I know what you’re all thinking. A woman who dates a married man is a homewrecker, mistress, and other derogatory terms I won’t even bother mentioning. But, marriages are a lot more complicated than people think. Husbands sometimes cheat, couples can be in open relationships, and it’s perfectly normal for younger women to find themselves attracted and even attached to older, and married men. Reasons vary as to how and why younger women get involved with married men. And everyone is entitled to have their own opinions about relationships like these.
Sure, dating a married man can have a lot of disadvantages and consequences. First and foremost, he’s cheating on his wife. The relationship usually doesn’t have a definite future, there’s no real commitment happening, and he’ll never be entirely yours.
Regardless of your feelings about affairs, there are some benefits to dating a married man. If there weren’t any benefits, people wouldn’t do it. Whether you’re actually involved with a married man, are considering entering into a relationship with one, or are just interesting in finding out why some younger women date married man, here are some of the reasons why dating a married man in your 20s can be amazing.
20 No Strings Attached, No Emotions, Just Play
Unless he’s one of those completely douchy husbands, the ones that tell you they are going to leave their wife for you, chances are you know the relationship will end. With this knowledge, you’ll enjoy the relationship for what it is. These relationships usually revolve around sex instead of emotion. When you’re in your 20s, sometimes it’s better to have purely sexual, no-strings attached relationships. Especially when you have personal goals you want to accomplish before you settle down with someone. Even though you can have a no-strings attached relationship with almost anyone, having it with a married man will usually ensure that no feelings will ever be involved. This isn’t always the case, but it’s typically harder to catch feelings for someone who is already taken.
19 Gettin' Freaky Feels So Much Better
Married men are usually amazing in bed because he has more experience being adventurous and experimental with his wife. Single men usually focus on having more one night stands instead of serious relationships. This means they never actually learn how to satisfy a partner. After sleeping with the same woman for a while, you can guarantee that a married man knows exactly what women like. A married man will know where all the important spots on your body are. They will be able to fulfil you in ways other men cannot. Unlike most single men, a married man can identify and hit your clit and g-spot. Him knowing the female body means there’s a greater chance that you’ll orgasm. All women can appreciate a good O.
18 He Buys You Incredible Gifts
There is a difference between a sugar daddy and a married man. If you’re anticipating on receiving designer clothes, purses, and extraordinary vacations, don’t expect to get these from a married man. Actually, you might want to seek out a sugar daddy if that’s all you want. Married men can’t buy you everything you want because his wife will get suspicious. If he purchases a $20,000 Birkin bag for you, his wife will probably notice that huge sum of money missing from his account. But he’ll still buy you things. Since you two can’t spend too much time together, he’ll keep you around with purchases. These gifts might not be as expensive or luxurious as you might like, but they’ll keep you interested in him for sure.
17 You Don't Need To Spend Any Money On Him
If your married man isn’t in an open relationship, chances are his wife isn’t going to be pleased if she finds any specious gifts lying around their house. To avoid any further conflict in their marriage, you shouldn’t be buying your man any gifts. Even if you do end up buying him a gift for his birthday, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or any other day, he probably won’t accept it. And if he does take the gift, it will probably be thrown away immediately. But don’t be upset, that just leaves you with more money to spend on yourself and things you need. If you insist on buying him something, spend money on experiences instead of material things. Pay for your dinners, motel rooms, and whatever activities you two do together.
16 Keeping It Mysterious Makes It Devilishly Good
Secret sex almost automatically elevates how turned on you are. Doing something you aren’t supposed to do is such a turn on. And the chance that you might get caught makes it even better. Unless you actually get caught, then your relationship with him is completely ruined. But, during the time that you two are together, there is something so sexy about sneaking around. You walk around dressed in disguises, and role playing in public so that no one suspects anything. You send each other secret coded notes, texts, and calls to schedule a meet up. There’s something so juvenile but still so hot about getting busy in hotel and motel rooms, the backseat of your cars, public washrooms, offices, basically everywhere that isn’t his home.
15 He's Probably A Lot Older And More Experienced Than You
As we’ve already mentioned, when you date a married man the sex is usually amazing. But, he’s experienced in a lot of other fields as well. He’ll know all the lavish, secret date spots around the city and take you to places younger men simply don’t know. Since he’s married, he knows how to treat a lady in ways single men don’t. He understands your emotional and physical needs and will still keep you satisfied even though you are the "other woman." Since you wont be able to see him or hang out with hims that often, the experiences you two have together will always seem so much more memorable and exciting. Other than his relationship with his wife, a married man usually has his shit together. His life experiences will help spice up your life.
14 You're Learning How To Share And Becoming Less Attached
If you’re already playing the field and dating around, chances are you’re already sharing men with other women. Unless your man is completely loyal to you and you have already defined the relationship as exclusive, men usually date and hook up with multiple people at a time. A married man is no different. In this case, it might even be a bit more reassuring knowing that he is probably only with one other woman. When you’re dating younger, single men, they’re most likely hooking up with any girl that gives them attention. Sharing a partner isn’t necessarily the most satisfying experience, but it’s definitely a skill you should learn. You’re going to have to share your man in the future anyways. His mother, siblings, children, friends, and co-workers will need his attention at times as well. It’s better to learn how to share now.
13 He Makes You Feel Good About Yourself
The fact that a man, who is already taken, is interested in you means you probably have something special that makes him want to cheat on his wife for you. Him wanting you will make you feel desirable, unique and totally sexy. A married man has so much to lose by sneaking around with you. He has a family, social status, friends, and a career that can all be affected if someone finds out about your relationships. This is what draws so many young women into relationships with married men. Younger, single guys have a lot less to lose when dating you. While married men can lose basically their whole world if he gets caught. Dating a married man will make you feel wanted and important. For some young women, this is exactly what they need to feel when they’re in their 20s.
12 You Don't Need To Put Him First
You are not his first priority. His wife, kids, and job will always come first. But, this means he doesn’t have to be your first priority either. You can continue to enjoy the fun and discreet relationship you two are having, while still putting yourself first. When you’re not hanging out with him, you can focus on yourself. You can do whatever you like without worrying about how your actions affect him. Whether you enjoy going to the spa, over spending at the mall, or partying it up every night, your decisions will be made to benefit you. Being in your 20s is such a pivotal time to be selfish and only really look out for yourself. Dating a married man lets you do this.
11 It's Discreet (No One Needs To Know)
Since married men have a wife, sometimes kids, and a career, he will not disclose your relationship to anyone. While some women may prefer to showoff their relationships, others like to keep theirs a secret. For those women who like to keep their private lives, well private, they will love the discreetness of this type of relationship. Chances are, when you’re dating a married man you won’t be able to be public about the relationship. That means there will not be any cute couple photos posted on social media, you wont be able to introduce each other to your friends, and dates must also go unnoticed by others. You can date a married man without having your family, friends, and acquaintances constantly getting involved and sharing their opinion on your relationship.
10 There Aren't Any Expectations
Almost everyone goes into a relationship with some expectations. This isn’t necessarily our fault. Growing up, we are brainwashed into believing that we need some sort of fairytale-type relationship. You know, the type of relationship where you meet your prince charming, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after in some beautiful castle. These type of relationships are unrealistic and expectations like these can leave you feeling unsatisfied with your love life. When you date a married man, there are absolutely no expectations to begin with. You aren’t dreaming about a perfect future with him, don't need to worry about mutual trust, and you aren’t expecting for him to love you unconditionally. You can just enjoy the relationship for what it is instead of what you want it to be.
9 You Can Date Other People
Dating a married man means he’s obviously not monogamous to you. You knew this going into the relationship, so you shouldn’t get upset that your man is still emotionally and sexually attached to his wife. Since you two aren’t exclusive (and probably will never be), you technically don’t need to be faithful to him either. Being with a married man is one of the only types of relationships where both partners knowingly see other people. You get to date other people without the regret or guilt you would have if you were in an exclusive relationship. For a young woman in her 20s, these types of relationships can be a lot less stressful than ordinary ones. So if an attractive man approaches you at the bar, you can openly flirt with him because you’re technically still single.
8 You Don't Need To Trust Him
So, you would think that every relationship needs a strong foundation built on trust. But, you are dating a married man. If your man and his wife aren’t in an open marriage, then he’s obviously lying to her. He’s feeding her lies about where he is when he’s hanging out with you or if she already suspects something, he’s denying it. You already know he’s a liar. And even though some things he says might be true, you don’t necessarily need to believe him. When he tells you he loves you or makes plans to leave his wife for you, chances are he isn’t actually telling the truth. But, since you entered the relationship having little trust to begin with, you wont get hurt if it suddenly goes sour.
7 You're Getting A Taste Of What A Married Man Might Be Like
Not all husbands are going to cheat on their wives, so you shouldn’t base your decision to get married on the fact that the married man you are seeing is. But, dating a married man in your 20s might give you a glimpse into what married life might be like. You will learn about the financial, emotional, sexual, and intimate support marriages need in order to strive. Maybe dating a married man will encourage you to get married in the future or it might turn you off from marriage entirely. Even though all husbands are different, dating a married man will still give you a peek at some of the common traits you will see in most marriages. You can even learn from some of the mistakes your married man is making in his relationship, so that when you wed, you can avoid those same problems.
6 You Can Just Enjoy The Relationship For What It Is
Unless your man is lying to you about his marital status, you should be well aware that he has a wife. Knowing that you can never fully have him, you might as well just enjoy the relationship for what it is. It is fun. You are just having fun together. Sometimes these are the best relationships to have in your 20s. There isn’t any pressure in this relationship. You never have to worry about “where this is going” or “what are we.” This type of relationship is already defined from the start. All the stress and anxieties you have about defining a relationship isn’t there when you’re dating a married man. You know exactly what the relationship is and you can just enjoy the freedom of it.
5 You're Always Free To Bounce
Remember: If you adopt the right outlook, this can be the most freeing situation. You're in a "no strings attached" scenario, so there's really no commitment here. He pissed you off? Did something you didn't like? Turned you off? No problem. Just make like a basketball and bounce the hell outta there. You're not the one wearing a wedding ring, are you? Uh uh, sister. You've made zero promises and signed zero contracts. So, enjoy all the freedom and immerse yourself in the present moment. This is suppose to be a fun and experimental time period for you. If things become too dramatic or tough, just remember this isn't your battle to fight and simply eject yourself. You don't need to deal with anyone turning extra on you.
4 He Can Show You The Ropes
Sometimes, all a girl needs is someone to show her a little guidance to kick her off onto the right start. Some women unfortunately aren't born with role model women around them; a mother who isn't so stylish, a sister who they cannot confide in for relationship advice, or a friend who doesn't know all the juicy secrets on how to make a guy squirm in bed. Thus, hopefully at some point in her young adult life, she will meet a man who will turn things around for her. He might be the lantern in the dark, finally showing her the path of sexy womanhood. A married man is likely to be more patient with you, not only being more knowledgeable but willing to take the time to show you all the ways of becoming a hot mama in bed. And, before you know it, you'll be the GOAT in the sheets.
3 Practice Your Pre-Wifey Skills
Since they were very young girls, some women know exactly when they want to get married, what kind of husband they want, how many kids they'd like, how the wedding will be, and what kind of a wife they'll become. They'll have every last detail down-pat, including the wedding diamond cut and dress style. Some women, on the other hand, have no flippin' idea when they want to get married, or even if they ever want to get married. These confused souls are the ultimate candidates for getting a bit wild in their 20s. They need to experience as many things as possible in order to better identify what they want out of life. Maybe you'll have the opportunity to play a little game of house together. Having an involvement with a married man might help understand and discover what kind of wife they'd be or how to effectively please their own future husband.
2 You'll Learn What Men His Age Like
Older married men are a whole separate category than men in their 20s. Again, due to their experience, a married man in his 30s might be an excellent companion and lover. He will already know all the things you hate that guys in their 20s do. He won't be overly clingy, but yet he might send you a sweet text or e-mail during the day to let you know you're on his mind. He's perceptive and he'll know the importance of paying attention to the little details. The little things go a long way, and young guys don't always seem to get that. He'll most certainly introduce you to the restaurants he enjoys, the genres of music he's into, and what exactly makes his heart beat faster when it comes to bedroom fun. He's most likely going to be much more sophisticated, while remaining low-key, than a twenty-something guy would ever be.
1 You'll Learn The Tricks Of A Cheater
Most important point of them all: Messing with a cheater is the most effective way to uncover exactly all the tricks of a cheater. Befriend the enemy in order to beat them. If you know all the signals, warning signs, and maneuvers of a cheating married man, then you most likely have a very good chance of never getting cheated on. You'll know most of their tactics, and so you'll be able to see it coming and avoid being left the fool in the dark. Having already been exposed to a sensitive and risky situation such as a fling with a married man might sensitize you to the vulnerability of marriage and relationships in general. Unfortunately, the reality is, marriages are not set in stone. Thus, in the end, the experience might even make you a better wife in the future.