15 Things You Didn't Know About The Big 'O'

There's soo much stuff that happens to your brain and body when climaxing. Sensations arise from signals being sent to your brain, which produces lots of chemicals and various reactions from your body. It's super interesting actually, and goes a long way in explaining why you feel the way you feel after a sexual encounter.

Here you'll learn why feelings of pleasure and even love are derived from climaxing. You'll learn why you grasp at the bed sheets and feel as though you've been lifted off the ground. You'll learn how having sex is a similar experience to taking drugs and so much more...

15 We lose control for a second

When climaxing, the part of the brain responsible for behaviour control (the lateral orbitofrontal cortex) shuts down for a moment. This means we lose control of our bodies for a short time while having an orgasm. And this is also what happens to people's brains who are on heroin. A study in The Journal of Neuroscience showed that a person's brain on heroin looks similar to a person's brain when they're orgasming.

14 Feelings of intimacy

Lots of people talk about how women can fall in love with the person they have sex with. There is some truth to this. When men and women reach orgasm the brain releases a chemical called oxytocin, also known as “the cuddle hormone”. This chemical produces feelings of intimacy, it creates feelings of bonding, trust and loyalty too. It's not yet certain whether this is different in men and women but it's thought that the higher levels of testosterone in a man's brain reduces the affects of oxytocin. That's why after your session you fell in love but for men this may not always be reciprocated. Thanks a lot brain.

13 There's a massive release of energy

Through all the foreplay and lovemaking your sexual energy is building and building (or it should be at least). So by the time you reach The Big O it's time for all of that built up sexual energy to be released. This is more of a physiological happening. When you climax, your bits respond and your muscles contract causing a strong out pour of sexual energy. This results in the feeling of relief and even a sort of weightlessness.

12 Curing headaches

According to Cosmopolitan magazine, 48% of headache sufferers claimed that thier orgasms did take away their headaches. Even more interesting, the orgasms relieved their headaches faster than the painkillers could have. Could be interesting fact to remember the next time you have a headache.

11 The amount of pleasure you feel depends on your pelvic floor


Turns out it's a really good idea to get going with those kegel exercises now, it's not just older women who need to do them to stop themselves from peeing a little in their pants. When your body reaches orgasm, your vagina, uterus and pelvic floor begin to contract every eight tenths of a second. This is what gives you those wonderful pleasurable feelings. Scientific studies have shown that the strength of your pelvic floor therefore correlates with your level of pleasure. The more toned it is, the better your orgasm.

10 It can last up to a minute and a half


Woohoo! This is the goal surely. We don't just want a quick burst of pleasure, we want an orgasm to last well over a minute. The truth is though it's quite rare for this to happen. Most people have a so-called Type I orgasm that lasts 20-30 seconds, but a lucky few also get Type II orgasms meaning that they get more random contractions for up to 90 seconds. The study that showed this also proved that there are similarities in the length of orgasm between men and women. Although most places you'll read that the average length of the male orgasm is 6 seconds while the average length of the female orgasm is 20 seconds. I haven't carried out a study myself, so believe what you want to believe.

9 Women who are insecure

Women who are insecure about their relationships are less likely to achieve an orgasm. This may be due to various factors, you can't fully concentrate or you are not letting go and just enjoying the moment. One thing we can learn here is to let go and enjoy the moment, being insecure is not helping you at all.

8 Your whole body feels it


There are both physiological and psychological effects when a person climaxes as we have seen. Waves of orgasm travel throughout your entire body, that's why you might shake or writhe around. Your breathing speeds up, as does your blood pressure and heart rate, making sex a good work out obviously. Sometimes there's a muscle reflex meaning you grasp with your hands and feet. When orgasming the tension of your muscles and even the engorgement of blood vessels reaches its peak. Basically there's a ton of crazy stuff going on in your entire body.

7 It can take a while to calm down


If you've had a really hot session you know it can take some time to cool off. After that almighty peek your body begins to recover and return to its normal state. The time it takes for this to happen differs from person to person. The time it takes for guys can depend on their age or level of fitness. For some people it can take just a few minutes, for others it takes longer. It can be half an hour or longer before you've fully calmed down. And men usually simmer down quicker than women.

6 Multiple: men vs. women 


This is where women have the advantage over men. The cooling off period we've just talked about is called a “refractory period” for men, during which it's impossible for guys to climax again. However, this doesn't exist for women and so if she's continually stimulated it's possible to have another orgasm. The number of orgasms a woman can have is unlimited, yay! The Guinness World Record that you can try to beat is 222 orgasms, which was achieved by a Danish woman. Yet when it comes to multiple orgasms, unless you're a very lucky girl, it probably won't happen every time you have sex. It's all about experimenting and being at one with your body. I'm sure there are some guides out there you can take a look at.

5 The French call it 'le petit mort'

Many women have been known to faint while climaxing, and sadly in very rare cases have had heart failure and died from them. For that reason, the French call an orgasm le petit mort (the little death), even though this is a sad fact the cases of death are very rare.

4 Nerves send signals to the brain


Duh! Anybody who took a basic biology class knows that we feel things because nerves around ourt bodies send messages to the brain. But what you maybe didn't know is the placement of these nerves around your genitals and the fact that there are four different types of nerves that tell your brain you're getting there. I'm not going to share with you lots of big words that you probably don't care about and won't remember but, as an example the hypogastric nerve sends signals from the uterus and cervix.

3 Several areas of your brain respond


There are plenty areas of the brain that are affected when the nerves send signals. As we've talked about, the areas of the brain in charge of dopamine and oxytocin are affected but there are other interesting parts too. For example, orgasms hit the amygdala which regulates emotions and the cerebellum which controls muscle function. In fact, a woman's amygdala ,which is in charge of anxiety and fear, reduces. This means that sex can be an amazing cure for stress and anxiety, what a brilliant excuse! Orgasms also reach a part of the brain which reduces pain in women, making sex a natural pain-killer too. Your headache excuse has officially been thrown out of the window ladies.

2 Science can tell when you're faking it

Women fake it sometimes to make their lover feel better. But there is a scientific way to tell if you're faking it. An MRI scan can monitor brain activity to reveal whether a woman is actually having an orgasm or not. This makes perfect sense given all that we now know about how much your brain reacts when you're climaxing. It doesn't really matter though, does it? It's highly unlikely that your partner will bring an MRI scanner into the bedroom.

1 There are very few differences between what happens in a man's brain and a woman's brain


Obviously, we're not talking about what you're thinking about during sex because that would probably differ a lot... “I have to do the laundry tomorrow,” versus, “oh yeah, this is awesome.” We're talking about the fact that there are few physical differences in the male and female brain during orgasm. Most of the same stuff is heightened or reduced. But there are a couple of differences, we've talked about the reduction in anxiety that only happens in women for instance. Another interesting difference we've touched upon is that sex can be a sort of a pain-killer in women. Maybe that's why some chicks can endure a Fifty Shades type of sexual experience, who knows?

Sources: cosmopolitan.co.ukwomenshealthmag.com

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