The first days of a new relationship are so exciting. When you start dating someone, you want to be around him all the time, go on cute dates every weekend, and tell all your friends just how amazing he is. And since he actually wanted to make it official, you know that this is so much more than a short fling or a casual hook up. Naturally, you’ll be falling head over heels and feeling all those butterflies. As time goes by and things get more serious between the two of you, you might start to wonder if it’s meant to last. If you feel really strongly about him, you might be worried that he doesn’t feel the same way. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to tell if he’s just as invested in your relationship as you are. Here are 15 signs that your relationship is meant to last:
15 His family loves you
If you’re serious about being with someone for the long haul, it’s important that you get along well with his family members. The first time you meet them might be nerve-wracking, and that’s totally normal. But if it goes well and you make a great first impression, they won’t forget how wonderful you two are together! If you can get his family to like you, it’s always a good sign. They’ll tell him to bring you along to different events, so you’ll get to spend more time together and get to know all of them a little better. They’ll eventually start to see you as family too! If his family likes you, you two will have a better chance of making it work for the long term because you’ll know that you’re welcome in his home anytime. It can be intimidating to meet them, but putting in the effort is worth it.
14 You fit in with his friends
Making a good impression on his family is definitely important, but it doesn’t stop there, you also have to make a good impression on his friends. Sometimes when a guy gets a girlfriend, his friends resent the situation, after all, you’re stealing him away from quality guy time. So it’s important that you prove to them that you’re a keeper, and he’s not wasting his time with you. The first time you meet his best friends, try to be as open and friendly as possible they'll appreciate that you took the effort to get to know them. You also need to let him have his guy nights. If they plan something, let him go along no one likes a girl who tries to control who her boyfriend can and can’t hang out with. If you fit in with his friends, your relationship will be more likely to last, and you’ll gain a few friends of your own!
13 Your parents always ask about him
So you’ve made a great first impression on his family, his friends love it when you tag along and hang out, but what about your family? What do they think about him? If your mom and dad absolutely adore him, it’s a great sign for your relationship. Your parents are probably pretty good judges of character, and they know you better than anyone, so they definitely want the best for you. If they’ve remarked on how cute you two are together or how nice he seems, you’ve probably made a good choice, and knowing that you have their full support makes life a lot easier! If you want to have a healthy, long-term relationship, knowing that your parents like him too always makes it less stressful. Let’s face it, when you’re in it for the long haul, you’re going to hit some roadblocks, so you want to have your mom and dad rooting for you guys.
12 He never forgets an anniversary
A lot of guys don’t make a big deal out of anniversaries. It’s usually up to the girl to remember and remind him, and while he might plan something special, it’s usually for your own enjoyment rather than his. So if you’ve found yourself a guy who always remembers anniversaries without a single reminder from you, you’re one lucky girl hold on to him! It’s a sign that he cares about the important little details that matter to your relationship. It’s also a sign that he thinks ahead and plans for the future which is important if you want your relationship to last. So when your one year anniversary is coming up and he mentions it, just know that this means he truly loves you, and he’s trying to think of the perfect plan to celebrate and make you happy. A guy who never forgets an anniversary is definitely a keeper, so don’t take him for granted!
11 He loves your flaws
Everyone has little flaws that they’re embarrassed about and may try to hide from others, even the people that they’re closest to. But you should never be afraid to show your boyfriend who you truly are. Some people have a tendency to make fun of others’ insecurities without thinking about how hurtful it can be. Your boyfriend should love you despite your flaws, in fact, he should love you for your flaws, because that’s what makes you, well, you! So if he loves your crazy laugh, thinks that the gap between your front teeth is absolutely adorable, and doesn’t mind your klutzy nature, you two are meant to last. And you should feel the same way about him! Nobody is perfect, so whoever you date, you’ll have to learn to love their flaws. If you’ve already found someone who does that for you, hold on tight because a guy like that is worth sticking with.
10 He always picks the perfect gifts
The holiday season can be a stressful time if you’re in a relationship. First, you have to decide if you’ll be spending certain holidays with either of your families, what you’re doing for New Year’s Eve, and most importantly what you’ll be getting each other. Picking out gifts for a significant other can be tough. You might feel like you know them really well until you’re wandering aimlessly around the mall with no idea what to get! If your boyfriend is an expert at finding the perfect gifts for you, it’s a good sign that you guys are meant to be together for a while. It means that he pays attention to all the little details that make you unique. Lots of guys are tempted to just pick up generic presents. But if he loves you, he’s not just going to get you flowers, chocolate, and jewelry, he’s going to give you a gift from the heart.
9 He’ll plan things far in advance
For some reason, guys tend to be terrible at planning. This can be frustrating when you’re trying to schedule something with your boyfriend. You might have a solid idea of exactly where you want to go and what you want to do, but he might be more of a go with the flow, “let’s see what happens” type. If you’ve found a guy who actually wants to do the planning and isn’t afraid to plan things far in advance, you're in luck. It’s rare, but they do exist! Why is it so important that he won’t hesitate to plan something for a few months from now? It means that he has faith that the two of you will definitely still be together by then. It means that he believes in you and the love that you two share. And really, there’s nothing more romantic than that! Find yourself a guy who embraces your future.
8 Your friends adore him
Yes, it’s important that his family and friends like you, and that your parents approve of him, but without your friends’ approval, your relationship might not get anywhere. It’s super important that your friends have a good impression of your boyfriend if you truly want your relationship to last. Girls can figure out what kind of guy he is right away. If he’s been up to something shady, they’ll find out about it. Likewise, if he’s the kind of guy who wouldn’t hurt a fly, they’ll see how great he is and encourage you to stay with him. Getting the stamp of approval from your girlfriends is just as important as getting it from your parents. As long as your relationship doesn’t interfere with girls nights, your guys should be able to make a good first impression easily and with your friends and family on your side, your relationship is built to last.
7 You can trust him completely
So many girls put up with guys who truly cannot be trusted and it’s a real shame. They’ll try to justify going back to a cheater. They’ll make excuses about why their boyfriend is still messing around on Tinder even after they’ve made their relationship official. They’ll end up creeping through all his social media accounts, trying to figure out his passwords, just to see if he’s been talking to anyone that they’re suspicious of. If you ever end up in any of these situations, you need to turn around and leave. But if you can trust your guy completely and all of this sounds unimaginable to you, you’re in the right relationship. Trust is the most important part of any relationship. If you don’t trust each other, you shouldn’t be together. Any lasting relationship is built on a solid foundation of honest communication and unconditional trust, without it, you two are doomed.
6 You never run out of things to talk about
In the beginning of your relationship, everything is new. You have so much to learn about each other, and unless you were friends for years first, you’ve probably barely scratched the surface! Getting to know your boyfriend on a deeper level is super exciting, and although it can be a little scary to be vulnerable and open up to someone about your past, taking the plunge is worth it. If you’ve been together for a while and you still never get sick of talking to each other about anything under the sun, you’re meant to be. The strongest couples never run out of things to talk about. Because if you love the person that you’re talking to, you never will! Any topic seems interesting and exciting when he’s telling you all about it, and you two should be able to share your opinions on anything together or sit in silence without it being awkward.
5 You’ve never felt the need to go through his phone
If you feel the need to go through your boyfriend’s phone, there’s already a problem regardless of what you find there. It can end in one of two ways, and neither point to a bright future. You might not find anything suspicious but even if that’s the case, you clearly have trust issues when it comes to him, and he still might find out that you snooped and lose trust in you. Or you will find exactly what you were looking for, which means you two have some issues to deal with. If the idea of going through your boyfriend’s phone seems absolutely ridiculous to you, good if you do snoop through his phone on a regular basis, your relationship probably won’t last long. But if you trust him fully and respect his privacy, it means that you’re able to be open and honest with each other and that neither of you have anything to hide.
4 He always knows how to cheer you up
Let’s say you’ve had one of those days...you know, one of those days where absolutely nothing goes right. You failed a quiz you thought you’d ace, you spilled coffee all over your shirt before running out the door, you got stuck in traffic on your way home, and you have an assignment that you absolutely need to finish before tomorrow, even though all you want to do is curl up in a ball and give up. If your boyfriend is ready with ice cream, words of encouragement, and anything else that he knows is sure to make you feel better, you can tackle anything that comes your way. Having a boyfriend who knows exactly how to handle your bad moods and give you a little extra support whenever you really need it is one of the best parts of being in a good relationship, so don’t let a guy like that go!
3 The future doesn’t freak him out
Some guys hate the thought of even planning past tomorrow. Being in a serious, long-term relationship tends to freak guys out, so girls might try to act more casual about it so that they don’t run away. But if you’ve been together for a while and he still seems to get a little scared about the idea of sharing a future, you might need to have a serious talk. The right guy will embrace the idea of spending the future with you. It doesn’t have to mean marriage, but it might mean moving in together, traveling together or even adopting a dog. Everyone has different ideas about the future, but if he wants your paths to continue in the same direction, he’ll let you know. If spending your future with him is important to you, you need to gauge how he feels about it and see if he feels the same way.
2 He’s full of surprises
When you first begin dating someone, every day is exciting, no matter what happens. Even just opening a casual text can make your heart beat a little faster and your palms sweat, and even a simple date like taking him to your favorite restaurant can feel like an adventure. But as time goes on, you usually need to mix things up a little to keep your relationship exciting. This takes effort from both of you, he can’t expect you to come up with all the ideas! If he takes the initiative to go out of his way to surprise you, you two are sure to have many more happy years to come. He might leave you little love notes around in places where you least expect it, plan a surprise date when he knows you have a night off, or even surprise you with plane tickets to somewhere special, the possibilities are endless!
1 He’s with you for the right reasons
Think back to the beginning of your relationship. What made you fall for him in the first place? Was it his adorable smile, his great sense of humor, or his secret nerdy side? Did you decide that you wanted to be with him because you knew he cared about you deeply, because he was always there for you when you needed him, because you knew that you could trust him with anything? These are all good reasons to date someone, and if you want your relationship to last, you need to make sure that you’re together for the right reasons. If you’re only dating because you’re scared to be alone, because you’re on the rebound or because you look good on his arm, there’s no way your relationship is going to last. But if you’re together because you truly love each other, that’s all that really matters in the end.