Let’s be honest, you already know whether or not this married man has feelings for you. You’re not a dummy. Plus you’ve got female intuition, an age old defense mechanism that has passed down from your ancestors, who were once goddesses and queens. You already know! Just accept the truth. But you’re here because you want to confirm your suspicions. You want to make sure that your intuition is on point and that you’re not imagining things. So go ahead and have a quick read. See if your gut was accurate or not. Of course, these are only 15 ways that a married man might show he has feelings for you. There are many more. In addition, for each entry, there are similar versions, so don’t get too caught up in the details. The point is trust your instinct, they usually guide you in the right direction. And whatever the case may be, be wise about how involved you want to become with this married man. You might think it is fun to hook up with a married man, but remember that you two aren’t the only people involved in the situation. Besides, even if he is capable of leaving her for you, how can you guarantee that he won’t do the same thing to someone else down the line? Be wary of bad karma, so choose your path wisely, dear one.
15 Never talks to his wife while you’re around
He’s married, which means he’s got a wife. And wives like to talk to their husbands. If he never picks up her phone calls, he’s hiding her from you. He’s also trying to give you 100% of his undivided attention. If he scoffs at her texts and complains about her under his breath, he’s letting you know that she’s no longer on his love radar. He’s telling you that you are, though. It is one thing to avoid talking about his significant other because he’s very private, but it’s another when he just doesn’t give a damn about her quite frankly. If he never ever, ever, ever talks to her while you’re around, and it feels like he’s making a point to keep her out of your sight, then chances are that’s exactly what he’s doing. And while you’re at it, see if you can pick up on the fact that he’s spending more time with you than with her. Consider that as just another clue in solving this love mystery.
14 Keeps hinting that you’re so much alike
He’s not shy when he compliments you. He’s told you before that you are cute or stunning or whatever. And you believe him because why shouldn’t you, right? But then he starts saying that you’re more his type than his wife, he used to date girls like you, and he’s even confused how he ended up with his wife because they have nothing in common. Pause. Yep, that’s right. He’s not just dropping hints, he’s dropping bombs. A married man will not go around telling other women they are his type unless he’s interested – and his interest could range from the friendly sort to the more passionate. Or maybe he’s more subtle and comments that you two have so much in common or that he’s into such and such, too. His drive to create a connection between you two is his way of telling you that he’d like to put the moves on. So, don’t take his advances lightly.
13 Keeps asking how you feel about cheaters
With some men, there is no beating around the bush. Nope, he just straight up asks you how you feel about men who are unfaithful. At first, you’re thinking, “What in the world?” But then, it doesn’t take long for your intuition to kick in and you realize that he’s gauging your stance on infidelity. Perhaps it’s because he’s considering cheating on his wife with you. So, he wants to know how you feel about it. And he also wants to know what kind of woman you are. How you answer will tell him if he should pursue you seriously or just another hook up. For him, your answer holds the truth for him and his future with you. And despite the fact that you’ve not even considered a future with him, he’s surely thought about one with you. Why else would he spring such an intimate question on you, huh? If you come across a man like this, best to just stay away.
12 Spends his weekend 'family time' pursuing you
Weekends are short but glorious. They are the ideal time to do activities that make us happy or just catch up on some good old fashioned rest and relaxation. If children or spouses are in the mix, then it’s family time. If you know that the guy has a family (or at the very least a partner), but he mostly spends that time communicating with you or inviting you over for a quick lunch or a movie, then you know something’s up with him. While it might seem innocent and natural that a man would want some time away from the family unit, consider the fact that he should have friends for that exact purpose. If you don’t consider him a friend, yet he actively seeks you out, then that probably means that he’s got eyes for you. Be careful, if you don’t cut the line sooner rather than later, you could have a real stalker case on your hands.
11 Slips off his wedding ring when you’re around
This is pretty obvious, but is it? Some men are interested, but keep their wedding rings on. So then, what’s the difference between a man who slips his ring off and one who keeps it on? There are several answers, and for the sake of this entry, we’ll only focus on the one who takes his wedding ring off. He’s either hoping you won’t notice his tan line or he’s genuinely in the midst of a crisis or divorce and wants you to know he’s moving on. Basically, on one end he’s being sneaky or thinks he’s slick, and on the other end, he’s taking small steps to remove himself from a situation where he’s no longer invested. Even if he’s talked about his wife around you before, but now you notice his ring finger is naked, he might be hinting that he’s got eyes for you. Or at the very least, he wants you to know that he’s no longer interested in his wife.
10 Talks about his wife as though she’s a friend
Men are not known to talk about their wives, at least not frequently. And if they do, they’re usually saying something short and sweet, but in some cases, they’re complaining and griping. If you notice he starts talking about his wife, but she sounds more like a friend than a spouse, he might be trying to tell you something else. He’s telling you that he’s not interested in her sexually and he might even see her as more of a roommate than an actual life partner. How does this affect you? Easy. If you’re the one he’s confiding in, you’re the one he’s mostly likely got a crush on. If nothing else, he sees you as a confident, which might be something he’s missing from his own life. So it might be harmless to be a friend and lend an ear. But don’t forget that many great relationships start out as friends first.
9 Never mentions kids or life at home
If you know he’s married (you’ve seen the pictures on his desk or even seen some of his immediate family from a distance), but he’s never once talked about them to you, he might be hiding them. He might be hoping you won’t focus on the fact that he is, indeed, a family man. He knows you and everyone in the office knows that he’s a married man with kids. But the less he talks about them, the more he feels separate from them and the more he’s able to entertain a single man’s dream. You might be a part of his secret fantasy. So if you catch him talking to others about his home life, but the minute you show up the conversation quickly shifts gears, it sounds like he’s intentionally doing so to give you the impression that he’s available.
8 Asks your opinion about marriage
Out of the blue (but not so surprising), he starts to ask your opinion on marriage. And he’s not just asking your opinion, it’s like he’s trying to discover your inner most thoughts regarding marriage. Each time you see him, that’s the theme of your conversations – marriage. He might talk about it as though it’s a trap and a trick, as if it’s something men are lured into or something that society pressures us to do. He’s not entirely wrong, especially when you consider that there are certain cultures that still adhere this practice. If he’s married and you know it, but his whole argument is against marriage, he’s telling you something. Now it’s a matter of whether or not you’re willing to read the signs and what you’ll do next. After all, despite the fact that some claim marriage is forever, it’s simply not true.
7 Asks your opinion about divorce
When he stops philosophizing about marriage, he then switches gears regarding the matter of divorce. Maybe he’s even asked you for your help, like asked you what you might do in his situation or if you know of any good divorce lawyers. A guy who talks about divorce in front of you or directly to you is giving you major I’m-into-you vibes. Generally speaking, men are private creatures. It’s not common for them to go about sharing their personal lives with the world. If he’s doing that with you, he’s allowing himself to be vulnerable around you, which is a huge sign that he’s interested in you, but he’s being subtle about it. He’s hoping you’re reading into his clues, and, more than anything, he’s hoping that you’ll be waiting for him after a smooth divorce so he can have a shot at getting to know you better.
6 Hints that his marriage has been over for quite some time
He says he his feelings for his wife died out a really long time ago. It’s up to you to ask him why, how, or what he’s going to do, but he always makes sure that you overhear him talking to others about how he’s ready to move on and start over. But none of his answers really matter at this point. The fact that he shared such exclusive information with you is a possible sign that he’s smitten with you. We tend to talk about our relationships with those we love and/or trust, or, in this case, with someone new who’s caught our eye. Whether or not he’s trying to convince you or if, in fact, what he’s saying is the truth, he’s saying loud and clear that his wife is old news and that he’d like you to be the new headliner.
5 Shows you photos of his bachelor days
Marriage can ruin a fine figure. Marriage can also ruin one’s finances, too, but that’s for a different article. Marriage can also make people let go, which means piling on the pounds or aging rapidly. He may be around your age, but maybe he could be mistaken for someone older. Perhaps his rapid aging has nothing to do with his long work hours, but mainly family life. But even as the years have caught up to him, he’s not bad looking – what’s worse is that he knows it. So he flaunts pictures of himself back when he was a bachelor, complete with the six-pack tanned beach body photo among other miscellaneous pix. Basically, he’s showing off and he wants you to notice. He wants you to see that despite the extra pounds and wrinkles, that he was, in his heyday, quite a catch. Sure, he might just be showing off for the sake of showing off, but be mindful of the type of pix he reveals to you and what he says as he reveals them. The truth is in the details.
4 Acts as though he was trapped into marriage
Men love to use that I-was-suckered-into-marriage card. It may or may not be true, but the point of the matter is that, at this point in time, whether he likes it or not, he’s a married man. Should all his talk about marriage and how he got married insinuate that he was some sort of victim doesn’t matter. The fact that he says so means he’s trying to send you a message. If he was forced into marriage, as he claims, that means he was never invested or in love, and that also means that he’s a liar and a cheat. He lied to the woman he married and he cheated himself out of a life he truly desired. So whatever is the truth, it seems like this guy isn’t the honest type. Don’t get caught up with a trickster like him because you’ll just be left with all his baggage and then some.
3 Is jealous about all the freedom you have
Does he constantly remind you of how free and single you are? Is he the one who keeps saying, “Look at you, young and fancy free,” or “Single and ready to mingle, experiencing the joys of life”. If all his comments are directed towards your status, then he might be jealous, but he also might be wishing that he was single with you – pursuing you without any consequences. He also might be hinting that he wishes that he could share that freedom with you. On some occasions, he might even be jealous about some of your weekend plans or dates. Check out his reactions. How does he respond whenever you tell him what you will do or what you did you over the weekend? If he seems to get jealous, then you can be pretty sure he’s got a little crush on you, at the very least.
2 Asks about your living situation, particularly if you live alone
It’s one thing to be curious about co-workers, but it’s another thing to be all up in someone’s business. Sure, we ask about our colleague’s private life, but there is a limit and some boundaries are not meant to be crossed. If he asks you on several occasions where you live, if you live alone, if you sleep alone, if there’s someone there to greet you when you arrive, or anything that suggests that he’s digging a little deeper than other co-workers, well, you’ve either got someone who’s interested in you or someone who might have stalker tendencies. Beware of who you interact with and be careful about what you reveal. While the questions seem innocent enough, giving too many details about your living situation could get you in trouble. But, yep, if he’s inquiring about your living arrangements, he’s setting himself to invite himself over to your place one of these days.
1 He’s constantly looking at you
And that’s not by accident. Sure, you’re beautiful –aren’t we all. But when you catch him looking at you more often than not, and it even makes you feel a little shy or uncomfortable, you can be certain that he’s been doing it for a while now, even if you just noticed this quite recently. The point is he’s totally admiring you, studying you, and daydreaming about intimate situations with you. Should you catch him staring, notice how he reacts. Does he quickly look away? Does he continue to stare? Or does he toss you a little smile? These tell you the type of guy he is and how you might need to handle him should he cross any lines trying to get to you. Not that we condone adultery, but should you be interested, you’ll have a good idea of how to approach him if you have his personality type on lock.