There are some Hollywood couples that cannot do anything without getting their photo taken and making media headlines. They become the IT couple of the moment, and then their every move is watched because fans are rooting for them to end up together. Some of these pairs choose to pack on the PDA at red carpet events, they go on date nights and romantic holidays, and generally, they don’t care who's watching (or maybe that’s what they want, especially if they’re promoting a movie).
But other A-listers are completely different and have gone to great lengths to ensure that their relationship stays out of the media. And it’s these relationships that are of the most interest because they are so unexpected.
Despite some of these couples being together for decades, no one really remembers that they are married because they are so low-key about their relationship and refuse to address it in interviews. And some celebs even managed to get married without anyone finding out for months (in many cases they opted for very small, private weddings so that word wouldn’t get out). Below are 20 notoriously private celebrities whose relationships are going strong, although fans would be forgiven for not realizing they were even a couple.
20 Dave Franco And Alison Brie Dated For More Than A Year Before People Knew They Were Together
Dave Franco and Alison Brie are both well known in the entertainment industry, but their relationship is not as known. Unlike some other stars, for the most part they choose to keep their relationship out of the public eye (although there are a few adorable photos of them on social media). So, when did it all start?
According to Elite Daily, the pair met at Mardi Gras in New Orleans back in 2011 and started dating. But despite being linked together from as early as 2011, Franco and Brie only made their first public debut as a couple in 2015, when they walked the red carpet of the Dior Homme show.
That same year they became engaged, and in 2017, they were married in a small ceremony.
19 Kerry Washington Doesn’t Talk About Her Private Life In Public, Including Husband Nnamdi Asomugha
Kerry Washington may be one of the most sought-after actresses in Hollywood thanks to her role on a hit series, but despite her star rising she wants to keep one aspect of her life very much out of the prying eyes of the media, and that is her relationship with husband, Nnamdi Asomugha.
Kerry Washington is notoriously private, and according to E! News she’s never really been one to make “any personal headlines at all” because she keeps her relationship out of the spotlight. She married Asomugha, a San Francisco 49ers player and actor, in 2013, and fans only learned they were a couple weeks later when E! News confirmed their nuptials.
18 Joseph Gordon-Levitt And Tasha McCauley Are Total Lovebirds And Have The Whole Package
Most people know what Ben Affleck had for breakfast and if Brad Pitt even gets near a woman it’s reported in the news, but there are other stars like Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Tasha McCauley who are able to fly under everyone’s radar.
Gordon-Levitt and McCauley married without the public’s knowledge in 2014, and a year later, they added another member to their family when they welcomed a son in August of 2015, E! News reports. In 2017, the couple made headlines again, this time because McCauley was pregnant for a second time — but don’t expect to see their kids in paparazzi shots or on social media.
In an appearance on Live! With Kelly and Michael (via E! News), Gordon-Levitt said that while he was thankful for fame because it allowed him to do what he does, his son didn’t choose this life. If he wants to be in the media when he’s older, that’s fine, but the actor says "for now, I'm just a protective dad, and I want to protect his privacy."
17 Marcus Mumford And Carey Mulligan Used To Be Pen Pals Years Before Dating
Marcus Mumford and Carey Mulligan have a very sweet love story, which according to Bustle, started a long, long time ago. Apparently, Mumford and Mulligan started off as pen pals when they were 12 years old, after meeting at a church camp.
Years later, this earlier friendship developed into something more. In 2011, Mumford and Mulligan were spotted together at a house party, and after dating for just nine months they were later married. They are still together, but Mulligan told Vogue why she chooses not to speak about her husband in public, saying, “Marcus is the only thing that’s mine that I can keep totally away, so I try to.”
16 Taraji P. Henson Dated Kelvin Hayden For Years Without Confirming Her Relationship
Taraji P. Henson has proven she’s a serious actress and although she often makes headlines for her role in Empire, her love life is a little more private, and she wants it that way!
In 2018 it was announced that Henson was engaged to a man named Kelvin Hayden, and according to E! News she had been “quietly dating” him for more than two years (the first time Henson spoke about their relationship was just five months earlier).
Henson did give a rare glimpse into their relationship when she announced her happiness at having a fiancé and took to social media to inform fans that she had said, ‘yes.’
15 Leighton Meester And Adam Brody Are Super Private But He’s Also Her ‘Soulmate’
Relationships in Hollywood are complicated because it seems that every week a new couple is either getting together or breaking up. Celebrities have shown time and time again that maintaining a relationship in the public eye has its difficulties, and perhaps that’s why Leighton Meester and Adam Brody chose to protect their relationship by keeping it to themselves.
The couple married in 2014, and share a son, Arlo, but Vogue notes that it’s rare for them to share information about their relationship and they tend to keep a “low-profile.” But Meester did share something personal in her 2018 interview with Net-a-Porter (via Vogue) - she called her husband her “soulmate.”
14 Rose Byrne Is The Love Of Bobby Cannavale’s Life, Yet They Seldom Appear In Public Together
Rose Byrne started calling Bobby Cannavale her “husband” in an interview, which prompted the ES Magazine journalist to ask her if they had gotten hitched without anyone knowing. They hadn’t, and Byrne explained her reason for the term was because Cannavale already felt like her husband.
"He’s practically my husband, so calling him that is easier," she stated. But the thought of them getting married without anyone knowing is not inconceivable because they are one of the most notoriously private couples in Hollywood.
According to InStyle, the couple met in 2012 on the set of the film, Annie. And then in 2016, they welcomed their first child together. The publication also notes that they are not the type of couple to be seen showing PDA.
13 Emily Ratajkowski And Sebastian Bear-McClard Wasted No Time In Getting Married, No Time At All
Emily Ratajkowski and film producer Sebastian Bear-McClard’s relationship is yet another lesser-known celebrity coupling and that could be in part due to the fact that it is so new. Their marriage in 2018 was somewhat unexpected; Ratajkowski announced they had married in New York's City Hall, only a few weeks after it was reported that they were dating, Harper’s Bazaar reports. However, despite not being in a relationship for a long time before exchanging vows, the couple had known each other for years, at least according to an Us Weekly insider.
And the couple is still going strong. On their one year anniversary, Ratajkowski took to social media to share a photo of their wedding day and captioned it with “Marrying you has been one of the greatest joys of my life.”
12 Alexis Bledel And Vincent Kartheiser Started Their Relationship As Co-Stars But Now They’re Family
Alexis Bledel’s relationships onscreen as Rory Gilmore on the Gilmore Girls were a lot more complicated than her real-life coupling with Vincent Kartheiser, although, interestingly, their relationship started onscreen. The couple were co-stars in Mad Men, and have known each other since 2012.
They announced their engagement in 2013 and were married in 2014, in a private wedding in California. They are known for being extremely private, and according to E! News, they are rarely seen at events together.
Kartheiser also spoke to Vulture about why they choose to keep their relationship to themselves. Quoting Ernest Hemingway’s The Sun Also Rises, he said, "It's something I realized about the most important things in my life. If I share them with the world and I open that door to their fuming anger that they need to get out or their adoration that they want to flaunt, it lessens it. It cheapens it; it weakens it…”
11 Unlike Her Romance With Tom Hiddleston, Taylor Swift And Joe Alwyn Aren’t About The PDA
Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston had a weirdly public romance, which didn’t end up lasting for too long. So, perhaps that’s why Swift changed things up for her next relationship, this one with Joe Alwyn. According to Us Weekly, Swift and Alwyn were first linked in May of 2017, but they chose to keep their relationship on the down-low.
It was reported to be serious from early on, with an insider telling Us Weekly that Swift could picture starting a family with Alwyn “down the line.”
They have been photographed together in public a few times, but for the most part, they like to keep away from the public eye. In 2018, an insider told the publication, Swift was “the happiest she’s ever been,” and not having her personal life made public was one of the reasons for this.
10 Sometimes It’s Hard To Remember Taran Killam And Cobie Smulders Are A Married Couple
Taran Killam and Cobie Smulders are super sweet together, and although they don’t speak publicly about their relationship often, when they do, everyone wants to take note. Take Killam’s interview with Us Weekly in 2017 as an example, because he used this as an opportunity to speak about how he knew his wife was the one for him.
It happened when they were driving and she suddenly did a U-turn to drink lemonade from a child's lemonade stand.
Killam and Smulders got married in 2012, and they now have children of their own, so maybe one day they will be with their daughter when she has a lemonade stand.
9 They’ve Been Together For Ages, Yet Few People Know Jason Momoa And Lisa Bonet Are A Couple
Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet are one of Hollywood’s most private couples (especially Bonet, who likes to live off the grid). They first met at a jazz club in Los Angeles in 2004, and immediately hit it off, stopping off at a cafe for grits on their way home.
“In that moment, love came and it came big, and he did not run as I think a lot of men do,” Bonet told Net-a-Porter. “He basically picked me up and threw me over his shoulder, caveman style!”
They took their time to get married, having two children long before they ever exchanged vows, and when they did marry, in a small ceremony in 2017, fans (and the media) only learned about it a month later, Us Weekly reports.
8 Mary-Kate Olsen And Olivier Sarkozy Don’t Post Multiple Romantic Posts On Social Media
The 17-year age difference between Mary-Kate Olsen and Olivier Sarkozy hasn’t bothered them, and perhaps that’s because they both want the same things from their relationship. Speaking of their relationship, the pair were first linked in 2012, and after three years of dating, they got married in a small ceremony in the Hamptons, Pop Sugar reports.
Olsen has been reluctant to talk about her relationship, but Sarkozy knew she was the one for him from early on because he is reported to have asked her to marry him after just 10 months of dating. Although she turned him down first, the pair are still going strong now!
7 Amanda Seyfried And Thomas Sadoski Like To Keep Their Romance On The Down-Low
Amanda Seyfried knew from pretty early on that she could end up with Thomas Sadoski. When they started dating in 2015, after meeting on the set of the off-Broadway play, The Way We Get By, she told Net-a-Porter it was “amazing.”
The couple is also super down-to-earth. An example of this is how after their 2017 wedding, they had brunch at Cheebo, a Los Angeles neighborhood cafe. Seyfried told the publication that they didn’t have a wedding reception, adding, “We got married in Topanga, March last year. Just the two of us. And afterwards, I was like, ‘Can we just go to Cheebo?’ It was awesome.”
6 Christian Bale Changed His Mind About Marriage When He Met Wife Sibi Blazic
Christian Bale didn’t think he was the marrying type, at least not until he met a woman who changed the way he felt about marriage.
"I never planned to marry. Everyone was divorced in my family so I didn't have very healthy ideas about marriage,” he told Easy Living (via The Sydney Morning Herald). But when Bale met Sibi Blazic he thought that marriage suddenly “seemed a fantastic idea.”
The publication notes that they met through Hollywood circles, and Blazic had been working as an assistant to Winona Ryder. They later married in Las Vegas in 2000, Romper reports.
5 Isla Fisher And Sacha Baron Cohen Have Been Together For Almost Two Decades But No One Can Remember They’re A Couple
Isla Fisher and Sacha Baron Cohen are not really one of those couples who make headlines for everything they do, and this has worked in their favor. They’ve been married since 2010, and according to CheatSheet it all started in 2002 at a party in Sydney, Australia. Two years later, they were engaged.
But even though Fisher and Cohen have been together for almost two decades, they have made the decision to protect their relationship from outsiders. Only six people were in attendance at their wedding because they didn’t want the media to get wind of it.
“It [was] very important to me to have a beautiful ritual celebrated with my family and friends. And when you are in the public eye, to keep that private and to make it happen without it being really visible is really difficult,” Fisher said, according to CheatSheet.
4 Kirsten Dunst And Jesse Plemons Met On ‘Fargo 2’ And Their Relationship Has Continued To Blossom
Kirsten Dunst has been linked to many high-profile men over the years, with Pop Sugar noting that these romances included Jake Gyllenhaal and Tobey Maguire, but she is now engaged to Jesse Plemons (she also played his onscreen wife in Fargo Season 2).
According to E! News, the couple first came onto everyone’s radar in May 2016, when photos were published of them hanging out and engaged in PDA. But they did not speak about their relationship until their engagement in 2017, and Dunst even admitted on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon that she wanted to “keep things private a little bit.”
3 Rachel Weisz And Daniel Craig Had Only 4 Guests At Their 2011 Wedding
Rachel Weisz bagged herself her very own James Bond! Weisz and Daniel Craig fell in love in 2010, the same year they starred in the film, Dream House, Bustle reports. Although their romantic relationship progressed quickly and they were married in 2011, the couple actually goes way back and had been friends since 1994, when they met on the set of a play called Les Grandes Horizontales.
But, they are also quick to change the subject when it comes to their relationship, and when Weisz was asked in an interview with Marie Claire if it was love at first sight with Craig, she responded by saying, "I'm going to change the subject... It wasn't really like that. We'd been friends for ages.”
2 Margot Robbie Has Said She Always Loved Tom Ackerley, And He Clearly Felt The Same
Margot Robbie and her husband Tom Ackerley are one of the most normal celebrity couples, and while some may like to post their whole lives on social media, this couple is not one of them. The pair have known each other since 2013, when they met on the set of a film and became friends. They then decided to move in together, as roommates, and eventually the relationship progressed and they became a couple, Marie Claire reports.
They’ve been married since 2016, but seldom show PDA, and the publication notes that Robbie is careful not to post too many photos of herself with her husband (a move she likely does to protect their relationship).
1 Benji Madden And Cameron Diaz Know They’ve Got A Strong Bond So They Don’t Have To Flaunt It
Remember Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake’s three-year relationship, before it ended in 2007? Of course you do, because it was incredibly high profile, but when she met Benji Madden, things were different.
The pair had a bit of a whirlwind romance, getting engaged in December of 2014, after just seven months of dating. They then married the following month. Diaz and Madden prefer to keep their relationship private, but she did speak about marriage in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar, which basically confirmed she is with the right person.
“[Marriage is] pretty awesome. I didn’t think it was something I’d do, and I don’t know if I’d have done it if I hadn’t met my husband,” she said.
References: E! News, Vogue, Us Weekly, Marie Claire, Cheatsheet, Harper's Bazaar, PopSugar, Easy Living