If you’re wondering why you’re still single, we’re here to help. If you find that you can never take things to the next level with a guy you’re really interested in, you’re probably committing the same dating mistakes over and over again. Thankfully, there are some brutally honest GIFs on the web that perfectly explain why you’re finding it so difficult to bid adieu to your single status.
These hilarious animated graphics are so on point, we knew we had to share them with all the single ladies out there. Whether you’re spending your weekends on the couch watching reruns, your attitude stinks, or you’re talking about marriage way too soon, there are a bunch of GIFs on the Internet that will give you some major insight on your love life (or lack thereof).
If you’re still scratching your head and trying to figure out why you’re consistently the only single girl in your group of friends, keep reading to see the 15 GIFs that explain why you’re still single.
15 You Never Go Out
Take it from Taylor Swift (a girl who has no problem getting a boyfriend, but has a lot of trouble keeping one). If you’re looking for Mr. Right, do you really think he’s going to magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of tulips, a bottle of wine, a box of chocolates and a handwritten letter professing his love for you? Not gonna happen, girlfriend.
One of the reasons why you’re still single is because you’re closing yourself off from all of the eligible men in the wold. How are the men going to fall in love with you if they never get a chance to see your pretty face out in public? Sitting at home every weekend is not going to put you in contact with a guy who’s looking for a relationship. So it’s about time you turn off the TV, doll yourself up a bit, call up a bunch of your single girlfriends, and hit the town!
14 You Think They're All the Same
One of the main reasons why you’re still single is because you keep lumping men together in the same category. I understand you’ve been hurt in the past. You’ve dated one too many guys who didn’t have your best interests at heart. They may have lied, cheated and betrayed your trust; but just because you fell in love with a few bad boys, it doesn’t men all guys are going to treat you dirty.
It’s time to let go of the mentality that all men are only out for one thing, all men are looking to play games, and all men will cheat on you with the next hottie that passes their way. It’s just simply not the case. You have to give every guy at least the opportunity to prove you wrong. Sure, you’ll probably run into a few more men who don’t deserve a second of your time, but dating the wrong men should be treated as a learning experience so you can know what to look out for when you finally meet the right guy!
13 Your Attitude Stinks
Okay, let’s think about this for a second. If you’re tired of being single, and you think having a boyfriend is the missing piece to your puzzle, you need to take some time to figure out what you’re bringing to the table when it comes to a relationship. Are you positive, generally happy and a pleasure to be around? Or does your attitude stink so bad men can smell it from a mile away? No guy will willingly enter into a relationship with a girl who’s hating life, so it’s time for an attitude adjustment if you’re ready for a relationship.
If you’re tired of being single, now’s the time for you to truly become the person that men will gravitate towards. If you’re unhappy with your life, find out the root of the issue and do your best to try and fix it. The sooner you can kick your bad attitude in the butt, the sooner you will be able to enter into a relationship being the best version of yourself!
12 You Keep Lying to Yourself
So what’s the truth? Do you want to be single? Do you want to get married? Are you looking for a FWB? It’s time for you to really figure out what you want in life because lying to yourself and to your dates isn’t doing you any good.
If you really want to be in a relationship, why in the world would you brag to the world about your single status? No matter how many times you label all of your photos with #SingleAndLovinIt on Facebook, you’re not fooling anyone. There’s nothing wrong with loving the single life if that’s how you really feel, but if being in a relationship is your end goal, it’s time to come clean to yourself.
Jot down a list of what you’re looking for in terms of your dating life, and get more comfortable professing your desires. Soon enough, you’ll find a guy who’s more than willing to change your status from “single” to “happily taken.”
11 You Keep Embarrassing Yourself
A friend of mine went out on a first date with a guy she met from an online dating website. They went to a pretty fancy restaurant in Los Angeles, and she proceeded to enjoy a few drinks. And when I say a few drinks, I’m talking five or six. I’m pretty sure you can imagine what happened next, right? Well, sadly, she couldn’t remember much from the night, so I didn’t get all the details. But she never heard from the guy again so it was pretty clear she had made a fool out of herself.
When it comes to dating, it’s always best to put your best foot forward, and showing out by taking shots and hitting the beer bong on a first date is a recipe for disaster. Alcohol always clouds your judgement, and it’s bound to put you in an embarrassing situation that you will later regret.
If a guy wants to meet you at a bar, keep your drinking to a minimum. You know your tolerance level better than anyone, so when you feel yourself getting closer to going over the edge, it’s time to cut yourself off. No guy wants to be seen out with a sloppy drunk. So leave the heavy drinking for your nights out on the town with your girls.
10 Your Standards Are too High
Don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having standards when it comes to dating. You have the right to choose what you will and will not accept, and it’s up to you to decide the must-have qualities your partner must possess. But sometimes, when your standards get a little too high, you can close yourself off to some eligible men who could potentially be The One.
Most girls love guys who are tall, but does your future boyfriend really have to be at least 6’2”? What if you meet a guy who’s 5’9” who treats you like a princess, would you really turn him away? If you have a mental note of all things you want in a partner, it’s time to go over that list again and see which requirements are just a little bit on the superficial side. If you become a little less stringent on who you will and won’t date, you may be seeing your single status come to an end sooner than you think.
9 You Ruin Things Before They Begin
If you’ve been in a series of failed relationships, it’s likely that you have your guard up when it comes to dating. Maybe you’re a little more cautious these days because of all of your bad experiences in the dating world, and trust me, I get where you’re coming from. As time goes on, it could become more and more difficult to be so trusting and open when you meet someone new, but if you’re killing things before they even get started, then there’s no wonder why you’re still single!
Your paranoia about relationships could be causing you to have trust issues. These trust issues can definitely push a guy away if you’re constantly accusing him of cheating, talking to other women or flirting with other girls behind your back. If a guy hasn’t given you a reason not to trust him, you have to at least give him a chance to show you that he’s different. Instead of jinxing a budding relationship before it even has time to bloom, sit back and let things run their course on their own.
8 You're Being Creepy
If you’re wondering why you’re still single, this GIF explains it perfectly. If you don’t see anything wrong with driving by a guy’s house late at night to see if he’s at home, popping up at his job just to catch a glimpse of him, and researching his entire family tree before the two of you have even decided to be in a relationship together, you’ve got a problem on your hands.
Stalking a guy’s entire life is not cute, it’s not sexy, and it will definitely turn him off. Whether you’re stalking him online or in real life, you’re bound to get caught at some point. Just wait for it.. one morning you’re going to receive a text from him that reads, “Hey, did you drive by my house at 3 a.m.?” Or, you’ll accidentally hit “like” on an Instagram photo he posted 87 weeks ago (super creepy, BTW). So try to chill with all creepy behavior, OK?
7 You Give Too Much Too Soon
You may think you’re winning him over by cooking him a four course dinner on your second date, and you you may have convinced yourself that he will really start to fall for you once you drop off a batch of your home baked chocolate chip cookies to his job. But the truth is, if you’re giving too much too soon, and it can definitely backfire.
Studies have shown that it’s much better to receive than to give if you really want a guy to fall for you. As the receiver, your job is easy. You let him come to you, you graciously accept his acts of kindness, and in return, he feels more connected to you. When you stop giving too much and allow the guy to give to you instead, it makes him subconsciously become more attracted to you because he will know in his mind that he only goes out of his way for people he really cares about…so he must really care about you!
So stop with the fancy home cooked meals the second you meet a new guy you’re really digging. Let him give to you instead and watch the magic happen!
6 You're Not Showing Enough Interest
It’s fine if you want to remain unbothered and nonchalant when it comes to dating, but if you’re a little too aloof, it could actually be the reason why you’re still single. When it comes to dating, it’s always best to let the guy make the first move, but at some point, you need to reciprocate a bit. Throw the guy a bone, why don’t cha?
If you’re constantly showing disinterest in a guy, he’ll eventually assume that you really aren’t interested in him at all. There’s only so much a guy will do to try and win you over, and if you’re not budging by showing him you care, he’s going to move on at some point.
So if you really like a guy and you’re interested in him, this GIF will keep you a single girl forever. Ask him how his day was, flirt with him a bit, and let him know he actually has a chance with you.
5 You Talk About Marriage Too Soon
There’s nothing wrong with letting it be known that you’re looking to settle down and get married, but sometimes, letting your desires known too soon can scare guys away.
If you stroll into the restaurant on your first date wearing a black leotard and doing the Beyoncé “Single Ladies” choreograph, I guarantee you your date will make a run for the nearest exit less than halfway through your dance routine.
So what’s a girl to do if she’s serious about finding a life partner and she doesn’t want to waste her time by dating men who don’t want the same? To start, the first date should be a time for the two of you to get to know the basics about each other. You know, find out where he went to school, how many siblings does he have, does he have pets, does he like pets etc. Guys already know that most girls want to get married, but the first date is way too soon for him to know if he wants to walk down the aisle with you. On the first date, he’s probably not even sure if he wants to see you for date number 2.
It’s best to wait until the two of you have gone out a few times before you let him know you’re looking for marriage. So stop flashing him your left hand and pointing at your ring finger every five seconds unless you want to scare him away for good.
4 You Put Up With Bad Behavior
So you’re tired of being single, but that doesn’t mean you need to be desperate when it comes to choosing a partner. Desperation can take on many different forms, and if you find yourself putting up with bad behavior from your dates, it could be a sign that you’re just a little to desperate to have a guy in your life.
If your date displays bad behavior within the first few meetings, consider it a red flag. Listen to your intuition and don’t allow the dates to go any further if you feel deep down inside that things will not work out. If he’s disrespecting you, you catch him in lie or he frequently cancels on you without rescheduling, kick him to the curb! Stop crying and whining about bad behavior. If being in a relationship is your goal, you have no room in your life for a guy who doesn’t know how to treat you with respect.
3 You're Chasing Them Away
There’s nothing wrong with texting a guy to see how he’s doing or calling him to say hi, but if you’re doing too much chasing, it could be the reason why you’re single. There usually comes a point in time when things start to change with the guy you’re dating. If at first he was very attentive, he would always text and call you and take you out on dates, he may start to pull away and stop initiating contact with you. This change in behavior usually makes girls start to chase, and that my friend is the kiss of death when it comes to dating.
If a guy switches things up and stops pursuing you, don’t chase after him. When he pulls away, you need to pull away, too. If he’s not calling you as much, you shouldn’t call him either.
But what if he never calls me again?
Well then it’s time to tell him, “Sayonara, sucker!” He simply wasn’t the right guy for you and no amount of chasing would have changed things.
2 You're an Emotional Wreck
My goodness, girl. Can you please get yourself together? You’re probably one of those girls who keeps attracting emotionally unavailable men. But the truth is, if you keep encountering men who are emotionally unavailable, you need to take a look at yourself. There’s a reason why they say “like attracts like.” We are drawn to those who are on the same wavelength as us. So if you’re ready to stop being single, it’s time to get rid of your emotional baggage once and for all.
Instead of being the girl who hides from her emotions, learn to accept and embrace every feeling that rushes through you. If you’re sad, go ahead and let the tears roll down your face. If you’re happy, put a smile on your face and say hello to every person you pass by on the street. Once you become one with your emotions, you will find that it’s easier to find someone who is just as emotionally mature as you are.
1 You Keep Dating Unavailable Men
If you’re in love with an unavailable man, I’m not here to judge you. Instead, I’m here to tell you the truth. Dating someone who is married or in a relationship is the major reason why you’re still single. Come on, look at the woman in the GIF. Look how much of a hot mess she is. Do you really want to waste your tears over a guy who’s attached? The chances of him leaving his current situation to be with you are slim to none.
If you want to be in a relationship, married and attached men shouldn’t even be on your radar. Yes, it’s true, some men will lie about their relationship status, but you’ll known sooner or later that you’re his side chick. Your job is to immediately drop any guy who shows any signs of being in a relationship with someone else. Don’t be the girl in the GIF. Don’t get caught up and fall in love with someone who’s unavailable. You’re just setting yourself up for a life of being single and years of heartache.