We’ve all done it. We’ve all lied to our boyfriend or husband at one point in the relationship, or two.
It’s a common thing, that doesn’t mean it’s right, but it does happen, so let’s talk about it! In this guide we’ve collected the most common lies that are told to our significant others, big and small, they all matter. While some might not be such a big deal, there are a few on this list that could cause some major drama if you aren’t careful. If you have lied to your partner about these things we would suggest coming clean and opening the lines of communication so you both can grow closer together and don’t have to worry about what the other is doing. It might be hard to bring this type of thing up to your partner, but at the end of the day it will be one hundred percent worth it. Just remember that if you have lied or currently lie to your partner about these things, you should take some time to not only work on communication but you should ask yourself if the relationship is really worth it to you. Because in most cases people who constantly lie to their partner are not fully checked into the relationship and they just stay in it because they don’t feel like they have any other choice. Let’s just promise we will all stop wasting each other’s time and be honest from this point on. (Well, after you finish this list)!
15 I Don’t Talk To My Ex
We’ve all heard this one, the plea that you don’t actually talk to your ex when you already planned to text him later that night. This doesn’t imply that you are cheating or anything, but it still isn’t a great look when you’re sneaking texts to your ex lover. This actually happens quite a bit. Typically your current partner will be totally against you talking to your ex even if it’s on an only friend basis, because of his own insecurities. This leaves you in a pretty weird situation. A situation where you feel trapped because you know your intentions aren’t to be sleazy and cheat, you simply just want to talk to your friend. Instead of lying and hiding this which will only make you look worse, try talking to your boyfriend about it. Try bringing it up in a way that isn’t awful. Bring it up in a way that is honest and really communicates exactly what you want to let your boyfriend know.
14 I Love You More Than Anything
You probably say this all the time. You tell your partner that you love them more than anything. You probably even have told this to them a couple days in a row sometimes. It’s a lie we’ve all told our partners and they’ve probably told you. While some out there might think it’s true, believe us, it usually isn’t. It’s rare that someone can replace the love for everything else you care about in your life. While it might come off as a sweet sentiment. It’s not ever true in most cases and maybe we should all stick to just saying I love you instead. If you tell someone this is can actually create drama in the future without you even meaning to. This can really raise the expectation your partner has for you. So instead of spreading this lie day after day, try something else. Show them instead of constantly telling them all the time.
13 I’m Fine
Another little lie that is used to brush off communication. Communication is key in any kind of relationship. If you want a healthy relationship you need to be able to communicate with your partner. When you use the little lie that you’re fine, it’s obvious that you’re usually not. Anyone that is close to you and has any awareness would be able to tell that you aren’t fine when you mutter those words. But what that does communicate to your partner is that you want to be alone, you don’t want their help, and you don’t want to tell them how you really feel. This can really set a distance between you and your partner.
“In finding love, I think it's important to be patient. In being in a relationship, I think it's important to be honest, to communicate, to respect and trust, and to strive to give more than you take.” Kina Grannis
12 You’re Right
When you default to saying that your partner was right even when they aren’t, not only are you boosting them up in a very negative way, you’re also giving them the opinion that you can be pushed around. Whether they realize this or not they will take advantage of that because of how easy you just give up with them in an argument. This is extremely unhealthy and can even turn into verbal abuse fairly quickly. Stand for what you believe in and instead of yelling and arguing, try to talk out issues that you and your partner are facing. Don’t settle for anything less than what you really deserve.
“No one can live without relationship. You may withdraw into the mountains, become a monk, a sannyasi, wander off into the desert by yourself, but you are related. You cannot escape from that absolute fact. You cannot exist in isolation.” Jiddu Krishnamurti
11 I want A Future Together
This is something that we always seem to let slip out. While it might be true in some cases. Many individuals say this just because they think it shows they care in the moment. While it does show that they care, this can also make them panic as soon as they mutter the words because of commitment. Don’t lie to your partner about the future just because you want them to know you care about them, all it does it make things harder and it will create expectations.
“Nobody can predict the future. You just have to give your all to the relationship you're in and do your best to take care of your partner, communicate and give them every last drop of love you have. I think one of the most important things in a relationship is caring for your significant other through good times and bad.” Nick Cannon
10 I Don’t Care About Your Ex’s
You’ve probably said this proudly to your partner, then proceed to check out all their facebook pages as soon as your partner is out of sight. Don’t even bring this up because this will not only betray the trust of your partner but it can make a good relationship turn into a place where old baggage is constantly being thrown back up into arguments and disagreements. Keep the slate clean and just be happy that you and your partner have a fresh start together. Don’t make the relationship toxic by looking up all the people who your partner has dated which will just lead you to having more and more unanswered questions that will eat away at you. Eventually you’ll get frustrated and have to ask before it gets any worse. Then your partner will feel betrayed because you lied to him about not caring in the first place! Just take a step back.
9 You Look Great
Sometimes it really is just easier to shut off and give a simple “compliment” like this instead of really letting your partner know how you feel about their appearance before leaving the house. If it’s an honest compliment, that’s fine, but if you are just saying this to not have to deal with bringing something up, then you really need to take a step back and evaluate the state of your relationship. Try to really think what you want out of the relationship and how honesty and communication can make things better. Would you want your partner to just fake compliment you to get you out the door and on your way? We wouldn’t, because that kind of lie can make us feel like we really wouldn’t know when and where to trust our partner. Saying you look great just for the hell of it can really separate two people without them even realizing it when they’re just throwing out compliments to make things easy.
8 I Understand
This might even be one of the worse white lies on this whole list because of the false comfort it’s giving your partner. When you build a relationship on this sort of false comfort it can really bring in some major toxic vibes into your relationship. If you were telling your partner about your day and they acted like they understood just to get you to shut up, would that make you really want to be with them for the long term? I know we wouldn’t want to be with them any more. That kind of behavior can really separate two people in a relationship overtime if it keeps happening. Instead of just saying you understand, how about actually trying to understand the situation by being involved and helpful towards your partner so you can give them the support that you would want from them. Just be honest and helpful!
7 I Don’t Have A Crush On That Guy From Work
It’s actually normal to have little crushes on people here and there when in a relationship, but if it comes to the point that your partner is noticing and you are asked if you have a crush on someone, then you either need to be honest or just drop the crush if you want to make it work with your current partner. If you do feel like you have a crush with someone you need to deal with it right away so you aren’t tempted in the future to do something awful such as cheating or texting behind your partner's back, Ask yourself what you really want in the relationship.
“So many people prefer to live in drama because it's comfortable. It's like someone staying in a bad marriage or relationship - it's actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect.” Ellen DeGeneres
6 I’m Almost Ready
We’ve all done this. We all tell our partners that we’re almost ready when we know right off the bat that we’re still needing about thirty minutes to get ready. While this little white lie seems innocent, instead of constantly disappointing your partner because they’re under the impression you’ll be ready soon, just let them know the truth so you don’t get their hopes up. If you keep using this little lie and taking longer than usual, this will just cause frustration before whatever you two are going out to do. So keep the peace that evening and just stick to the truth, by letting your partner know what you need to do to finish getting ready for the evening ahead. You would be surprised at how much of a difference putting this lie to rest will make. Even the smallest lies can make a huge difference, especially when it’s before a big outing or date!
5 5 More Minutes
Another little white lie that can really make a huge difference in any relationship. This little issue can seriously cause some frustration. Whether your partner is trying to wake you up in the morning and you constantly say you want to have five more minutes to sleep or when you’re working and you’re already late for your date. You shouldn’t just throw around this little excuse and lie, it can really get on people’s nerve. Instead let your partner know your schedule and communicate to find a balance where you both will be responsible for managing your time. So at the end of the day you’ll have time to spend together instead of just chaotically trying to make time whenever you can. Keep communication lines open and be honest with each other about both of your daily schedules so there will be no little white lies or frustrations. No more 5 minutes!
4 I’m Tired
We’ve all said this at one point or another when we don’t want to deal with something. Whether that’s because you don’t want to deal with bedroom fun or because you just don’t want to really connect with your partner right now, saying you're tired instead of actually expressing what the issue is can cause a huge disconnect that makes you feel alone and like nothing is worth it. While it might seem dramatic, it’s true. When you constantly pull up the excuse and say that you’re tired to get out of doing something, there are only a few things that could happen. Either you partner will no longer ask because it just makes them feel bad, or they will start to think that something is wrong with them because you’re in the process of completely shutting them out. Ask yourself how it would feel if your partner did this to you? Would you feel loved if they constantly brushed you off like this?
3 It Was On Sale
Maybe only a few items were on sale, the rest sure wasn’t. We’ve all said this to our partner and they’ve probably said it to you. While we know material things aren’t always the most important but whether we like it or not money can be a huge issue when it comes to relationships. If you really want to be honest with your partner, you don’t need to monitor each other’s bank accounts and their money, but you can be open about what you plan to spend just so you both are aware of what you both are spending money on.
“I have my own high standards for what I want in a partner and how I want to be treated. I bring a lot to the table. I'm not talking about material things but what I have to offer as a person - love and loyalty and all the things that make a good relationship.” Jennifer Lopez
2 I’m Ready For More
Don’t ever let your partner talk you into doing something that makes you uncomfortable. If you’re in pain or simply just don’t want to do something. Don’t let them guilt you into doing anything inside the bedroom or out. If you find yourself in a situation where this constantly keeps happening, then you need to simply leave the relationship. This kind of dynamic is extremely toxic and can slowly eat away at your relationship and your own self-esteem. Keep yourself strong and remind yourself that you are worth it and that you don’t have to settle for less just because that’s what you’re use to. Voice your opinion until your partner listens or leave them in the dust if they can’t grasp the understanding of a decent human being.
“Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.” Oscar Wilde
1 I Love Hanging Out With Your Friends
You should never lie to your partner about something like pretending to like their friends. Not only will this give your partner the impression that you really do like hanging out with them, but it can also make your partner invite them to more things. Spare yourself the trouble and just be honest. Let your partner know after you meet them that they aren’t really your crowd and figure out a way together to make things work. You never know, if you do figure out a way to make it work with your partner it could just be a happy ending. Don’t create drama just because you’re afraid of speaking up.
“We invest less in our friendships and expect more of friends than any other relationship. We spend days working out where to book for a romantic dinner, weeks wondering how to celebrate a partner or parent's birthday, and seconds forgetting a friend's important anniversary.” Mariella Frostrup