Saying “I love you” is sometimes the hardest three words for a guy to blurt out. Maybe he’s holding off on saying it because of the emotional scars that are still healing from a past relationship, or perhaps he’s cautious about telling you how he really feels because he’s not sure if you feel the same way. If you have been dating for a while and your guy still has not said these three little (but meaningful) words, there are so many reasons why he could be holding back. But that is not why we are here today.
They say actions speak louder than words, so there are some non-verbal clues your guy could be giving you to let you know that he does indeed love you, he’s just not comfortable with expressing that love to you verbally just yet.
Instead of questioning him about how he really feels about you, take a look at these 15 signs that he’s already deeply in love. After all, this is what you are really after, knowing that he cares as much as you do.
15 He Pulls Away
Believe it or not, some men actually pull away when they’re falling in love. Of course, this doesn’t make any sense to women. When we’re in love, all we want to do is be with our partner 24/7. But for some men, the feelings that come along with being in love are just too much for them to handle.
When a guy feels that he’s headed over the deep end and he’s falling in love with you, he may pull away to put some distance between the two of you. This is his way of processing his feelings. If you bug him during this time, it could really kill the relationship. But if you allow him the space and time he needs to assess his feelings, it can bring the two of you together and make your relationship that much stronger in the long run.
If your relationship is going perfectly, and suddenly your guy pulls away and becomes cold and distant, don’t take it personal. He may skip out on returning your calls and text messages for a few days, but it’s all just a sign that he’s falling in love…and freaking out at the same time!
14 He Caters to You
Some men are natural pleasers. They come on strong right after meeting a woman and start spoiling her after the first few weeks of meeting. Sadly, the guys who come on strong in the beginning tend to go ghost after a month or two - never to be seen from or heard from again.
A guy who is ready for a relationship and is open to falling in love will likely take a more slow and steady approach. But once he finally realizes he’s in love with you, he will go all out to show you just how much he cares.
A man who is in love will cater and spoil his girlfriend because it not only makes her happy, but it makes him happy too! Just seeing the smile on your face when he brings you your favorite coffee during your lunch break brings him a sense of joy. And if he has dinner and a bubble bath waiting for you at the end of your day, just know that he’s completely in love with you!
13 He Puts Your First
In the early stages of a relationship, it’s always best to keep your own circle of friends and maintain your own interests and hobbies. Many dating experts stress the importance of having a life outside of your relationship so when your boyfriend is busy with his friends and family, you won’t feel neglected by his absence.
Then there comes a point in your relationship when you can feel a complete shift. Your once busy lives begin to slow down a bit, and the two of you start to spend even more time together.
When a guy is starting to fall in love, he will make you a priority in his life. If he’s hanging out with you on the couch doing absolutely nothing, and his friends call and ask for him to meet them at a bar, he’ll pass o the invitation. It’s not that he doesn’t want to see his buddies, he just much rather be with you instead. Now that’s love!
12 He Asks You for Advice
You’ll know for sure that your guy is falling in love with you if he really values your opinion. No matter how big nor small the issue is, he will reach out to you for your advice. Whether he needs some help choosing a new car, or if he needs pointers on how to ask his boss for a raise, a man who’s falling in love with you will always reach out to you first to get your opinion.
Sure, he has other people in his life he could go to for help. But when a man’s in love, his woman’s opinion holds a lot of weight. He subconsciously wants to please you by making the right decision, and he knows that you would never steer him in the wrong direction.
So if your guy runs to you for advice, just know that not only does he think highly of you, but he’s already in love with you, too.
11 He Starts Making Plans
There comes a point in a guy’s life when he really starts to take some time to think about the future. And we’re not talking about making plans for his summer vacation, we’re talking major life-changing decisions, like where to settle down and when to buy a house.
If your boyfriend has yet to tell you he loves you, all you have to do is listen closely to your conversations to see how he really feels about you. If he always seems to be deep in thought, try to spark a conversation with him. Eventually he should give you tidbits about what’s on his mind. If he starts to tell you that he’s thinking about the future, and he wants to be debt free in X amount of years and he wants to save X amount of money within the next six months, then it’s a pretty clear sign that he has already fallen in love with you.
These mental plans that he’s making are just for him, they’re for you too!
10 He Never Forgets
A friend of mine met a guy at the gym, and the two of them got into a really hot and heavy relationship. Okay, it wasn’t technically a relationship, they were just dating. But she definitely liked him a lot more than he liked her. Her birthday was coming up, and she was wondering if gym bae was going to take her out on the town to celebrate. Well, a week before her birthday, he still hadn’t mentioned anything. And when her actual birthday had arrived, he didn’t even send her a happy birthday text. Come to find out, she had mentioned her birthday to him in passing, but he either forgot, didn’t care, or both.
When a guy isn’t serious about you, he may or may not remember your birthday. And one thing’s for sure, he won’t remember the tiny little tidbits you tell him about your life, your hobbies and your interests. He’s only sticking around for a good time, he’s not looking to put in any extra work to get to know the real you.
So when a guy actually remembers all the small things that are important to you, just know that he’s not only listening to everything you have to say, but he’s probably falling in love with you, too!
9 He Loves Being Close to You
Cuddling isn’t very high on a guy’s to-do list in the beginning of a relationship. Sure, he loves coming over to your place and getting intimate, but as soon as the deed is over, he’ll be inching closer to the opposite side of the bed to create some distance between the two of you.
When a guy starts to fall in love, everything starts to change. He will want to be as close to you as possible. Even if it means your body heat makes him sweat bullets. And he doesn’t even care that your MAC makeup will get smeared all over his brand new white T-shirt. Being physically close to you is all that matters to him.
If you and your boyfriend can happily lay in silence and cuddle up for hours on end, just know that this is a guy that is already falling in love with you!
8 He Gives You Compliments
When you first meet a guy who isn’t looking for anything serious, he will probably tell you how “sexy” and “gorgeous” you are. These are all just fluff words that he probably uses on every single girl that he meets. But when a guy is starting to fall in love with you, he will use some adjectives to describe you that have nothing to do with your physical appearance.
When your boyfriends starts to feel that warm and fuzzy feeling inside, he will start to see you in a different light. He will tell you how intelligent you are, he will compliment you on how good of a friend you are to your bestie, and he will admire how much you give back to those in need when you volunteer at the the local food bank every year. Of course, he still thinks you’re beautiful, but it’s your other attributes that really have him hooked on you.
7 He’s a Giver
A guy in love will go out of his way to give and give and give without even receiving something in return. Research has shown that giving has a drastic effect on the person who gives. A man who gives openly is happy, has a positive attitude and a higher-self esteem. When he gives, it’s a sign that he feels much more committed to your relationship and to you, and it’s certainly a sign that he’s fall in love.
When a guy gives, it’s his way of investing in the relationship. It doesn’t have to be money though. It could be his time, it could be a back rub or it could be something as simple as sitting through a horrible movie just because he knows it’s something you really want to watch.
A guy knows he’s in love when he’s ready and willing to give without receiving. As long as you express gratitude, he will keep giving, and he will continue to fall deeper and deeper in love!
6 He’s Spontaneous
Dating experts have always advised woman to be leery of the men who always want to see them on short notice. But there’s a big difference between a man who plans things last minute and a guy who’s spontaneous. The last minute date planner is usually using you as a plan B when all of his other plans fall through, but the man who’s spontaneous is the man who’s falling in love.
When a guy is in love, he will be constantly thinking of ways he can surprise you. He will pick you up from work on Friday with your bag pre-packed, and take you off on a romantic weekend getaway. He will pop up at your house on his way to work just to drop off one of your favorite donuts. Even if it’s not Valentine’s Day, he will go out of his way to do small things just to make you happy. These are all signs that he’s already in love with you!
5 He’ll Drop Everything for You
There’s just something about a guy who will drop everything just to be right by your side. He provides a sense of comfort and security, and you know you can always count on him to be there through the good times and the bad times.
In the beginning stages of a relationship, he may not be as willing to come to your rescue, especially if he’s still feeling you out and trying to decide just how much he wants to invest in the relationship. But as soon as that switch clicks in his mind, and he falls deeply in love with you, he won’t want to be any place other than with you.
Whether you’re stranded on the side of the road or you just need someone to vent to after a blowup with your BFF, the guy who’s in love will provide you with emotional support. And if you call him in the middle of the night because you saw a spider chilling in your bathroom, he will rush over in a hurry to come to your rescue. It’s official: he’s in love.
4 He Talks About You to Friends
Believe it or not, most guys care way too much about what their friends think about their girlfriends. Even if he’s head over heels in love with you, he may pull away if one of his friends isn’t too keen on you. When a guy isn’t too sure about his new girlfriend, he may hold off on talking about her to his pals. But when a guy is in love, nothing that anyone says will make him leave your side. He will have no problem with telling the world just how awesome you are.
A man who is in love will likely be thinking about you all the time, and soon enough, those thoughts will turn into him telling anyone and everyone all the great things about you. He’ll brag to his friends about how smart you are and about your in-depth knowledge of football. He will tell his bros about your love for animals, and how you make the best Italian meatballs he has ever tasted. When a guy is bombarding his friends with all the positive traits about you that he just can’t get enough of, just know that he’s definitely falling in love.
3 He Has Your Back
He knows you can hold your own, but the guy who’s falling in love with you will gladly have your back at all times. If you get into a debate with one of your friends, he will always take your side, even if he thinks you’re in the wrong. And when you tell him about your dreams of becoming a unicorn, he may look at you like you’re a little wacky, but he’ll tell you he’ll become a unicorn too so the two of you can fly off into unicorn fantasy land together. The guy who’s in love with you will be supportive of you no matter what.
When a guy is already in love, he will see beyond your flaws and always focus on your positive traits. No matter what anyone says about you, he will always let them know that they don’t know you the way he knows you. He will be your biggest support system, and your number one fan.
2 You Catch Him Staring
If your guy is already falling in love with you, he won’t be able to take his eyes off of you. Not in a creepy way, of course, but in loving way that has been analyzed and dissected by psychologists for years.
There’s so much power within the eyes, and a guy who’s comfortable gazing at you for long periods of time is showing his deep love for you. Looking int your eyes makes him feel more connected to you, closer to you and increases his passion for you.
When he stares into your eyes, the love hormone oxytocin gets released. Couples who are in love gaze at each other 75% of the time while engaging in conversation, and they are much slower to look away from each other when an outsider interrupts them. So if you catch your boyfriend frequently staring into your eyes, just know that he’s definitely in love with you.
1 He Doesn’t Throw in the Towel
You know you have a winner in your life when he’s always there. Like, literally, he never goes anywhere. You can be a raging witch during day two of your menstrual cycle, but it won’t scare him off. In fact, he will show up to your house on day three with some double chocolate chip cooks, a chick flick and some wine to make you feel better. And those times you let your jealousy seep through and accuse him of flirting with the barista at Starbucks, he will laugh it off, kiss you on the forehead, and assure you that you’re the only woman he wants to be with.
A man who’s in love will be someone who is constant in your life. I like to refer to them as “the moon.” They’re always there. Even during the times when you can’t physically see them, you know that they’re always close by. Every time you think, “Wow, I really blew it with him this time,” he reassures you that it’s going to take more than your few psychotic text messages to push him away. He’s already in love with you, and your cray cray behavior won’t change the way he feels about you any time soon.