So you've met a guy and you really like him. Actually, you totally think he's the man of your dreams, and you're starting to fall for him. You want him to be your partner and your lover. The only problem? Well, you're not sure if he's into you. You spend a lot of time together, but he has never made a move or hinted that he is interested in starting a relationship. Lots of women can relate to this frustrating feeling. Thankfully, you can encourage him to fall in love with you with a few simple tips and tricks. It may be difficult to find the perfect man, but making him fall for you doesn’t have to be hard. If you’ve fallen for a guy and you want him to feel the same way about you, you can probably use some good old-fashioned advice. Here are 15 ways to make him fall in love with you. He will swoon over you in no time.
15 Make Lots Of Eye Contact
One of the easiest ways to make a man fall in love with you is to make lots of eye contact with him. We don’t mean creepy, wide-eyed staring, of course. Just the right amount of eye contact to enhance your bond. When you make eye contact with him, you aren’t just letting him know that you are interested in him. You're also increasing his affection for you. Eye contact creates intimacy which will strengthen your bond with him. Try prolonged eye-contact when he is talking directly to you next time you are together. You will notice the feeling of intimacy as soon as you start! If you are too nervous for prolonged eye contact, try quick glances instead. Make frequent eye contact with your crush for a moment, and then look away. This is a more subtle way of letting him know that you are interested – but it might not have the same effect as full-on eye contact.
14 Make An Effort With Your Appearance
If you want someone to fall in love with you, you must make an effort with your appearance. You don’t need to start wearing lots of makeup or high heels if you find them uncomfortable. You simply need to take good care of yourself. After all, most humans aren’t attracted to a low standard of hygiene. Show that you care about your appearance by keeping your hair clean and neat, and pay attention to your person hygiene. Make sure that you wash your clothes regularly, and brush your teeth twice a day. You don’t need to spend thousands on expensive designer clothes or change your personal style to impress someone, but looking and smelling clean will certainly help. It is also worth asking your friends if they think there is anything that you can work on. Sometimes people don’t realize that they have halitosis, or that their washing detergent is ineffective. Try not to take offense if you hear something you don’t like; it is better to know now than to never know at all.
13 Impress His Friends
One of the best ways to make someone fall in love with you is to impress their friends. Most people have a close circle of people who they respect and love. If you impress these people, your crush will have a newfound respect for you, and it will confirm to them that you are a wonderful person! It will also encourage them to see you as girlfriend material. No-one wants to go out with someone who dislikes their friends! It is also useful if you end up dating and you have a fight. When he goes to his friends for advice, they will have your back as they like and respect you. You can impress his friends by making the effort to spend time with them, as well as your crush. Try to find a mutual interest that you all share -- maybe you can go to a basketball game together or watch the latest horror movie at a theater.
12 Learn How To Read Him
Everyone is unique, and different people want different things. Take the time to listen to him, and watch his body language when he talks to you and other people. This will help you to learn how to read him, as you will pick up on language and body hints. Some men hate too much affection, and they prefer being light-hearted and joking around. Other men hate to be smothered, but they appreciate an affectionate girlfriend who is caring and loving. When you get a good read on your crush, it will help you to know how to act around him. The worst thing that you can do is blow hot and cold to see if the other person likes you. No one likes being treated like that, and your crush probably doesn't, either. It can also make you seem indecisive if one day you are affectionate and the next day you ignore them!
11 Smile And Laugh
As Marilyn Monroe once said, “If you can make a girl laugh, then you can make her do anything.” The same rule applies to men. If you make someone laugh and have a good time with them, then they will enjoy your company and they will want to spend more time with you. Of course, you shouldn't exactly randomly laugh in the middle of a conversation. That will probably scare him away! However, your best weapon is your smile. Most people are more attracted to a smiling face than an expressionless face, so you should smile as often as possible. You can try sharing memories that you have together, as this is a great way to get you both smiling. Try cracking a few jokes when you are together. Even cheesy, overdone jokes can be pretty funny, and it is likely that laughing together will help you to create a stronger bond together.
10 Show Him What You Have in Common
Think about why you are attracted to your crush. You are probably very different people, but it is still likely that you have a few things in common. Maybe you're both animal lovers, or you're both kind and compassionate. Once you have worked out your similarities, you can start to focus on them and emphasize them. One of the main reasons why people feel attracted to each other is because they feel like there is a connection between them. If you both like animals, you can put on a cute YouTube videos of puppies to watch, and if you both like food you could suggest that you go out for food sometimes. But definitely, don’t try to fake a connection. If he loves rock music and you don’t, he will eventually figure out that you are lying. In fact, he might catch you in a lie, which would be extremely embarrassing for both of you.
9 Be Independent
Since you have super strong feelings for your crush, sometimes you feel kind of down when you remember that you are just friends instead of boyfriend and girlfriend. You might be tempted to ask him to hang out with you every night because you love spending time with him. However, it is important for you to remain independent. Let your crush spend time with his friends and family, and focus on spending time with the other people you love too. This will remind you that there are other wonderful people in your life besides your crush, and it will encourage him to develop feelings for you. Most people are attracted to independent people, rather than clingy people. Move at the same pace as him, rather than making your affections too obvious, and it is much more likely that you will end up dating each other. Also, who wants to be the girl who clearly has feelings for her friend?
8 Show Him Your Best Traits
Everyone is different, and there is something about you that makes you special. Maybe you are very caring, and you often go above and beyond for the people that you love. Maybe you are very funny and witty, and you can make anyone laugh. Showing your crush your best traits makes it more likely that he will fall for you, as he will see the most exceptional things about you. For example, if you are a great baker, you could bring him some sweet treats next time you see him. If you both love the same kind of music, you could recommend a band that you know he will love. This will make you seem like a catch, and he will be intrigued by your personality. He will want to get to know you better and spend more time with you, which will give you the chance to impress him even more, which is the point.
7 Be Relaxed And Easy-Going
This advice might seem a little simple, but it's also extremely effective. Think about the high-stress people that you know; do you like spending lots of time with them, or do you find that their stress starts to rub off on you after a while? Most people prefer to hang around with relaxed, easy-going people as they cause less stress and aggravation for the people around them. If you are stressed or in a bad mood when you see your crush, he will start to think that he is unable to please you or make you happy. This won’t make him try harder; he will just walk away, which is fair enough. If he can’t make you happy now, it is likely that the problems would get much worse if you started a relationship with each other. No one wants to spend their time with someone who is often negative – especially if they can’t fix the problem.
6 Accept Him For Who He Is
One of the main reasons why relationships end is because one partner feels like the other partner doesn’t ‘get’ them. Think about your ex and your best friends; did you find that your best friends accept you for who you are? Did your ex accept you for who you are? If you want to start a relationship with your crush, you need to truly accept him for who he is. This doesn’t just mean accepting his good traits, such as his good looks and sense of humor, it also means accepting the bad traits. Maybe he can be jealous sometimes, or perhaps he has a short fuse and is quick to get annoyed. Remember that your crush is not a project or a work-in-progress that you can complete. He is a person who you love and respect, and you must make it clear to him that you accept him for who he is if things are ever going to work out between you guys.
5 Be Giving
All relationships are supposed to be about give and take, but often this isn’t the case. Some people don’t understand the concept of giving, and they just focus on themselves and what they can gain. Most of the time they don’t even realize what they are doing; they think that they are as giving as their partner, if not more so. But in reality, they just take. If you want your crush to fall in love with you, you need to be a giving person. Your crush will easily be able to tell between a woman who wants something from him and a woman who has genuine feelings for him. If you know that he has had a hard day, offer to pick up food for you both, or suggest that you go out for a drink together. You don’t have to go over the top and you shouldn't because the ideal relationship is one where both you and your crush are giving and taking.
4 Be Confident Around Him
Generally, people find confident people more attractive than people with low confidence. Perhaps this is because most people admire confident people and wish that they could be more like them. It could also be because people prefer the company of confident people; they are more likely to crack jokes and be positive, which makes them excellent company. Not everyone is born with confidence, and if you are shy or you have low self-esteem you might think that the idea of being confident is terrifying. If you are shy, start by showing confidence through your body language. Walk with your head held high and your shoulders thrown back, instead of looking downwards and keeping your hands in your pocket. It may seem like a small thing, but it is likely to impress your crush as it will make you seem more self-assured and confident. You can also try leading in a conversation by bringing up something that you enjoy talking about with your crush.
3 Spend The Right Amount Of Time Together
When you first start crushing on someone new, you might feel tempted to spend lots of time together. However, it is important to maintain a balance, especially as you haven’t started dating yet. If you start dating each other it is likely that you will go through a honeymoon period where you spend lots of time with each other, but for now, you are just friends. You don’t want to suffocate him or scare him off, so it is important to find a healthy balance. Spend time with your crush when you have plans, but don’t cancel plans with your friends and family in the hopes that your crush will want to hang out. Both you and your crush should still spend time with other people; this way you have a healthy relationship, and it is likely that he will start to realize that he wants to spend more time with you.
2 Make An Effort To Listen
If you want to make your crush fall in love with you, it's super important that you make an effort to listen to him. Lots of people think that they are listening to others, but in reality, they are just waiting for their chance to speak. This is frustrating for the other person, and eventually, they will start confiding in someone else who actually listens and offers constructive advice. Make the effort to listen to your crush when he is talking. Remember the little details about his life, such as the co-workers he likes and dislikes, his favorite bands, and the problems in his life. Everyone likes to be heard, and your crush is no different. This gives you the opportunity to show him that you respect him and love him, and he will be impressed by your listening skills. He will think that you are a caring, compassionate, and loving person.
1 Be Yourself
The most important suggestion on this list is to be yourself. It can be tempting to mimic your crush and pretend that you like the same things that he does, but if you start dating he will eventually realize that you were lying. You may be able to keep the lies up for weeks and months, but eventually, the truth will come out. He will think that you are not comfortable in your skin, and he will think that you are deceitful. He may even think that you trapped him into a relationship, as you are not who he thought you were. While you should focus on your common interests together, you shouldn’t fake common interests. If you genuinely have nothing in common with your crush, it doesn’t mean that he won’t like you. Opposites attract, and there is every chance that he will fall for you. Be proud of who you are!