Most of us have the wrong idea about what is good looking. We think that if we had this kind of hair, that body, and the clothing, we would be hot as heck. In all honesty, we couldn’t be further from the truth.
Being good looking is surprisingly more than just having the right genetics. It is about attitude and how you treat yourself.
When I was young, I hated the way I looked. My hair is naturally curly and all the pretty girls had either straight or wavy hair. I was short, skinny, and had no boobs. I would look in the mirror with absolute dread. I thought I had nothing going for me.
My mother quickly caught on to my pitiful views about myself and she started bringing up the stars of the time. Are they actually pretty or do they just present themselves as being desirable?
I didn’t get it at first, but she planted a seed. I started examining the hot celebrities, picking them apart, and I discovered that they were far from perfect. What they had was a talent for making us believe that they were attractive.
After that revelation, I began “tricking” people into believing that I was good looking, too.
Grooming is essential for looking good. Yes, that means we have to shave our legs, pluck our eyebrows into shape, and take good care of our teeth. None of us can fake being hot without good hygiene and body care.
To make things easier on yourself, get help. If you have the extra cash, get your eyebrows done professionally. Invite a friend over and the two of you can give each other manicures. While your friend is over, watch some beauty videos and see what the two of you can help each other out with.
Facial hair is a huge problem for many of us and you may need to choose a method for smoothing your face. I prefer to shave because it removes hair and dead skin cells, making my face feel clean and smooth. Some people prefer waxing. Find your favorite method and keep up with it.
14 Learn The Walk
How you walk says a lot about you. Walking with your head down, making zero eye contact, tells others that you lack self confidence and it makes you appear unattractive.
Thank goodness that there are a ton of walking tutorials on YouTube. You can learn how to walk in heels, how to walk with confidence, how to walk like a woman, and how to walk like a runway model. There are so many different types of walks that you will have to decide what image you are trying to give off and choose a walk that matches it.
To make the walk a permanent part of who you are, you will need to practice the walk every day. Just add it to your exercise schedule, put on your shoes, and start walking around the house. After you get comfortable with the new walk, practice it around the block, at the park, and in the mall. The more you do it, the more natural it becomes.
Don’t neglect your hair. It is something that everyone notices and you need to have it professionally cut and styled if you want a polished look.
Some people say that you have to go to an expensive salon to get a good haircut. I have mixed feelings about this because my best haircuts came from a stylist who worked in a cheap strip mall salon. For $15, she would cut my hair perfect every time and I would tip her another $15 for being so wonderful.
My first and second experiences at expensive salons were disasters. Neither of those hair stylists knew how to cut naturally curly hair.
When you start getting your hair professionally cut, you may have to search around for the right person to do your hair. It is frustrating, but well worth the effort in the end. Once you find the perfect hairstylist, get her name and contact info right away. If she ever leaves that salon, you will be able to contact her directly and keep getting your hair done by her.
12 Dress The Part
We all know that one person who could put on a trash bag and still look hot as heck. I, however, am not one of those people. If I want to look good, I have to dress the part and you probably do, too.
Before you begin, think about how you want to look. What image do you want to portray? Check out fashion magazines and choose the looks you like.
After you have picked out a style or two, head to your wardrobe and see if you can put together an outfit or two that matches that particular style. If you are really struggling to come up with the look you want, you will probably have to head out to the mall or department store and start buying a piece each paycheck to build up your new look.
If you are strapped for cash, you can buy a new wardrobe second hand. With a bit of patience and searching, you can put together an entire wardrobe at Goodwill or the Salvation Army for less than a single outfit bought at a department store.
11 Fake Your Confidence
You don’t have to be confident to make other people think you are. Just fake it.
Nearly everyone that comes off as being confident in themselves is faking it to some extent. For example, I am terrified of being around people, but as soon as I step out my front door, I pretend to be social and confident in my actions. At first this was very awkward, but over time I learned to go through the transition from mousy to outgoing in a heartbeat.
To help yourself out, choose someone you admire and who oozes confidence. Practice being like her or just pretend that you are her when you go out. Over time, you will adapt the new confidence to your own skin and make it your very own brand of hotness. It will become more and more natural each time you do it and eventually it will become automatic.
10 Fix Body Problems
You do not have to be super skinny to be hot, but you do need to take care of your body. If you have a problem area on your body, such as flabby upper arms or a flabby belly, now is as good a time as any to start working on that area.
Don’t go insane with a workout schedule that you won’t be able to stick to. Instead, start adding a little more exercise to your routine each week. Work your way up to getting about 30 minutes of exercise each day and target your negative areas.
As I have grown older, my upper arms became flabbier. I never had the problem before and the lack of firmness really bothered me. It negatively impacted how I saw myself. Since I didn’t have any hand weights at first, I started using soup cans as weights and did arm exercises whenever I had a free moment. It didn’t take long for me to tone up my arms with what I had on hand, and now I keep up with it, focusing on my arms for about ten minutes a day.
9 Blond Hair And Fake Tan
I really hate to say this, but women get fake tans to appear more attractive to men and it works. Bleach blond hair and a fake tan seems to be the winning combination for attracting men.
While I don’t believe in being fake, I can see why women will turn to this trick to appear good looking. I certainly don’t blame them or fault them for it. In fact, if I could pull off the look, I would do it, too.
When it comes to changing your hair color, have a professional do it. The last time I tried to bleach my hair at home, I damaged my hair so horribly that I had to get it cut short because my hair was breaking off.
As for the spray-on tan, research the local tanning salons. Find one that does not turn its clients orange and schedule a session with them.
8 Learn How To Charm
You don’t have to go to charm school to learn how to be a charming person. In fact, all you need to do is watch some YouTube videos on how to be more charming.
Charm and charisma is extremely attractive and, with a bit of trial and error, you can learn to turn on the charm to catch nearly any man you want.
Learn to make eye contact with the person you are trying to charm. Add a touch of humor to your words and smile.
Above all else, a charming person is empathic. She can identify with another person’s feelings, making the other person feel more comfortable around her.
It takes a bit of practice to get it down, but don’t give up. Many people find that charm is one of the most irresistible characteristics a person can have. Work on your charm every chance you get. Perfect it and you will have no problems convincing people that you are attractive.
Contouring is everything in the beauty world. You can contour your face and look like a totally different person. You can contour your chest and create the illusion that you have full boobs. You can even contour your legs to make them appear longer and in shape.
It almost seems that there is almost nothing that contour can’t change for the better. The only probably is that you have to learn to do it right or you will wind up looking a bit weird.
Spend a few days or evenings checking out the contouring videos and practicing different methods on your face. Figure out which method looks best for the shape of your face before you wear it out in public.
You may have to cough up a bit of cash before you find the perfect shades for your skin, but once you find them, you will be totally set.
For legs, there are leg contouring products available at most places that sell quality makeup.
Aside from contouring, start wearing makeup. Yes, I know life is so much simpler when you don’t have to wear makeup. I am not wearing any of the stuff right now, but I am also not leaving the house.
Women that wear makeup send the signal that they care about how they look. I have to wear makeup when I go out because my skin tone gets uneven sometimes and needs to be evened out. I need the eyeliner to draw attention to my hazel green eyes. I need the blush to give my face some life.
You don’t need tons of makeup, but you should use some. On basic days, you can get away with wearing just a touch of makeup. For those days you want to wow the crowd, get ready to break out the bronzer, fake lashes, and the glitter eyeshadow.
5 Take Lots Off Selfies
People who think they are attractive or people who want you to think they are attractive, will take a lot of selfies. The best of those selfies are then posted to their social media accounts for all to see.
It is a psychological game. When someone starts showing themselves off, people start paying attention and begin to think that maybe there is something to this person. A person who did not think you were attractive at first, can just as easily change his mind the more he sees photos of you.
Generally speaking, most of us have weak minds, even though we are loath to admit it. People who take advantage of this hidden fact will exploit the weakness of the mind to make people believe that they are the height of hotness. They set the standards that everyone else will follow.
4 Be Positive
When you are in a crabby mood and start saying negative things, you bring everyone around you down and, ultimately, no one wants to be around you. They will think you are as unattractive as your attitude.
Instead, start learning to just bite your tongue. Don’t say mean things and don’t put people down.
Start being positive. Always look for the brighter side of things and people will flock to you. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves and if you can dish out the good feelings, people will love you for it.
While you are at it, start giving people compliments. Not only does this make other people feel good about themselves, but they will start to look for the positive in you. And that is what you want: people to see just how good you really are, inside and out.
3 Play Up Your Uniqueness
Everybody has at least one thing about themselves that is unique. It can be something physical, such as unique eyes or being taller than the average woman.
Your uniqueness can also be a skill that you have perfected over the years. You might be an app building genius or you might knit the warmest sweaters imaginable.
Anything that sets you apart from other people can be played up to make you look more attractive.
Think of all those well paid athletes. They are unique because of their skill in the game. If you look at these players with a critical eye, you can see that they have average looks, but their unique skills make them attractive and even hot.
If you don’t feel as though there is anything unique about yourself, you can always create something to make yourself stand out. Find a passion and immerse yourself in it. Make it a part of who you are and you will stand out and be noticed.
2 Tell Them You Are Good Looking
If nothing else seems to be working, then just tell people that you really are a hot catch. In all my years as an adult, I have met numerous women and men who have straight up told other people that they were good looking.
What they were really doing was forcing other people to look at them and find what makes them so darn good looking. In essence, it is a head game that only works if you are confident enough to use it. You have to mean it when you say it. If you believe it, then chances are that the other person will believe you, too.
You don’t need to be arrogant or conceited when you say it. It is just a fact, not a brag. In truth, everyone has the potential to be good looking. As long as you are clean and have a healthy self confidence, you can get away with declaring yourself to be hot as heck and get away with it.
1 When All Else Fails, Wear Sunglasses
If you just don’t have the energy to put on the makeup and put on the attitude façade, your last option is to put on a pair of shades.
Sunglasses give off an air of mystery that many people are attracted to. They also hide tired, puffy eyes and draw people away from looking at your bad hair day.
Plan on getting two to three pairs of shades and wear them when you just can’t bring yourself to put on the hot role. The sunglasses will immediately give you the look you want without all the fuss and, as long as you don’t have to take them off, you can spend the entire day wearing them and no one will question you on it.
Shades are also great for covering up a hangover, pinkeye, and botched eye makeup. Just don’t go out at night with them on. You will look silly and people will say something about it.