It is honestly so hard to tell when a guy is out of your league, right? You could be talking to him and think everything is going great when bam, you realize that he is totally out of your league. You shouldn’t have even been talking to this man goddess to begin with.
Fortunately, there are usually signs that he is out of your league so next time, you won’t embarrass yourself by trying to flirt with someone who is so much better than you. What exactly are these signs? Well, there’s a range because there are many, many different reasons as to why a guy could be so out of your league. He could be out of your league for physical reasons, like being too good looking. If you’re a 4, you shouldn’t expect to date an 8. That’s just common knowledge. He could also be out of your league because he’s too smart for you. No guy who went to Harvard wants to date a waitress. You’ll need to find someone a bit more on your own level, like a bartender.
Below are 15 reasons why he could be out of your league. This will save you from embarrassing yourself again by talking to a guy who is so clearly out of your league. This way you can make time for guys who are a little more, you know, attainable.
15 He’s Very Good Looking
Obviously, we would all like to date a guy who is a dreamboat but that is just not in the cards for all of us. If you have your eyes set on a hunk, you may be aiming a bit too high, girlfriend.
Of course, if you are physically attractive yourself, you may think that this hottie is in your league but everyone knows that women should date a little below them in the attraction department. The female is supposed to be the hotter one in the relationship, which will hopefully help him not cheat. It is just common sense if you want to keep your guy from straying. Basically, if you are a 10, you should be willing to settle for another 8 or so. Oh, and if you are a 6, don’t even think about talking to someone with Zac Efron looks. He is way out of your league.
14 He Has Abs For Days
Let's be real here, who doesn't want a guy who looks like he's been sculpted. You may want to date someone with a muscular body but if you are not also built with a hot bod, do not even think about it. If he has a six-pack and you do not, clearly he is not in your league and you need to look for someone with a bit more body fat because you have a bit more body fat.
This is not just a problem in the looks department but also as it is a way of life. If he goes to the gym and eats clean, do you really expect him to date a girl who watches Netflix and eats pizza? No way, girlfriend. If you have jiggly thighs, a dude with a hot body is simply way out of your league. You better start hitting the gym if you want to get a guy with a hot body.
13 He’s Very Educated
If he has a college degree and you don’t, the odds are not stacked in your favor. A college educated man is simply out of the league of someone who hasn’t gone to college. If you’re working as a hairdresser or waitress, you shouldn’t expect to hook up with a guy who has a bachelor’s degree. I mean, he had a whole college experience while you... well, you were out in the world soaking up that life experience. Your life experience is interesting and everything but since it didn't cost you $100,000 in student loans and come with a fancy piece of paper declaring you a graduate, it doesn't really stack up.
Furthermore, if you only have a bachelor’s, don’t expect to hook up with a dude who has his masters or Ph.D. Guys who have put the time and effort into securing a degree want someone who had done the same, not someone who may have practical knowledge and life experience. You should set your sights to someone who maybe has life experience too.
12 He Has A High-Powered Job
If the guy you like has an extremely high-powered job and you’re at the beginning of your career, he’s way out of your league. Being on different pages in life makes it difficult to keep a relationship going, now imagine starting one. Sure, you may work for the same company but if you’re a lowly assistant and he’s a VP, what does he really see in you? You’re busy getting coffee all day and answering phones. He’s a guy who has phones answered for him. There’s a huge difference here and even if he seems like he is interested in you, he's not. You're basically the help.
You may be someone with high aspirations and a great work ethics but if you’re not on his level career-wise already, he won’t be interested in you. If you’re below him in the office, you’re below him in life. It’s just a fact.
11 His Family Has Money
Ah, old money. Well, old or new money, family money definitely makes a difference. If he comes from a respectable family with loads of money in the bank, you won’t be a suitable partner unless you come from the same. If he was raised by a blue blood family, they’ll expect him to marry someone from a similar background, not someone who comes from a no-name family. I mean, how could someone you was raised using the word 'summer' as a verb date someone who went to public school? It's simply unfathomable.
Even a middle-class upbringing is unacceptable to someone who was raised by a wealthy, socialite family. This, unfortunately, is something that no amount of time at the gym or plastic surgery can fix. You wouldn’t expect a Kennedy to marry someone who wasn’t raised in the decadent manner they were and you’d never expect someone with a good family name to marry you if you’re a nobody.
10 He’s Made His Own Money
Having family money is one thing, but if he has made his own fortune, he could be out of your league too. Not everyone is on the level of Mark Zuckerberg, of course, but if you are interested in a dude who has made a lot of money, you should step aside if you can not bring your own money to the table too.
If he is able to afford a certain kind of lifestyle, you will either need to keep up or step out of the game. He will not want to waste his time with someone who can’t afford to eat at the same fancy restaurant that serves $100 steaks and $25 cocktails. Honestly, he’s worked hard for that money and should not be expected to date someone who is in a different tax bracket. You should move on and find someone who lives a peasant lifestyle like you.
9 His Wardrobe Is Amaze
If he is on Don Draper's level of style, you may want to take a moment to really think about if this guy is in your league. Sure, you may dress cute but unless you are taking it to the Olsen Twins' level on the daily, he may be out of your league.
A guy who dresses well is a rare find these days so he’ll expect you to put the same care into the way you dress. After all, your personal style is a form of self-expression. His form of self-expression may just be out of your league. Unless you’re a style goddess yourself, you should stick to guys who aren’t bringing the heat in the wardrobe department. If they are rocking Prada loafers and you bought your booties from H&M, you're out of luck.
Also, his ability to afford these clothes speaks to the fact that he may have a ton of money, which is another sign that he could be out of your league.
8 His Apartment Is Sick
If his apartment is amazing, you should take a second to think about if this guy is in your league. Having a penthouse in a good neighborhood truly is amazing these days. Hell, with the market, having a one bedroom in a good neighborhood is a win.
If you have a studio or share your apartment with several other people, he may not be into your teeny, tiny space. I mean, a guy with a great apartment does not want to hang out in your living room with your six other roommates. If your apartment is decorated with posters on the walls, that is another con. This guy with the amazing apartment does not want to hang out in your apartment that is basically a dorm room. You are better off chasing a guy who also has a studio apartment or lives in a box on the street or something.
7 He Travels A Lot
Traveling has always been a popular pastime but with social media, it’s now more important than ever because you can let everyone know you’ve traveled the world. Because what's the point in spending a week in Paris if you can't let everyone know you've spent a week in Paris? Seriously, why did anyone travel before 2007?
If you’re into a dude and his social media is full of exotic islands and foreign cities, you better be someone who travels as well. If your Instagram is not full of photos of your toes in the sand, he may not really be into you. That’s understandable. If he’s a guy who likes to travel the world and is cosmopolitan, you shouldn’t expect him to settle for homebody you.
If you don’t have that wanderlust and he does, he is definitely out of your league. You should date someone who’s opinion of a vacation is a trip to the local beach, because that’s what you deserve for not having the expendable income or time to have seen the world yet.
6 He’s Much Smarter Than You
If he is someone who is very informed about what is going on in the world, he is obviously out of your league if you do not know about every single world event. What will you two even talk about if you don’t know about Russia’s economy or every single talking point in the last debate? Someone who listens to NPR needs to be with someone else who listens to NPR all the time. Imagine just staring at him with w dumb look on your face because you have no idea what he is saying. It's like you're in an episode of Charlie Brown. You’re simply not intelligent enough to date a guy who knows so much about the world. You’ll have to find a guy who is more into the lowbrow topics - you know, like football or reality TV.
It’s too bad that you’re not good enough for a guy who knows about current events. Unless, you read The New York Times every single day, he’s out of your league.
5 He Has Cool Friends
If he hangs with a group of fun, cool people, you better be able to bring a group of fun, cool people to the table too. I mean, someone who is surrounded by fabulous people in life needs to date someone else who is surrounded by fabulous people too. A super sociable guy won't want to date a weird, loner girl who only had a handful of close friends like yourself.
How can you tell if he has a huge group of amazing friends? Check his social media, of course. If he has thousands of followers on Insta, he simply must have a huge group of cool friends. Your 200 followers simply does not stack up to his following. Who we are on social media is who we are in life and it looks like it's time for you to get a few more friends on social media and in life.
4 He Has Rendez-Vous Everywhere
No matter where you go with this guy, he knows someone there and it is amazing. He’s able to get you into the coolest events and trendiest bars. Unless you too are able to bring these kind of connections to the relationship, he’s out of your league.
He may string you along because he’s bored or in-between actual girlfriends but the fact that you don’t have hook ups like him is straight up embarrassing. You should know the bouncers and bartenders everywhere too. Obviously, he can’t be expected to date someone who has no clout around town.
This dude is, for sure, out of your league so you better appreciate the cool experiences and not waiting in line while you can because once he’s kicks you to the side, it’s back to your boring life of being unimportant. If you want to date someone who has hook ups, you need to know everyone everywhere too.
3 He Goes Out Every Night
Regardless of if he has hook ups or not, him going out every night is another sign that he is out of your league. First of all, having the time and expendable income to go out so often is a sign that he really has his life together. If he can afford all those tabs without batting and eye, he’s major.
If you’re not able to be out with him every night because of work or financial hardships, throw in the towel. He clearly wants someone who has the time and money to party on the town with him. You’re inability to be out every night is not a good sign and he’ll probably not be into you. Sorry, girl but he needs someone who is on Paris Hilton's level of being a party girl and you’re just not. Sit in and watch another show on Netflix because you're boring and lame.
2 He’s Really Funny
If he is the really funny type, he may be out of your league. Sure, he may make you laugh on the regular but are you able to make him laugh too? Even if you are able to make him laugh, you have to keep in mind the fact that this hilarious dude is able to make any woman fall in love with him because who doesn’t love a funny guy?
If he has that witty, charismatic personality that simply draws people to him, you should step aside unless you can bring the same sense of humor to the table. If you do not find yourself to be as funny as him, he is out of your league. Let another girl who is funny and charming enough for him take over.
You do not deserve all the laughter he brings into your life if you are unable to give it right back.
1 LOL, JK
Ha, gotcha! LOL, JK! Hopefully, you knew that all along, though.
Ignore everything and anything said in this article. No guy is ever, ever out of your league and you should never, ever feel that way. In fact, if a dude makes you feel insecure for whatever reason, he has got to go because you are a goddess and he should make you feel that way every damn day.
In fact, just so you know, you are out of every guys’ league and they should be working for that heart of yours. But, what even are leagues? Can’t we all just, like, date whoever we’re attracted to because of pheromones and stuff? Let's all stop worrying about leagues and Richter scales and other stupid ways we subject each other to being measured to some invisible standard.
Date a millionaire or date a guy living in his mom’s basement. Regardless, it won’t change the fact that you’re amaze and perfect just the way you are.