So, you’re looking to sweep a man off his feet? It can be hard not to get caught up in the latest romantic comedy where two unlikely souls find each other and fall madly in love. Why can’t that happen in real life? Well, believe it or not, but it does. It’s not just in fairy tales. There are plenty of people out in the world that fall in love every single day. There is a lot of truth in finding your soulmate. You just need to know how to do it.
There are a few key things that you can be doing when you meet and start dating a man that can make him fall head of heels in love with you. There are ways to make a man fall helplessly in love with you. Before you know it, he will come to you heart in hand and declare his undying love for you. Or was that P.S. I Love You? Regardless, we are here to give you all the tips that you have been looking for. Check out these 20 things you can do to make him fall for you fast.
20 Make Him Feel Like You Really Need Him
Guys like to feel needed just like we do. Even if you feel like you’re the kind of woman that doesn’t need a man, you are still capable of making your man feel needed.
You may even be a woman who has been single for a while and have been killing your own spiders for some time. But just because you can do things for yourself, doesn’t mean you have to.
If you know that your man is particularly good at something, don’t hesitate to ask him for some help.
19 Listen To Him When He Wants To Talk
Guys generally aren’t ones to want to sit down and have a heart to heart, so if he does, it’s probably because he needs someone to talk to.
His opinion of you will shift significantly if he feels like you listen to his needs and are there for him.
He will appreciate you listening to him and knowing when to chime in. Just like you, he wants to feel like he’s being heard and that you understand where he’s coming from.
18 Allow Him To Miss You
It can be hard to fall back and give space when you are in the process of falling in love with your soulmate but in order to keep him, you may have to do just that. If you are spending every waking moment with your guy, how is he ever supposed to miss you?
If he never misses you, then how is he going to know that he can’t spend his life without you?
It is completely healthy to spend some time apart from each other. It will give you balance in your life as well as give you two the opportunity to miss each other.
17 Focus On What The Two Of You Have In Common
One thing that you can do is to remind your man how compatible you are together. Expert Dr. Pam Spurr says,
"We may not realize it, but we have a natural tendency to go for people who not only have similar interests and backgrounds to us but also use similar facial expressions.”
We seek similarity so much that we will even look for it in facial expressions. We take these as clues to someone’s personality. Once he realizes that he has so much in common with you, he will fall quickly.
16 Compliment Him When He Deserves It
When we say compliment your man we do not mean to kiss his butt all the time in order to get the love that you want. We are talking about genuine compliments that come at the right moment. If you think he looks great on a particular day, then tell him. Make him feel good about himself in the same way you love to feel good about yourself.
When we get comfortable with someone for some reason the need to compliment one another goes out the door.
Make sure you are making your man feel awesome sometimes.
15 Hang Around With Him A Lot
We know that we just finished telling you that you need some time apart and that’s completely right. You can’t spend every waking moment together or else he will never have a chance to miss you. But when he’s not off with his boys, then you should be spending time together. Therapist Dr. Ian Kerner says,
"Advertising works in part because it repeatedly exposes you to a particular product.
It's the same with people – the more time you spend together, taking for granted that there's some mutual attraction, to begin with, the more you'll grow to like each other."
14 Eye Contact Can Go A Long Way
Eye contact is a great way to bring the two of you closer especially when you two are getting down in the bedroom. When you guys are developing feelings for each other, eye contact is going to play a big role in that. Eye contact is a great way to send messages to each other that is only between you two. You may not realize that couples spend about 75% of the time just looking at each other.
“The last time they stared into someone’s eyes for long periods of time, they were in love,”
Dr. Spurr said. “So in theory, that could trigger their brain to recall feelings of love again.”
13 Confidence Is The Key To Winning Him Over
It’s been said a million times that men love women who are confident. It makes them fall in love because confidence is addictive. Men have even been known to crumble at the feet of a confident woman.
"A woman who knows what she likes and makes every effort to get it is very attractive," says Kerner.
"In fact, when a woman like that needs someone it makes them feel all the more valuable because it's as though she needs them specifically, rather than just any old person."
12 Laugh And Do It A Lot
Seeing someone laugh all the time is the best feeling in the world. Your man is going to want to be a part of that. He’s going to love it even more if he is the one that is making you laugh. It can be really easy to fall in love with someone that takes the joy in life and runs with it. If you two share the same sense of humor, then it’s going to be really easy to laugh together and build that close bond.
11 Show Off Your True Nature
Some women will hide who they truly are because they think that they have to be a certain way for a guy to like them. But that’s not what guys want at all. A guy that truly loves you, loves you for who you truly are. Let your true nature shine and the right guy is going to love every minute of it. Be intelligent, be opinionated, be your true awesome self and that is the best way into a man’s heart. He will love you for who you are.
10 Admire The Man That He Is
When it comes to a man, he wants to appear masculine for his lady and he wants you to appreciate that part of him. We are by no means suggesting that you should faint every time that he flexes his muscles because then he will be doing the gun show all day long. His masculinity isn’t just about how strong he is, sometimes it has to do with his chivalrous nature. Admire the qualities in him that make him the man that you love and he will love you right back for it.
9 Be A Great Friend To Him
Falling in love isn’t just about finding your soulmate, it’s also about finding your best friend. Your guy is looking for that just as much as you are. "Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are all ways you can try and 'trick' someone into a kind of love," says Spurr.
"But the fact is that if you want someone to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. When they're with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook someone in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring."
Be a friend by laughing with him, listening to his problems, and just being there for him in general.
8 Be Patient With Him At First
We know you can’t force love and you definitely can’t rush it. One great way to get his love is to be patient and give him the time he needs to fall naturally. You don’t have to rush into telling him you love him, even if that’s how you feel. You want to make sure that the two of you are on the same page so that you don’t risk scaring him off. He doesn’t have to necessarily be the first one to say "I love you," but you want to also make sure that he has had enough time to get the chance to fall in love as well.
7 Feed Him In More Ways Than One
Sure, if you love to cook and like to literally feed your man, then all the power to you, but that’s not what we mean by feeding your man. There are more ways to feed a man than just through their stomach. Any man will love when you cook for him.
"This is a sure-fire way to make anyone feel loved," says Spurr. "It's about being taken care of, partly, but it's also because being hungry for food is such a basic primal thing.
If someone brings you a freshly prepared platter of delights is it any wonder we love them more?"
6 Let Him Know That He’s On Your Mind
Don’t we love it when we wake up in the morning and see a "good morning" text from our favorite guy? Well, guys are the same. They like to know that you are thinking about them, too.
You may not want to do it in the beginning because you want to play it cool, but after a while, it’s okay to show him that he is on your mind.
Trust us, he will love it. Even sending him a meme throughout the day that reminded you of him is sure to brighten his day.
5 Make Sure You Are Always Honest With Him
You know what they say, "honesty is the best policy" and that couldn’t be truer than in a relationship. We can’t stress how important it is to be honest in a relationship, especially at the beginning. If you are caught in a lie, he’s going to assume that your whole relationship will be based on that and it’s not going to make him want to fall in love.
Don’t just tell him things you think he wants to hear throughout the relationship.
Always tell him the truth, even if it’s one of those times when the truth hurts.
4 Accept Your Man For Who He Is
It can be tempting to want to change a man, especially if you see certain qualities that you would rather not deal with. But the point of loving your man is to love him for exactly who he is.
If you want him to fall in love with you, then trying to change him is a terrible way to go about it. There are probably tons of amazing qualities in your man and you shouldn’t be trying to change him.
You want to be loved for exactly who you are and he’s going to expect the same thing.
3 Love Him For Crying Out Loud
If you want your guy to fall in love with you fast, a great way to get him there is by loving him first. "Sometimes we want someone to fall in love with us because we need to feel wanted, but in reality, we're not actually in love with the person ourselves," says Spurr.
"Ask yourself how you feel about this one. Do you accept them for who they are? Value them and the fact they're in your life? Do you appreciate all that they do for you? If not, you may just be wishing to be loved without being willing to love yourself.
But the two go hand in hand."
2 Make Sure You Are Loving Yourself Too
You may think that this would have nothing to do with your man but he’s not going to fall for a girl whose life revolves around him.
"Knowing yourself, knowing that you're sociable, witty, kind, insightful, cool under pressure, empathetic, whatever, is the first step in loving yourself,"
says Kerner. "Then let them see your best attributes as often as you can." You need to be able to take care of yourself and not just shower your man with love.
1 Be Supportive Of His Efforts And Interests
Don’t fake interest when he starts talking about fishing or golf. No one wants to try to have a conversation with someone who genuinely doesn’t care about what they are saying. If you love him, then try to be supportive of his interests and activities. By showing some interest, that is a sure way to get to his heart faster because he will love talking to you about it. The next time that he goes on a fishing trip with his buddies, ask him about the fish he caught and watch his face light up.
References: cosmopolitan.com, refinery29.com