When you get into a relationship, you want to believe that it could last forever. You don’t want to deal with the pain of heartbreak anymore. You hope that this guy is going to be the ONE—the guy that will stay by your side through everything, who will never hurt you or judge you, who will love you no matter what.
But here’s the thing—even if you have found the guy who is “the one” for you, no guy is perfect. And no girl is, either! There’s always a chance that you could end up staying together forever, but even if that is the case, you will both make plenty of mistakes along the way. You may go into the relationship thinking that things will be smooth sailing forever, but that never happens—every couple hits a few rough patch along the way that will test their love. It’s all about how you get through those rough patches that matters.
Over the course of your relationship, you will make certain promises to each other—some of them you’ll keep, and some of them you’ll break. Here are 16 promises that all men will make, but most will not keep.
16 He Promises He’ll Never Look At Other Girls.
Naturally, guys will reassure you that they would never dream of checking out other girls. But let’s be honest here—if a Victoria’s Secret Angel walked by, he would probably turn his head and look for a minute. And don’t lie to yourself—you know that you will occasionally see a super attractive guy and won’t be able to stop yourself from letting your gaze linger for just a second too long. Honestly, this is a promise that no man could keep. It’s not because all guys are flirts or cheaters, it’s just human nature to look when someone attractive walks by. In the end, all that really matters is whether or not he acts on it. As long as he doesn’t make a move, it’s not a huge deal.
15 He Promises He Never Thinks About His Ex.
This is another promise that the vast majority of guys out there will make—but once again, it’s just unrealistic to expect anyone to meet this standard. We know that every girl hates the idea of her boyfriend thinking about his ex, but he can’t erase her from his memory. And on the flipside, you probably have an ex that you think about every once in a while, too. There’s a big difference between remembering a happy moment or a fun day that you shared with your ex and constantly daydreaming about getting them back! Look, the fact of the matter is that every single guy is going to think about his ex once in a while, but it’s really not a cause for concern.
14 He Promises He’ll Never Text His Ex, Either.
Okay, there are some guys who will actually abide by this promise, but most guys will not. There are some men who have cut off all contact with their exes because the relationships were so toxic. Others will occasionally chat with their exes simply because they’re still on good terms and there is no bad blood between them. However, there are some guys who will hit up their exes because they like to keep them as an option in case something goes wrong in their current relationship. Chances are that the guy you’re dating will talk to his ex at some point, and if they’re just having a casual conversation, you don’t have to stress. But if he’s hitting her up regularly, it might be time to have a talk about it.
13 He Promises He Will Delete Tinder.
Ladies, beware—if a guy cannot keep this promise, it is time to get out of the relationship. Unfortunately, lots of guys are not willing to delete apps like Tinder, even after they get into a relationship. It’s a sad fact about the current state of the modern dating scene. Some guys cannot seem to understand that sticking with one loving, loyal girlfriend will always be better than meeting lots of girls on an app. They go for short term happiness over long term romance, and because of this, they waste their time messing around on Tinder rather than settling down with a girl who actually cares. Any guy who refuses to delete Tinder is not worth the time, stress, or heartbreak—don’t put up with that treatment.
12 He Promises He Won’t Like Pictures Of Other Girls On Instagram.
This is an easy promise to break. After all, sometimes we all scroll through Instagram absentmindedly and happen to “like” something that we shouldn’t have. Social media platforms like Instagram can cause a lot of tension in relationships these days. Whether you’re dating someone or not, you have to be careful about what you post online, because someone can see it and get the wrong idea. It’s only normal for a girl to feel a little jealous and upset when she sees that her man is liking pictures of other girls on Instagram. Most men will tell their girlfriends that they would never do this, but they do not always keep this promise. Guys are prone to making this mistake over and over again, even if it upsets their girlfriends.
11 He Promises That His Closest Female Friend Is Nothing More Than A Friend.
In rare cases, this promise holds true, but most of the time, guys who say this are stretching the truth a bit. Let’s all just admit it—being close friends with a guy without experiencing any attraction is rare. It’s only normal that you might develop a little crush on someone that you know so well. Someone who understands you, who always supports you, who has been your shoulder to cry on...eventually, that guy will start to seem like the obvious choice for a partner. It’s totally natural to feel this way. But if a guy with a close female friend like this gets into a relationship, it can quickly complicate things. A guy who has a girl for a best friend might be more prone to cheating or dishonesty.
10 He Promises He’ll Keep Doing The Things That Won You Over In The Beginning.
Any guy who can actually keep this promise is a total keeper! Seriously, trust us on this one. In the beginning of a relationship, guys will often go the extra mile to make a girl happy. A guy might send cute text messages throughout the day, plan fancy dates, or even give her little unexpected gifts that make her smile. This treatment can make you feel like a total princess, and of course, you’ll want a guy who continues to treat you this way throughout the whole relationship. Who wouldn’t? Of course, guys will reassure that this is how they really are, and they’re not just doing all of these little things to impress you. Some guys will continue to put in that same effort, but others will call it quits.
9 He Promises That He’ll Never Hide Anything From You.
Honestly, this is an unrealistic promise for anyone to make, whether you’re a guy or a girl. But establishing trust in the beginning of a relationship is very important, and because of this, some people will go a little too far when it comes to making promises they simply can’t keep. Yes, there will be times when your boyfriend chooses to hide some things that are going on in his life. But it’s not the end of the world. Sometimes people are just more comfortable keeping certain things to themselves. It doesn’t mean that he is cheating on you or lying to you—he simply may not be ready to talk about something yet, or maybe it’s a family matter that he doesn’t want to share with the world.
8 He Promises That You Can Tell Him Anything Without Judgment.
This is simply untrue for any relationship or friendship. Every single person has boundaries. There’s a good chance that your boyfriend has reassured you that you can tell him absolutely anything, and you may have even told him the same thing in return. But unfortunately, this is probably not true. If you told your boyfriend that you couldn’t stand his mom, never wanted to be around his family, and found his siblings embarrassing, we’re going to guess that he would judge those statements very negatively. As he should! The truth is that no one is completely non-judgmental. Just because your boyfriend promises you this doesn’t mean you should mouth off about things that could easily hurt him. Have a little tact and know when to hold back.
7 He Promises You That He Won’t Get Mad If You Hang Out With Your Guy Friends.
Now, this all depends on how your guy friends act. Some girls have guy friends who are super respectful and would never dream of overstepping their boundaries. On the other hand, some guys only stay friends with girls because they’re hoping that eventually, it could lead to a fling or even a steady relationship. If your guy friends fall into the second category, you will figure it out pretty quickly by the way they act if you start dating someone else. Suddenly, they will either disappear out of your life, OR they’ll start making an effort to spend even more time with you in order to turn you away from your boyfriend. If your boyfriend notices this going on, he is definitely going to get upset no matter what he promised before.
6 He Promises To Never Forget Birthdays And Anniversaries.
Alright, we’ll cut boyfriends everywhere a little slack here—we understand that life gets crazy sometimes, and forgetting important dates happens to everyone once in a while. If it’s a rare occurrence, it’s totally forgivable. But if it happens all the time, it might become an issue! Guys will always promise that they would never forget something so special as your birthday or your anniversary. But we all know that most guys will not keep this promise for the length of the entire relationship. Maybe there is just something about guys that makes them a little more forgetful than girls. Or maybe they just need to pay a little more attention to those details. Either way, expect every guy in your life to forget your birthday at least once!
5 He Promises That He Won’t Get Jealous Of Your Ex.
Ah, another promise that almost every single guy and girl on the planet will make at some point, even though they know they will break it at some point. It is only natural to get a little jealous over an ex every once in a while. It doesn’t have to ruin your relationship, but you do have to learn how to handle it. A guy may promise you that he will never get jealous over your ex, but at some point, he definitely will. He may try to hide it from you at first, but eventually, his feelings will bubble over and he will need to confess what’s truly going on. When this inevitably happens, just try to be understanding and don’t freak out at him.
4 He Promises He’ll Change After A Big Fight.
After you get into your first big fight with your boyfriend, you will probably sit down to have discussion about what needs to change and what you both need to do differently. He may make some big promises about everything he will start doing—and he will inevitably break most of these promises. Now, do we think it’s a lie every time a guy says he will change? No, not at all. It’s just not something that happens over night, and it’s not something you should expect from a guy. Going into a relationship with the expectation that you could change something about a guy is a very unhealthy mindset, and the relationship will inevitably end in heartbreak without a doubt. A guy may promise to change, but you can’t always count on it.
3 He Promises That He Sees You In His Future.
Even though a guy may mean this when he first says it, he may not always mean it. It’s sad to acknowledge, but it’s true. A guy may genuinely think that you two will be together forever, but when you’re young, this is usually not the case. He may even tell you that he sees you in his future, and that maybe he can even see himself marrying you. Bot the vast majority of relationships simple don’t end in marriage. Therefore, this isn’t going to be true the vast majority of the time. As sad as it is to say, it’s just a fact. When you’re dating a guy, he will most likely promise that he wants to be with you for years to come, but he could easily change his mind.
2 He Promises That He’ll Always Love You.
Maybe he means this the first time he says it...but there is no guarantee that he will feel this way forever. At the beginning of a relationship, a guy might tell you that he will love you forever, no matter what happens. But the fact of the matter is that this is simply not true for most couples. And honestly, that’s okay. Not every guy you date can be “the one”—as they say, you have to kiss a few frogs if you ever want to find your prince. If a guy promises that he will love you forever, and he eventually ends up changing his mind about the relationship as those feelings fade, just remember that walking away from someone who isn’t right for you is a blessing in disguise.
1 He Promises He’ll Never Watch The Netflix Show You’re Binge Watching Without You.
Okay, let’s finish off this list with something a little more light hearted! Couples today are always watching Netflix shows together. If you’re living together, or even if you’re long distance for the time being, it can easily become a routine. But there’s always an unsaid promise that you can’t watch an episode without each other. Let’s be honest, if you skip ahead by an episode or two on “your show,” you’re basically betraying the other person. Okay, we’re just being dramatic now, but it’s just nice to stay on track and watch the show together instead of skipping ahead, right? Well, chances are, your man will watch a couple episodes without you! But the right guy would never speed through the show and spoil it for you.