We've all seen How To Lose a Guy In Ten Days, the hilarious rom-com where Kate Hudson tries to get Matthew McConaughey to break up with her in that amount of time. If you somehow haven't seen this gem of a movie, then you might be wondering who in their right mind would try to get rid of Matthew McConaughey??? We can agree. Andie writes for a magazine and decides to write a column about making a guy lose interest in only ten days. She does everything in her power to scare him off, though, of course, she ends up falling for him in the end. Even though we love this movie, we definitely don't want to scare the men in our lives away. But we can still learn how not to do that. Here are 15 ways to lose him. If you don't want to scare your boyfriend off (and you probably don't), then read on. Oh, and you should still watch that movie. Just trust us.
15 Cheat On Him
There's no easier way to lose the man that you love than cheating on him. No one wants to be disrespected in this way, obviously, but men take cheating more personally than women do. A woman might take back a cheating boyfriend because she loves him, a guy will likely sever ties and never even think twice about it. In some cases, he might be hurt that you betrayed him. However, for a lot of men, it's basically an issue of pride. If they stay with you after you've been unfaithful, they think that makes them look weak. Guys hate looking weak... especially in front of their friends. Of course, this is a major breach of trust, so whatever their reasons for breaking up with you, you definitely deserved it. So, if you don't care about your relationship, you should definitely hop into bed with someone else (and let your man find out).
14 Cyber Stalk Him
Does anyone even do old-school stalking anymore? As in, sitting in your car for hours outside of your boyfriend's apartment building or hiding in the bushes near his office? That sounds like way too much work, especially today. Modern day stalkers work smarter, not harder and know how to utilize our generation's technology. In today's world, it's easier than ever to stalk the people in our lives via social media, whether that means secretly installing a tracking device on our boyfriend's phone or an app that intercepts their text messages. Unfortunately for you, once your BF finds out, he won't care how you stalked him. He will only care that you did. Any smart guy will be out the door once he realizes that you have totally invaded his privy. Trust is one of the most important building blocks of any relationship. If he doesn't trust you, your relationship is doomed.
13 Be Jealous
Everyone gets jealous from time to time. Yup, even you. While it's not healthy to let negative emotions win out in the end, sometimes you don't really have a choice. For example, it's perfectly natural to feel jealous if your significant other is blatantly flirting with someone else in front of you. But there's a difference between feeling a wave of jealousy and being jealous 24/7. The latter will leave you single much faster than you might want. No guy wants to deal with someone who's always jealous and angry. If your guy is doing something to make you feel jealous, then you should be an adult and talk to him about it. A guy who cares about your opinion will try to correct the problem. If he doesn't, then you probably don't need to be with him anyway. There's also a chance that he might be making you jealous on purpose for his own sick thrill, which is another reason to dump him. But don't just sit and stew in your misery because you're only hurting yourself and your relationship.
12 Be Unsupportive
How do you respond when your boyfriend talks about his goals and ambitions? If you're a good girlfriend, you're going to listen (without interrupting, that is) and then give him some positive and constructive feedback. You might even give him some realistic advice for his more far-fetched ideas and, when you need to, cheer him on. If you don't do any of this, then you're definitely on the wrong track. If you tear him down every time he opens his mouth, you won't be able to call yourself his girlfriend for long, that's for sure. No one likes to feel insecure and like they're not worth it. Most guys have a ton of pride and they won't allow themselves to feel emasculated. The fact that he opened up to you in the first place took a lot of guts because, again, guys don't express their emotions the same way that women do. So, if you take that for granted and respond with negativity he will likely end your relationship. And, to be honest, he definitely should.
11 Ignore Him
It's not always possible to answer every text that your boyfriend sends you. After all, you have a job to do, people to see, and your own life to live. But you should definitely try to respond within a reasonable amount of time. This is not only polite, of course, but it tells your boyfriend that you care about him and want to communicate with him on a regular basis. And during moments where you absolutely can't respond, maybe give him a heads up about what you're going to be doing so that he doesn't keep texting into the void. I know that our lives get busy, but if you're so busy that you can't give him any time, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship. It may sound harsh, but it's impossible to sustain a relationship if you don't have any time to spend together. And if you can't text him back, you probably don't have time to have dinner or movie nights or anything else.
10 Talk About Your Ex
This should be pretty obvious, but you should never talk about your ex-man with your new man. Mentioning your ex only reminds your boyfriend that you had a life before he came into it, which a lot of guys don't like. Sorry, it's true. Guys have a weird way of thinking that your life began once they met you and, no matter how much you try to change that thinking, they're not going to budge. And hey, you have to pick your battles. Now, you can have open and honest conversations about your past relationships if you're both comfortable with that, but that's different than bringing the topic up out of the blue. Some couples like to lay everything about their past out in the open from the beginning, but some people just don't want to know. You'll have to judge you personal situation accordingly. Similarly, you should never compare your boyfriend to your ex... in any context, under any circumstance. You're just asking for trouble.
9 Blog About Him
These days, it seems that almost everyone has a blog of some kind. Blogging is a great way to have your voice heard in this huge world of ours and it can even be a lucrative profession if you do it the right way. Personal posts are super trendy these days and you might delve deep into your personal life, but that can get you into trouble and fast. The truth is that if you talk about your boyfriend in a negative way on your blog, he's obviously going to find out and that's not going to be fun for either one of you. There's a huge chance that if he ever comes across your blog, then he might feel like you betrayed his trust. No, he's definitely going to feel like you betrayed his trust. And again, trust is a huge part of any healthy and happy relationship, so this is going to make you lose him faster than you know.
8 Spend His Money
Sure, it's okay for your boyfriend to buy you gifts from time to time... especially if he offers. But it's never okay to be so demanding that you drain all of his savings. First of all, you should have your own money that you can use to buy your own things with. I mean, If your relationship goes south, then you're going to have to have a way to support yourself, so why wait until then? It's important to make sure that you're going to be okay no matter what. Next, even if you have your own money, that doesn't give you the right to buy lavish gifts for yourself with his cash without clearing it with him first. It's not only going to destroy his trust but, if you were moving towards marriage, he's probably going to start to rethink it. Honestly, can you imagine a man saying, "She's spending all of my money and she's just my girlfriend, now I can't wait to marry her!" See how crazy that sounds? So, chill on the spending, unless you earned it yourself, of course.
7 Start Family Drama
Family comes first. Period. If you're dating a guy, you need to make an effort to get along with his family, and that's even more important at the beginning of your relationship. It will show him that you care about keeping his pre-existing relationships intact as you build a future together. Besides, if his family doesn't like you, then they could influence him to break things off with you. I know that some family members can be completely insufferable, but you have to put in the effort, at least at first. That doesn't mean that you have to put up with blatant disrespect, but you should always try to keep things peaceful. After all, even if you guys break up, he's still going to have to deal with his family. And family never, ever forgets anything. If you don't try to keep things peaceful, then your boyfriend might come to the conclusion that you're costing him more than you're worth.
6 Lie About Your Birth Control
Thanks to modern medicine, women have a ton of control over their reproductive health. It is no longer assumed that an active woman will get pregnant because there are so many options out there to prevent unwanted pregnancies. No method is 100% foolproof, but, if used correctly, they're reliable enough to give a woman and her partner peace of mind. Now imagine that a guy is in a relationship with a woman who claims to be on some form of birth control. He's not ready for children, so he feels comfortable engaging in the act with her because he trusts what she told him. Right? Now, imagine that he finds out that she's been lying about actually being on birth control. What do you think he's going to do? He's going to pack up his stuff, pray that your pregnancy test comes back as negative, and say "See you later."
5 Spy On Him
Can your boyfriend leave his unlocked phone around you and sleep peacefully at night? Can he take a private call without you pressing your ear against the door? If not, then you've probably been caught snooping on him at one time or another. That's a huge dealbreaker for most people. If you deny your guy his right to privacy, then you're just going to piss him off. Of course, it can be tempting to find out what your guy is up to when you're apart. But all that you have to do is ask him. If he's a respectable guy who isn't sneaking around, then he'll have no problem telling you. If he's being dishonest, then you need to thank him for showing your his true colors, show him the door, and be on your way. Think about it this way: you wouldn't want him to invade your privacy, would you? No, you really wouldn't. So don't be hypnotic and don't do this. It's not going to work out too well.
4 You Always Pick A Fight
Are you argumentative? When you're in a relationship, you just have to learn how to let things go. If you try hard enough, you will always be able to find things to nag your boyfriend about. Maybe he left dishes in the sink for too long. Or, maybe he forgot your favorite snack when he was at the grocery store. Yeah, it would only take two minutes for him to put that plate in the dishwasher, and seriously, how hard is it to read a grocery list? But you need to tell yourself that these things are not important enough to ruin your relationship over. They're small and they don't matter. Really and truly. If you nitpick every little mistake that he makes, he will quickly grow tired of you because no one wants to be reminded of their every fault. That's why you have to be selective in the things that you pick arguments about. If you don't, then you're going to run your boyfriend off.
3 Be A Know It All
If you ever want to make your boyfriend break up with you, then act like a know it all. No on likes know-it-all's, let's face it. Know-it-alls are incredibly hard to co-exist with because they literally make you want to smack them every time they open their mouth. No matter what the situation calls for, they're always right. They know better than you. They do things better than you and they're generally all-around better. But you shouldn't get offended because they're only trying to help you. And really, you should be grateful that they're even imparting their wisdom on you in the first place. If you're a know-it-all, you're going to have a very lonely existence in this world. No man wants to deal with someone who they feel thinks they're always right. That makes it impossible to have conversations with because they feel like you're always trying to prove him wrong. It's annoying so stop it.
2 Cancel Plans At The Last Minute
Are you unreliable? Do you cancels plans at the last minute? A good way to get your boyfriend to lose interest in you is to constantly leave him high and dry. Sometimes things come up beyond our control, but you should not make a habit of canceling your date nights, especially not if your man has put a lot of thought into them. Not only will that make him mad, but it will make him not want to put forth as much effort. And if you keep it up, not only will he lose interest in you, but he will find someone who actually wants to go out with him. It's not really that hard to plan your schedule a few days in advance. And if you do have to cancel a date every now and then, you should make sure that you reschedule it as soon as possible. The truth is that you would hate if you were dating someone who didn't make time for you, wouldn't you?
1 Make Him Give Up His Friends
You are the most important person in your boyfriend's life... besides his mom, of course. At least until you get married... and maybe then she'll still reign supreme. But that means that you have a lot of influence over his choices and the people that he spends time with. That doesn't mean that you should use it, though, and especially not on his friends. Hear us loud and clear: unless his friends are part of an organized crime ring, honestly, leave them alone! It doesn't matter how annoying you find them or how dumb they seem, you don't get to choose his friends for him. They were here before you and, if your relationship ends, they will be there to help him cope with your breakup in some manly bro kind of way. We all need relationships with other people than our significant other to feel whole, so it's not fair if you expect him to give up his friends. If you do, he might show you the door instead.