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15 Guys Confess Why They Don't Text Back

You've been seeing a guy for a little while and you thought things were going great. Then, one day, you text him and he doesn't text back. Your heart sinks. You start questioning all of your experienc

You've been seeing a guy for a little while and you thought things were going great. Then, one day, you text him and he doesn't text back. Your heart sinks. You start questioning all of your experiences with him and wonder if he's actually into you. As crazy as it sounds, we've all been there.

One of the worst feelings in the world is texting a guy and not getting a response back. It's humiliating and the thought alone can give you anxiety. You second guess everything you've said, wonder if you've come off way too strong, and wish you would've never sent the text in the first place. It happens to all of us time and time again and all we want to know is: Why he didn't respond? Was it something we did? Something we said? Or, is he just busy and absent-minded? Well, we've been trying to solve that mystery too. So, we asked the question to fifteen different guys and got fifteen different extremely insightful answers.

15 I Don't Have Time

"Because I work in real estate, I am always on the go. I work odd hours and I am normally running around from meeting to meeting with different clients. I am constantly surrounded by people or driving. If I get a text that is not work related or from someone I'm supposed to see, I tend to disregard it since it is not a priority. It doesn't mean I don't want to talk, it just means that now's not a good time. If she texts more than one time, I get annoyed because I'm so overwhelmed by everything else. If anything, I'd prefer a phone call since it'd be faster and more personal. Call me old fashioned, but texting someone all day when you can't even focus on what you're saying doesn't sound like any fun at all. Actually, it sounds more annoying and pointless if anything. " Brian Lake, 42, Austin Texas

14 It Gets Old

"If I'm dating a girl and she starts texting me all the time, it gets old really fast. Not only is it hard to make conversation with someone all day but it also wastes time that I could spend doing something else. I guess I feel like if she's texting me all day, she's either bored or looking for some sort of attention that I can't give her all day every day. I don't need to be updated on what she's doing or who she's with and I don't think it's important that she knows what I ate for lunch. Sure, a sweet text every now and then is fine but other than that, it's lame. Sometimes I feel like saying, "text me when you actually have something to say," but I don't want to be rude so I just don't reply until I actually have something to say." Marcus Fisher, 24, California

13 I Don't Wanna Explain

Not many guys are able to express themselves, and even if they can, it's not in their nature to talk about things, they have more of an "I'm over it" approach without even thinking about the other person. "If I go out with a girl and we don't really hit it off, I do not respond to her texts. I know that sounds bad but what am I supposed to say? I hate having to let girls know I'm not into them, especially over a text message. I feel like she would know if I was into her... the date would've gone way better. In a way, I guess not replying is sort of letting her know that I'm not interested. You can call me a jerk but if we're being honest, I would've asked her out already if I wanted to see her again. Does that sound bad? I don't know. There's just something weird about texting someone who's practically a stranger and telling them you're not interested."  Carl, 21, Georgia

12 They Get Creepy

"Sometimes girls get really creepy over texts. It might be because they don't have to say it out loud or to your face, but they get bold and really upfront about things that I just don't even know how to reply. It's weird- almost like hiding behind a cell phone because I doubt they'd be that way in person. Like if a girl I hardly know sends me a dirty text message or a picture, to me, that's coming off as way too strong. It's one thing if you ask for it, but if you don't, it can be super strange. What am I going to say back? "Thank you?" I think that'd be even more embarrassing for her. I don't know. It just gets awkward so the only thing I do is ignore it. If she sends me a nice text and tries to make conversation, though, I normally text back because it's not as awkward." Drew, 31, New Mexico

11 It's Hard To Read What They Really Mean

"So if you talk to someone over the phone or if you're or if you're with someone in person, you can pick up on what they're throwing down. If they make a joke, you know. If they're being serious, you can tell. On texts, though, it's hard to read what they really mean. I was talking to this girl once and I could never tell if she was being sarcastic or if she was being for real so, at some point, I just stopped trying to figure it out. I was sick of replying and wondering if I took what she said the wrong way and if she would take my response in a way I didn't mean. Maybe it would have been easier if she used emoji's or something but she didn't. You can only explain so much with punctuation and I didn't know her well enough to understand her." George, 26, Florida

10 There's Too Much Pressure

"When I'm at a girls house or if we're out a dinner, I can tell if we're vibing or not. Like I know if she's into me or if she likes what I'm doing. I'm someone who loves making girls laugh and in person, I can tell if I'm doing that or not. The thing is, over text, some girls expect me to make them laugh just the way I did when we were last together and I can't always do that. When I'm with them, it's because I set aside time to be with them and focus on them but when I'm not with them, I can't give them the same attention. Also, if I do send a funny text, I don't always get to see their response. They could tell me they're laughing or think it's funny but it's not the same interaction that it would be if we were in person." Kyle, 18, Pennsylvania

9 It's The Other Way Around

"If someone texts me, I always make a point to text back. Even if I am really busy, I will even shoot them a text that says, "Hey, I'm busy, I'll text you later," or I'll give them a call real fast to let them know. I've found quite the opposite to be true when it comes to communicating over text message, that it's normally the women who don't text back. I'll send them a text and then two days will go by before hearing anything or I won't hear anything at all. If they do text back after two days, I seriously contemplate if I should even reply or not. Most of the time, I still will because I hate feeling ignored and don't want them to. If I don't, it's because it's been too long and there's nothing I can say that makes sense." Brock, 34, New Jersey

8 I Wait Until The Morning

"I make it a rule that if I ever get a text from a girl after midnight on the weekend, I try not to respond. I mean, there are definitely exceptions- like if it's a friend or a girlfriend or family. But, if it's a girl I hooked up with a few times or a girl I only went on a couple of dates with, I don't reply for three reasons. First, chances are, she's out drinking and partying with friends and just wants some male attention that I am not in the mood to give. Second, if I'm out drinking and partying, I know I'm not thinking straight and might not respond in a way I'd want to if I was sober. Third, if she ends up asking if I want to hang out and I'm not in the mood, I don't want to offend her. I feel like it's better to just wait and reply in the morning." Jerry, 26, Las Vegas

7 She's Not Paying Attention

"At first, if a girl is texting with me, I do not mind at all. I like it if the texts are thought out and actually have a point. For example, if she is telling me a funny story or updating me on some breaking news or even asking me about what my plans are for the weekend. The only problem is when the texts become way too monotonous. You can tell she is doing a hundred different things and still texting me but not paying any attention to what she is even saying. It seems like the only reason she is texting me is because she thinks that I want to text with her. Obviously, I don't, not if she hardly even knows what she is responding. So at some point, I just stop responding. I hate it if I feel like she feels obligated to talk to me." Cory, 30, Kansas

6 It's Our Rule

"I grew up in a really strict household where family and quality time were the most important things. If we were ever hanging out as a family, we weren't allowed to be on our phones- we couldn't even bring our cell phones to the dinner table. Now, as an adult, the rules haven't changed and I actually like that. This is why my friends and I have sort of made a point to do the same thing. If we hang out, we put our phones on silent and just hang with each other. It's our belief that quality time is better than time spent together when we're distracted. So many girls get mad at me because I don't reply whenever I'm with my friends but I prefer it that way. It's a rare thing to be able to just be with who you're with and not connected to the rest of the world." Matthew, 27, Minnesota

5 If a Girl Doesn't Get Me, It's A Turn Off

"I actually like texting. I think it's a fun, convenient way to communicate. My ex-girlfriend and I used to text each other all the time because we lived in different towns and whenever I got a text from her, I'd get instantly happy. I think that's because we got along so well and understood each other well enough to know what the other person meant with limited expression. I knew when she was kidding or being serious and she knew when I was. Now, if I text a girl and I can tell she automatically gets me, it's a great sign and I'll spend hours of my day texting with her. If I can tell that a girl doesn't get me via text message, it's a turn off because I enjoy a little texting here and there. At first, I try to explain myself but if she still doesn't understand, I figure it's a lost cause." Joey, 32, North Carolina

4 It's A Mistake Text

"Sometimes, I get random texts from girls that make absolutely no sense. Like, one time, this girl texted me a picture of some other girl and said, "I can't believe she's pregnant," and I literally had no idea who the girl in the picture was. It was actually confusing at first but I figured she had accidentally texted me and didn't realize it. I didn't think I should reply but I kept debating if I should tell her that she texted me instead of someone else or just let her figure it out on her own... or if the text was meant for me and if I just didn't recognize the girl in the picture. Because the girl texting me was a girl that I used to date and hadn't talked to in a while, I figured I wouldn't reply. It was already awkward that I got that text and I didn't want to make things worse." Glenn, 33, Arkansas

3 It Gives Me Anxiety

"I don't care what anyone says, no matter who it is texting you, even if it's your own mother, if they text you twenty different texts in a row, it's so annoying. I hate when I'm trying to do something and all of a sudden, my phone keeps beeping and doesn't stop. It's the worst when I'm driving. It gives me so much anxiety. It's one thing if someone texts me once and I don't reply so they send me a question mark or something to remind me to answer but it's another thing when they send ten short texts in a row. I wish they would just put everything they have to say on one single text so my phone would stop going off like crazy. If they keep doing that- like sending one sentence in three different texts- I just stop replying because it's too obnoxious to have to deal with." Roger, 29, Virginia

2 I Don't Trust Myself

"In the past, if I'm being completely honest, I've sent a lot of drunk text messages that I'm not proud of. For some reason, when I've had a couple of drinks, I love to send random girls text messages and make conversation about things I normally wouldn't talk about. Then, when I read them the next day, I felt so embarrassed I never wanted to talk to the girls again no matter how cool they were. My friends used to make fun of me for some of the stuff I would say. Now, when I drink, I never text anyone. Even if they text me first, I don't reply because I don't trust myself to answer as I would if I was sober. It's never anything personal and I try to respond the next day. It's just something I do to save myself from saying something I'm going to regret or something that's out of character." Sean, 25, Maryland

1 I've Moved On

"Being a single guy in my twenties, I have been out with a lot of girls. I am not bragging, I think it is normal. When I was not committed to anyone, I loved texting with different girls and always kept my options open. It was fun and entertaining. At times, I would be talking to two or three women at the same time and I was always honest about that with them. Now, though, I am in a serious relationship so when the girls that I used to talk to text me, I do not respond. It's not because I'm trying to ignore them or hurt their feelings, it is out of respect for my girlfriend. I know I would be mad if she was texting guys she used to go out with or hook up with so I try and give her the same respect." Carlos, 27, Nebraska

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