he always makes sure he's between you and the traffic as you walk down the road and immediately gets rid of the cockroach (or lizard) that scared the living daylights out of you, he's definitely into you and does not want any harm to come to you.
Trust me, this is a big sign. In fact, you may not observe a lot of the other signs in him if he happens to be a more reserved and mature man, but you will always see his protective side displayed in full if he is truly interested in you as a romantic partner.
2 His Face Is Animated When He Talks To You
This body language sign is exhibited by all human beings when we are seriously interested in someone. It ties in with our need to stand out from the competition, flash the spotlight on ourselves, and make sure the one we have set our sight on goes home with a lasting impression of us in their mind.
So don't be surprised if you see him pulling odd faces when he is in your presence.
It's a big sign that he's interested in you because loud and animated expressions always make people laugh, and men love it when they can make the woman they are interested in laugh (or guffaw) in sheer delight.
It boosts their confidence and makes them like you even more. Wouldn't you like someone too if they genuinely found you a fun person to be around?
But this animated behavior is not just restricted to his facial expressions. He will even speak in an animated manner when he's into you. Especially when he is retelling a story from his life or something interesting that happened that very day. In fact, he might even jump from one story to another in quick succession just because he wants you to know everything there is to know about him!
1 He Stretches Out The Goodbyes
This one's the most obvious sign of someone's genuine interest in you. After all, we all tend to hang around for "just a while longer" when we are seriously crushing on someone.
When we are in love with someone (or are seriously attracted), our brain releases a set of neurochemicals that generate pleasant feelings around this person, like dopamine, the culprit in all addictions (not just love), oxytocin, the hormone responsible for generating attachment, and phenylethylamine (PEA), the hormone that causes infatuation and lets up stay awake till the wee hours of the morning just because we are talking to the one we love on the phone. And these hormones are seriously addictive in nature, especially dopamine.
That's why when we are in love we often behave like drug addicts with the same kind of intense highs when we are hanging out with the one we love to intense crashes and cravings when we haven't seen them for some time. This is the main reason why we all stretch out our goodbye when we are seriously crushing on someone. We don't want the good times to end! And it's no different for men.
So if the guy you are into tends to turn back around and drop a few more funny lines after he has said goodbye or gives you a prolonged hug, he's definitely is into you. In fact, if you observe this sign and 10 more on this list, you should now go and find out how to get him to confess first!
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