Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes are notoriously private and they are rarely seen out together. They kept us guessing for a long time about whether or not they were even a couple. The two aren’t officially married but they might as well be, since they are very committed to each other and they share two children together.
They don’t like talking about their relationship and we rarely see pictures of the couple together or with their kids in public. They just don’t really want to talk about their private life at all. That’s understandable for celebrities who don’t seem to get a moment of peace when they walk out of their homes. But for fans, it’s fun to know what’s going on in the lives of our favorite celebrities!
Eva Mendes has pretty much stepped out of the limelight and allowed her husband to shine in Hollywood. She has some entrepreneurial ventures going on, but she seems to be happy not making movies. There is lots to learn about this couple and we have some information for fans that Gosling and Mendes would rather keep to themselves.
Check out these 20 things Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes keep on the DL.
20 She Never Wanted Kids Until She Met Ryan
Prior to dating Ryan Gosling, Eva never really thought much about having kids and she may have been fine with never having them. She said it was the “furthest thing from her mind.” So what happened? During an interview with Women’s Health, she explained, “Ryan Gosling happened.”
Mendes met the Notebook star on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines in 2011 and they’ve been together ever since. “I mean, falling in love with him,” she continued. “Then it made sense for me to have … not kids, but his kids. It was very specific to him.”
19 She Hid Her Pregnancies For A Long Time
When it was finally announced that Ryan and Eva would be having a baby, fans were surprised because they couldn’t remember seeing her with a belly. To keep her pregnancy as private and secret as possible, an expert helped her to find ways that she could hide her growing belly.
Eva went to great extremes to hide her pregnancy and in this photo she looks as if she’s struggling with laundry and a handbag, but really she’s just trying to cover up signs of her pregnancy.
18 She Finds Parenting To Be A Learning Exercise
As we all know as mothers, having children can be hard, especially if it’s your first child and you really don’t know what you are doing. Eva has called parenting a learning exercise and we couldn’t agree with her more.
Her girls keep her busy and she loves it. She told Entertainment Weekly, “Every day is such a learning experience — they challenge you in so many ways. Like, I’m their mom. I have to rise up, and hopefully, most of the time I do, but sometimes it’s definitely maddening.”
We can all certainly relate to that. We love our kids but they can drive us batty sometimes.
17 Ryan Is Expected To Change Some Diapers
We’re not all lucky in this department because there are a lot of guys out there who will just refuse to change diapers. But Ryan Gosling has no problem with it. When Eva was on the Today Show she said that “it’s a given” Gosling changes their daughter Esmeralda’s diapers.
We like the way that she thinks because it’s not just the mom’s responsibility to take care of the baby. No one wants to change diapers and guys need to get in there too and do some of the elbow work. Kudos to Ryan for stepping up!
16 She Has A Lack Of Ambition When It Comes To Work
Over the years, we’ve noticed that Eva Mendes doesn’t have a lot of interest in Hollywood anymore and that’s because she says she is happy being just a mom. Right now, her biggest priority is her children and she wants to be home with them for the time being. She’s not worried at all about her career.
She explained to Women’s Health, that she “felt a lack of ambition” when she became a mother and feels “more ambitious in the home right now than I do in the workplace.”
Well, being a parent is the hardest job in the world!
15 Eva Doesn’t Believe In Marriage
There have been a lot of rumors swirling around that the couple is actually married. We can’t confirm them because these two are just so private, but Eva has never really been interested in the idea of marriage. She would probably change her mind for Ryan considering she changed her mind about having kids, though.
“If we go back to the origin of marriage, it was very unromantic. It was about land, basically. It was about ownership. So I think it’s a kind of unromantic idea,” she has said, as found on Brainy Quote. “I’m a person who appreciates a private union and a union that doesn’t need a piece of paper. I think marriage is more societal than anything else, honestly. It’s not that I’m against it; it’s just that, for me, it seems a little old-fashioned.”
14 They Have A Wonderful Support Group Helping To Raise Their Children
Eva and Ryan have more than enough help from family members when it comes to raising their kids. Eva never has to worry about doing it alone when Ryan is away for work.
"We have an amazing support group: Ryan's mum, my mum, Ryan's and my sisters. It's a village that helped us," she said, as Cosmopolitan reports. "My heart goes out to women who do this alone. I basically come from a single-parent household; although I love my dad, my mum mostly raised four of us on her own."
It’s great when you have a support system around to help you.
13 The First Time That Ryan Brought His Daughter To New York
When Ryan was on Jimmy Kimmel Live, he told a funny story about the first time that he brought his daughter to New York City. "I brought her to the window in the morning and I said, ‘Sweetheart, welcome to New York.’ Two cars went ‘smash’ and smoke started pouring out… these two guys got out and I won’t repeat the hand gestures for you but I quickly covered her eyes and ran away from the window.”
It’s hilarious because we could totally see it happening and we can almost picture Ryan’s face as it all went down right in front of him.
12 Eva Refused To Talk To Ellen About Her Family
Ellen can usually get any celebrity talking because she is so easygoing, but Eva kept secrets from her. Ellen tried to get her to talk about her relationship and she was having no part of it.
Ellen wanted to give Eva a gift and teased the actress, saying if she did happen to run into Ryan that she should bring something fun with her. She gave her onesies that had a picture of a baby who shared both Ryan's and Eva's likeness on them.
Eva told USA Today why she didn’t want to discuss her relationship with Ryan. “That’s the most precious thing to me. And I’m so protective and I just felt my guard go up,” she said.
11 It Was Ryan That Asked For Her To Be His Co-Star
Some things are just meant to be and when the two met on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines, it wasn’t serendipitous at all. Ryan was the one who requested her for the role. Director Derek Cianfrance agreed that he liked her as an actress and they brought her in for an audition.
Mendes dressed down for the part. "[She] had a big baggy t-shirt on, her hair was [untidy], [she had] big hoop earrings and no make-up," Derek said, as Indie Wire reports. "I got to know about her as a woman — really fall in love with her as a human being — and I cast her right there on the spot."
10 Eva Doesn’t Need A Nanny
Eva certainly doesn’t need a nanny, not with all the family members she has to help her out. During an interview with the Today Show, the interviewer asked if she had a nanny, and Eva set the record straight. “[My daughter's with] papa and the family. Thank God, I have my entire family ten minutes away,” she said.
Her family is more than willing to help out whenever Ryan and Eva need them. This couple is determined to do things on their own without getting hired help, unlike so many other celebrities.
9 Their Children Will Get As Much Privacy As They Can Manage
Celebrities usually don’t care that much about their own privacy, but when they start having children that’s when all bets are off. It’s understandable, as their children didn’t choose the celebrity life. Eva knows that it’s going to be hard to protect her children's privacy but she wants to do whatever she can to ensure it.
“Whether we like it or not, privacy is going to be very difficult for Esmeralda. I think it's unfair but that's our reality,” Eva said to People. “So Ryan and I decided early on to give her as much privacy as we could. And my pregnancy was the first opportunity to give her that.”
8 Ryan Thrives In The Chaos Around Him
There is no doubt about it: Ryan loves his life and he doesn’t seem to care how crazy it gets.
“There’s a kind of chaos in it that I love. Maybe in my life, I sort of put myself in situations that were chaotic, outside of my life. And now I have it at home and I don’t go looking for it,” he told GQ in December 2016, later calling Eva a “dream mother” to their children. “It’s a beautiful chaos that’s surreal and serene,” he added.
Who wouldn’t want a man that talks that way? She’s a lucky lady.
7 Eva Doesn’t Want To Go To Red Carpet Events
You may have noticed that Ryan Gosling has spent a lot of time on the red carpet with his co-star and good friend Emma Stone. The reason for this is that Eva doesn’t want to go to those events. She would rather stay at home with her children. She has gone to a few, but she has also left Ryan to his own devices. That’s also why we have heard about breakup rumors.
Eva told Shape magazine, “What people don’t know about me is that I love being home. Instead of hitting the red carpet, I’d rather be with our girls.”
6 Her Moral Compass Has Completely Changed
Eva Mendes has stated that since she had children she has developed a moral compass. She stated that her life has literally changed because her daughters are her priority.
“I love being an example to somebody,” she explained to Shape magazine. “If I’m even like… ‘should I do this project?’ I think about my daughter, all I have to do is think of her face, and I know the answer immediately. I guess she’s like my moral compass, in a way.”
With them both making moral choices when it comes to movies, it should be interesting to see what they star in next.
5 Their Special Place Is Disneyland
When they first started dating, we often saw Ryan and Eva at Disneyland. It’s been a special location for them since the beginning. They had their first date at the park in 2011 so it holds a special place in their hearts.
They love the rides, food and now they can even buy toys for their kids. They are often spotted staying long into the night. They try to get there as much as they can with their busy schedules and now they are able to take their daughters there too, which makes for special family moments.
4 Why They Chose The Name Esmeralda For Their Daughter
Esmeralda is certainly not a common name and you may have wondered why they chose it. We always love to hear the announcements of new celebrity baby names because they are generally pretty unique.
“Ryan and I both love the Esmeralda character from the Victor Hugo novel, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, and just think it's a beautiful name,” the actress said to Women’s Health.
Mendes also explained that Esmeralda’s middle name, Amada, was her grandmother’s name and means “beloved” in Spanish. They named their second daughter Amada as well just because they loved the name so much they used it twice.
3 Ryan Believes That Women Are Better Than Men
Ryan is now surrounded by women in his household so it’s not surprising that he would think that they are all pretty awesome. He doesn’t mind being the odd man out, in fact he thinks that the ladies in his life are pretty important.
“I think women are better than men. They are stronger, more evolved,” he told Evening Standard in June 2016. “You can tell, especially when you have daughters and you see their early stages, they are just leaps and bounds beyond boys immediately.”
He’s not the first actor to say something like that. Mila Kunis seems to think the same thing about her own children.
2 Ryan Feels Like He’s Living In A Dream
When a guy tells reporters that his life feels like he’s living in a dream, you know he must be madly in love with his family.
“I only know what it’s like to have my kids. And in my situation, Eva’s the dream mother, and they’re dream babies, and it’s like a dream that I’m having right now,” Gosling told GQ Magazine in 2016. “I’m dreaming it all. So I feel so lucky.”
He was asked by an interviewer about the new arrival of his daughter and he said, “It’s heaven. It’s like walking through a field of flowers every day. I live with angels.”
1 He Took Her To His Mother’s Graduation
Ryan Gosling is from Canada and he flew Eva to Ontario to meet his mother. They spent the New Year there and they all went to a movie together. After meeting his mother, Eva returned again a few months later to attend Ryan’s mother’s graduation at Brock University.
They tried to get into the ceremony as discreetly as possible but Ryan was so proud of his mother that he couldn’t help but jump to his feet and clap when she got her degree. It’s actually a really sweet reaction. This family makes us swoon!
Sources: Today, GQ, Woman’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Evening Standard