Whether you have been seeing a guy for two months or dating someone for three years, when a man starts to lose interest in you, it can be absolutely devastating. Many women will do some insane things just to claw their way back into a man’s life. But if he is pulling away from you, hounding, stalking and threatening him with an ultimatum will only make things worse. If your guy seems distracted with other things going on in his life, and he’s no longer making you a priority, it’s time for you take matters into your own hands. It is no longer okay for you to just sit back and accept the situation.
With these simple tricks, you can regain your guy’s attention without driving him even further away. All it takes is a little bit of time, a little bit of patience, and a whole lot of focus. You have to read this article carefully, this is a sensitive situation you are dealing with. Study these 15 tips to turn a cold and lifeless situation back into the hot and steamy love affair you once shared.
Keep reading to see how you can get his attention when he loses interest in you.
15 Give Him Space
When a guy starts to lose interest, the first thing you probably want to do is bombard him with a bunch of questions and ask him, “What’s wrong?” But this is quite possibly the worst thing you can ever do. If you want to regain his attention after you feel him pulling away, the best thing to do is to mirror his actions. That means, if you think he needs some space, give him all the space in the world.
When you leave a guy alone, all he has left are his own thoughts and his own feelings. He’s not feeling the pressure from you to be a certain way or act a certain way. By giving him space, you’re letting him know you don’t need to be all up in his face and his personal space 24/7. You’re fine and more than content to live your own life with or without him.
When you give a guy space after he starts to lose interest, you can actually reignite the interest he felt when the two of you first met. But giving him space doesn’t always work out in your favor, so keep reading to see what also you can do to get his attention.
14 Focus on Yourself
While giving your guy space, it’s important to not just sit around and wait for him to snap out of it. If you’re waiting patiently (or impatiently) for his interest to return, you’ll be waiting awhile. So, to speed things up, you need to make sure you focus on yourself during this time. Your self-esteem is already pretty low since your guy has been acting differently, so you need to take part in some confident-boosting activities to remind yourself that you’re the prize in this entire situation!
Don’t mope around your house feeling unwanted, undesirable and neglected. Instead, understand just how awesome you are, and remind yourself that any man would feel grateful to have you in their life. Book yourself a day at the spa or go for a scenic hike. They key is to do something that you really enjoy…you know, something that makes you happy! If you can remain happy and stay peaceful and calm from the inside out, your positive energy will radiate outwards, and your guy’s interest will be back before you even know it.
13 Don’t Talk About the Relationship
When a guy starts to lose interest, a bunch of thoughts will start to flood your head. You will wonder if your relationship is over forever, and you will wonder if you did something to really tick him off. It’s normal to want to have a sit-down conversation with him to hash things out, but honestly, now is not the time. If it has just been a few days, let him and the relationship simmer for a bit. There’s really no need to have a long and drawn out conversation about the relationship and where things are headed at this point. Maybe he has a legit reason as to why he has been physically, emotionally and mentally missing in action. But if you approach him too soon, you could push him even further away. This is why it’s important to let him come to you when he’s ready to discuss things.
12 Be Honest
We definitely don’t suggest that you sit and wait in silence forever. This is your life, too, and you have the right to know what’s going on with your relationship. If it has been more than a few weeks, and your guy is still distant from you, now’s the time to speak up and be honest. It’s better to know the truth than to sit around and try to figure out what’s going on in his sad.
To get him to open up and be honest about why his interest is fading, you need to approach him in a non-threatening way. Don’t immediately start crying, and don’t get all aggressive with him. Sit him down and let him know that the distance between the two of you has been bothering you lately, and you’re wondering if there’s a reason why your relationship has changed. This will allow him to tell you the truth about his feelings. And who knows, maybe it has nothing to do with you after all. Perhaps he has been really busy with a project at work, or his parents are really working his nerves and stressing him out. By the time your convo is over, you should have a better idea about where you stand with him.
11 Invite Him on a Group Outing
If you believe your guy’s interest is fading, inviting him out on a date may cause him to push away from you even further. So, to lighten the mood a little bit, ask him to accompany you on a group outing. If a bunch of your friends are going bowling, ask him to join along. Or, you can even setup a group activity of your own that you know he would love, like a day at the amusement park or a visit to the ballpark. If you want this group outing to go off without a hitch, make sure your guy is already friendly with the people in the group. This will make the day even more fun and laid-back for everyone involved.
But inviting him out on a group outing doesn’t always work like a charm. If your guy really is losing interest in you, a group outing won’t appeal to him at all. So keep reading to see how you can get this guy to agree to a face-to-face meeting.
10 Test Him With a One-on-One Date
If inviting him out for a group activity didn’t work, you can always try to get him to meet with you one-on-one. By setting up a date with him, you will be able to gauge his interest in person, and you will have the ability to decide if you want to wait things out with him, or if it’s time for you to finally move on.
In order for this to work, it’s best to already have a date already planned. So shoot him a text message and ask him if he wants to go to dinner on Thursday night at the cute little Mexican restaurant around the corner from his house. Don’t forget to end the message with: “My treat!”
Why Thursday night? Because a weekday date is a lot less stressful than a weekend date. If the date isn’t going as planned, you can always use the excuse that you have to leave early because you have work or school in the morning. Why suggest a location close to his house? Because it won’t take a lot of convincing or effort to get him to roll out of bed, throw on some sweatpants, and drive 1.2 miles to eat a free dinner.
If he agrees to the date, your behavior will either make or break the entire situation. Keep reading to see how you can pull this off to get your guy to regain his interest in you.
9 Pay Him a Compliment
You’re not the only one who loves to be told how beautiful you are. Men like to receive compliments as well, and they especially like to receive compliments from a pretty woman like you! When the two of you finally meet up, pay him a few compliments to boost his ego a bit. If his interest was waning because other areas of his life demanded his attention, giving him a compliment can really boost his confidence during this stressful time in his life.
But as with all things, a little bit goes a long way. Don’t come across as fake and too pushy when it comes to giving him praise. Keep your compliments short and sweet such as, “You look great in that shirt,” or, “You smell amazing.” These compliments will let him know although he has been acting like a complete turd lately, you’re still attracted to him, you still love being in his presence, and he’s still the guy for you.
8 Get Flirty Online
Using social media to get your guy’s attention is an awesome way to get him to notice you, and to remind him just how special you really are. The key to getting flirty on social media is to attack only one of his profiles at a time. If you bombard his Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and his Snapchat all at once, you’ll come across as a creepy stalker. So let’s just focus on sending some flirty messages on Instagram for now, shall we?
To pull this off effortlessly, and to regain your guy’s interest, go to his most recent photo and leave a comment that will really grab his attention. If it’s a photo of him and his buddies, single him out by leaving a comment directed towards him such as, “The guy in the blue shirt is a hottie.” If it’s a selfie, you can try a comment along the lines of, “I’ve always loved your eyes,” and if it’s a cheesy inspirational quote, leave him a comment such as, “You always know just what to say to get me through my hectic day xoxo.” Make him feel as if he’s the most amazing man in the world, and eventually he will snap out of his funk and come running back to the woman who makes him feel like a million bucks.
7 Post a Thirst Trap
A Thirst Trap is a picture that is posted on social media to garner attention, and it’s the best way to get your guy to realize what he’s missing out on.
After leaving him a flirty message on his Instagram, it’s time for you to utilize the Thirst Trap on your own Instagram profile. Now, you have to be careful, because if the trap is a little too thirsty, your guy may get completely turned off. So keep it cute, keep it classy, and remember, you’re trying to pull him towards you not push him away!
So get yourself all dolled up, put on a flattering outfit, and take a selfie that will knock his socks off. Or, post a throwback photo of yourself looking all cute (a photo that he has never seen, of course.) Stay away from group photos of you and your girls because you want all the attention to be on you, and you don’t want anyone else standing in the way at this point (don’t worry, your friends will understand.)
When pulled off correctly, the Thirst Trap is effective 9 times out of 10. Happy trapping!
6 Create a Challenge
If you have followed the tips on this list, you should have been able to partially regain your guy’s attention by this point. Now that he is calling and texting a little more frequently, it’s time to really put the ball in your court.
Think back to the days when you first met your guy. You were probably a little apprehensive about giving him a shot. You kept your life busy, you didn’t really care if he called you or not, and you took your sweet little time when it came to responding to his text messages. To keep your guy’s interest at this point, you need to channel the way you felt when you first met him, and implement it into the present. Become a challenge to him by not being readily available, don’t be too accessible, and don’t be so eager to see him. He will quickly notice that you’re not tripping over yourself just to spend time with him like before, and it will actually pique his interest over time!
5 Don’t Be Clingy
Being too clingy with your guy is the quickest way to get him to lose interest in you. Men don’t want to be tied down, they don’t want to feel like they’re the be-all and the end-all in your life, and they don’t want to be held totally responsible for your happiness. Thankfully, if you started off being a little too clingy, you still have some time to switch things around in your favor.
Now that your guy is showing signs that he is losing interest in you, you need to nip all of your clingy behavior right in the bud. Start showing him that you are independent, confident, and you have so much going on in your life that you don’t have the time to be up under him 24/7.
If you feel anxious, and your fingers are dying to dial his number, call a friend instead. If you’re feeling tempted to shoot him a text message, just throw your phone out the window. Okay, not really, but you need to get a hold of yourself and stop acting on impulse! If you back off from him and remove the clingy behavior from your life, it will actually compel him to come closer to you.
4 Pull Back
Giving your guy space is one thing, but pulling back is totally different. In fact, many women fail completely when they try to pull back, and it only causes more issues in the relationship. Pulling back is a very hard thing to do, especially if you’re already head-over-heels in love with your guy. Inside, your mind and your heart are telling you to call him one more time, to drive by his house and see if he’s at home and to drop off his favorite coffee at his job. If the two of you haven’t been communicating lately, doing these things can really get you banished from his life forever.
To pull back means to literally take a step back from the relationship. When your guy pulls away because he’s losing interest, you need to do the same. If he’s not calling, you should stop calling, too. If he’s short with you, you should be short with him, too. If he ignores you when you pass him by on the street, you should ignore him, too. Giving him a taste of his own medicine will definitely snap him out of whatever is causing him to lose interest in you.
When your relationship goes from hot to cold, you may be so desperate to get things back on track that you don’t take the time to actually figure out if he’s really the one for you. Your pride is causing you to go to great lengths to grab his attention, but what is it that you really want for yourself and your life? Do you want to have to chase a guy who isn’t that into you? Do you want to be confused about a guy’s emotions on a day-to-day basis? Do you want to feel unwanted and unloved every time your partner starts to lose interest in you? If you answered no to these questions, then it’s time for you to really do some reflecting on the entire situation.
Don’t sit around and wait for him to come up with a conclusion on which direction he wants the relationship to go, you need to take control of the situation on your own. Sit down with a pen and a notebook and start to write down your feelings. Make a list of the kind of relationship you want, and create a second list of what your current relationship is like. If the two list don’t match up, it may be time for you to pull the plug.
As soon as you tell him it’s over, he’ll probably start chasing you once again. It will then be your decision to give him another chance or to leave him in the past forever.
2 Dress to Impress
You already look amazing, but if you want to get his attention when he starts to pull away from you, you really need to kick things up a notch. When you look good on the outside, you feel even better on the inside, so perform a mini-revamp of your wardrobe to really catch his eye. A new pair of flattering jeans or a figure-hugging pencil skirt will definitely grab his attention in a good way. Once he sees you out and about looking like a million bucks, it should definitely reignite his desire for you. And if it doesn’t, well, at least you’re looking good enough to snag another man who may be interested in you!
When you’re dressed to kill, you’re sending all men a message that you mean business. You take pride in your appearance, you’re confident, you’re sexy, and you deserve a man in your life who realizes this and can appreciate you!
1 Show Interest
As women, we’re taught to sit back and let the guy make all the moves. Guys are supposed to call us, they’re supposed to schedule dates, and they’re supposed to pursue us relentlessly. This is why when a guy starts to drift away, most girls go absolutely nuts. They immediately think it’s a sign that he’s no longer interested, but it could actually mean that he needs to focus on his life for a second before he jumps back into things with you.
If you think your guy’s interest is fading, it’s important to let him know that you’re still interested in him, you still desire him, and you’re ready to pick up where the two of you left off. You can do this by sending him a text that says, “Thinking of you, can’t wait to see you again!” This lets him know that you haven’t given up on him completely. Once he tackles whatever issues are keeping him away from you, he will appreciate you even more for being so patient and so understanding.