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20 Most Common Big Decisions We Make In Our Bathrooms

If you come to think of it, it’s kind of crazy how much decisions we have to make each day. That we arrive at many different crossroads each day and we need to make a choice. More often than not, we think we’re not in control of anything. We think life happens because it’s life and that’s how it works. But if you rewind to yesterday and count how many decisions you have to make, you’ll realize that we, humans, are in control of so many things. Sometimes we have to decide then and there and other times, we are given more time to think about it. Being able to decide and take control has a good side and a bad side, and yes, it can be frustrating. So sometimes, we need to engage in refreshing activities to help us decide. One of such activities is taking a bath. There’s probably not a single person who reached age 20 and has never made an important decision in her bathroom. Because admit it, there’s something magical about taking baths that calms every nerve in our body, quiets our brain, and makes thinking a lot easier.

20 To workout or to keep your regular routine

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Adding a new activity to our daily routine is not easy. For some, it may be as easy as choosing to sleep (because hey, all of us love to sleep) but for others, a new activity calls for major thinking. And there’s no better place to think for hours than in the bathroom, submerged in the tub and feeling the warm water calm our bodies. Deciding about this especially calls for long baths because, well, not all of us are fond of working out. And just because we want to try it doesn’t mean actually trying it would come easy. Working out calls for dedication and we need to set aside at least 15 minutes of our everyday life for it. For some, that’s big, especially if you’re the type of person who loves to stick to usual routines. So yes, asking wisdom from your comfy tub is one of the best solutions you can try. Maybe it will work, maybe it won’t, but it’s worth the try.

19 To have a pet or live alone in your apartment

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Having a pet is like having a baby. Almost. You have to feed it, bathe it, make sure it eats enough every day, make sure its home is comfy – there’s a lot you have to do. You need to adapt to having someone else in your apartment and you need to be responsible and take really good care of it. Or it will die and that’s on you. The point is, having a pet isn’t as simple as what most people think. Even if it’s just a pet goldfish, the mere fact that you have to be extra careful not to mistake his aquarium for your keys and trinkets jar, that can be big. Thus, it’s not impossible for some people to resort to lengthy bath hours to figure out this pet thing. I mean, there are lots of questions here. Do I really need a pet? what kind of pet should I get? Is having a dog more expensive than having a cat?

18 What college degree is best for you

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If you think you’re being childish for deciding about your college degree over warm water and a bath bomb and maybe some wine, better think again. You are not the first person to decide about her college degree while taking a bath and most certainly, you’re not going to be the last. Don’t kick yourself if choosing a degree feels too hard because, for some, it is really hard. So however you feel comfortable thinking about it, be it taking a bath or up in a trapeze, give it to yourself. Allow yourself to think about these big things in any way you’re comfortable. Because really, who the hell cares about where and how you think? What’s more important is that you’ll make the right decision. And more often than not, making a right decision is a very difficult everyday task to do. So go easy on yourself. Take a bath and think of a degree.

17 To move somewhere closer to work or to commute everyday

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Moving is always one of the most difficult decisions to make. Let’s face it…. Even if we have all the signs right in front of us, as clear as day, deciding is still far from easy. Especially if those signs are pointing to the opposite direction. In terms of moving, it can be extra hard if you have to choose between career and community and lifestyle. We all want to stay in our community because through the years, our town has given us the comforting feeling only living in the same place for a long time could give. And to turn your back on it and move, to choose your work which happens to be far from your place, that can be very frustrating. We all hate to think of it and we certainly hate to decide. But at the end of the day, a decision has to be made. Many lock themselves in their bathrooms and think.

16 To be in a relationship or not

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Who in the world does not want to be in a relationship? I mean, clearly life is more fun if you are in love with someone who loves you just as much. It’s great to know you can walk out the door and live a crappy life, go home and you can still find comfort and love. But of course, not everything in life relies on relationships. Single ladies can rule their lives and have fun just as much as those in a relationship. And being single also has a super long list of advantages, some priceless. So it’s not really a big deal to feel confused about whether or not you want to be in a relationship. And when this confusion hits you, it’s your obligation to yourself to think about it. And there’s probably no better place to think than while having a bath. Just decide whether you want to share your tub with someone else or not.

15 What to have for dinner (or other meals)

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Okay, clearly this isn’t a super big deal, but for non-cookers, it probably is. Cooking for yourself is a tedious task. And by cooking, I mean actually using the stove, not just the microwave. So yes, what to have for dinner or lunch or other meals can call for long hours of thinking. In fact, some people begin thinking their meal for lunch just right after they finished breakfast. Trust me, thinking about meals is very challenging. And then once you’ve decided what meal you want, you have to think whether you should cook it or order it for take-out or have it delivered or eat in a restaurant. In the event that you decided to cook, you have to picture the inside of your fridge and know if you have all the ingredients. See, there’s a lot to meals than simply eating it. There are days when thinking thoroughly needs to take place.

14 To buy new books or read the bookmarks on your PC

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If there’s one person in this world who owns a computer but has no bookmarks, I would want to meet her and ask how she does it. Because if you know how to use the internet, you’ll surely come across valuable articles and stories and reports that you’d want to read over and over again. Sometimes you feel busy so when you stumble upon something good, you bookmark it or save it in your read later app or whatever. So for sure, we all have tons of saved articles in our bookmarks. Now, what if you’re a bookworm? What if you can’t survive a month without buying and reading books? Which should you pick? Read your bookmarks or buy and read a new book? This is a super big question and it certainly calls for long hours of thinking, maybe even repetitive thinking. Sounds like a petty issue but for bookworms, it’s not. It’s big.

13 To have a career change or not

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There will come a point in time where you are doing well with your career but for some unknown reasons, the thought of changing it keeps on visiting you. Maybe this is your calling or maybe this is just you getting bored. Regardless, deciding whether or not to change careers is a challenging thing to do. You will have to spend weeks and months thinking about it because really, there’s a lot to consider, especially if the other career you’re considering is the total opposite of what you’re currently doing. If you’re thinking of exploring a totally different field, might as well imagine throwing yourself in a lake of stars. This is a wonderful lake and you know how to swim, but do you want to swim to the edge or stay in the waters? Career change is pretty much like that, only a lot messier. So seeking refuge in our bathrooms is a wise move.

12 To get married or not

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Movies tell us that getting married goes like this: you have a partner, he proposes, you say yes, and then the next thing you know you’re wearing a wedding gown and looking at the future with him. Yeah right, as if it’s that easy. Wedding ceremonies are fun and it’s a celebration because love is everywhere. But being married to someone for the rest of your life? Having him as your other half and having to consider him in almost every decision you make? Are you still going for a yes? Do you think this man is the right man for you? Don’t deprive yourself of the messy yet beautiful process of thinking about marriage. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, spending time in your bathroom thinking about marriage is a great thing. You would have to know if it’s the right lifestyle for you or not, and you need to check in with your guts and instincts and the funny voice in your head.

11 To quit on something or keep trying

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Quitting isn’t always easy. Sometimes, we give everything we can to something and even when it’s not turning out the way we want it to be, sometimes we still keep trying. So how do we know if we need to keep trying or if we just have to give up? How do we know if quitting is actually the right decision to make? Unfortunately, there’s no exact answer for this. There’s no handbook or how-to guide that we can revisit if we are confused about things in life. Thus, taking a long bath and chatting with our inner selves is a great option we can try. Don’t think this is foolish advice because really, there are many people having conversations with the mirror about various important things going on in their lives. So when you’re unsure of what do to, give yourself a long bath and bring in some wine, or in my case, lots of coffee. You may not end up with a crystal clear answer but certainly you’ll have a clue.

10 where to spend long weekends and holidays

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When you’re already an adult, or at least almost adult, weekends and holidays tend to be the same thing. Life becomes so much busier each day that you don’t even notice weekends. So when you do, you treat it like a holiday – major planning on what movies to watch, what easy-to-cook meals to make, where to shop and which friend to drag to the mall. Really, it’s tough, so it’s not a question why many people spend longer bath times because aside from the fact that baths feel great, there’s a lot to think about. The more we work and the more we try on the quest of figuring life out, the more we tend to lose our freedom. So instead of kissing your weekends goodbye, why not plan a better schedule? One that actually has weekends, so you won’t have to go marking calendars for holidays. 365 is a lot of days. Make the most of it.

9 To go out and figure out life or stay in your comfort zone

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Speaking of figuring life out and making the most of it, well it’s easier said than done. I mean, wouldn’t it be nice if we could just stay in our comfort zones forever? Work at the same job for 60 years, live in the same apartment in the same town, stay in touch with the same circles of friends… that sounds fun. And also boring. There’s no rush here but we all have to bring ourselves to the point where we gotta step out of our comfort zones. And you my friend, are no exemption. You will have to gain enough courage to take that first step. This world is so grand and there is so much to learn and experience. Don’t deprive yourself of all those precious life lessons. But as mentioned, no rush here. You can take time and take as many baths as you need to figure this one out.

8 To go back to school or not

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Now this is not an issue of finishing a 4-year course no matter your age. This is about going back to school and learning new stuff in a classroom instead of through the internet, which is a good option too, needless to say. Believe it or not, many young adults experience the grave dilemma of deciding whether or not they should go back to school. There’s just so much to learn that deciding is reasonably hard because let’s face it, it’s not only time and effort that you have to invest. You will need to work your schedule and work your finances. And even if you can afford it, is work and school okay with you? Do you think going back is really going to help you? Some people just love education that they consider taking courses after courses. But you will also have to determine if it’s feasible for you.

7 To go healthy or just opt for pizza and tacos

I know this is a weak argument. I mean, of course, it’s going to be pizza and tacos. For now, that could be a good choice. Spoil yourself because you’re doing a great job with this life thing. Allow yourself to be lazy at cooking. Tacos and pizzas are there for us to consume them. But in the long run, you will have to think about your health. Try as you might and as much as you want, there’s no way you’ll get any younger. Thus, deciding to live healthier needs to be thought about some time in your life. And by some time, I mean before reaching 40 years old, at least. And because this is a really tough call to make, it’s normal for you to want to do the repetitive thinking in a quiet, calm, and relaxing place commonly called as the bathroom. We can’t just bid pizzas and tacos goodbye.

6 When and how to confront annoying friends

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We all have those annoying friends that are, well, both annoying and fun. The type of person who has created infinite paths to get to our veins but at the same time, endless ways to make us laugh, feel better, or give real advice. We hate them and love them at the same time and if you’re like any typical human being, you also have thought of going radio silence with these people. It can be very annoying that life is already making us crazy and yet we also have these even crazier people in our lives. But of course, they can be precious creatures too, which makes us want to keep them, still. So what’s it going to be? Well, it’s probably best to confront them. Tell them that for years, you’ve been so patient and now, they just have to know how annoying you think they are. Go have a bath and create your confrontation script.

5 To break up with him or to be more patient

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The thing about love is that when we feel it, we feel it through and through. We fall for that guy because he’s super hot and nice and the next thing we know, he’s our world and knight and shining armor. While such guys still exist these days, though rare, it’s not always how we think it is. When you ended up with a really nice guy who has issues you couldn’t bear, you basically have two choices: tell him and take the risk of a break up, or shut your mouth. Usually, when our mouths have been shut for too long and our guy still hasn’t changed, we have to deal with another crossroads: still be patient or leave him. The thing about patience is that it’s easy to get accustomed to, but keep in mind that you also have to take care of yourself. Thus, you will have to choose whether to stay or go.

4 To wake up early or wake up late and ditch breakfast and morning bath

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Waking up early is yet another one of the most difficult things to do. And here’s a common scene maybe all of us have had in our lives: set an alarm time and then 3 more alarms after it, wake up after the third alarm, cram because you have no time to take a morning shower, and then kick yourself because you can’t follow simple alarms. Sounds familiar? This scene is usually what pushes people to make that firm decision to themselves. It is what leads people to really scrutinize their schedules and figure out if they should change it or not. And when it comes to daily schedules, we all have to think thoroughly. You would probably want some soothing music and good coffee to go with your bath time thinking ritual. Morning showers are hard to miss, just like breakfast and other morning rituals, so you will really need to take responsibility on whatever you decide.

3 To move halfway across the world or stay in your town

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Traveling is one of the most popular hobbies these days. For some, it’s just a hobby. For others, they literally change their careers so they can work and travel at the same time. But as much as traveling sounds fun, it also sounds terrifying, especially if you are planning to travel somewhere outside the country. To be a foreigner in a different place, adapt to their culture, and leave your loving town behind – that’s difficult. We can’t just make decisions like this in a snap and the immediately buy a ticket online, especially if you’re thinking of leaving long term. Solution: baths. It is the big things like this that make our bathtubs officially the best emotional dumpsite ever. Spend many nights thinking about this while in your bath and you’ll probably come up with a decision you feel weary about but also a decision your gut is agreeing to.

2 To save up for future plans or not

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Believe it or not, saving up for the future is a lot harder than you thought. The act of actually setting aside money is already difficult in itself, even if you have a super cute savings jar or even if you do it in the bank. The act of making that decision and telling yourself okay, I will start saving and I will take it really seriously, that’s a totally different story. It’s great to plan for the future. It’s great to save up and make sure you have enough for the rainy days, but let’s admit it, it’s also far from easy. This means you’ll have to make that firm decision on whether or not you’ll start saving. You can choose to do it now or next month or next year, whichever suits you best. But first, you’ll have to decide if you’re actually going to do it and when. This means you’ll have to have lots of long baths.

1 To buy a house or just rent

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There are a lot of pros and cons in buying a house, and same as renting. If you have your own home, you can decorate it any way you like and how often you feel to, but this also means you’ll have a place that needs general cleaning at least twice a year. If you’re just renting, general cleaning is not really necessary since that’s the job of the landlord. All you gotta do is pay the rent, take good care of the place (meaning make sure you don’t break the walls) and you’re all good. But don’t we all love to have a place we can call our own? A place where you don’t have to talk to landlords whenever you have a big, bright interior design idea. Thus, you have to think about your situation and your finances – can you really afford a house and is it necessary now? Or maybe you’re okay with rent.

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