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15 Signs Your Life Isn't As Bad As You Think

It is easy to feel like the world is crumbling around you when things go wrong. It is only human to expect everything to go according to plan and to happen in the exact timing we would like it to. So when unexpected issues arise in our lives, we come face-to-face with hurdles we hadn’t anticipated and we’re running late for the deadlines we’ve saddled ourselves with, it’s easy to throw our hands up in the air and scream, “This sucks!” Even the most positive people can lose track of how blessed they are when life chucks them lemons. But when you finally put things into perspective, you’ll probably realize that your life actually isn’t imploding, and things aren’t nearly as grim as you thought. Even if you are trekking through a rough patch, keep an eye out for the following 15 signs that it isn’t the end of the world.

15 You Have A Roof Over Your Head

This is a basic one that, let's be real here, most of us definitely take for granted. Having a place to stay sadly isn’t a given for everyone, and you only need to take a walk through the busy streets of any public city to remind yourself that some people don’t have anywhere to live. A roof over your head might not seem like a big deal when you’ve always had one, but if you’re really feeling down, it’s sometimes necessary to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Gaining perspective like that allows you to see things for what they really are beyond the little bubble that you live in (even if you don't realize that you're in a bubble, you totally are). Even if your current residence is nothing like your dream home in Bel-Air, having any place at all to live is something to be grateful for, and a sign that your life isn’t being as brutal to you as you thought it was.

14 You Have Food

Food is another part of life that most of us definitely forget to be thankful for. You might not be able to afford lobster dinners every week, but being able to put anything in your stomach is a sign that your life could really be a lot worse. If you feel like you’re hating your life at the moment, and you’re starting to remind yourself of Annie from Bridesmaids after she loses her job, her jerk of an almost boyfriend, her apartment, and her best friend, start by noticing the small things. You probably take for granted the fact that you have a fridge that has groceries in it, or that you don’t remember the last time you had to miss a meal. It would be amazing if we could all afford those personalized salads that the Kardashians are always eating, but as long as you’ve got something to sustain you, that’s an important start!

13 You Have A Job

We know, we know: if you hate your job, it’s pretty hard to feel like it’s making your life better. But being employed is a blessing. You may groan about having to get up early and commute to a place where you hate all the other employees and are bored out of your brain for the majority of the day but try to look at the positives. At least you’ve got some money coming in. At least you have something to occupy your mind and a sense of belonging and value, no matter how small. If you do hate your job, you can always work towards finding one that actually suits you. But that takes time, effort and courage, so don’t beat yourself up if you have to work somewhere you’re not passionate about for a while. Focus on the benefits of having any job and know you’re on the right track. You may not see it yet but things will improve.

12 You’ve Learned From The Past

You might feel like having terrible experiences in the past has ruined your life, but if you’ve learned anything at all from your time here, it’s a good sign. They say that history is an important subject to study at school because if you know what happened in the past, you can prevent it from happening again in the future, and the same applies here! It’s okay to wish that you never went through the things that you did, because they may have gotten you to the place you’re in now, but the lessons that you learned from those experiences are honestly priceless. If you have knowledge now that you didn’t have before, it’s like you’re equipped with the strong armor you need to get through life’s future obstacles and come out unscathed on the other side. It’s a sign that things have the potential to get better, and all hope definitely isn't lost.

11 You Have An Education

Whether it’s a college degree, a certificate, a master's degree, or finishing high school, all education counts! Both the qualifications gained from education and the knowledge you acquired arm you with an advantage. That’s not to say that those who don’t have access to education are doomed because disadvantaged people have risen above their circumstances to achieve amazing things in the past. But if you are educated, it’s a sign that your life isn’t that terrible. Even if it’s been years and you need to brush up on the information you learned, you can always turn that into some serious power. In some countries, people are denied the right to have a decent education, so even if you complained all the way through school and spent most of your time sitting in detention, count yourself lucky that you had access to it, and you can now use what you learned.

10 You Have Some Kind Of Goal

Having goals is tough because the long, rejection-filled road toward success can really get a girl down! If you find that it’s taking you longer than you’d anticipated to achieve your goals, take comfort in the fact that at least you have them in the first place. Trust us—there are people everywhere who don’t have anything that they’re passionate about, and no plan to work towards. Having something to aim for is a success in itself because you’ve identified what you want. That’s harder than it looks! Goals are also admirable because there certainly is a difference between dreaming about something and having a plan in place to achieve it. It doesn’t matter if you’ve faced rejection after rejection, been laughed at and criticized to no end. Taking action to get the things you want is something to be proud of. That’s how success begins, and you’re well on your way.

9 You Have Something To Look Forward To

It doesn’t matter how big or small or silly, having anything to look forward to in your life is an indication that there are a few rays of light left. A weekend away to a country house in six months’ time, a friend’s wedding in two years, or even a coffee date with your sister next week—they’re all good signs! Life is full of ups and downs, and though we often expect that ours will be full of huge, climactic, movie-like ups, sometimes the good parts of life are a lot smaller and a lot more scattered. The main thing is that they’re there; you definitely need to do something about a lifestyle which doesn’t have any of the little perks that make you smile just from thinking about them. If you don’t have anything at all to look forward to, book something right now. Maybe you can plan to start an epic binge-watching session of that show everyone is always talking about, or you can grab dinner with your best friend tonight. There you go.

8 You Cut A Toxic Person Out Of Your life

It’s okay to mourn the relationships that meant something, but if you’ve cleansed your life of somebody who was no good, that's actually awesome. And you should definitely be proud of that. It means your life is on its way to being a lot better, even if you don’t feel like it is. It’s always sad when a relationship ends, and you will feel down for a while. You might go through a phase where you feel like life isn’t worth living and you’ll never find someone like that again, but trust in the fact that those are just your emotions getting the better of you. Giving someone the boot is difficult and not everyone has the mental strength to do it -- that’s why there are so many people who stick around in toxic relationships! If you’ve done something about it, you should feel proud. You might still be feeling the initial sting, but you have improved your life!

7 You're Healthy

Good health is something else that many people totally forget to be thankful for. There are so many people suffering from all kinds of physical and mental sicknesses that it’s really a blessing to be walking around without any ailments. People who do struggle with illness can absolutely still prosper and have amazing lives, but they have the added difficulty of doing that while they’re not in pristine health. Being healthy is so normal to some people that they really do take it for granted, and it can be useful to remember that there are people who have trouble walking or eating or breathing or thinking clearly. Things may be disintegrating to dust in every other part of your life (again, see Annie from Bridesmaids), but if you still have your health, you’re better off than many. Anyone can get sick at any time, so don’t forget to be grateful!

6 You Laugh A Lot

Just like how awesome it is if you have something to look forward to if you have something to laugh about, then your life isn't as bad as you think at all. The dark clouds may be taking over and things with your job or your family or your relationship may be hanging by a thread, but you still have those little breaths of fresh air that drastically improve the quality of any life, and they’re super important! We’ve seen people who have been to hell and back but can still have a good laugh, and the ability to do that definitely means it’s not over yet. The fact that you’ve still got things to make you chuckle is a good sign—it means that those small scatterings of happiness are still present in your otherwise rotten experience. Being able to laugh in the face of lemons also says loads about your attitude, which is crucial in overcoming adversity.

5 You’re Not Afraid

Many of us are fortunate enough to live in communities where we don’t have to be scared, and we forget that a lot of others constantly have that right taken away from them. There are people all over the world who fear for their lives on a daily basis and worry for the safety of their families. There are also those who carry the burden of prejudice and have to worry about having their opportunities removed because of elements beyond their control, which is something that many of us can’t even imagine. So even if you don’t have any of the other things on this list, living without fear is a sign that your life isn’t that terrible. It could be worse. You might be scared of what could happen if you walk home alone at night, but as long as you’re living mostly fear-free, that right there is a reason to smile big, and that's for sure.

4 You Don't Follow The Crowd

Being the odd one out might have caused you stress in the past, and you might even think that it’s actually making your life more unbearable, but that isn’t the case! Having the ability to stand alone while everyone else is doing the same thing is something to be immensely proud of, though we get it’s scary AF! If you feel strongly about something, it’s worth being the odd one out to stand by what you believe in, whether that includes taking on a career that seems bizarre to others or making big decisions about your life that people don’t get. It takes courage to stand out when so many people live to seek approval, so props to you for having the guts to do you, whether it’s working out or not. That says a lot about you. You won’t settle for less, and your future is definitely sparkling and bright, whether you realize it or not.

3 You’ve Survived Something

As we’ve mentioned, having a tough past can make you feel like you drew the short straw. Troubling experiences can scar you and make things tougher in the present, but whatever you’ve been left with, the fact that you’re still here says that you survived. That in itself is something to be grateful for, and a sure sign that life isn’t as bad as it could be. The past may not have made you stronger as the saying tends to go, but you got through it! Even if it came with a whole bunch of negative side effects, you probably learned something about how to cope next time. Even if all you've survived is having people laugh at you or being super embarrassed like anything Rachel from Friends has experienced (like when her hair got stuck in that swing), you should be totally proud. It's also a sign that the universe definitely has your back.

2 You Have A Conscience

You might swear that your niceness will be your downfall, but trust us: it’s better to have a conscience than to not have one! We get how your predisposition to care about people could be perceived as a weakness, but it really does improve your quality of life. Yup, people will take advantage of that sometimes, and you don’t have to be a pushover to be a decent person. But being that genuine, civilized person will enable you to have meaningful relationships, and to improve the lives of others. It will give you something to live for when all else fails. Sorry to spoil one of the messages of Harry Potter, but people who are incapable of love are really the ones we should be feeling sorry for. It seems like everything comes easy to them and they get ahead quicker, but they’re definitely looking at a lifetime of loneliness and emptiness. True story!

1 Someone Cares About You

If there’s anybody who cares about you, your life isn’t totally melting down. We’re not even talking about having a romantic relationship because life without a bae can actually be better than life with one! It can be a parent, a sibling, a distant cousin, a best friend, a mentor or even a co-worker. Having someone there that’s willing to listen to you and have your back is crucial even for the lone wolves amongst us! Believe it or not, there are a lot of people who don’t have somebody to talk to, so it’s not as guaranteed as you might think. We’re lucky that today it’s easy to meet people in a variety of different settings, even if you have to settle for online interaction for the time being. Having company that cares is important, and a sign that you don’t have to freak out about your life just yet. So don't worry. Things are really pretty good.

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