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15 Signs You Should Say Goodbye To Toxic People

Not everyone who comes into your life is meant to stay in it. Some make your life better, for the time being, others teach you valuable lessons, and others are there for no reason other than providing you with some mild and brief entertainment. No matter why people show up, most of them will leave because, well, you just can't have hundreds of people who play a super important role in your life. That never really happens. Sometimes people leave your life voluntarily or there's a natural kind of distance that happens. Others, unfortunately, linger, slowly dragging you into their never-ending abyss of negativity. A person can only handle so much of this person before getting fed up and blowing up on them. There comes a time in everyone’s life when we have to make decisions about who should stay and who should no longer be a part of our life. It’s never easy and it can even be super difficult to know when we should start cutting people out of our lives. What if you think everyone adds something positive to your life and you’re just going through a negative phase? Well, we can tell you with 100 percent certainty that you need to surround yourself with good, positive people or you will definitely see the negative effects. Here are 15 signs that you need to cut certain people out of your life.

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15 You Don’t Have Fun Anymore

Your friends are there to make your life more fun. Shouldn’t you have a good time when you’re around your supposed good friends? If you’re no longer having any fun in your life, then it’s time to cut people out. You should only surround yourself with people who add entertainment and fun to your everyday life. If you’re constantly going out with the same people and coming home in a worse mood than when you left, that’s a huge sign that something is wrong and you should be reevaluating who you spend time with. Chances are you’re keeping people around who aren’t adding anything of value to your life and bringing down your fun factor a ton. If this sounds like you in any way, it could be time to cut certain people out of your life and move on to those who can give you a good time.

14 Your Life Is Full Of Drama

Are you constantly struggling with balancing the drama that’s going on in your life? If you feel overwhelmed by the amount of personal issues that you have to deal with on a regular basis, it could be time to get rid of a few people who just don’t belong in your life anymore. Drama is a fact of life. There are going to be times where you have to take on someone else’s problems and help them through it. But if you have so many issues to deal with that you never even have time for your own, you need to start cutting people off. A small amount of drama is good in your life in order to keep you in-the-know with friends and even keep you entertained but it should never be the most abundant thing in your life.

13 You're Super Negative

Even the nicest and most positive people can start to have an ugly, negative outlook on life. They make excuses and blame stress, hunger, PMSing, or really anything else that could possibly make sense. The truth? They feel this way because they have super negative people in their lives. Their friends always complain, are never happy about anything and pull them into their sour worldview. When you’re around people who are negative all the time, your own views and moods alter with them. People’s emotions are contagious. If you’re struggling to stay positive during trying times, you may want to think about cutting certain people out of your life. Getting rid of negativity will not only take away some of your stress (bonus!) but you’ll open yourself up to more positive people and can be in a great mood more often.

12 You Feel Bad About Yourself

If you’re spending your time with the right people, you should feel like a Queen amongst a village of peasants, always. Your friends are there to build you up and make you feel good about yourself... even if you look like a poor peasant digging food out of a garbage can (hey, we've all hit super low points before, right?). If you have low self-esteem, you may not realize how the people around you make you see yourself. You may think your friends are just trying to give you constructive criticism sometimes, but they’re actually insulting you and completely changing the way you see yourself in such a negative way. When you start noticing more and more insecurities – especially after your so-called friends have pointed them out – it’s a huge sign that it’s time to cut people out of your life. Be happy about who you are and surround yourself with others who feel the same way.

11 You Give And Get Nothing In Return

Relationships are not one-way streets. As much as some people like to think that they can sit back and put nothing into it while the other person does everything, it doesn't exactly work like that. Not for very long, at least. If you’re starting to feel like you’re putting in the majority of the effort with your friends or anyone else in your life and are feeling burnt out all the time, it could be time to cut people out of your life. You can’t let people walk all over you and give them everything you have. You need to benefit from the relationship, too. You’ll exhaust yourself and begin to resent everyone who is doing this. Stop giving to those who don’t deserve it and cut them out of your life in order to regain some of that energy. You should never have to try and please people, you should want to.

10 All You Hear Is Gossip

Sometimes gossip can be a good thing. Talking about others can help reduce your own stress and worries and plus you can totally bond with the person you're chatting with. But sometimes gossip can be horrible, negative, and debilitating. If you feel like all of the conversations you have with the people in your life are nothing but gossip, it could be time to get rid of them so you can make time for more meaningful, deeper conversations. Gossip is so trivial. It’s so simple and a lot of the time, it’s negative. Bringing up negative aspects of another person’s life won’t make you feel better for long. In fact, it will make you take on a negative outlook on life and this is so harmful to your psyche. An abundant amount of gossip in your life is a sure sign that it’s time to get those scissors out and do some chopping when it comes to your social life.

9 You Have A Super Short Temper

Having a short temper can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it's just your background and the way you were brought up, and other times, you've got a real anger-management problem that needs to be treated. If you’re someone who is neither of those things and you just realized that you freak out at the littlest of things all the time, it could be a sign that the people in your life aren’t doing you a whole lot of good. If you don't normally feel super angry, and all of a sudden you've got a crazy short fuse, that can be from having the wrong kind of person around you. Cutting them loose can definitely solve your temper issues.

8 You Spend A Ton of Time Alone

There are loners out there and then there are people who just want to be alone because they’re sick and tired of putting up with everyone else’s B.S. Sometimes when you want some alone time, you want to get away from people who are seriously stressing you out. When you are finding solace in your alone time and you crave it frequently – almost on a daily basis – then you’re more than likely being negatively affected by the people in your life. It’s natural to want to be alone from time to time in order to recharge and be alone with your thoughts but it’s not normal to want to spend every day in the confines of your own home without any human contact at all.

7 You’re Drinking A Lot

When we get stressed out and just can't even, we usually relax in one way or another. Some of us choose to meditate or do yoga or something super healthy... but most of us would rather down a few martinis and drunkenly slur our complaints to the bartender about all the crap we have going on in our lives. If you have started popping open a bottle of wine even more than usual, it could be a sign that the people in your life are driving you to drink because you can’t handle them. We all like to have a few drinks and have a good time. It’s only when you start using alcohol as a coping mechanism that you should start being concerned about whom you’re keeping around. Don’t let your “friends” let you become an alcoholic just because you’re too blind to see the signs that they’re no good for you.

6 You're Defensive

Are you constantly justifying your decisions? Do you always have to sit and explain why you did something, why you’re starting a new hobby, or why you started dating someone new? It's not great to always feel like you need to defend your life choices, so if you feel this way, you need to cut some people out of your life and soon. You should always be confident about doing what makes you happy. People who are truly good friends and add value to your life should want to know what you're doing makes you happy. They should never demand answers or explanations. If you feel like a defense attorney, then you need to start finding some new people in your life that accept your decisions for what they are.

5 You Fight With Everyone All The Time

Arguments between friends and family happen all the time. It can be a sign of a very healthy relationship. However, if you end up having arguments with just about everyone around you for reasons that seem insignificant afterward, it might very well be a sign that you have to get rid of certain people in your life that are doing no good for you. The reason arguing a lot is so bad is because you’re obviously more on edge which means that there are certain things in your life that aren’t lining up and making you truly happy. There are some factors that can also make you on edge, but those usually go away when you’re around people that you like. But if the people you’re arguing with happen to be the ones who are supposed to make you feel better, it’s likely that you’re going to have to cut them out.

4 You’re Anxious A Lot

People get anxious for all kinds of reasons: a presentation coming up at work, an extra busy time at work, etc. Or you could just be someone who gets anxious easier than others. When you have anxiety about work or paying the bills that’s completely normal. If you’re getting anxiety when you’re supposed to be heading over to a friend’s house so you can have a good time, well, that's definitely a huge red flag. Your friends are the people who are supposed to take your anxiety away. The people in your life are there to make it easier and more enjoyable, not harder and full of anxiety. If this sounds like you, then it’s about time you start cutting people out of your life. Not only will you feel better all around, but you’ll have more energy to deal with real concerns for anxiety.

3 You Don’t Have Support

We all need support in our lives. Without it, we’re basically doomed to walk around without the encouragement we need to succeed in life and do all of the things that we aspire to. Support can mean all the difference between success and failure. Do you have solid people you can go to on any given day and ask for their support and they’ll be there, no questions asked? If you answered, “no” when thinking about anybody that’s close to you, then you have to cut them out of your life. You need people around that are going to push you to do everything you set your mind to. You need people you can count on to pick you up when you’ve fallen and if you don’t have that in certain people, it could be time to cut them out of your life. Your life is too precious to spend time with people who don’t value your goals and dreams.

2 You're Pretty Mean Lately

We like to think that people are generally pretty nice, but when someone is super mean, well, you always think what or who is making them feel that way. The people you surround yourself with pretty much show the kind of person that you yourself are. If you’ve started noticing that you’ve turned into somewhat of a “bitter old lady” (even if you’re not old) then chances are you’re spending your time with people who are also acting this way. Nobody wants to be seen as a mean person and the best way of preventing this is to cut off the people who are affecting you so negatively. Only then can you free yourself from whatever it is about them that has made you start acting in a way that you would be embarrassed for your grandmother to know about.

1 You Feel Completely Alone

Loneliness is one of the worst feelings in the world. It’s so bad because it doesn’t just mean that you’re physically by yourself, it means that you feel like it’s you against the world. If you're surrounded by friends and family and still feel alone, that definitely means these people are the wrong ones to keep around. When you have an abundance of people who are good for you and actually care about you, you’ll never feel like you have to face anything alone. So if you’ve been feeling like you can’t get help from anyone and you’re completely alone, it could be because you’re keeping toxic people in your life. In order to feel whole again, you have to remove those people from your life. You won't believe how different you feel once you say goodbye to any negative, toxic people. It may be tough in the short-term, but trust is: it's totally worth it in the long run.

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