It would be nice if there was some kind of guidebook that told you exactly what a guy was thinking and feeling. You would be saved from a ton of heartache, you wouldn't have to text your best friends for hours on end trying to figure everything out, and your life would feel easy breezy. But of course, that's not real life, and you definitely have to spend more time than you want to figure the guy in your world out. It's hard enough trying to decipher how a guy feels about you when you've got a major crush, but it's even harder to figure out if your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together or not. You have so many emotions tied up in this thing, you don't want to get your hopes up or wish for something that will never actually happen. But on the other hand, you can't help but wonder what could be, and if a second chance at love is just what you both need. Here are 15 signs that he definitely wants you back.
15 He Keeps Contacting You
Plain and simple, right? Well, maybe not. Sometimes you might wonder why your ex won't stop trying to talk to you. You might think that he might just be bored or looking to entertain himself or something like that. You might not think it means anything or that he's not actually serious about getting back together. But the truth is that he might be. The thing is that guys don't take the time to talk to you unless they like you. And guys really have no problem moving on from someone that they don't want in their life anymore. So if your ex-boyfriend keeps contacting you, you have a good shot at getting back together. Well, if that's what you want, of course. It's totally your decision at this point. Once he makes his feelings known, that is. You don't want to get too excited about this just yet. You want to be a bit more casual about it.
14 He Asks About Your Day
If your ex-boyfriend keeps asking about your day and seems to want to just shoot the breeze and have some casual talks, you can be sure that he misses you and still thinks about you. After all, he wouldn't really care about your day if he didn't feel that way about you still, would he? Nope, he definitely wouldn't. He would be totally and completely moving on and he probably would barely think about you. If that sounds harsh, well, it's just the honest truth. Guys are like that. And you're like that too, even if you tend to think that you spend too much time pining over the one you let go. You have a life to live and goals to accomplish and a future to think about, and sometimes you realize that wasting time thinking about an ex just isn't worth it. So if you find yourself thinking about him and you find him contacting you pretty often to ask innocent questions like how your day at work was, you can be sure he wants you back.
13 He Talks To Your Friends
If your ex is talking to your friends, that's a sure sign that he wants to be your boyfriend and take the whole "ex" thing out of the entire equation. He would have no reason and no desire to talk to them if he didn't feel that way. Absolutely none. He's fishing for answers about your life and whether or not you've moved on. He wants to know who you're dating now, if anyone, and he wants to know if there's a chance of the two of you trying again before he works up the courage to ask you about it. That's definitely why he's talking to them, even if they claim he's just asking after them or chatting about something that they have in common. Well, they do have something in common, and that's you. It might be hard to believe that he wants you back since break-ups are so rough, you might not understand why you even broke up in the first place if you were just going to get back together. But sometimes this just happens.
12 He's Still Close With Your Family
The worst part of breaking up? No, it's not the broken hearts or the tears or the total feeling that your world has come crashing down (although those things definitely suck). It's the fact that you become close with your boyfriend's family and he becomes close to yours too, and it's hard to let those people go. But if you don't want to get back together with your ex, you're not going to hang out with his mom or little sister. You're just not going to. It's kind of weird and it's just going to make you sadder and prevent you from moving on with your life. So if your ex-boyfriend is still close with your family, that's a really huge sign that he wants you back. He's trying to stay in with them so he can get some information about you and whether you might want to try again, similar to why he's talking to your friends. But he also wants to stay involved in your world as much as he can, and for him, that means talking to your family.
11 He's All Over Your Social Media
You probably think that girls are the only ones who stalk the opposite gender on social media, but that's just not the truth. Guys love to check out the accounts of the people they're crushing on. They just do. It's not a gendered thing and it's nothing to be ashamed about because everyone does this at some point or another. If your ex-boyfriend is always commenting on your Instagram photos or Facebook posts, you can be sure that he's still super into you. If he wasn't, he would be doing his best to ignore you and not think about you, and he wouldn't want to dwell on the past by checking out your accounts. He just wouldn't. So if he's always the first to like your photos, especially if they're selfies, then you can be sure he still wants to be with you. It can be hard to realize this because you don't want to seem conceited, but the odds are pretty good.
10 He Comments All The Time
Likes are one thing. You can like a former roomie's or ex-co-worker's Facebook or Instagram posts and that really doesn't mean much. Maybe you're just doing it to be nice or friendly and you don't even like the content that they're sharing. But if your ex is always commenting on your social media posts, you can be sure that he wants you back. He's not going to put in the time, effort and energy if he doesn't still like you. And he's definitely not going to waste his time checking out your posts. He has a life to live and all that. Sure, if they're weird comments or seem kind of jealous that might be another story, but for the most part, he's probably saying you look good or giving you some kind of positive feedback. So then it's really just up to you what you want to do with that information. It's your move, essentially.
9 You Get A Vibe
You're not an egomaniac or anything and it's not like you think that guys are just dying to be with you everywhere you go, but you can generally tell when someone likes you. It's just listening to your gut or intuition or whatever you want to call it. So if you get a vibe that your ex wants you back, guess what? You're probably right. Actually, you're definitely right. You wouldn't think this way unless it was true. It can be tough to act on this information because you can never be 100 percent sure about anything in life and you don't want to embarrass yourself by saying you still love him and want to be with him again... and having him say that's not what he wants at all. But then again, if you're getting the vibe, you might want to just suck it up and be super brave and take a risk. Life is about living, after all.
8 You've Gone Through This Before
Maybe you and your ex have broken up and then gotten back together before. Maybe it's even happened a few times. If you generally have a very dramatic on-and-off again type of relationship, then you can definitely be pretty certain that he wants you back. If it's the type of deal that you guys have, then this is probably just happening all over again. It's not the healthiest or happiest cycle to be a part of, so if you truly care about him and you're pretty sure that he feels the same way, then you might want to nip that in the bud and figure out how to actually stay together this time. There must be a reason you keep coming back to each other, right? So think about your situation and your shared past. If this has happened before anywhere from once to a million times, then sit your ex down and say you don't want to be exes anymore and you want to work things out. But for good this time.
7 It Was A Break, Not A Break-Up
Okay. So you are obviously a Friends fan because it's not possible to be anything else. And since you love that show like nothing else, you know that it's not really an excuse to say that you were on a break. Thanks, Ross and Rachel. That's some super important life advice right there. But if you and your ex-boyfriend took a break rather than officially breaking up, then it's definitely possible that he wants you back. After all, there must be a reason why you didn't just call it quits for good, right? You both must have realized that you needed some time apart to think things over but you didn't want to lose each other entirely. That's an important distinction that you should remember. If you have any reason to believe that things can be saved, you might as well get brave and ask him if he wants to try again, because he most likely wants that.
6 You Shared A Real Love
Or still, share. Hopefully. But just because you loved someone or still feel that way doesn't mean that it's going to work out or that it's the best thing for either one of you. That's how life works, unfortunately. Love doesn't conquer all, as the saying goes, and it shouldn't, either. Because not everyone needs to stay together. If you and your ex shared a real love that was pure and meant a lot to both of you, then you can be sure that he most likely wants you back. Why wouldn't he? Who wouldn't want to get that kind of love back? Isn't that what everyone's searching for? Everyone is online dating and trying to meet someone that they love and feeling super frustrated that they can't even go on a decent first date, let alone meet their soulmate and future husband/wife. So why would you or your ex throw a good love story away?
5 He's Still Single
If it's been a while since you two broke up and your ex is still single, that honestly tells you a lot more than you might think. No, it's not that he hasn't met anyone cool or anyone that he even likes because you do meet people when you put yourself out there. You just do. Sometimes things don't work out for tons of reasons, but it's usually not because you don't actually like anyone. That's why you can think someone is super cool and funny and hot but you don't end up actually dating them. If your ex-boyfriend is still single, well, there might be a good reason... and that reason might be you. You might not want to ask him if this is the case and you might want to be a bit more subtle about it, so feel free to do some detective work and talk to his friends about it. They can steer you in the right direction and then you'll know exactly what to do.
4 You Miss Him
Sometimes the way that you feel about someone totally proves how they feel about you, too. Okay, this theory definitely doesn't work all the time (wouldn't that be awesome?!) but for the most part, you just know what's going on. After all, you apply this idea to your friendships and work relationships, too. Sometimes you just click with someone and know you're going to be best friends forever... and you just know that one coworker is going to be your work BFF, too. You get that kind of feeling from someone you're interested in romantically, too, and often it's even stronger. If you miss your ex-boyfriend, there's honestly a really good chance that he misses you, too. Every time you think about him and wonder what he's doing and if he's thinking about you, he's actually thinking about you, too. Talking to him about this might feel like going out on a limb and taking a big risk, but if you love him enough, it might be worth it. Okay, if he feels the same way, it's definitely worth it.
3 It's Been A Hot Minute
If you and your guy just broke up, then you can be pretty much 100 percent certain that he wants you back. Sure, he still loves you, but he also hasn't had any time to move on yet or even try to see that the break-up was for the best. So in this case, you might not want to make a move or try to see if he wants to get back together for sure because you might not believe that his feelings are true and that his intentions are good. Maybe your break-up really was for the best and the two of you just need to live your own lives and do your best to face the future with happy thoughts and smiles. Or maybe you really are meant to be together and you have to become a bit of a detective to try to figure out if he's still thinking about you. It's not an easy thing to figure out and it's a pretty confusing situation, but this is what's going on right now, so you have to deal with it.
2 He Brings Up Inside Jokes
If you were lucky enough to share some inside jokes with your ex-boyfriend, that's a really special thing. No matter what happens between the two of you in the future, you should hold onto those good times and good memories for dear life and never forget them. So if your ex keeps bringing up your inside jokes, that honestly means something, and it means that the wants you back. He would never say this stuff if he didn't. If he knew in his heart that you are officially over and that he should move on with his life, then he would do that, and you wouldn't hear from him again. You definitely wouldn't get a text or Facebook message with him repeating an inside joke or two. That just wouldn't happen. So take it in, be glad for this, and figure out what to do next. Because it's all up to you. He's trying to start the getting back together process.
1 You Still Hang Out
Some people stay good friends with their exes and they have no romantic intentions anymore. Others think that sounds like a certain kind of hell and like the worst idea ever. It's really up to you and it's a personal choice. But for the most part, if you and your ex-boyfriend still hang out, that honestly means that you both want to get back together. You still care about each other and you still want to be a part of each others' lives and that honestly counts for a whole lot. It's so hard to meet someone that you care about so you shouldn't necessarily give that up just because you had a fight or some issues that you couldn't seem to figure out. If you and your ex are still spending time together, you can be sure that regardless of how you feel, he still wants to be with you. He would absolutely ignore you forever if he was over things. So now the only question is: are you going to take the ex out of ex-boyfriend and fall in love all over again?