20 Facts About Mindy Kaling And B.J. Novak's Super Secretive Relationship

Friendship is one of the greatest parts of life; having those people you can lean on through the good and tough times, those few who just "get" your weird sense of humor, and there is always a crop of people who have been with you since the days of braces and the embarrassing period of time when your favorite song was "Crazy Frog." When your friendship happens to be a bit more specific, like you have a really close friend that is a member of the opposite gender, your friendship might be more unique; your guy friend can give you his unfiltered opinions about that dude you really like, and be there to entertain you with his dumb jokes.

However, an opposite gender friendship can be confusing and maybe borderline questionable to an outsider. Your other friends might look at your opposite gender friendship and wonder if there's something more under the surface; the chemistry between the two of you could be incredible and your bond could be so tight, that your friendship could be mistaken for something more; it can also get irritating to constantly tell your spectators nothing is going on between the two of you! Two celebrities who fit this description of a "will-they-or-won't-they" relationship are Mindy Kaling and B.J. Novak! They are famous for starring on the legendary sitcom The Office, and for their deeply connected friendship that's often displayed all over social media; we can't help guessing whether the two will evolve into something more!

20 B.J. And Mindy Met In 2004 On The Set Of The Office

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Mindy and B.J.'s friendship unfolded in the early 2000's when the American adaptation of the British sitcom The Office premiered, and the duo joined the cast as Kelly Kapoor and Ryan Howard. Kelly and Ryan both worked in the Dunder Mifflin office in Scranton, Pennsylvania, among a bunch of crazy characters who constantly get into hijinks in and outside of the cubicle. Kelly Kapoor was known for her bubbly personality, her love of celebrity pop culture, and her never-ending need to fall in an extremely romantic head-over-heels type of love, and the target of her affection was B.J.'s character, Ryan!

Behind the scenes, Mindy and B.J. were also hired to be on the show's writing team. According to a timeline of their relationship from Bustle, the 24-year-olds got on board in the writer's room in 2004, a year before the show debuted.

The chemistry between Kelly and Ryan and the silliness within their storylines were likely inspired by the evolving friendship between the two. In an interview with Vulture, B.J. revealed: "their plotline was (likely) created due to 'an observation from the writers that Mindy and I were extremely close and constantly fighting." B.J. and Mindy's multilayer levels of their relationship make their characters extremely attractive and were a must-watch for fans who tuned into the show each week!

19 Kelly And Ryan Are Such Convincing Characters Because Mindy And B.J. Were Briefly A Real Life Couple

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When you look at Mindy and B.J.'s relationship both on screen and off, it's so easy to wonder if there has ever been anything under the radar that could reveal  if Mindy and B.J. ever had hints of a romantic relationship; their social media feeds are both full of pictures of each other, and the duo often exchange banter back and forth on Twitter, which can often display a trace of underlying flirty banter. When Mindy and B.J. are asked about their relationship, they've always been quick to squash rumors that they're secretly a couple. However, in 2012, Kaling/Novak shippers were given an "a-ha" moment during an interview with Mindy in Vulture; Kaling revealed she and B.J. were briefly in a romantic relationship!

According to Bustle, Mindy spilled to Vulture

"(we) kind of fell in love through (working on the show) and then dated on and off for a couple of years."

B.J. also spoke to Vulture about their brief relationship and attempted to give fans a definition of his unique bond with Mindy.

He said, "No one, including to us, ever really knew, 'is this dating? Is this not dating? We were never really dating, we were never really not dating. We don't know. No one knew. All you'd know for sure as that you'd always find one of us next to the other, even if we weren't getting along." Swoon!

18 Mindy And B.J. Have Taken Their BFF Banter To Twitter

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In the early 2000's, the internet became a key player and very big deal in relationships! From the days of the MySpace Top 8 arrangement to taking the steps to define your relationship in your Facebook profile, any internet sleuth could find details about your relationship no matter what social media you used! In the last few years, Twitter has become the social hub for many, including Mindy and B.J.! Banter between the two on Twitter has been screenshot and captured forever as a goal for best friends everywhere.

Mindy and B.J. have been known to exchange super cute tweets to one another, about everything under the sun! HerCampus featured a collection of the non-couple's best exchanges in 280 characters or less; when B.J. tweeted about Mindy's texting habits, she responded in classic Kelly Kapoor fashion, with a "how very dare you!"

The two also have a habit of tweeting inside jokes and making plans with each other, which sometimes potentially can sound like fun date plans?? Watching the pair's Twitter exchanges definitely fuel the "are they" or "aren't they" fire, giving us all expectations for a best friend in the era of hashtags and 280 characters! All of their sweet exchanges make fans hope that a potential reconciliation could unfold over Twitter?

17 B.J. Was A Guest Star And A Consulting Producer On The Mindy Project

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By the time Mindy left The Office to pursue other television-related endeavors in 2012, her and B.J.'s friendship was still going strong and ready for another round on our TV screens! According to Entertainment Weekly, B.J. was featured as a consulting producer on the show, which features Mindy playing an OBGYN, who, according to B.J., is "90 percent" based upon her real-life counterpart.

In the same interview, B.J. notes his best friend's strengths in the same interview. He tells Entertainment Weekly, "She knows who she is and she isn't afraid of showing any aspect of herself. That's one thing guys respond to, whether she's talking about online shopping or NBA stars she finds hot. There is a 'That's just who I am' honesty to it that is probably refreshing to a lot of guys..."

"...She isn't coquettishly pretending that she's interested in what you're interested in. If something's boring, she'll say it's boring. And in terms of her show, she's not writing a girl's fantasy of a man- she's writing men that men recognize."

Mindy's realness within her characters show her refreshing honesty translate over to the screen, and depicts the unique aspects of a friendship with her!

16 B.J. Referred To His Friendship With Mindy As Being "Soup Snakes"

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Mindy and B.J.'s relationship can be described using many adjectives, but what does it mean when we see them calling one another their "soup snakes?" According to an ABC News article upon the release of Mindy's latest book, Why Not Me? the origin of the "soup snake" came from "a reference (to) an Office, season seven episode, where Michael Scott (Steve Carrell) considers confessing his love to an ex-girlfriend, but can't read his own handwriting. Thus "soul mates" becomes "soup snakes."

That's some seriously sweet talk between two friends! Predictably, B.J. was frequently asked about his "soup snake"'s quote in interviews. In an MPR interview during the promotion for his book, the interviewer asked B.J. his thoughts on the quote. He shared,

"Mindy and I call each other soup snakes, which is our version of soul mates, based on an Office episode in which Steve Carrell is reading a tribute to his love, Holly, and he can't read his own handwriting and calls them soup snakes instead of soul mates. So, I think we're soup snakes for better or worse."

Can you hear the collective shrieks of "awwwwww" from everyone hoping the pair really are soul mates? In the same interview, B.J. tries to get the interviewer to say "soup snakes" instead of "soul mates" because that's what they ARE to each other, okay? Upon more light prodding from the interviewer, B.J. says "maybe" and smiles, in response to the million dollar question, "are you soul mates?"

15 Like Many Best Friends, Mindy, And B.J. Are One Another's Plus-Ones

One of the biggest advantages to having a platonic guy friend is you never have to miss the opportunity to have a plus one to any formal event. You never have to worry about going alone, and you can always guarantee you have an equally stylish partner by your side! Mindy and B.J. often attend sparkling events for celebrities together, giving fans seriously eye candy of the "soup snakes" all dressed up.

The duo stepped out together at the 2013 Met Gala, which its Wikipedia entry defines as "an annual fundraising gala for the benefit of the Metropolitan Museum of Art's Costume Institute in New York City", so we automatically know there will be plenty of gorgeous gowns present! Of her first appearance at the Met Gala, Mindy told Us Weekly "I want something very simple and very flattering. I wanted to let the models rock the really editorial stuff, and I wanted to be really friendly and really pretty."

Mindy and B.J. have made a tradition out of accompanying each other to the Met Gala, and they have also attended The Oscars together!

In February, the twosome attended a post-Oscars party hosted by Vanity Fair, documenting their night together through a video on Mindy's Instagram, according to Harper's Bazaar, no doubt inspiring hashtags rooting for a romantic reunion!

14 Mindy And B.J. Have Publicly Tweeted About Their Hypothetical Wedding Because Platonic Friends Do That

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If watching and speculating over the state of Mindy and B.J.'s relationship is tough, then it may get a whole lot worse after discovering a tweet from 2013 where the very platonic friends engage in some very platonic discussion over their hypothetical "I do's." The tweet features the dry sense of humor that is essential in the Kaling/Novak friendship, further making us wish the tweet was an actual transcript of a conversation about their real nuptials.

Sadly, an anticipated union between the two might never be. According to People, Mindy told Good Housekeeping "When I was younger, I wanted so badly to be married and have kids in a rush." She also added, "I don't need marriage. I don't need anyone to take care of all my needs or desires. I can take care of them myself now."

Mindy's opinion on marriage wasn't always the same. She had previously said in an interview with Howard Stern, she would've accepted a proposal from B.J. She said, "I was 24. But for the record, if anyone had asked me to marry them, I would've said yes."

Well, if Mindy ever changes her mind, this tweet, pictured above, will be on hand through a quick Google search...

13 B.J. Gives A Full Acknowledgement To His Best Friend In His Book

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Of course, Mindy and B.J. have a lot in common; they can both add "bestselling author" to their respective resumes! As of 2018, Mindy has published two books of essays called Why Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) and Why Not Me?. B.J. has three books, all published in 2014, according to Google. In One More Thing: Stories and Other Stories, Novak gave his friend some printed love in the acknowledgments of the book, noting

"Mindy Kaling gets her own line in the acknowledgments, as previously negotiated by her representatives. Thanks, Mindy. I love you and you're the best."

As per an article from Buzzfeed. 

Mindy's involvement with the book doesn't stop there; she was prominently featured in the book trailer! The trailer hilariously pays tribute to vintage black and white French films and features Mindy's character as the object of B.J.'s affection, who he tries to win over by showing her his completed book. In true Mindy and B.J. fashion, the end of the trailer reveals that it's all an act; the pair slip back into English and provide us with their famous banter.

According to Buzzfeed, Mindy also gave her seal of approval for the book, with a photo on her Instagram. Mindy's thumbs up is, ahem, one more thing we love about the best buds.

12 The Duo Have Many Selfies That Are Social Media Ready

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In these days of hashtag heavy filtered photos on our feed, a surefire way to know who is hanging out with who is to take a look at their Insta feed. If you pop over to Mindy Kaling's Insta, it doesn't take very long to notice a fixture in her photos; her best pal, B.J., is a prominent feature in her feed!

A quick glance at Mindy's social media shows a photo of the pair at the Oscar's from last February and some swoon-worthy selfies. More recently, B.J. shared a photo on his Insta of a billboard advertising Mindy's new film, A Wrinkle In Time, with a very sweet congratulatory note, but we'll get to that one later! Thankfully there are plenty of throwbacks of the duo, including one from the set of The Office, which features the former young lovers looking very cozy. Hashtag perfect couple forever!

The adorable Insta action isn't limited to her photos; Mindy has also been known to share pictures and screenshots of texts between the two in her Insta stories. According to You Autocomplete Me, a Tumblr account celebrating all things Mindy and B.J., Mindy recently shared a screenshot of a text between her and B.J. where they debated one of the most controversial debates of the year so far, the Laurel versus Yanny debate! There's no shortage of Mindy and B.J. related gems in their respective camera roles. Also, for the record, Mindy is strictly team Yanny!

11 B.J. Frequently Builds Up His BFF In Sweet Social Media Captions

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There's always a point in life where your friend sees you on a bad day. You know that friend, they always know what to do to cheer you up whenever you need it! The end result always makes you feel better, and your friend can almost make you forget what the problem was in the first place! Like many, B.J. and Mindy love to build each other up in sweet Instagram captions to delight fans, and give us all friendship goals to aspire to!

Mindy's Instagram is a smorgasbord of different elements of her career. She posts sweet throwback memories of The Office and her times on the set of The Mindy Project. Many famous friends make an appearance, (including President Barack Obama!), but there's obviously a frequent face on her feed; B.J. Novak!

In one picture, B.J. and Mindy are seen hanging out, and Mindy's caption reads "you know you're cool if I break out my starry top for you."

According to Brit.co's photo gallery showcasing the highlights of Mindy's Instagram feed.

However, one of the sweetest depictions of their Insta-worthy relationship, happened when B.J. called his best friend "perfect" followed by a sweet pun on the card game called Lamer that Mindy is holding in the photo. There are a ton of comments on the photo, featuring fans losing their minds over their banter!

10 The Pair's Relationship Is The Total Definition Of "It's Complicated"

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Do you remember the "it's complicated" label on Facebook's relationship status? It spoke so simply on a relationship that could speak volumes.

Describing our relationships like this can be a little daunting because it's hard to condense it in oh so many words. It's safe to say two celebrities who totally depict this status; the total definition of "soup snakes": B.J. and Mindy! There are endless articles and speculation whether the duo is still more romantic than they let on, and Mindy has frequently spoken to the media about the Ryan Howard to her Kelly Kapoor. According to Elite Daily, she told InStyle,

"I will freely admit, my relationship with B.J. Novak is weird as [heck]. He's not my boyfriend, but he is my best friend. I guess you could describe our relationship as 'romantically charged camaraderie with loud arguments', but I don't think social media would accept that as a new status."

Hey, that's more fun and telling than "it's complicated!"

Does that sound familiar? Their characters from The Office are often seen yelling at one another, but their arguments are propelled by incredibly goofy undertones, leaving viewers wanting more, and as viewers, we definitely got our share of Kelly and Ryan's "romantically charged camaraderie with loud arguments" spread out over nine seasons!

9 B.J. Sends Super Sweet Gifts To Mindy When She's On Set

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It's always fun to receive gifts from your best buds, but there seems to be a standard for presents now, and totally platonic pal B.J. Novak sent beautiful white flowers to his totally platonic pal, Mindy Kaling when she began shooting the film Late Night.

According to Bustle, Mindy depicted B.J.'s gorgeous gift on her Instagram! On her story, she took a photo of the flowers writing, "The prettiest flowers from @picturesoftext. White flowers are very classy for me. I'm sorry; white fleurs." The flowers were accompanied by a sweet note from B.J. that read, "Congrats on Day 1. 'love b'." Of course, both Mindy and B.J. have to troll their fans in order to undo all of our fantasies; Mindy included a sticker of a cat that said "still friends", and B.J. very sneakily put quotation marks around the word "love."

It's so hard not to let our imaginations run wild when we see the flowers because they would be perfect for the hypothetical wedding the two have discussed on Twitter before! Even though B.J.'s gesture is so very cute, it inspires the Kelly Kapoor standard quote, "HOW DARE YOU?" Our hearts are all shattering, and our best friend expectations are rising by the second!

8 The Duo Often Display Their Affection Through Revealing Body Language

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Upon first glance of photos of B.J. and Mindy at the 2018 Oscar's ceremony, it can seem blatantly obvious that the two have something sweet and secret going on under the radar. Every photo features the duo looking sweetly at one another in some form or fashion, and it's hard to handle!

You don't have to be familiar with Mindy and B.J. to immediately catch on to their body language.

Elite Daily wrote an article about the heartwarming behavior between the two in the photos. The writer of the piece said,  "If I didn't have any background, I would say he wants to be a couple. Even if you look at his head, he's having to check himself in the moment not to have it leaning forward more."

Mindy also seems to be returning the favor! Elite Daily goes on to detail, "If you look at her hand placement, see how her hip is jutted toward him?... the other thing is it shows her desire to control. If you look at her feet, you see how they are pressed tightly together, like she doesn't want to reveal and show. But that hip just naturally does." Those hips give starry eyes, for sure!

7 The Best Buds Scored A Book Deal Based On Their Unique Friendship

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It goes without saying that Mindy and B.J. metaphorically wrote the book on friendship! Believe it or not, they're going to actually write a book in real life; this is not a drill! According to Vanity Fair, "the two inked a deal with Penguin Random House for 7.5 million." Unfortunately, Mindy and B.J. shippers will have to take a step back, because "it won't be a tell-all about our relationship", Mindy told the publication. But there's so much to tell!

She goes on to detail, "We don't know that much about it. We are in the early stages and we just did a work session on it. I think it's going to be great and funny, though." Of course! Of course, fans are probably itching to know exactly what will be in the book. According to Us Weekly, Mindy detailed in an Instagram caption "Many of you asked about a book that my friend B.J. and I are working on. I heard somewhere that it's a tell-all which I actually found exciting because that sounds steamy and I grew up looking like a little fat boy." Mindy, you're so funny, but you're not making the anticipation any easier! A release date for the book has yet to be announced.

6 The Cast Of The Office Picked Up Their Unique Relationship Vibes

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The Office ran for nine seasons, so it's clear that the cast had plenty of time to spend together! Mindy and B.J. were both 24 when the show began, and famously began dating for a while. Their chemistry quickly became obvious to everyone working on the show behind the scenes, too!

According to an article in Vulture, the writers picked up on the duo's vibes. Their characters' relationship was inspired by "an observation from the writer's room that Mindy and I were extremely close and constantly fighting." Mindy and B.J.'s fellow Office castmates also picked up on their unique vibes. According to Buzzfeed, Rainn Wilson, who played Dwight Schrute, described Mindy as

"To do an imitation of Mindy, all you need to do is just to be constantly texting and saying "oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, and then looking up and going Where's B.J.?..."

"...They're just best buds, so they often seem to be connected with an umbilical cord. And she gets lost on Twitter and, you know the hours go by and she'll look up and she won't have realized he's gone."

Rainn's description of Mindy and B.J. is so on point, and sounds just like this quote from Mindy about B.J., found on PopSugar; "We are so different and we fight a lot, but the gift he has given me the utter and total belief that I am one of the greats. And it's an intoxicating feeling."

5 Mindy Bases Characters Around Her "Soup Snake" Best Friend

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We all know that Mindy has had a slew of leading men on her shows, and one of the biggest examples of a leading man is the actor Chris Messina, who played Mindy Lahiri's co-worker and eventual love interest, Danny Castellano. Fans have been on the alert to see the similarities between the character and Mindy's real-life former flame!

Glamour once asked B.J. in an interview about the similarities between the character and his real-life counterpart. B.J. answered,

"I definitely think that's how Mindy sometimes sees me, but [Danny's] a very masculine, swaggering character, which I'm not as much in real life...I do notice the dynamic in which they fight without the love ever being in doubt. That reminds me of me and Mindy."

Fans have also picked up on the similarities between Danny and Mindy. According to the She Knows Tumblr, the similarities lie in the two because "they both have strong personalities, the two are "young but old fashioned", and that Mindy thinks both B.J. and Danny "are perfect for her."

Mindy also revealed to Glamour about the character of Danny, He is "obviously a character who we invented, but he has a big helping of B.J. Novak in him, but there's other stuff to him that's purely the old-fashioned stuff- the young guy who is obsessed with being old-fashioned about certain things because of abandonment issues- is so funny."

4 Mindy Admitted B.J. Was The One Who Pulled The Plug On Their Relationship

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When we see all of the sweet pictures of Mindy and B.J. and read all of the sweet things they have said about each other, it's so hard to believe anything negative going on between them. Of course, it's been well documented that the two were a former couple. If you've ever wondered who pulled the plug on their relationship, the heartbreaking reality is that B.J. ended the relationship, ushering in a brief blimp of sadness in the Mindy/B.J. extravaganza.

According to an article in Time, Mindy revealed on The Howard Stern Show about their romantic break up. When asked about their relationship, Mindy said "he's a good friend of mine, yeah. He's my best friend. He broke up with me, it was years and years ago that the break up happened. I was so sad, not angry, sad. That's the hottest I ever looked 'cause I stopped eating." Oh my gosh, stop it!

A lot of people believe in a light at the end of the tunnel. All of the bad phases of a friendship have to happen in order for a fresh start to take place, and thankfully that seems to be the case for Mindy and B.J. She continued in the interview, "I love him. He's a great person, but I'm not holding a candle for B.J." It's hard to imagine what could've happened between the two if the break up didn't go so well, thankfully we have the friendship between the Soup Snakes!

3 The Duo Paid Tribute To The Iconic Romantic Comedy "When Harry Met Sally"

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Just as we thought Mindy and B.J. couldn't tease us anymore with the state of their relationship, they have to do this! When you think of legendary romantic comedies, it won't take long before the 1989 classic When Harry Met Sally comes to mind. According to Bustle's timeline of Mindy and B.J.'s relationship, "the two talked to People in an adorable video about When Harry Met Sally." In the video, the two are dressed in outfits reminiscent of Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan's iconic characters Harry and Sally.

Of course, the tribute is complete with the witty banter that makes the relationship between Mindy and B.J. so sweet, and the two maintain that same classic charm Nora Ephron wrote for the characters in the film.

To make matters worse, the two have different opinions on whether they are like Harry and Sally; Mindy doesn't think so, but B.J. believes they are. Oh, the humanity!

The series finale of The Mindy Project also had elements of the classic rom-com present. According to Bustle, Mindy frequently paid tribute to the film in past seasons of  The Mindy Project, outlining several examples of storylines between Mindy Lahiri and Danny Castellano, a character who has been influenced in part by Novak.

2 B.J. Once Admitted He Was Closest To Mindy On "The Office" Set

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Mindy and B.J. have been friends for so long, that it's so fun to look back on their beginnings together on the set of The Office; it brings back totally nostalgic feelings! It's been well documented that one of the many foundations of Mindy and B.J.'s friendship was Mindy's love of pranking B.J. on the set!

B.J. once revealed to The Guardian about one of the early moments in their relationship. He said of their friendship, "we're close in a sort of natural, eternal way." He goes on to reveal Mindy used to bully him in their early days.

"She would lie to me. She would make up these- just out of nowhere- purposeless lies that I believed." They were often work-related, and when B.J. would find out that they were not factual, he went on to jokingly say "it actually affected my work life!"

Obviously, there was no bad blood between the two. According to Buzzfeed, B.J. revealed in a Reddit chat that Mindy was the cast member he was closest to on set, saying "I was closest with Mindy Kaling, and also least closest with Mindy Kaling, on a minute-by-minute basis. And I wouldn't trade it for the world. Actually, I would trade it for the world. What am I talking about: I'd trade it for a more consistently positive relationship with Mindy Kaling. She's the best."

1 B.J. Called Mindy A "Great Love" Of His Life

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Many best friends have sweet sentiments on hand about each other that they use to lovingly describe to others, in an attempt to get someone to understand just how special the relationship is to them, but none seem to be as strong and memorable as B.J. and Mindy's sentiments! According to an article in Us Weekly, Mindy called B.J. her "great love" in a very revealing interview on The Howard Stern Show.

At one point, Howard Stern decided to do some further investigating and asked: "If he called tomorrow and said, 'I made a terrible mistake, we must get back together and get married, would you do it?" It wouldn't be surprising if a collective gasp from fans was heard around the world at that moment, because Kaling then responded "I don't know", to which Stern responded, "that's not a no!"

The feeling between the two is absolutely mutual. B.J. appeared on The Queen Latifah Show in 2014, and responded to Kaling's "great love" revelation on The Howard Stern Show. He said, "She is, in many ways, the great love of my life, and she's much closer to me than a friend, and yet we're not in a relationship. I usually take forever in describing the things that are and isn't (happening in the relationship).

No matter what, we will always be glued to whatever happens within the Mindy and B.J. relationship, whether we ship them as a couple with hopes of a reconciliation in their future, or we dream about finding that special "soup snake" in our lives! Thank you, Mindy and B.J. for showing the world your friendship- a union that even Jim and Pam will forever strive to emulate!

References: BustleVultureHerCampus,Vulture article about MindyEntertainment WeeklyABC News"Soup Snakes"TumblrUs WeeklyHarper's BazaarPeoplePeopleBuzzfeedInstagramhttp://bjkaling.tumblr.com/Brit.coB.J.'s Instagram photoElite DailyBustleElite DailyPopSugarVanity FairUs WeeklyGlamourSheKnowsSheKnowsTimeYouTubeBustleThe GuardianYouTube

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