Why is it that we want someone more when we can’t have that person? It’s interesting and weird, but it works. Sometimes, we have to go to an extreme length to show that we just don’t care, even if we really do, just to get his attention (or more of it).
Maybe your boyfriend takes you for granted in a relationship. Maybe you want your crush to know that you’re over him because he doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. Maybe you like someone and he likes you, but you don’t want to come off easy. Maybe you want your ex to come running back to you if you act like you don’t care about him anymore. Overall, you just want him to know that you’re not hung up on him or that you’re fed up with the way he treats you. If that’s the case, it’s time to switch up the role. You need to step up your game. Take the wheel and be in control. First things first: you need to be distant. Make him realize what he’s lost, and if he really wants you, he’ll have to be persistent to get you. You’ll know where you stand with him when you play hard to get.
So, are you ready for this? Here’s 16 ways to make him think that you don’t care about him!
16 Make Him Come Up To You First Even Though You Guys Made Eye Contact
You’re out with your friends and you happen to bump into him at the movies, a friend’s party, a restaurant, or anywhere else. Even if there was eye contact between you and him, you should look away like you didn’t see him. But if you really want to, you can smile and that should be it. You want to make him think that you don’t care about him so it’s best that you act like his presence doesn’t affect you. He’ll wonder why you didn’t say hi and maybe even come up to you. When he does say hi, you should say hi back and then let silence do its thing. Let him know that you have to go back to your friends. It will seem like you aren’t too eager to see him.
15 Go Home Early Like You’ve Got Better Things To Do
When you’re out with him, you should go home early. Make him think that you have other things to do so you can’t stay out long. This tactic will definitely make him think. He’ll wonder if he bored you. He’ll wonder if he said something wrong. He’ll get the sense that you might not be interested enough to stay with him a little bit longer. It’s also possible that he might find your little stunt charismatic. Either way, he’ll make sure that things are different the next time you guys meet. He might actually enjoy this, because it will be a challenge for him. Basically, if you come off like you don’t want to spend any more time with him, he’ll try to change your mind.
14 Respond To Texts As Simple As Possible With “Okay” Or “Yeah”
Wait a bit longer to respond back to his texts, and when you do, it should be as simple as, “That’s fine,” or even a passive-aggressive approach like a one word text, “Sure.” They should do the trick. You need to avoid sending him long text messages even if you feel the urge to do it. That keeps the conversation going and you do not want that. There should be no constant exchanges throughout the day and night. That would show that you care. Simple text messages are the surest way to show him that you don’t care. Maybe even ignore his texts as in don’t get back to him at all. He’ll definitely be in for a surprise. He’ll notice that something’s different and it might even make him worry. It’s sometimes the smallest things that make him think.
13 Don’t Talk Too Much About Him With Your Friends In Case He Asks Them Anything
It’s hard for us to not share everything with our dear friends but let’s be real… there are some things we want to keep to ourselves. When you want to make him think that you don’t care about him, it’s best that you don’t tell anyone about it. If you want to talk about it with your friends then maybe be vague about it. If they ask, shrug it off and change the topic. You have to look disinterested with them too. If they know how you feel about him and what your plans are, there’s a chance that he might find out. Someone’s likely to slip up or give some kind of hint because they want to help. It could instead complicate things and possibly get real messy.
12 Talk About Other Guys Like How This Guy Asked You Out The Other Day
When you’re out with him, you should take out your phone to text someone, and also throw it in there that this guy you met the other day asked for your number and he wants to have dinner with you this week. Make sure that you are subtle about it when you talk about other guys with him. If some kind of flirting happened between you and another guy, throw it in there too. It can’t be any more obvious that you’ve moved on and that you don’t care about him when you talk about your potentials. Everyone moves on when things don’t work out so he can’t and shouldn’t expect you to be there for him all the time. He needs to be reminded that you can easily be with someone who’s not him.
11 Tell Him That You’re Busy So You Can’t Talk Or Meet Up
Don’t be too available for him because he might use it to his advantage. He’ll be the one to call the shots on where and when you guys should meet up like he just expects you to go along with it. You need to come off like you don’t want to talk to him or even see him when he wants to. Tell him that you’re busy instead, even if you’re not really busy. You don’t need to elaborate what your plans are to him either. This tactic implies that he has no business in your business, and for you to not share it with him shows that you don’t care whether he knows it or not. He’ll also think that you’d rather spend time with someone else than him.
10 Tell Him That You’re Really Happy With The Way Things Are Right Now
Another way to make him think that you don’t care about him is to tell him that you’re really happy with the way things are right now. This is effective with your ex and your crush. Tell him that you’re happy that things turned out the way it did. This way, he won’t think the opposite like you can’t be happy without him because you’re still in love with him or something. It’s the absolute worst to get any pity from him. Maybe even share some of the memories you had with him so that it shows that you’re okay with talking about the past. This is effective with the guy who likes you, too. He’ll probably want to make you even happier and he might just be straightforward with you, which will show that he’s genuine.
9 Don’t Compliment Him When He Looks Good
So you’re dressed up in your cute outfit and he compliments you on looking good. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to compliment him back. If you want to, be nonchalant about it. You can either look unimpressed and say, “You’re alright,” and look away or simply say, “Thank you,” and move on. It leaves an impression that you don’t care about him or his appearance. You didn’t check him out and he’ll take notice of that. When you walk away, don’t do a double take. Just look straight ahead. He’ll know that you’re not interested in him and you only said what you said because he complimented you. If you were into him, you’d obviously say something sweet to make him happy. But that’s not the case here so.
8 Take Pictures With Other Guys And Post It On Social Media
Yes, take pictures with other guys and post it on social media. It will definitely be more useful if it’s with the same guy, and he doesn’t have to be someone you’re seeing. It’s only to get in your targeted guy’s head and it will send the right message if he sees the same guy with his arms around you. Don’t hashtag so much. Maybe add a wink emoji and end it as that. It’s mysterious. Honestly, flirting with another guy is one thing but when you’re posed in many pictures with the same guy, it’s like shoving it in his face that you got with someone else after all and that he no longer means anything to you. He is just someone in the past. He’ll think that you really don’t care about him.
7 Shrug It Off When He Flirts With Another Girl
It’s important that you don’t let it get to you when you see him with another girl. Let him do his thing and you do your own thing. Shrug it off like who cares?! Don’t stare at him, don’t even glance at him. When you guys have a conversation, smile and let him know that she’s cute and maybe even tell him that they look great together. Act like it doesn’t bother you at all. It will be better and more effective if you link arms with another guy or even hold hands with him. It’s a sure sign that you don’t care about him. He’ll know that you want him to have as much fun as you are. Be chill about the whole situation. Relax.
6 Act Like He Doesn’t Exist In The Same Room With You
When you’re in the same room with him, act like he doesn’t exist. Talk with your friends and his friends, but try not to talk to him so much. Don’t give him the attention and avoid eye contact. By doing so, you don’t show any interest on him. You’re too preoccupied with other people that you’re not aware of his presence. He doesn’t draw your attention to him because you’re unfazed by him. This way, he’ll see that you don’t care about him because if you did, he’ll catch you glance at him a couple of times and you’d end up having a conversation with him one on one. He’ll be your main focus and that will not be good. Ignore him or walk away for a bit, like to the ladies’ room, when he talks for a while.
5 Leave The Place Without Saying Goodbye To Him Even If There Was A Hello
You said hello when you saw him, but when you leave without saying goodbye, it’s another way for him to think that you don’t care about him. Many of us say goodbye to the people we know because we want to let them know that we’re leaving and we will see them another time. If you don’t say goodbye to him even after you guys had small talks, it means that you didn’t think about him and so you didn’t bother to look for him to say goodbye. If you don’t bother to look for him then it’s pretty obvious that you don’t care about him. You didn’t forget to say goodbye to your friends, some of his friends, and the people you just met. He’ll definitely sense that something is off.
4 Look Like You’re Having Fun Without Him By Your Side
This is a great way to make him think that you don’t care about him. When you’re really busy, having fun that is, he’ll know that he’s not on your mind. You need to put it out there that you can indeed have fun without him, especially after a breakup. Live it up! Post pictures on social media when you’re at an EDM concert, on a cruise, at a pool party, and so on. Even if he doesn’t see it for himself, he’ll at least hear about it from his friends. He’ll know that you’ve moved on. Who cares about what he thinks anyways. This is your time to shine and since you wanted to make him think that you don’t care about him, there you have it!
3 Keep The Conversation Short When He Approaches You
Don’t engage in a conversation longer than necessary with him. Listen to what he has to say but don’t share too much on your part. Keep it to yourself. After a few minutes or so, you should leave to say hi to other people. He’ll think that you’re not interested in him and that you don’t care to have a conversation with him because he’s not worth your time. He’ll see that you’re very popular too, because you know so many people and you’re busy moving from one person to another. You’re likable and you smile when you talk with other people. If you don’t do any of it with him then it says something. You’re sending him a message that he’s not on your mind at all.
2 Look Bored And Disinterested In The Conversation
Try not to be too captivated in a conversation with him. Don’t look too happy and don’t smile too much. You should instead look bored and disinterested. Maybe a little nod here and there, and speak as little as possible. Avoid eye contact. Look out the window, look at your nails, drink your coffee, check your phone, or do anything else to make it look like you’re more interested in that than you are in him. This is important, especially when all he does is talk about himself and he doesn’t care to listen to what you have to say. He just wants to hear himself talk. Make him think that you find him boring and you’d rather be somewhere else. He’ll think that you don’t care about him as much as he thought you did.
1 Flirt With Other Guys, Maybe Even His Friends
Sometimes the best way to show him that you don’t care about him is to flirt with other guys where he can see, even if it’s with his friends. It’s one of the obvious signs that you’re not interested in him. When you flirt with guys other than him, it shows that you don't care about his feelings and that you’re only focused on what you want. When you flirt with them, make sure it shows that you’re enjoying it. Smile, laugh, twirl your hair, subtle touches, and so forth. It will be effective enough so you don’t have to go so far as to make out with him. But if you really want to make a statement and possibly hurt his feelings then yeah, you do you. It could work.