There’s a reason that lots of people say college is the best four years of your life. It’s the first time you get to be out on your own and figure out what you really want from life. You can explore new cities, take classes about subjects you never studied in high school, and meet new friends who could change your life. The dating game also changes in college suddenly, you’re meeting lots of guys, but it’s tough to figure out what to do when you meet someone that you actually click with. Should you try to make things official, or should you keep it casual? Lots of people are getting into relationships in college, but there’s definitely something to be said for staying single. Of course, everyone is different, but there is no better time in your life than college to fly solo. Here are 15 reasons to stay single in college:
15 You’ll make more girlfriends
Don’t worry about finding your future husband in college worry about finding your bridesmaids instead! College is the perfect place to meet the kind of girlfriends that will stick around for life. And while guys can bring you down and stress you out, your girls are the people who will be around to lift you up and support you no matter what. You may meet guys in college who will break your heart, but the girls that you meet could end up being the best friends you’ll ever have. If you’re in a relationship, you’ll be focusing a lot of time and energy on one guy when you could be spending that time branching out and meeting new friends. So instead of trying to get your last Tinder hookup to settle down and spend Friday nights cuddling with you, why not have that movie night with some girls in your hall instead?
14 You don’t have to check in with anyone
Life can get crazy busy in college and that’s not a bad thing. Sure, some weeks you’ll be bogged down with essays, exams, and readings, but sometimes, your schedule will be jam packed with coffee dates with new friends, campus events, and parties that you won’t want to leave. If you’re in a relationship, you always have another person to keep track of. Even if you aren’t the clingy type, you’ll probably want to know where your boyfriend is and what he’s doing most of the time, and he’ll feel the same way about you. It’s only natural to want to have some idea of what your significant other is up to on a day to day basis. But constantly checking with someone about where you’re going, what time you’ll be back, and who you’ll be with can get exhausting! But if you’re single, you don’t have to check in it's all up to you!
13 Your future is yours
Let’s say that you meet someone your freshman year of college who you think is the perfect guy. He’s smart, he’s funny, and he’s ambitious-maybe he’s studying international relations and hopes to move to Europe after college, or maybe he’s an aspiring artist who wants to move to New York and chase his dreams. In the beginning, the future seems so far off that none of it feels real. But what about when it’s time to graduate and he’s packing his bags to move out of state while you’re getting job offers nearby? Being in a relationship in college means that you have to consider each other’s plans after graduation. The sad reality is that they may not be compatible. If you stay single in college, you don’t have to change your future plans for anyone once you throw your cap in the air, you can go anywhere and do anything you like.
12 You can focus on school
It’s great to have an active social life in college. But the real reason that you go to college is to get an education. It may not sound as exciting, but doing well in your classes should definitely be your top priority for the next four years. Sure, spending your night staying up late studying isn’t as much fun as staying up late with a guy that you’re into, but those marathon study sessions are going to be much more useful in the long run. Having a boyfriend in college sounds great in theory, but in reality, it can end up distracting you from what’s really important. Remember, you’re not paying thousands of dollars per year just to meet guys. A college education is an investment in your future, and your job for the next four years is to take advantage of your courses and learn as much as you can.
11 You can jumpstart your career
College isn’t just about getting an education it's about getting an education that will lead you down the right career path. In addition to studying hard and getting good grades, you should also be spending your time getting to know your professors, applying for internships, pursuing volunteer opportunities, and figuring out where you want to go and what you want to do after graduation. You don’t want to graduate and suddenly realize that you STILL have no clue what you want to do with your life! The “real world” can be a big, scary place, so you need to do everything that you can to prepare. Staying single in college means that you can spend more time focusing on your future career, building your resume, and making connections with people that can help you find a job. Don’t let guys distract you from your goals you need to take charge of your future.
10 Emotional stability
Guys can drive you crazy, right? You worry when he doesn’t text back, and then you freak out over how to reply when he finally does. You stalk his Twitter and Facebook to figure out if he’s talking to anyone else, and you get flustered if you notice that he liked another girl’s picture on Instagram. You get nervous when you see him around campus, but you get a little upset if you don’t see him. There’s no way to win! Even if things seem to be going well, love has no rhyme or reason sometimes, your feelings about him will be all over the place. By staying single, you save yourself a ton of anxiety. Sure, you’ll still have feelings for people, but there won’t be any pressure to make things work out a certain way. If you stay single and go with the flow, you’ll have nothing to worry about!
9 You’ll save money
There’s no way around it, dating can get expensive. Even if you’re both good at sticking to a budget, you’ll want to do something special for each other once in a while. Maybe you’re both really low maintenance and frugal, but even so, you’ll end up treating each other to dinner, planning something extra for an anniversary, spending extra on gas to go see each other over breaks...over time, it all adds up. College students are usually broke, and being in a relationship can make it harder to keep track of your limited savings and build up your bank account. Staying single will definitely help you save money, and when you do spend, it’ll be on you! Can you really afford dinner and movie dates, extra birthday presents, and weekends away? If the answer is no, you might be better off staying uncommitted for now, because dating will always cost you money.
8 You’ll have more free time
Being in a relationship doesn’t just mean calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend and agreeing not to hook up with anyone else. There’s so much more to it than that. You’ll end up spending a ton of time together. It’s great to have someone that you feel comfortable around and want to see all the time. But it also takes away the time that you have for other things. If you’re in a relationship, you’ll have less time to see your other friends and family, you’ll have less time to study, and you won’t be able to join as many clubs and activities. Some people have great time management skills and can balance being in a committed relationship with lots of other things, but if you’re not one of those people, you’ll need to consider your priorities. Staying single means that you’ll have a lot more free time do whatever you want!
7 You’ll meet lots of guys
You’ll probably meet more guys in college than at any other time in your life. Sure, some of them will be idiots, but some of them will be really wonderful people. It’s definitely harder to make guy friends when you’re in a relationship. Guys might think they’re crossing a line if they ask you to hang out, and you might hesitate to talk to potential guy friends because you’re worried that you’ll come across as flirty and send the wrong message. But if you’re single, you don’t have to worry about any of that. You can talk to and hang out with whatever guys you want. Being in a relationship in college usually means closing off potential friendships with some great guys. Being single means that you have the opportunity to meet more guys and form more friendships, and it’s good to grow your friend group and keep your options open!
6 You’ll have funny stories
Being in a relationship usually means that you settle down a bit. You probably won’t go out to as many parties, and you won’t meet as many new people. Your life might become a little more routine and not as spontaneous. People call it “settling down” for a reason. Some people are much happier this way, and that’s perfectly fine. But some people get a little boring when they’re in a relationship they get a little TOO settled and resist going out of their comfort zone. Being single in college means getting into tons of crazy adventures and making the occasional bad decision and not having to apologize for it. When you have complete freedom and don’t have to answer to a guy, you can get into all kinds of hilarious situations. After all, you can’t be old and wise if you were never young and foolish so why not go ahead and be young and foolish?
5 You’ll find out who you really are
When you’re in a relationship, you always have to consider the other person’s needs and wants. You also have to consider them in your decisions about the future. Even when they’re not with you, you end up thinking about them and talking to them. You’re never really alone when you’re in a relationship. That can be really comforting, and your significant other can be a great support system. But sometimes, that prevents you from figuring out who YOU are and what you want. If you’re always thinking about someone else’s needs, are you really considering your own? If you have to factor someone else into all of your decisions, you’ll end up compromising on things that are truly important to you. It might not happen right away, but it will happen. College is a time for you to be selfish and figure out the life you want without a guy influencing it.
4 You won’t be tied down
Being in a healthy relationship doesn’t have to mean being tied down...but in college, most people aren’t very experienced in relationships yet and have unrealistic expectations about how they should go. This can result in both parties being very unhappy. Your boyfriend might get upset if you talk to other guys, even if you were friends with them before you started dating. He might feel left out if you hang out with your friends instead of him. He might put pressure on you to commit to things that you can’t, like promising that you’ll stay together after graduation. Many people who date in college do end up feeling tied down because their significant other has different ideas about how their relationship should be. Staying single means you won’t be tied to anyone else, and you can enjoy your freedom. You should never date someone who makes you feel like you aren’t free to make your own choices.
3 You have enough to worry about
When you’re in college, you have lots of responsibilities. Of course, you’ll have classes to go to almost every day, plus lots of reading and assignments. You’ll have other activities like sports, clubs, or volunteering. You’ll have to stay in touch with your family and friends back home, and you’ll want to spend lots of time with your friends at school. And during midterms and finals, you’ll be even busier than usual! You might also have a part time job so that you can save a little extra cash. Being a college student usually means juggling a million things at once, and it can be really overwhelming! You already have enough on your plate, why worry about a relationship too? Being single in college means that you have one less thing to think about. You’re probably busy enough already, and staying single gives you time to tackle all of your other commitments.
2 No pressure from your family
Sure, your family might already bother you about when you’re finally going to settle down and get a boyfriend. But if you do, the pressure will get even worse. You’ll have to listen to them bug you about when they get to meet him, and if you finally do bring him home to introduce him to everyone, you’ll be nervous about whether or not they’ll like him. And if you stay together long enough, they might start asking if you two ever think about getting married. College students just don’t need that kind of pressure. It adds more stress to your life. When you’re in a relationship, your family might think it’s appropriate for them to ask personal questions or encourage you to make big decisions about your future together. If you’re single, you can pretty much avoid all of this. So don’t worry about bringing anyone home for Thanksgiving!
College is the first time in your life that you get to be really independent. Even if you’re living at home, you’re responsible for choosing your major, planning your schedule every semester, getting yourself to and from school, making new connections with your classmates and professors, and making moves towards your future. Getting into a relationship can keep you from breaking out of your comfort zone and celebrating that independence. Committing to a guy can hold you back from meeting new people and prioritizing your education and career. You might find yourself falling back on his decisions instead of making your own. But it’s really important that you find your own way and make your own mistakes during this time in your life. You’re only young once, and college is a special time in your life. Being single allows you to make the most of these four short years, so go ahead and embrace your independence!