We are all so very different in our own unique ways. Some of us more different than others but it's those quirky, little character traits that help keep life entertaining. Men usually take the brunt of a broken down relationship with many people looking to blame them and their own behaviour. But we can all put our hands up and finally admit that us women aren't quite the angels people expect us to be all the time.
We all can have a love/hate relationship with ourselves sometimes, but as long as the worst of us doesn't spill out into other people's lives then that's okay. It would be unrealistic to avoid toxic women completely as they are in our personal lives and our place of work. They can be emotionally draining and damaging to be around. The best action to take is to not to play them at their own game and become a toxic person yourself.
These following personality types you may have come across once or twice in your lifetime. Or perhaps dread might sink in when you begin to recognize some of these flaws in yourself. If you claim that you have no bad personality traits at all then you can start by checking with all of the traits on this list.
15 The Angry Ex
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There are some women who need to take Disney's hit Let It Go and make it their very own personal mantra. With special thanks to social media, becoming the angry ex-girlfriend is not a hard task. Looking over dozens of pictures of your past romancer enjoying nights out and witnessing a new love interest in their life is enough to drive any woman to the edge. It's always best to try and avoid messaging him, "Who was that you were with last night?"
Always keep in the forefront of your mind that social media is not an accurate perception of someone's life, everyone appears much more glamorous and happy in their updates. So put the phone away, agree to having some offline time and whatever you do don't get start lashing out. Sometimes it is just best to unfollow them and move on with your own life.
14 The Frenemy
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The frenemy is everywhere. Beyoncé and Kim Kardashian are probably the world's most notable frenemies. The pair have been known to be polite to each other at private events but then behind closed doors secretly hate it out. Beyoncé even put a stop to Jay-Z attending Kim's wedding to Kanye West, despite them being best friends, using the excuse that they were working. Only then were photographed on holiday in the Hamptons just to rub further salt in the wounds.
If you feel as if you are turning into a frenemy then stop and question why you may have negative feelings towards the individual. If you have good reason to dislike them then make it very clear how you feel and separate yourself from their company. Pretending you adore someone when secretly you can't stand them can be emotionally exhausting and frustrating.
13 The Drama Queen
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Everyone has that one friend who will literally throw themselves into the spotlight at any given chance. They complain that they never look for drama yet they always seem to be right in the thick of it. Their company can become incredibly draining as everything is one big emotional event and quite soon people close to them will start to get sick of it.
The easiest way to avoid becoming a spotlight seeker is to make a vow with yourself to keep away from drama. If trouble is unavoidable then making some lifestyle changes might help. Cut off those who are always involved in major conflict and just walk away with your head high instead. Energy spent constantly surrounding with negativity is just a waste.
12 The Cry Baby
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If you are the kind of person who needs plenty of tissues for your issues then it might be time to grow out of it. Those who also have a tendency to cry and moan a lot about all of life's little problems will find people running away from them rather than to them.
If you find yourself in a position where almost every day is full of teary-eyed moments then this will start to get tiresome and pretty fast. Try and look at other self-soothing techniques that can help you cope rather than just breaking down on a friend or colleagues shoulder. People can be compassionate but when patience wears thin you could end up bringing out the worst in people.
11 The One With Cruel Intentions
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Life is not always simply black and white. Some people will use your loyalty and abuse your kindness just to get that one step ahead. Even the sweetest of people have been known to show their dark side when they have ulterior motives. There is nothing wrong with a bit of friendly competition and tactfulness but don't allow this fighting spirit to turn you into an evil force.
Remember when the people you have used along the way find out about your intentions they obviously won't be happy. You could believe, "Well, who cares? I won't see them again!" but it's true when they say karma is a b***h and it might come back to haunt you one day. If you want an easy life then leave the manipulation to the teen dramas.
10 The Player
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Although many people don't want to hear it or believe it - women can be players too. If you find yourself surrounded by guys who are willing to do things for you because you make them believe they have a chance - then you are a player. Most women find that this is not a real issue as nobody is intentionally being hurt but remember that manipulation can be considered a sign of emotional abuse.
Stroking a man's ego with flirtation can often produce the results a female player needs and she can have men waiting on her hand and foot. A female player is often emotionally unattached as she has the ability to have sexual relationships without any form of commitment. This is the kind of woman who receives more than what she gives and is willing to leave a lot of victims in her wake as well.
9 The Jealous Girl
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Jealously is when we take someone's personal achievements as a personal attack on our own. Sounds ridiculous, but sadly we have all been guilty of some form of jealously at one point in our lives. Jealousy can often rear its ugly head when we feel as if something has either replaced us or been promoted as better than us. When the defence guard goes up often the next action is attack instead of personal improvement.
You might catch yourself issuing ultimatums to your partner such as, "It's either me or (insert name of person or job here)". If this is the case then ask yourself why you are feeling threatened and openly discuss why you are hurt. Also, if you ever feel jealous of someone else's success then try and change your attitude to be more positive. Admire the achievements of others and learn from the hard work that got them there.
8 Share Too Much Information
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If it takes you longer than five minutes to respond to the question, "How are you today?" then you might be guilty of becoming a serial broadcaster. The over-sharer can be found everywhere but they are especially attracted to online activity such as social media. Here they can tell you what time they woke up, what they had for breakfast, their plans for the day and also what they think about so-and-so from work.
Try to avoid over-sharing by mimicking the behaviour of others around you. Is Sandra from accounts talking in-depth about her own sex life? If the answer is no then maybe you shouldn't treat her to the details of yours. Also, if you are an oversharer online try and limit yourself to just two updates a day (and no, that doesn't mean they have to be two pages long just to make up for it).
7 The Nasty Girl
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A wise man once said, "A punch in the nose is obvious, and it heals. However, an attack on the self-esteem – at the right moment and in the right way – can last a lifetime". It's true that when we are attacked emotionally it can leave us scarred for life. The bullies don't just exist on the other side of the school gates, they are amongst us in our adult lives and can reduce even the strongest of people to a quivering wreck.
The nasty girls often tend to move in groups using a strength in numbers technique. They are most likely to engage in a sneak attack as you will often hear them begin a conversation with: "I don't mean to upset you but -" or "Are you still having problems in your relationship?" The best option to deal with nasty girls is to just give one worded answers as often a lengthy reply can only feed their need for potential gossip.
6 The Domineering Diva
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Trying to have complete control over all others is a not a good personality trait and the bad news is you will be hated for it. Being overly domineering in both your personal and professional life is actually considered a form of bullying and domestic abuse. There are some people who like to hand the control over but for the majority of people they prefer not to be overpowered.
Being assertive and knowing what you want is an admirable trait. However, if those who surround you are left feeling small and worthless then you need to re-adjust yourself into a more pleasant manner. There is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. You might find everyone around you will be constantly on guard and defensive which over time will land you in quite a lonely place.
5 The Unreliable Friend
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Unreliability can also extend to being labelled as many other things including being lazy or disorganised. Always try to keep to social and professional appointments or at least have valid reason for being a no-show other than you just weren't up for it. There are polite ways to decline an invitation and no it's not just switching your phone off and ignoring everyone.
Another worse trait of the notoriously unreliable friend is that even the smallest of favours will feel like an almighty task to them. Caring about others is not at the top of their own priority list and personal change can take years, so they probably aren't planning on improving any time soon.
4 The Over Thinker
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A constant negative thinking pattern can cause nothing but stress in your life. If you worry about the past, present and the future, then it's time to stop overthinking and start living. The over thinker can actually lead themselves down a slippery slope towards anxiety and depression so do seek medical advice if it is taking over your life.
Over-thinkers will usually talk and talk until they are unable to stop. Often this can actually lead to making it worse as well as giving those around you quite the headache. A frenzy of negativity and problem sharing just snowballs the situation. Remember to breathe, as ridiculous as this sounds, and remind yourself that you aren't in any danger so time to quit the spontaneous freak-outs.
3 Too Dependent
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There is nothing more off-putting for the majority of people than someone who is dependent on others for their own survival. Being able to stand on your own two feet is an attractive quality and completely leaning on someone else to be responsible for your emotional wellbeing isn't very healthy at all.
Relationships can often be destroyed if you have this particular personality trait as people may find you inescapable. Find out new ways to boost your self-esteem with exercise and positive thinking so you are more reliant on yourself for your emotional needs. Every goof friend will be there for you whenever you need them but 24/7 attention is just not realistic.
2 The Pathological Liar
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There are white lies and then there are extremely damaging lies. If you are a dishonest person who has been caught out in the past then it's time to put an end to this destructive behaviour. If you are an honest person then people will not only begin to trust you more but also start valuing your opinion highly.
Creating your own fantasy world and expecting everyone to believe it will eventually catch up with you in a bad way. A tangled web of lies can often leave you feeling very isolated and vulnerable. If you struggle to tell the truth then you might need to look at the deeper issue behind this case. There is always time to put things right before it is too late.
1 The Partner Snatcher
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You shouldn't even entertain the thought of stealing another woman's man and certainly don't feel as if you have to. Tempting a guy away from his partner is low-life behaviour and you don't want to get a solid reputation as a man-stealer. Many women who only gravitate towards men who are already in relationships do this because it gives them a huge confidence boost.
There are some occasions where we do fall people who are already in relationships. You should never act on this as you will only be hurting some else. Instead, explain your feelings to him and just say you won't disrespect another woman that way. You will be saving yourself a lot of pain in the long run as you will never be able to trust your partner 100% knowing that once a cheat always a cheat.
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