First kisses are awkward whether it’s the first time you’ve been kissed or the first kiss with someone new. You think it’ll be less awkward after kissing a couple more people, but nope. It’s like you forgot how to kiss because everyone kisses differently, and it’s nerve-racking. It could either be amazing or really bad like the wet and sloppy ones. Yuck.
Did you know guys get really nervous when it’s the first kiss? Making the first move is not easy. He doesn’t want to come off like a creep when he initiates the kiss. It might seem like he’s playing it cool when he tries to kiss you, but his palms are probably sweating from all his nerves. You’d be surprised how many thoughts are running through his head before, during, and after kissing. He thinks of the best way to approach you. He considers asking you if it’s okay to kiss you, but he realizes how stupid that sounds. He worries he might have bad breath or food stuck between his teeth. Bad breath is the biggest turn-off, but you probably wouldn’t want to let him kiss you if you saw a piece of carrot stuck between his teeth. Basically, he wants the first kiss to be perfect.
You’re on a date with him, and he said you looked beautiful more than once. When you catch him looking at you, he smiles shyly. It’s really cute how he’s nervous around you. He doesn’t want to make any mistake because he doesn’t want to blow any chance of this turning into a relationship. But it’s hard for him to keep his eyes off of you especially when he’s thinking to himself, “I want to kiss her.” The problem is, he’s not quite sure how to approach you. He’s wondering how long he should make eye contact with you before it gets awkward, and he loses his chance. He’s thinking if he should just slowly move closer to you to see how you’d react. We all know it’s not easy making the first move.
He decides to kiss you, but he’s worried that his breath might smell. Even if he didn’t have garlic or onions, he still worries that he might have bad breath. He tells himself, “I should’ve taken a mint earlier.” It’s weird to take a mint or chew gum when you’re right there. He thought he could offer some to you, but then he thinks, “How am I supposed to kiss her if she’s chewing gum?” Well, he can’t because that’s gross. Maybe it’s okay if you’ve dated for a while, but definitely not for a first kiss. If he didn’t have anything minty in his pocket to freshen up his breath, then he’ll just hope that his breath is fine, and you won’t notice if it’s not. Everyone worries about having bad breath because it’s the biggest turn-off.
He wants to kiss you, but he’s not sure if you’d want him to. He considers asking you if it’s okay to kiss you, but he realizes how stupid it sounds. He thinks about it again and again. He doesn’t want you to think he’s coming on too strong in case it was too soon for you. It’s hard for him to not stare at your lips though because he really wants to kiss you. He looks at you more than usual to see if you’re giving him any signs that you want him to make the first move, and you’re waiting for it. Basically, he’s hesitant to kiss you because he thinks he might look like a jerk if you didn’t want to be kissed. It can be difficult to initiate the first kiss.
You guys go out for a little walk to just talk, or he drops you off at your place after the date. Either way, he had a great time with you, and he wants to kiss you. Before he goes in for a kiss, he wonders if he has any food stuck in his teeth because he did have that delicious meal earlier. It’s understandable why he would be worried about having a piece of carrot in the front of his teeth or a popcorn kernel if you guys went to the movies. He doesn’t want any food particles to fall into your mouth. It would also be embarrassing for him if you were to see it when he was leaning in to kiss you. You wouldn’t have wanted to kiss him if you saw something between his teeth.
Before he tries to kiss you, he wonders if you can tell how nervous he is. He hopes you can’t hear his heart beating so fast because he thinks it’s embarrassing if you could. He really wants to be a man, and just go for it, but it’s easier said than done. It’s okay. It’s normal to feel a bit nervous. It’s actually better that way because it means he really likes you, and he’s not a player. Anyway — there are a lot of thoughts running through his head like what if you don’t like the way he kisses or if his breath stinks. Because he’s nervous and overthinking everything, he wonders if he’s sweating and if it’s noticeable. He eventually calms himself down. He tells himself everything will be okay, and that he can do this.
It might be surprising or not to know he has a lot of thoughts when it comes to the first kiss. He might play it cool, but he doesn’t want to make a fool out of himself. He wants everything to be perfect, especially when he likes you. It’s cute. He’s worried about bad breath, food being stuck in his teeth, sweating, etc. After some time thinking about kissing you, he finally decides to just go for it. He tells himself to be a man. It’s understandable if he doesn’t initiate the kiss on the first or even second date. When he doesn’t kiss you after couple dates, he gives the impression that he’s not interested. It’s possible that he’s just nervous, or he’s waiting for you to make the first move.
Kissing isn’t just about locking lips and using tongue. He doesn’t want to leave his hands at his sides because it looks a bit ridiculous and the only thing moving will be your mouths. The kiss won’t be that intimate, either. It would instead look like he didn’t want to kiss you, and it was a dare or something. So, he thinks to himself, “What should I do with my hands?” while he’s kissing you. He wonders if it’ll be okay to place them on your hip like many guys do, but he worries you might not want that yet. He’s not sure if you’d be okay when he caresses the sides of your face, holds your hands or wraps his arms around you. He’s trying really hard to not make this kiss awkward.
It’s easy for him to determine which direction he should lean his head in to kiss you because he’s the initiator. If he chooses right, then you’ll naturally lean left. Everything’s good. But it’s weird to kiss in the same spot for longer than necessary, so after you guys have been kissing in that direction for some time, he’s likely to ask himself, “When should I turn my head to the left?” Turning head just happens, but because this is the first time, he’s thinking more than usual. He wonders if he should do it now or in a few seconds. The kiss with you seems to be going well, and he doesn’t want to ruin it. He thinks you might think the kiss is over when he pulls away to switch it up.
A kiss that’s wet and sloppy is the worst. At the beginning of the kiss, there’s not likely to be any tongue action. Maybe just lip-locking. He then wonders if there should be tongue. He decides to give it a try and puts his tongue in your mouth. He thinks it’s a good sign when you respond back. Next thought he has is whether it’s too much tongue for you or not. He doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable. He definitely doesn’t want to be sloppy. A lot of tongue can get messy, and it’s a turn-off for a first kiss. Less tongue can also be a bad thing because it might seem like he’s not that interested. There’s a lot going on in his mind. He just wants to be extra careful.
He obviously wants to know if you like the way he kisses. It’s what he’s wondering while he’s kissing you. Because he’s curious, he wants to open his eyes to see if you’re enjoying it. But he worries your eyes might be open when his eyes are. Some people, for whatever reason, keep their eyes open when they kiss. He’s not sure if you’re one of those, so he doesn’t want to take the risk of making eye contact with you. It will make things awkward quick. He really wants to see you though. He wants to see if your eyebrows are furrowed because that could mean you’re confused with the way he’s kissing, and you’re not sure what to do. He also can’t believe that he’s kissing you, like he did it! He’s the man.
It’s a common mistake to bang teeth while kissing. When he felt like his teeth touched yours, he thinks to himself, “Oh no. Did I just hit her teeth?” He’s embarrassed because it makes him look like he’s not a great kisser. He also worries he might’ve pushed too hard which led to his teeth knocking yours. He never wanted to come off aggressive. He thinks of all the possible things you might think of him. He tries to slow down and be more gentle, but he worries it might happen again. It could be funny the first time, but if it happens again, it might not be so funny. Teeth clashing is more likely to happen when it’s the first kiss. Everyone kisses differently, and he doesn’t know the way you kiss, but he’s learning.
When you guys pull away from the kiss, he hopes you don’t think he’s a bad kisser. It’s what bothers him the most. A lot of guys think they’re great kissers, and they want to be the best you’ve ever had. So, he replays how the kiss went over and over again to see if there was anything that he did wrong or anything he could’ve done better. He looks at you to see if you enjoyed it because he doesn’t want to ask if you did. He wants to know but not really. Instead, he’s wondering if he should try to kiss you again because he believes he can do better, but he thinks it’s a bad idea. It might make him look like he’s only dating you to get some action or trying too hard to impress you.
Now that the kiss is over, there’s that awkward silence. You’re both smiling, and he’s not sure what to say or do next. He asks himself, “What now?” He’s wondering if he should tell you he had a great time with you or that he enjoyed the kiss. It could be difficult to start up a conversation after you guys shared a special moment together. He doesn’t want to say anything stupid and ruin it. Because he doesn’t want to make the wrong move, he kind of expects you to say something. He might look like he’s not thinking about anything, and he’s just standing around, but there’s a lot on his mind. The only thing he knows for sure is that he’s not ready to leave just yet.
He wonders where he stands with you after the kiss. He asks himself if you’re his girlfriend now or if you guys are exclusively dating. He wants to know if the kiss meant anything to you because it did to him. He thought going on a date and having the first kiss with you make it somewhat official, but he doesn’t want to ask you, “What are we?” It makes him look desperate, and he thinks there’s a chance that you might’ve let him kiss you because you were being nice. He doesn’t want to say anything wrong that might make you run the other way in case the kiss was just a kiss to you. He also thinks you might already think he’s your boyfriend, and it’ll be embarrassing to ask what he is to you.
There were so many thoughts running through his head when he wanted to kiss you. He tried to think of a way to best approach you. He also worried if his breath smelled or if there was any food stuck between his teeth. He finally built up the courage to kiss you, but during the kiss, he worried his teeth might’ve touched yours or if he used his tongue too much. The kiss is over, and he’s happy it finally happened because it’s what he wanted to do for a while. Even though he thought the kiss was amazing, he was a tad upset that it was short. First kisses tend to be awkward, so. Well, he’s already looking forward to the next date because he wants to kiss you again and for a little bit longer.