Ahh, unrequited love. It sucks, doesn’t it? You really thought you found someone you clicked with on all levels, but you now feel that his interest is lacking. You try to pick up the slack to help balance out your relationship, but in the end, you realize that you’re the one who’s doing all the work. You’re constantly texting and calling first, you’re planning all the dates, and getting him to open up is harder than gaining entry into The Pentagon. Suddenly, you start to wonder if maybe you like him more than he likes you. Don’t just assume the guy is shy or he’s afraid of falling in love. In most cases, this lack of enthusiasm is a blatant sign that you care a lot more about the relationship than he does.
Instead of continuing to travel down this road that will surely lead you to heartbreak, keep reading to see the 15 signs that you like him more than he likes you. If this sounds like you’re situation, now’s the time to take control of your love life!
15 He Shuts Down Emotionally
You know that feeling when you really really like a guy, and you’re just counting down the days until you can see him again and tell him how you really feel about him? Well if your guy isn’t as anxious to be open with you about his feelings, just know that you definitely like him more than he likes you. A guy who is unsure about his feelings for you will back away from any conversations that have to deal with where your relationship is headed, how he feels about the situation, and his real thoughts about you. Your best bet would be to dump him A.S.A.P. Of course, we all develop feelings at our own pace, but if you feel you have given him an ample amount of time to express himself, and he’s still cautious about opening up, find someone who is more willing to meet you halfway when it comes to emotionally bonding.
14 You Plan All the Dates
You know when a guy likes you because he is eager to plan all of your dates. He will plan a picnic for you during your lunch break, invite you out to see the movie of your choice, and book reservations at that super classy restaurant you have been dying to try. But when you like a guy more than he likes you, you will discover that planning dates becomes your job. Suddenly you realize he doesn’t invite you out very often, and the only time you see each other is when you initiate an outing. He’s not too busy, and he definitely isn’t too shy. He just doesn’t like you as much as you like him. If you stopped pursuing him, and stopped planning all of your dates, it’s pretty likely that you would never even hear from him again. It sucks, but you know that it’s the truth.
13 You're All Over Him
When two people really like each other, they can’t keep their hands to themselves. They are constantly hugging, rubbing each other’s backs, holding hands, caressing each other, and they barely come up for air during one of their hour-long make out sessions. If you really want to know if a guy likes you more than you like him, all you have to do is sit back and observe how physical he gets with you. If you notice that you’re the one who’s constantly all over him, you have to initiate all of the cuddling, and you’re the first to grab his hand when the two of you are in public, there’s a chance that you’re way more into him than he is into you. You deserve the same level of affection in your relationship, so it is probably best for the two of you to go your separate ways.
12 You Never Get to Say Anything
When it comes to engaging in conversation, a man who likes you more than you like him will allow you be the star of your interactions. He will ask you questions about your job, your life and your friends. And he will sit there gleefully as he soaks up each and every word. But when you like a guy more than he likes you, you will be the one who is asking all of the questions. Your conversations will revolve around him and his life, and he will never ask you any questions back in return. Just take this as a sign that he really doesn’t care to get to know you. This lack of reciprocation and his blatant disinterest in what you have to say is proof that you relationship is definitely unbalanced. You could offer up information about yourself without waiting for him to ask, but who really wants to do that? Your best bet is to kick him to the curb, and find a guy who likes you and really wants to get to know you.
11 He Always Ends the Call First
Most men hate chatting on the phone, but they will talk to their girlfriends because they know it makes them happy. They will suck it up, listen to you what you have to say, and they will wait for you to end the conversation first (even if they know you’ll probably talk their ear off for hours.) But when a guy doesn’t like you as much as you like him, he will always find a way to cut the conversation short. He will come up with some excuse as to why he has to hang up of the phone, or worst of all, he will blame it a bad connection and hang up in your face. Don’t bother calling him back because he’s going to send you straight to voicemail! A guy who likes you more than you like him would never act this way. Talking to you on the phone would be the highlight of his day!
10 You Get Upset at Your Title
When you really like a guy, of course you want him to feel the same way about you. But in most cases, one of you will always have stronger feelings. When these feelings are really unbalanced, it can cause issues in the relationship, and it can make you feel like you’re being taken for granted. You will start to show your discontent in the weirdest ways, and little things will really bug you, like the way he introduces you to friends and family. You know that you like a guy more than he likes you when you scoff after he introduces you by your name only. You wonder why he can’t introduce you as his girlfriend? Because he doesn’t take pride in you, and your relationship is not something that he feels he needs to boast about. This is the type of man you definitely don’t want to be in a relationship with. You will never be good enough for him, and he will never have feelings for you the way you have feelings for him.
9 You Ditch Your Friends
When you’re feeling so-so about a guy, you tend to keep your social life intact. You don’t allow him to come into your life and shake things up. You keep a hold of your friends, and you make time to schedule outings with them. But when you like a guy more than he likes you, you will frequently ditch your friends, and totally ignore them just so you can spend more time with your boyfriend. Your friends are totally aware of your behavior, by the way, and they will be right there when you finally come to your senses and realize you’re in a lopsided relationship. If you’ve noticed that you haven’t seen your friends since you entered into this new relationship, it’s time you get ahold of yourself. Your unbalanced relationship won’t last forever, and you’ll eventually realize your feelings for your guy are stronger than your feelings for him. Thankfully, your friends will be there in the end to help you nurse your broken heart.
8 You Try too Hard to Impress Him
When a guy is really digging you, he will do whatever he can to impress you. He will get a haircut, put on his nicest clothes, and get a carwash before picking you up for a date. He will open up doors for you, allow you to order first, and try to impress you with stories about how he was the top football player on his high school team. But when you are the one steering the relationship, and your heart is more into it than his, you will be the one trying to put your best foot forward at all times. Unfortunately, no matter how hard you try to impress him, it will never be enough. This guy is lackluster about you and your relationship. He doesn’t really care about impressing you because he doesn’t care about the relationship. It should be clear to you at this point that you definitely like him more than he likes you.
7 You Accept Last Minute Dates
It’s 3 p.m. on a Monday, and he sends you a text to ask if he can stop by after work to “watch some Netflix.” What do you do? If you like him more than he likes you, you will gladly accept this last minute date as long as it means you get to spend time with him. When a guy is lukewarm about your relationship, he won’t spend too much time thinking of fun and exciting dates the two of you can go on. Instead, he will wait until the last minute to hit you up. But by accepting the bare minimum from a guy, you’re sending out the wrong message. You’re letting him know that putting you as an afterthought is okay, and it gives him confirmation that he has the upper hand in the relationship. He’ll probably continue to date you because, hey, who wouldn’t want to be with someone who’s always available and on-call? But at some point, the fact that you like him more than he likes you will cause your relationship to quickly crash and burn.
6 He Constantly Cancels On You
A guy who really likes you wouldn’t even dream of canceling your date. He will do whatever it takes to show up on time, and if something else pops up in his schedule, he will still find a way to make your date happen. But the guy who cancels on you frequently isn’t in to you. As a matter of fact, he likes you a lot less than you like him. He cancels on you because he just doesn’t feel the urger to see you, the spark isn’t there, and he’d much rather lay at home watching reruns. You can let the first few cancelations slide, as long as he suggests an alternative date and time. But if he’s canceling on you every single week, and doesn’t make an effort to reschedule, just know that he doesn’t like you too much, and you’re pretty much in a relationship by yourself.
5 He Always Has an Excuse
He always has a stupid excuse as to why he didn’t text you back, why he didn’t call you, and why he left a smiley face on his ex-girlfriend’s most recent Instagram post. Aren’t you tired of hearing his excuses? Lets think back to a time when you were dating a guy who liked you way more than you liked him…he never had an excuse, because he was always on his best behavior. He would text you back promptly, and he would always call when he said he would. You didn’t have to worry about him talking to his exes because he had blocked them all from his phone and his social media accounts so that he could put all of his focus on your relationship. But the guy you’re seeing now seems to always be messing up, and you’re tired of hearing his excuses. You like him more than he likes you, so the excuses will never end until you finally pull the plug on this unbalanced relationship.
4 You've Stopped Dating Others But He Hasn't
If the two of you aren’t in a committed relationship yet, but you really think he has potential, you’ve probably already stopped dating other guys, right? You want to see where things go with him, so you’ve stopped accepting date invitations, and you no longer give your number out to other men. You’re putting all of your energy into the hopes of this one guy finally making you his girlfriend, but sadly, he’s still keeping his options open. It is always best to multi-date until the two of you are in an exclusive relationship, but if you’ve stopped dating others, and you know he’s still casually seeing other girls, it means that you like him more than he likes you. He may just need some time to realize you’re the one, but if this goes on for too long, it is definitely time for you to move on.
3 You Always Make the First Move
A guy who has the hots for you will be all over you the second you walk through his door. But when you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t care if you come or go, you will always have to make the first move if you want some action in the bedroom. Don’t you want to feel desired? Don’t you want to feel like the sexist woman in the world every time the two of you get intimate? Well, it won’t be happening with this guy. He doesn’t like you as much as you like him, and his interest level can be shown in his desire to get intimate. You deserve to be with someone who is physically and sexually attracted to you. So why even bother wasting your time with a guy who doesn’t like you enough to step up and make the first move?
2 You Always Contact Him First
When you’re in a relationship with a guy who really likes you, he will instinctively do most of the work. Think of it as the man being the hunter and the woman being the prey. He wants to capture you, and he knows in order to do so, he needs to keep the lines of communication open. But when you like a guy more than he likes you, you will notice that you don’t hear from him too often. As a matter of fact, it has been days since he last sent you a text message. So you casually reach out to him by sending him a quick “hello.” He responds, and he seems happy, so you believe everything is cool, right? Wrong. A few more days pass by and you realize that you haven’t heard from him again. If a guy isn’t taking the time to contact you, it’s a sign that his interest level in you is really low. Take your hands off the phone, stop reaching out, and let this guy go on his merry little way. You deserve better than this.
1 You Always Cancel Your Plans
If your friends are still holding out hope that maybe you’ll come to your senses and dump the guy who doesn’t like you as much as you like him, they may still invite you out every weekend. But every time they ask you to meet up at that new bar that just opened up down the street, you agree to join them…until your guy sends that last minute text to ask you to hang out. You then find yourself in the habit of agreeing to plans, only to end up canceling when your guy wants to spend time with you. But would your boyfriend do the same for you? Probably not. You know why? Because he just doesn’t like you as much as you like him. His social life with his friends and family is important to him, and a woman he’s feeling so-so about isn’t going to get in the way of that. If you find that you’re always canceling plans because of him, take a step back and realize that you like him more than he likes you.