The one, your SO, your life partner... call it whatever you would want to. It is always a defining moment when minds get made up, when the proposals follow, and then finally, the "I dos" complete it. Right now, we are really interested in how it all started. Let us forget about the typical answers to the question; how did you know she was the one? We have all heard the typical answers; "I just knew it", "it just felt right" and the cliche answers we have already thought of at least once. We are ditching those answers because honestly, we are tired of them, they are just not what we want to hear. Interestingly, we met a couple of men who were willing to tell us a lot more than just an imagination. They bared it all on reddit and I am simply so excited talking about it. The emotions are so real, the descriptions so vivid, the instances so practical that we felt like an audience to these magical and life-changing moments. Let us read on to find out what made sworn bachelors become husbands or what made these men change their songs from "I just want to have some fun because I am not ready" to " marry me". These may be confessions even their wives have not heard yet but I am sure they would swoon at these revelations if they ever heard them.
15 She Was There When I Opened My Eyes
Everybody wants someone who has got their back all the time. Some men confessed that the moment of decision was when they were sick and found out that their girlfriends took care of them the whole time. “I woke up in the middle of the night with a fever. I felt disgusting. She could have gone home. We had been dating a month. Only a month. But she woke up and took care of me. No girl ever had that kind of patience and heart. I felt then that she was something special." 32-year-old Matthew a Reddit user revealed. Several other men were so touched by this kind of gesture that they popped the commitment question. Obviously, this has got to do with what the wonderful lady did. Let's read on to find out if all these men made the decisions based on what their girlfriends did.
14 It All Matched
Some men found themselves totally smitten by the fact that they shared the same interests with their girlfriends. To them, that was the sign they had been waiting for. “When we first moved in together and we were unpacking our books. I stepped back when we were done and I noticed we had doubles of all of our favorite novels. I remember thinking to myself, ‘yup, she’s the one’.” One man explained. Wow, this sounds totally cool. Another man had a totally different story. "It was then that I realized we liked all the same things. I was talking about buying a motorcycle and she says you better buy two. She's really good with a pistol and she loves fishing. Just the things I like".
13 The Laughter, The Things
I didn't know laughter could do magic but these men are telling us it was the laughter. Maybe, I should give it a try. "We were at a party with mutual friends (didn't know each other at the time). I noticed the only person at the party who was belly laughing at my jokes was her. After we started talking, I realized how smart she was. Then she told me a corny joke. I had to have her after that...", “Out to the movies with a big group. Stupid movie, but there was only one other person who laughed at what I laughed at. I figured out who she was. We went out. We continued to laugh at all the wrong spots in life. We have been married almost 25 years. Still laughing when no one else does." There you heard it from these Reddit users.
12 I Missed Her Way Too Much
What happens when you miss someone a lot? Sometimes more than you can bear? The answer is pretty much obvious, you would want them by your side all the time. That is what happened to 24-year-old Ken. Ken revealed all these through Reddit. “We did the long-distance thing for three months. The further apart we were, the more I hated it. The more I wanted to be with her. The more every other girl in my city just seemed boring compared to her.” “When I realized I always wanted you by my side no matter what I did and I was sad when you weren't around." This man could not keep it all to himself. He had to share it via Twitter. We are glad you did because we love to read all things love. You just happen to be one of our favorite persons this very moment.
11 I Still Get Nervous
I did not know this counts. Let me ask our lovely ladies this question. Does your boyfriend appear nervous when he is with you? If yes, then he is probably like this young man who described what made him realize his girlfriend is the one. His response to the question on Reddit could simply not be overlooked. “She was literally the first and only girl that ever made me genuinely nervous in every way. I was normally so self-assured, so confident, so arrogant, but something about her made all of that fall away to the point where I was a bumbling, nervous wreck. Thankfully, she apparently found this 'cute.' I knew pretty much immediately." So ladies, do not get to worked up when your man seems to make too many mistakes when you are with him.
10 I Reacted, She Did Too, It Felt Good
Some men also explained that ladies who allow them to be themselves are absolutely their favorite kind of girls. They cannot spend the rest of their lives pretending to be calm and cool with everything. They want to be allowed to let the air out occasionally. Some men revealed that they knew she was the one when she did not pretend to calm down when she was mad at a situation. Or she did try to calm him down when he was mad at a situation that needed to be dealt with. One man revealed that he knew she was the one when she reacted when someone cut her off while she was driving. He thought that was the moment because he was also about to react. So ladies, let your man react, he needs to. You get what I mean.
9 Everyone Said So
Interestingly, the people these men care about also had a role to play. Their role seems pretty much important in the case of these two men. One man was convinced she was the one because his friends were convinced too. “If a girl can impress your friends, she’s something special. My friends met her for 30 minutes and texted me saying that I shouldn’t do anything to mess this up. I sent them back the thumbs up emoji, and have been working double time to do everything right since then. This man might be traditional or probably just a little too obedient. “I knew she was the right one for me, and that I wanted to marry her, but I wanted to see what my parents thought. We all went on a weekend vacation together, and at the end of it, my dad and mom said that I better put a ring on it before it’s too late. A week later, I did. I listen to directions pretty well.” 28-year-old Dan reveals on Reddit.
8 When I Stopped Thinking "I" And Started Thinking Of "We"
This man's answer was pretty simple, he knew she was the one when he started including her in all his plans. He goes shopping and he thinks of getting a double of everything because she would be visiting. He suddenly gained interest in couple items. He even started making a lot of space in his wardrobe for her. Virtually all his plans were incomplete whenever he did not include her. That was the moment he knew it was time to pop the big question. If your man starts saying let's do this, let's think about this, let's plan this. Or he starts saying, we will do this or that, he is probably considering a long-term relationship with you. Do not get too surprised when he gets on one knee soon.
7 I Ran Out Of Reasons Not To
Some men revealed that they only realized it after thinking so much about it. Some bachelors thought so hard about why they should remain single but they only found reasons why they should get married to their girlfriends. This Reddit user realized she was the one when his friend prompted him. “My very good friend at the time asked me, ‘Then why don’t you marry her?’ I couldn’t come up with a single reason not to. We just celebrated our seven year anniversary today.” I wish there are a lot of friends out there like this who would prompt these men when it is time to make the big move. Ladies, make sure you give your man every reason to want to spend the rest of his life with you.
6 I Started Living For The Little Moments
Some men also revealed that it was not about a moment neither was it about an event or occurrence. It was about everything. The little things like the usual text messages, the coffee outings, the strolls and walks in the parks, the weekend drive, and sometimes the fact that they are together. They need not to talk all the time, even the silence meant a lot. One man revealed that he kept wanting to do more of those little things with her. He felt like he was not getting enough of her and that was the point he knew he had to take the big step. He could not wait to spend more time doing those things with her and he confessed that those little things are those that make their marriage an everyday adventure.
5 When I Realized I Loved Her
“I was in the bedroom getting ready to go somewhere and I heard my wife (girlfriend at the time) in the living room say ‘That’s what you get for f-!@ing with Indiana Jones, douche bag!’. I asked her to marry me shortly after. I think she was watching Last Crusade.” -Reddit user. Ever felt so sure about your feelings for someone just because of something they said or did? Those moments were the deciding moments for some of these men. They probably thought what they felt for their girlfriends was not enough until the moment they were hit hard by their own feelings. Some men also revealed that they were so touched by how much their girlfriends cared for them that they were convinced that she was the one.
4 Someone Shared My Dreams, It Was Her
Men consider it priceless when they find someone who believes in what they believe in. It could be their dream career, the dream vacation, you name it. It just feels very good when they are on the same page even in thoughts. One man shares his story. He just knew she was the one when he found out she wanted to visit Australia, a country he is so obsessed with and plans to visit one day. He just knew she was the one because she gave him an Australian bill as a gift. Sometimes it is the simple gestures that we overlook. Some men also think it is worth being with a woman who supports your dreams even when the dream seems impossible at the moment.
3 Best Friends, What More Could I Ask For?
When you begin to share everything with your partner then you know you should do everything to make that relationship work. Some men revealed that they wanted to spend their lives with the women they could discuss everything with. They thought that kind of relationship does not happen too often. One man revealed that his girlfriend wakes him up to watch a football match. Another man said he was convinced he wanted to be with his then-girlfriend because he found himself talking about everything with her. There were times he forgot he had already talked about an incident and he found himself repeating it. I guess being a good listener would help in this case. We all cannot be good listeners but we can always pay attention to our partners when they talk about their issues.
2 I Suddenly Wanted 'Forever'
When men who do not even want to hear about commitment are suddenly up for a long-term relationship, we know their status (bachelor) is about to change. One man revealed that after the first date with his wife, he could not hold back any longer. He wanted to be with her all the time. He could not imagine another man trying to court her. He wanted her to be with him alone. He wanted to take responsibility for her. He just wanted to be assured that he had forever with this wonderful woman. According to him, he asked her to marry him four months after they started dating. They soon got married and have been married for ten years.
1 I Do Not Know If It Was The Bouquet Or The Aisle But That Was The Moment I Knew
Interestingly, some men were not sure when she was the one even when they made plans to tie the knot. Until the very last moment, they just went along with everything. The moment came only when they saw her walk down the aisle. Brett revealed this on Reddit. “I didn’t know she was the one. I thought she was, but who can be 100 percent sure? I kind of just asked her to get married, hoping it would all just work out. But as I saw her down the aisle, I thought to myself, ‘Wow, this was a really good choice’”. Personally, good on Brett for still going for it without even knowing for sure, but I think he knew all along he just needed to allow himself to believe it.