Unfortunately, we live in a world that from the time we’re toddlers we’re taught to do things a certain way, act a certain way, live our lives a certain way, contribute to society and fit in. In fact, our whole lives pretty much revolve around fitting in and being liked by our peers. All through school and even once you make your way into the workplace it feels like it’s just one big popularity contest that everyone is trying to win.
But really what’s the point. Why should anyone spend their whole lives focusing on what other people want? It’s time to say no more and get down to what we want as an individual. Because we are not extensions of our peers. You are a free spirit and that should be embraced. Once you decide to live life by your own rules and stop caring about what people think, It’s like a whole new world opens up to you.
16 You Stop Trying To Please Everyone
Unlike that movie with Jim Carrey “Yes, man” you will be more willing to become a “no, woman”. Don’t worry this doesn’t mean that you miss out on some amazing opportunities. Only that you are no longer willing to agree to things that you have no desire to do. It’s a good thing. Let’s be honest here, we’re all guilty of agreeing to do things we really don’t want to do right? Whether it’s your mom asking you to do that thing you’re dreading. Or the well-meaning friend who’s setting you up on that blind date. You actually don’t have to do it and you don’t even need to feel bad about not doing it. It's an amazing concept isn’t it? This even has the added benefit of giving you more free time. Because when you aren’t focused on making other people happy and fulfilling obligations you didn’t want to do in the first place. You’ll be able to spend that time in more meaningful ways and make yourself happy.
15 You Say What You Want
Now, this doesn’t give you a free pass to be rude to everyone just because you can. But it does mean you stop taking crap from people. You aren’t afraid to call someone out on their bad behavior. If you feel like someone is being a jerk to you, you let them know that you’re not tolerating it. Besides, what’s the worst that can happen? They decide they don’t like you. Boo who, why do you care? Exactly you don’t. How empowering is that? In all honesty, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life and you know it. No more walking on eggshells around people because you’re not afraid of what will happen if you speak your mind. Actually, you may be surprised at how little of a difference saying what you want actually makes. You may even find people liking you more because they know you’ll tell it like it is.
14 You’re More Relaxed
There is so much less pressure on you when you don't care what people think about you. You get to be more comfortable in your own skin. Let’s face it, no matter what the occasion is, when you know you’re going to be somewhere with a lot of people you’re going to be interacting it- it’s not just you - everyone gets nervous in these situations. You’ll spend a ton of time making sure you look your best and you may even try to prepare a few conversation starters. But the beauty of not caring is you don’t need to stress about how you appear to the outside world and whether or not you’re making people like you. Your social anxiety will greatly decline and when you’re talking to people the conversation will flow easier now that you’re not thinking of the perfect thing to say while they’re talking. You get to kick back and actually enjoy yourself. Living in the moment is something we all need to do more of and not letting others dictate your comfort level is a great way to begin doing this.
13 You Worry Less
You may not realize it but just caring about how you are viewed by the world is the cause for a lot of unnecessary worries. Worry that there’s no reason for you to be experiencing in the first place. Most people worry about how they look. Worry caused from questioning if they are interesting enough? Are they being polite enough? Are they cool enough? Do they have a good enough job? And the list goes on. Seriously it’s ridiculous how much worry you can have over things that should only be important to us. When you set the intention to care more about what you think about yourself rather than what others think about you, you will naturally worry less. So long as you’re happy with where you are at in your life well, that’s all that really matters. And if you’re not, change it. But do it because you want to and not because your worried about how someone else feels about you.
12 You’re Less Afraid
Everyone has something they really want to do but has held back due to concern about what other people are going to think of it. But why? If you think about it, it doesn’t really matter what anyone else has to say. If it’s something you want to do and it isn’t affecting anyone else negatively in the process, then what’s the point in holding back from it. You should feel proud that you have the courage to try something new. Most people never veer from the path they are told to take. Most people also live very boring lives. You don’t want that to be you. Not being afraid to go for it not only gets you out of your comfort zone, but it can inspire other people to do something out of the ordinary. And whether your new adventure is successful or a total failure and you wind up hating it, you’ll have something new to talk about with your with friends. It doesn’t matter if it’s ballroom dancing, kickboxing or starting a business, go ahead and give it a shot.
11 You Don’t Worry About Rejection
You aren’t worried about rejection in the least. You know they either like you or don’t and you are not afraid to go for what you want. And why should you be? If someone isn’t interested, you move on to the next best thing. Taking initiative and putting yourself out there is something to be proud of. It’s important to remembering that every no is one step closer to a yes. While some people sit around feeling down when faced with rejection you don’t have to. For the girl who doesn’t care, she gets to move on with her life like it was nothing more than a small incident. Because really, it was just a small incident. Who hasn’t been faced rejection at some point in their life? It never killed you did it? Actually, I’m sure you managed to move on from it just fine even if there was some slight misery or self-loathing accompanying it at the time.
10 Living Up To People’s Expectations
The only person’s expectations that you should be trying to live up to are your own. Everyone else’s expectations of you don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Think back to how many times you did something simply because they thought it was best for you. I know you came up with quite a few things because we all have. Now, how many of those things did you continue doing once that person was out of the picture or stopped pushing the issue? Exactly, the only person you need to try to better is yourself. This way you do the things that you want in your life. Because only you know the things that you actually want to accomplish and you will be able to do the things that will propel yourself forward in the direction that you want to go. You don’t need to forgo your own hopes and dreams because someone else wants it for you. Look, I know you want to live up to your parent’s expectations but let it go. Once they see how happy you are they will understand and since they’re your parent’s they have to love you anyway, right?
9 You Don’t Question If You’re Good Enough
Ugh, the question that we all unfortunately ask ourselves at some time or another… ok let’s be real here, we ask it often. But why? Is there a real answer to it or is it just letting fear get the best of us? The truth is while we all ask the question from time to time. The answer is a unanimous YES! Yes, you are good enough. You are good enough to go up for that promotion. You’re definitely good enough to go after that guy. Although the real question for that one is, is he good enough for you? You know you’re good enough and your self-esteem exudes this fact. You don’t doubt your worth because you know that you are worth it. If something doesn’t pan out, it simply wasn’t meant to be so there’s no use dwelling on it. You move on to something better in the long run.
8 You Don’t Care If People Like You
Look, I get it. Friends are great and having people like you is awesome. And to be totally honest no one really wants to go through life alone, it wouldn’t be any fun. But once you realize that not everyone will like you and that it’s ok, the happier you will be. You have to remember that people not liking you is not a reflection of you. Some people just don’t jive well and there’s nothing wrong with that. Besides, you can’t honestly say you never met someone you just instantly knew there was no connection with. And for people you don’t make a good first impression on there are more people that you did. Hey, you win some, you lose some and the only people you should concern yourself with are going to like you without you having to constantly impress them. Those are the people you want to surround yourself with anyway. You don’t want to have to try to make people like you. They either do or don’t.
7 You’ll Have More Fun
Since you don’t care what people think about you. You have no problem doing something out of the norm or that may be considered embarrassing. All you care about is that it’s fun so you are definitely doing it. This makes you the fun girl in your group because you can throw caution to the wind and you know how to have a good time. You are not afraid to go with the flow and enjoy yourself. You will be the one who makes everyone else either join in or wish they had. People can’t help but gravitate towards the free spirit, because most people are too caught up on stresses to even relax. Free spirits have such lively personalities that their happiness rubs off on those around them.
6 You Realize No One Is Analyzing You
We’re all a little bit self absorbed when it comes to this because we all assume that people think about us way more than they actually do. You may be extremely clumsy and ran into a wall or tripped over yourself but while you’re still beating yourself up over it days later it’s almost guaranteed that everyone who was around at the time has moved on it from it. Well, that is if anyone even noticed it happened. Because you see, that is sort of the thing. Other people really aren’t thinking about you that often because they are too busy replaying things repeatedly in their own mind that they are sure other people are thinking about them. It’s a cruel cycle. We basically all beat ourselves up over nothing. A much better way of living is to focus on our own lives and what we are lucky to have, no one is thinking about that time you tripped in the coffee shop.
5 You Get Better Friends
Instead of collecting friends for the sake of being surrounding by large groups of people – save friend collecting for Facebook - your group of friends will get more exclusive. It will only consist of people you actually like and want to be around. No more frenemies. These are the people who will like you for you. You won’t need to worry about putting up a façade and pretending to be something you’re not because they have already seen who you are and they like it. These friends will be there for you through it all. They will be there when things are going great when you’re on top of the world and there when you hit rock bottom. And you better believe they will be there for you along the way being your biggest cheerleader. You don’t need fake friends. It’s the real one’s who matter and will have your back no matter what.
4 You’re Ok With Being Alone
You’re comfortable with the idea of being alone. Far too many people try to fill their time up by having people around for company. We’re made to feel like the very act of being alone means you're isolated or somehow a failure to society. This just isn’t the case. Being alone can bring an inner peace that simply can not happen when you spend all of your time around other people. You get to know yourself and this allows you to find a new found love for yourself that makes it to where it doesn’t matter if anyone else feels the same love and respect towards you. Although it’s always nice if they do. But seriously, you don’t need anyone to have a good time. You know you rock and your self acceptance becomes one of your best qualities. One that will hopefully inspire those around you to stop caring quite so much and encourage them to focus on themselves for a change.
3 You Wear What You Like
Instead of scouring every fashion blog/magazine and searching for the latest must have accessories in hopes of being trendy. You can relax and walk into a store with the purpose of picking out what you like instead of what you’re told you should like. You know there’s no reason to stress out over whether you should splurge on that new dress just because it’s in season and everyone is raving about it or pay your electric bill. Fashion choices no longer feel like a life or death decision. Because you choose to wear whatever you want. If you love it and it looks good, wear it. The label really doesn’t matter. And honestly, no one is going to notice if it’s out of season. They aren’t paying that close attention anyway. You come to realize that you are more than your clothes and if someone is judging you on your style then seriously, you didn’t want them around anyway.
2 You Do What You Want To
You’re not going to be held back just because you’re the only one who wants to do something. Not a chance. You don’t care if you have to do it alone or if your friends decide to tag along for the adventure. Because life is an adventure. And while some people are afraid or hesitant about leaving their comfort zone. You don’t have to be. Your comfort zone is only there to keep you well, comfortable. After a while comfort turns stagnant. Nothing happens. Living life to the fullest is the way to be. And doing the things you want when you want is a part of living. Let no one hold you back from having a fulfilled life. You deserve exciting adventures and amazing experiences even if that means going in it alone. Because once you’ve don’t it, you can bet everyone is going to ask you how it went and when you’re telling them about it there’s a good chance they will want to come along with you next time.
1 You’re Happier
Now that you aren’t so wrapped up in how other people see you or allowing other people to take your power by letting them tell you how to act, love, and be. You can experience happiness on a whole new level. Freedom comes when you let go of all the constraints put there by other people. When you are living the life you want and doing the things that you want, you will be happy with yourself. You’ll have a sense of calmness and inner peace that will radiate into every aspect of your life. The only person who can make you happy is you. It’s a powerful realization that everyone who stops caring about the opinions of other people come to understand. Getting the opportunity to find yourself and truly embrace who you are, is exactly what everyone needs to strive for. And I mean really, what more could you ask for?