No matter how many times your married and attached friends try to convince you that they envy your single life, don’t believe them. Being single absolutely sucks. From attending social events solo dolo to being forced to carry your own smelly trash bags to the dumpsters, there’s no part of single life that’s really appealing. Sure, you don’t have to deal with any kind of drama, your weekends are wide open and full of possibilities, and you can date as many guys as your little heart desires. But in the end, being single has its disadvantages, too. And, of course, we’re here to lay them all out for you.
If you’re happily committed to someone, then more power to ya. But if you’re currently in a so-so relationship, and you’re feeling lukewarm about your partner, this list of 15 reasons will convince you that working it out with your boo may be better than changing your current status to single.
15 You Start To Doubt Yourself
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably been in more than a few relationships that started off strong and then puttered out after a few months. After a string of failed romances, it’s impossible not to start pointing the finger at yourself. I mean, you think you’re pretty awesome, and your grandpa says any guy would be lucky to have you. But when you suddenly find yourself single once again, you tend to be really hard on yourself. You wonder what you could have done differently, how you aided in the demise of your relationships, what you should have done, could have done, and blah blah blah. It can really do a number on your self-esteem if you don’t reign in on your thoughts and emotions and stop having an mental pity party. The truth is, many relationships fail for various reasons, but that doesn’t mean they were all your fault. It just means you haven’t met the right person. But until you do, you’ll continue to bash yourself.
14 Dating is a Drag
After finding yourself single once again, and after the initial pain from the breakup subsides, you may feel anxious to get back out there into the dating the world. You’re filled with so much hope and promise about all the dating prospects that will be lined up to wine you, dine you, and make you their bae. But as soon as you get a taste of what the real dating world is like, you’ll want to scurry back into your home and shun the dating scene for the rest of your life. Dating these days is brutal, cutthroat, and you’re more likely to go on a bunch of failed dates before meeting one guy who’s semi-decent. But even then, that one potential guy isn’t even close to what you’re looking for in a partner. Soon, you realize that dating is a complete drag. It takes so much energy, and the results are usually horrific. Welcome to the single life, girl.
13 You Get Lonely
You’re back on the market, and you’re looking forward to some “me” time. You schedule a couple weekends at your favorite spa, book a mini-vacay out of town, hit up a few happy hours with your single girlfriends, and you’re more than excited to catch up on the backlog of shows that have been recorded to your DVR. But after a few months of living the single life, the loneliness will being to sink in. Being single means you spend a lot of time at home by yourself, and it can get really boring pretty fast. Even after an amazing night out with friends, you still have to make the trek back home to an empty apartment. You will quickly start to miss the days when you had someone waiting for you as soon as you walked through the door.
12 You're Stuck Doing All the Chores
One of the best parts about being in a relationship is you get to tag team the chores! Back when you were in a relationship, Saturday mornings were spent getting your home in pristine order. Your guy would tackle the kitchen and the living room, and you would clean the bedroom and the bathroom. You guys were a team, and working together meant your house went from hot mess to presentable in less than two hours. But now, you’re forced to clean all by yourself, and it sucks. You barely start to load the dishwasher, and you’re already over it. The mess begins to pile up, because cleaning went from a fun activity for you to tackle with your boo to a dreaded weekly event. At this point, you’re even considering ringing up your ex to ask him to come over and dump your trash. Yeah, it’s that serious.
11 You're Constantly Being Let Down
Unfortunately, being single means you’ll be let down… time… and time again. When you’re in a relationship, it’s pretty much a given that you and your boo will spend weekends together. And you know that if he doesn’t answer your call, he’ll surely be calling you back as soon as he finds the time. But when you’re dating, everything is literally up in the air. That guy you sort of kind of like may or may not ask you out for Saturday, and waiting for a response to a text message is probably one of the worst feelings in the world. Dealing with rejection is also a common occurrence when you’re single. You’ll meet many men who go poof after just one date, and last minute cancelations will happen far too frequently. The let downs you receive from the dating world will really put a damper on your self-esteem. Was it something you said? Was it something you did? You may never know.
10 Cooking Becomes Boring
One of the best parts about being in a relationship is cooking together with your partner. The two of you stay holed up in your apartment all weekend, stuffing your faces with the latest concoction the two of you made with love. But as soon as your single, those fancy meals you used to throw down in the kitchen are a thing of the past. Now, dinner consists of popcorn and a glass (or three) of wine. Or maybe you’ll just run through the Taco Bell drive-thru and pick up a couple Cheesy Gorditas on your way home from work. There’s really no need for you to make an elaborate full course meal these days, because the leftovers will just go to waste anyway. And who really wants to slave in the kitchen all night just to eat a fancy dinner all alone anyway? Not this girl.
9 There's No One to Share With
For most of us, our lives are pretty boring, right? There isn’t too much going happening on a daily basis. It’s the same old thing day in and day out. But every now and then, something absolutely amazing happens, and you just can’t wait to share the news with someone…anyone. But oh yeah, that’s right, you’re single now, and no one cares about your super duper awesome news. Well, maybe your parents give a hoot, but other than that, you don’t have a significant other to pat you on the back, suggest a celebratory dinner out on the town, and give you a huge kiss for all of your accomplishments. Even if something embarrassing or annoying happens to you, you still have no one to share your story with. It’s pretty sad, but unfortunately, this scenario is typical in the life of a single girl.
8 It Gets Cold in That King Size Bed
Okay, so your relationship ended, and the one thing you’re looking forward to the most is to stretch out on your king size bed all by yourself! Woohoo! You finally get to extend those legs out as far as you want, hog all the pillows, bunch up all the blankets around your head, and you can even do somersaults in the bed if you really feel like it (we don’t recommend this, by the way.) But after a few nights of being the queen in the king bed, you say to yourself, “Well, this kind of sucks.” Sleeping alone isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, especially when winter rolls around. If you live in a colder climate, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Those chilly nights get even chillier when you’re in a half-empty bed. And no matter how many blankets you pile on top of you, nothing beats having a warm body to snuggle up with.
7 Why Are You Single?
Oh, that dreaded question that seems to be at the top of every single conversation. Complete strangers will ask you,“Why are you single?” but what they really mean is, “Why are you a loser?” Being single has a stigma attached to it whether we want to admit it or not. People will approach you like you’re a mystical creature from a magical land. They will have a puzzled look on their faces as they mentally try to make sense as to why no one has claimed you as their boo. You will constantly have to justify your single status, and pretty soon, you’ll get sick of coming up with excuses as to why you’re failing in the love department. I mean, if you actually knew why you were single, you would change it, right? So the fact that people keep pestering why and your status is beyond annoying. But get used to it, because they won’t stop asking until you’re finally off the market.
6 Work-Life Balance? What's That?
When you’re married or in a commitment relationship, you pretty much have a free pass to make a quick dash out of the office as soon as the clock hits 5:00 PM. But for you single ladies, there’s no such thing as punching out. You’ll be the go-to girl for those late night projects, and if they need someone to work on the weekend, you’ll be the first person they ask. To many employers, they equate being single to having no life. And well, it’s kind of true, isn’t it? But still, you deserve the time off and away from that cubicle, but sometimes, working extra hours is a nice distraction from your pathetic love life, isn’t it? You’ll find that taking on more hours keeps your mind off of dating, but spending too much time at work takes away from the possibilities that you may finally meet your match.
5 Goodbye Affection
Your ex used to smother you every time you walked through the door, and movie nights on the couch would always turn into him forcing you to intertwine yourself into a figure-8 position with him. You dreaded it, but it made him happy so you sucked it up to keep the peace. But now that you’re single, you suddenly miss those days of spontaneous kisses and cuddle marathons. But it’s more than just physical affection that’s missing, it’s the emotional connection that goes along with it. Sure, you could ask your mom for a hug, but a hug from a significant other is full of the kind of passion that we all crave. Because the truth is, we all desire some sort of affection whether it be a kiss, a hug, or some fun between the sheets. And being single is a reminder that no one wants to touch you.
4 Your Social Circle Gets Smaller
So you announce your single status to your closest friends, and they provide you some shoulders to cry on, of course, but they really can’t wait to get you back out on the town for some drinks and fun! The first few weekends with your single girlfriends are full of late nights at bars and lounges, grooving to the music, and scoping out all the single men. But suddenly, your girlfriends start dropping like flies. First, Tiffany’s FWB finally decided to make things official with her, Lisa’s ex-boyfriend begged her to reconcile, and the guy Michelle met at the the Chick-fil-A drive-thru turned out to be the love of her life. And there you are…still single. As you get older, this scenario will happen far too often, and the longer you stay on the market, the more likely you are to see your girlfriends drop off the face of the Earth as they embark on their new romances. Oh yeah, and until you find a guy who’s suitable enough to be your boyfriend, you won’t be invited out on any double dates with you friends and their BF’s any time soon. Go ahead and kiss those friendships goodbye!
3 Getting Sick is the Pits
When you’re in a relationship, your boyfriend might as well dress up in a nurse’s costume, because that’s exactly what he becomes as soon as that first cough escapes your lungs. It’s nice to have someone around to take care of you when you’re feeling under the weather, isn’t it? Too bad you took those days for granted. Because now you’re single, and you’re on your own. Your prescription is ready for pickup? You better suck it up and make that trek out to the pharmacy. Your cup needs a refill of orange juice? Welp, you’ll need to find the strength to roll out of bed and fill it up yourself. Your BFF may stop by just to make sure you didn’t OD on throat lozenges, but other than that, you’re all alone in this world…oh yeah, and you’re totally single, too.
2 Your Family Won't Get Off Your Back
When you’re in a relationship, everyone wants to know when you and your guy are going to settle down and walk down the aisle. But questions about marriage are nothing compared to questions about why you’re still single. The longer you stay unattached, the more annoying your family will become with their pestering. They will start to give you outdated dating tips from the 1970s, they will try to hook you up with their best friend’s neighbor’s nephew (hey, you’re both single, why not?) and they will randomly hand out your number to every single guy they meet out on the streets. Things will get so bad you’ll probably start to avoid interacting with them completely. You don’t want to be rude, but they’re really starting to tick you off. You already realize you’re single, you don’t need your family to remind you of it every single day!
1 Holidays Are Depressing
Whether you want to admit it or not, there’s a big difference between celebrating the holidays when you’re single and when you’re in a relationship. Being in a relationship means you have your boo by your side as the two of you make stops at your ‘rents’ home, his family’s home, and then the two of you may end the night reciting poetry as you stare deeply into each other’s eyes (okay, maybe not that last part, but you get my point.) When you’re single, the holidays completely suck! These special days are all reminders that you are single and all alone. There’s no one to spoon feed pumpkin pie to on Thanksgiving, no one to exchange gifts with on Christmas day, no one to kiss at midnight on New Years Eve, and no one to wear matching red outfits with on Valentine’s Day. Go ahead and let out a big cry, we won’t judge you.