In America, more than 90% of people marry before they turn 50. Newlyweds often feel full of hope and fulfilment during the honeymoon period. Marriage, after all, is a beautiful union between two people who love each other very much. However, when it does finally come to end - it isn't always too pretty.
There are many reasons why couples may decide to call it quits - whether it be financial difficulties, you both want different futures, or worst of all - infidelity. We must always try to remember that romance is not dead and many couples experience a happy, long-lasting marriage. Yet for others, the odds truly are against them and here is 15 shocking facts about divorce to prove why.
15 Facebook Has Become A Leading Cause Of Divorce
In a study published in the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking, it was found that people who use Facebook more than once an hour were more likely to "experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners." This then leads to breakup or even worse - divorce.
Andrew Newbury, of the law firm Slater and Gordon, told the Daily Mail, "Five years ago Facebook was rarely mentioned in the context of a marriage ending, but now it has become commonplace." He added, "Social media is the new marriage minefield. Social media, specifically pictures and posts on Facebook, are now being routinely raised in divorces." In Italy, nearly half of divorce proceedings mention the social networking app Whatsapp.
14 The Most Expensive Divorce In History Cost $4.5bn
In 1999, French businessman, art dealer and billionaire Alec Wildenstein divorced his wife Jocelyn Wildenstein (pictured above) after her obsession with plastic surgery took over their lives. When Jocelyn found her husband in bed with another woman, she sued for divorce. Jocelyn landed a staggering pay day of $2.5bn, claiming that the cost to run her household alone was $1m a month due to the amount of staff she needed as she couldn't even make toast.
The Wildenstein's divorce was the most expensive up until 2014, when Russian billionaire Dmitry Rybolovlev was ordered by courts to award his wife, Elena, $4.5bn in a Geneva court. Elena had won sole custody of their 13-year-old daughter after she claimed his infidelities and constant partying became too much for her. A spokesperson for Mr Rybolovlev admitted: "He was not a model husband. (He) never denied the infidelities, but the wife knew about it for many years and passively accepted it."
13 Celebrity Divorces Are Often Announced On A Friday Afternoon
Laura Wasser is one of the most prominent divorce attorneys in Hollywood, her previous client list includes Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Garner, Kim Kardashian, Gwen Stefani, and Stevie Wonder. Far from cheap, she charges an eye-watering $850-an-hour for her advice. When it comes to celebrity divorces - she knows her stuff.
Wasser told Bloomberg.com that if celebrities want to avoid leaks of their divorce to the press then they should file in a different state. When a famous name appears on a divorce filing, quite often someone in the clerk's office will tip off the press. She revealed, "In California anyone can read - and photocopy - a couple’s divorce records and accompanying financial information." Which state is the best for keeping things quiet? Wasser claims, "Santa Barbara is great because their clerks leak fewer documents."
12 Couples Still Divorce Even In Their 90s
In 2011, a 99-year-old Italian man divorced his 96-year-old wife because of an affair she had in the 1940s. The Telegraph reported: "The couple are now preparing to split, despite the ties they forged over nearly eight decades - they have five children, a dozen grandchildren and one great-grand child." The couple set a new record for the oldest couple in the world to seek divorce, a title previously held by a British couple who were both aged 98-years-old.
According to the Office for National Statistics the average age at divorce was 45-years-old for men and 42-years-old for women, but the highest divorce rates have been among women aged 25-29 and men aged 30-34. The divorce rate for couples over 65 years old has doubled since 1980.
11 There Is A "Divorce Hotel" Couples Can Stay And End Their Marriage
At the Gideon Putnam Resort & Spa in Saratoga Springs, New York, you can check in as a married couple and check out divorced. Known as the "Divorce Hotel", for $5,000 couples both get separate rooms for two nights, a divorce lawyer each and a mediator to draw up divorce papers. $700-an-hour divorce attorney Raoul Felder told the New York Post, "It’s for people who are pretty civilized and without complex financial matters. You go in married, you come out single — it’s magic."
The first of it's kind in America, the "Divorce Hotel" was the brainchild of a Dutch company and to date hundreds of couples have used it's facilities to divorce in Europe. DivorceHotel founder Jim Halfens boasts a 98 percent success rate.
10 Workers With A Longer Commute Are More Likely To Get Divorced
Bad news for commuters, according to research from Erica Sandow of Umea University in Sweden, people who commute at least 45 minutes one-way to work are 40% more likely to divorce. However, if the person had been commuting for this length of time for more than 5 years then they were only 1% more likely to divorce - probably because both partners already understood how much time apart they spend.
HubSpot co-founder Dharmesh Shah told Inc.com the potential reason for this could be the guilt of being away for so long. He added: "You start to act differently, either defensively or indulgently (or both). You make decisions you might not have made. You say things you might not have said."
9 50% Of Divorcees Regret Ending Their Marriage
According PsychCentral, approximately 6% of American couples marry, divorce, and then remarry each other. Why? Because they regretted their decision to divorce. In a survey which asked 2,000 men and women who had been divorced for five years or more, 50% said they regretted splitting ways, 54% had experienced second thoughts, and 42% would consider giving the relationship another try.
Pamela Anderson divorced her husband Rick Salomon in 2008, then in 2014 they remarried before she asked for a divorce again that same year - then changed her mind and asked the judge to cancel her request. In February 2015, she filed for divorce for a third and final time. Elizabeth Taylor first married Richard Burton in 1964, they then divorced in 1974, before remarrying in 1975 and divorcing - again - a year later.
8 The More Expensive The Wedding - The More Likely The Divorce
Be warned - if you splash out tons of money on your wedding then you might be heading for splitsville early. According to Amanda McAlister, head of family law at Slater and Gordon, eight out of ten couples who divorce within the first five years of marriage said spending too much on the wedding was a major cause of conflict.
She revealed, "After the honeymoon period, when reality bites, repaying such sums becomes a great strain on the relationship; along with the ever-increased costs of starting a family in the shadow of uncertain economic times. In the heat of romance and celebration it can be too easy to ignore the often crippling long-term implications which naturally impose a huge strain on new relationships."
7 People Who Don't Want To Divorce Should Marry An Agricultural Engineer
Professions with the highest divorce rate are dancers, choreographers, nurses, psychiatrists, massage therapists, and bartenders - 40% of their marriages ended in divorce. Whereas only 7% of optometrists, dentists, clergymen, and podiatrists separated from their spouses. The most faithful partners were agricultural engineers as only 2% of their marriages ended in divorce according to the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology.
Dai Williams of the British Psychological Society, told the Observer: "It won't amaze anyone that relationships frequently break down under the pressure of jobs involving long hours and unpredictable working patterns. Or that if you work in an extrovert environment, you will have more chance to meet other people and develop competing relationships"
6 The Seven Year Itch Does Exist
The sad news is that the seven year itch isn't a myth but instead a proven statistic. Dating site, which helps people have affairs, revealed to The Huffington Post that more than 40% of its members felt like leaving their marriage after seven years. Rosie Freeman Jones, spokesperson for the site, said: "'The Seven Year Itch' does exist and, increasingly, spouses are turning to agencies like ours to cure it. After seven years, it appears the initial spark between most couples has waned, and in its place are the stresses and strains of keeping a relationship together, from financial worries to gripes about who's going to do the ironing."
So how can couples avoid the seven year itch? Family therapist, Robert Taibbi, told Psychology Today, "Update your vision as a couple. What do you both envision in the next year, five years, ten years? Again, the key here is being open and honest, not polite and vague. It's not so important what you say as you both have the ability to say it. This is what will help you both narrow the gap between your daily life and your inner needs."
5 Having Twins Or Triplets Increases The Risk Of Divorce By 17%
28% of couples with twins or triplets had their marriage end in divorce. According to a study titled The Effects of Twins and Multiple Births Families and Their Living Standards, the financial pressure of raising such a large family resulted in permanent separations.
Many families don't receive additional support for having a multiple birth. TAMBA chief executive Keith Reed said: "The main (political) parties say they are committed to strong families, and helping mothers back to work, but many families with multiple births are in dire straits because successive governments have ignored their needs."
4 There Are Six Warning Signs Couples Are About To Divorce
Relationship experts will tell you there are six signs that a divorce in inevitable. These are: 1) Fantasising of a life without your spouse 2) The negatives in the marriage outweigh the positives 3) Lack of communication 4) Becoming overly defensive or dismissive with each other 5) Only one spouse feels as if they are working to solve the problems 6) A non-existent sex life.
3 There Are Seven States That Allow You To Sue A Home-wrecker
If a home-wrecker has stole your spouse, or as legal teams would put it "alienation of affection", you can sue them in the following states - Hawaii, Illinois, New Mexico, North Carolina, Mississippi, South Dakota, and Utah.
DivorceNet.com advise: "The "defendant" (the third-party who destroyed the marriage) pay money damages based on loss of consortium (marital affection and fellowship), mental anguish, humiliation, injury to health, and/or the loss of support. In all of these states - except for Illinois, where money damages are limited - spouses may also request punitive damages (a monetary fine to punish defendants for their bad actions)."
2 The Latest Trend Is To Throw A Divorce Party
In 2012, businesswoman Glynda Rhodes launched a new company - The Divorce Party Planner - and she has never stopped since. So what are the parties like? Glynda told FirstWivesClub.com, "The parties are never the same - burn the dress, let the wedding ring go with balloons. We have made foam board targets of the X to be shot up with paintball guns. We have taken the wedding song they walked down the aisle to and recorded it backwards." Divorce packages range from $1,000 to $4,800 - with names such as "Barely Survived", "Self Sufficient", and "I Got It All".
Psychologist Robin Deutsch, director of the Centre of Excellence for Children, Families and the Law, at the Massachusetts School of Professional Psychology, told the BBC that it's an idea that should be praised. She said, "The growth of the divorce (celebration) industry speaks to the fact that people want to acknowledge loss through ritual. I think it gives them a sense of hope and closure, it's a positive thing. People do what they feel they need to do to move on. What they do, what kind of ritual they have, that's their choice."
1 50% Of Marriages In America End In Divorce
In America, there are one hundred divorces every hour. Around 45%-50% of first marriages end in divorce, compared to 60% of second marriages and 70% of third marriages.
William Doherty, a marriage therapist and professor of family social science at University of Minnesota, told The Telegraph: "Two-thirds of divorces are initiated by women, so when you’re talking about changes in divorce rates, in many ways you’re talking about changes in women’s expectations." The feminist movement in the 1970s played a huge role in evolving marriage into it's modern day form, based on a shared love for each other, two incomes and shared household chores.
Statistics also show that many couples are getting married later in life too. During the 1950s the average age of marriage for women was 20-years-old and for men 23-years-old. Nowadays, the average age is 27-years-old for men and 26-years-old for women.