Things with your boyfriend are going great. Actually, they’re downright awesome. When you think of the future, you think about being his wife, buying a home together, and popping out some miniature sized versions of yourselves. You know that he loves you because he tells you every single day, but you feel like your relationship has come to a standstill. You’re definitely ready to take the next step, but your boyfriend is more than content with the way things are. Every time you bring up the word “marriage,” he suddenly goes deaf in both ears, and whenever you try to show him engagement ring styles that you love he immediately changes the subject. Does this sound like your current situation? If so, you’re not alone.
Now’s the time for you to take matters into your own hands, and that includes some tips and tricks that will light a fire under your man’s tush. With these 15 psychological tricks, you will trigger a response from the man you love, causing him to finally solidify your relationship by asking for your hand in marriage. This is exactly what you’ve been dreaming about for years, right? So don’t waste another second. Put these tips into use so you can get the man, get the ring, and start planning the wedding of your dreams!
15 Hang Out With Married Friends
The key to getting your guy comfortable with the thought of getting hitched is to make him hang out with some of your married friends and family members. When he is around couples who have made the ultimate commitment to each other, he will start to envision doing the same with you. Your married friends will show him that being married has its ups and downs, but at the end of the day, their commitment to each other is what’s most important. This tactic will definitely work well for men who have divorced parents, too. Some men from divorced families are a little more cautious about walking down the aisle after seeing their parents’ marriage crash and burn. Your job is to replace those negative images with the idea that marriage is a happy and blissful union. So make sure the two of you spend time with happily married couples who can set a good example for your guy. He’ll definitely start to see marriage as a positive next step in his life.
14 Become Indispensable
If your boyfriend is dragging his feet when it comes to proposing, it doesn’t mean he can’t see you as a part of his future. But he needs to have a feeling inside of him that lets him know he can’t live the rest of his life without you by his side. To make sure that he not only wants but needs you in his life, you have to become the complete package. You should be his sounding board, his best friend, his weekend tennis partner, and the best at making his favorite kind of pie. When the two of you are together, all of his worries should instantly leave his mind. He knows that your time spent together will be drama free, full of laughs, and he will be excited to make even more memories with you. Also, a major part of becoming indispensable is to realize that your guy needs time away from you, as well. Whether he spends this time apart reading a book, or hanging out with his friends, he will appreciate the fact that you are confident and secure in the relationship to give him a breather every now and then. He will slowly realize that being with you doesn’t mean he has to give up his freedom, and he’ll be anxious to take the next step in your relationship.
13 Keep Him On His Toes
Simply sitting and waiting for your boo to propose isn’t going to get the job done. As a matter of fact, it might prolong your unmarried status even longer. If you really want to get your guy down on one knee, you have to shake things up a bit. Don’t let him get too comfortable, and definitely don’t allow him to get set in a routine when it comes to your relationship. The trick is to keep him guessing and wondering what’s on your mind, what you’re feeling, and what you’ve been up to all day. For example, instead of being at home waiting for him to get off from work every single day, switch things up by noticeable being absent one day. Or, plan a weekend night out with the girls, but don’t let him know your plans until Thursday night rolls around. He will definitely stop taking your presence for granted. But there’s a fine line between keeping him on his toes and creating insecurities in your relationship so tread lightly when using this tactic.
12 Put the Focus Back on Yourself
Have you ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship? Perhaps you dedicated years to catering to your man’s every need. You stopped doing all the things that made you happy because you were so focused on making him happy. Although you may think that catering to someone is the way to win their heart, it’s definitely doing a lot more harm than good. When it comes to making your guy feel the urge to propose, he needs to know that you value yourself, you have goals and dreams of your own, and you have a life outside of him. Do you think he really wants to marry someone who is at his beckon call 24/7? It may sound appealing at first, but he’ll definitely grow tired of it. Starting today, make plans to take the focus off of him, and place it back on yourself. Pick up those old hobbies you stopped pursing, get your butt back in the gym and start working on your fitness, or spend the day at the spa getting pampered. If you do something a few times a week to make yourself happy, you will become irresistible to your man, and he will be dying to take your relationship to the next level.
11 Hint About Moving
If all else fails, it may be time to pull out the big guns. If you don’t see your relationship headed in the right direction, you need to initiate a big change in your life to shake things up a bit. Casually bring up your desire to move to another city to pursue a new job opportunity, or throw out the idea of relocating to a new state that has awesome weather. But bringing up these ideas in passing isn’t enough, you have to make him believe you already have the plans in motion. Start researching new apartment complexes and let him know about all the awesome amenities, or let him know exactly how this new job opportunity in a new state will really further your career. Even if you don’t have any plans on actually moving, just he thought of you packing up and leaving him behind should be more than enough to get him to propose.
10 Let Him Know You Have Options
Don’t scare the living daylights out of the poor guy, but putting a little bit of fear into your relationship here and there definitely won’t hurt him. Your guy knows you’re absolutely in love with him, and he trusts you with all his heart, but he needs to know that you definitely have other options. To get him riled up a bit, spark up a conversation with the cute barista at your local coffee shop, or be open to receiving positive attention from other men while in your boyfriend’s presence. You want your guy to know that not only are you attracted to other men, but they’re definitely attracted to you, too! By putting a hint of fear in his mind that someone else may come in and sweep you off your feet, he will be clamoring to find the perfect ring to make sure you’re his and only his from now until forever!
9 Pull Back
This trick definitely has to be one of the toughest ones to pull off. When you’re with someone you love, of course you want to spend a copious amount of time with them, right? Well, spending too much time with your guy can actually drag things out in terms of the two of you finally getting engaged. The key is to pull back a bit, give yourself and the relationship a little bit of space, and your guy will instinctively move closer to you. When you physically and emotionally pull back from a guy, you are subtly taking away all of the things that he has become comfortable with. For example, if you stop using the kissy face emoji in your morning text messages, he will definitely take notice; and if you don’t want to cuddle after a romp in the sack, he’ll lay their scratching his head and wondering why you’re disconnecting from him. The emotional and physical absence will make him want to recapture the moments that made him feel so good inside. He’ll soon realize that if he wants your mind, body and soul completely, he needs to step it up and finally put a rock on your finger!
8 Make a Big Purchase
If you want your guy to start taking your relationship seriously, and you’re hoping for an engagement, make a big purchase without confiding in him first. For example, you can go out and buy a brand new car without letting him know, or apply for a home loan all by yourself. It just has to be something major that he would never expect from him. Just make sure it’s something you can actually afford to do (we don’t want you going broke all in the name of getting your guy to propose.) Once he discovers you did something without his input, he will definitely be shocked by your newfound independence, and it will make him think that you really don’t need him, and your life will carry on with or without him. If he asks you why you didn’t consult with him before making such a big purchase, you can causally answer with, “Well, you’re not my husband, you know.” He’ll probably be fuming mad, but it will definitely push him to want to seal the deal!
7 Spend More Time With Friends
Before your relationship started, you had a very active social life and more friends than you could count. But as soon as you and your boyfriend got serious, you started canceling plans, and you routinely skipped out on your weekly dinner date with your BFF. Eventually, your friends stopped asking you to hang out, and now, you’ve realized you haven’t heard from them in months. Now that you’re hoping for an engagement, you have to make time for your friends. This is one of the most imperative techniques to get your guy to propose. Letting him know that you have a social life outside of your relationship will make him see you in a different light. Men like to know that they’re not the be-all and end-all for their girlfriend. So start going through your contacts list and reconnect with the friends who were loyal to you and by your side long before your man entered your life. If they’re true friends, they’ll definitely forgive you for your absence. Just make sure you invite them to the wedding, because once you start spending more time with your gal pals, your man will definitely start planning your engagement!
6 Break Down the Cost
Many men are hesitant to get engaged because they’re afraid of just how much it cost to buy an engagement ring. The average cost of a shiny diamond ring is well over $4K, but this doesn’t mean your guy has to go all out when it comes to your sparkler. If you’re waiting for a proposal, and you know your guy is hesitant about spending a lot of dough, let him know you’ll be more than happy to receive a smaller engagement ring that isn’t too pricey. If you’re not completely sold on a diamond, you could also suggest a much cheaper gemstone of your preference. If your guy knows that he doesn’t have to break the bank to make you happy, he’ll be more inclined to buy you a ring that fits within his budget. And besides, you can always upgrade your e-ring later in life when the two of you are in a better financial position.
5 Get Lost
No seriously, go away. Just go anywhere. Get out of his face, get off of your butt, and get out of town. If you want your bae to finally propose to you, plan a trip to really get his attention. Round up a few of your girlfriends and embark on a journey, or you can even go on a solo trip. Make sure the location is somewhere tropical or exotic so he can spend his time back at home envisioning you being fed grapes by a couple of buff island men in speedos. Touch base with him while you’re away, but keep your conversations short and sweet. You’re having the time of your life, you simply don’t have more than three minutes to chat on the phone, right!? Going on a vacation without your guy will definitely make him go into shock. Don’t be surprised if you get engaged a few weeks to a couple of months after you return home!
4 Lay Off the Wedding Talk
At this point, he knows you want to get married because you talk about it all the time. You have countless wedding magazines popping up in the mail, you’ve told him how a mermaid wedding gown will have your curves on fleek, you’ve gone into detail about how gorgeous baby’s breath flowers look in a bouquet, and he notices every time you follow a new wedding-related profile on Instagram. You might as well wear a sign that says “marry me, why don’t cha?” on your forehead, because the desperation is seeping through your pores. If you want your boyfriend to propose, it’s time to lay off all the wedding talk. You could be completely overwhelming and stressing the poor guy out with your incessant wedding chatter. Instead, just play it cool. You have already let him know that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, he doesn’t need to know all the details about your dream wedding until after he puts a ring on your finger.
3 Give Him a Timeframe
If your relationship is really stalling out, and an engagement doesn’t look like it’s anywhere in sight, it’s time to put a timeframe on things. You’re not giving him an ultimatum, you’re simply letting him know your life plans, and he can either get onboard or suggest an alternative. If you’ve been together for awhile, and you’re ready to take that next step, let your guy know that you would like to be engaged within X amount of months. At this time, he will either let you know that he does plan on proposing soon, or he will say he needs more time to sort things out. Ask him how much time he needs, and if it’s a reasonable amount, agree to his proposed timeframe. If he simply doesn’t know whether or not he wants to get married to you, then you have a decision to make on whether or not you want to remain with a man who is unsure about taking things to the next level.
2 Let Him Know What Kind of Ring You Want
Let’s be honest here, guys are clueless about jewelry, and they especially have no idea what to look for when it comes to an engagement ring. If you want to be happy with his choice, don’t let him take matters into his own hands. It’s always best to make things easy for him, and to ensure you’ll be engaged sooner rather than later, let him know exactly what kind of ring you want. Now, don’t bog him down with all the details, you can simply send him the URL of a ring that you are absolutely in love with. He will be able to use that ring as an example when he heads out to the jewelers to make a purchase. If you can eliminate the hassle of him choosing a ring that will make you happy, he’ll be much more open to proposing to you. You just made his job that much easier!
1 Tell Him What Marriage Means to You
And lastly, you have to have an honest conversation with your guy if you really want to get engaged. For some men, marriage simply isn’t a big deal. They see it as “just a piece of paper.” But, if you’re reading this list of psychological tricks, marriage most likely means something a lot more to you. Perhaps it’s the ultimate sign of commitment, maybe it makes you feel more secure in your relationship, or it’s all about spending the rest of your life with the one person you can’t imagine living without. Whatever your reasons are for wanting to get married, make sure your guy knows all of them. Even if he isn’t too keen on the idea of tying the knot, knowing just how much it means to you may be enough to get him to take that next step. If he knows that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, getting married is something he will be eager to do because he knows it will make you happy.
By combining all 15 of these tactics together and putting them to use, you’ll be sporting a shiny and sparkly engagement ring in no time!