Growing up rich sounds like a dream come true. You never have to worry about money, and your mom and dad will always have your back financially. You’ll have no problem paying for college, well, your parents won’t have any problem paying for it, and you’ll grow up going on cool vacations, having huge holiday celebrations, getting a nice car for your 16th birthday. Sounds like a pretty sweet deal overall, right?
Well, there are definitely plenty of perks to growing up in a rich family. That’s undeniable. And no can argue that growing up rich is more difficult than growing up poor, it’s obvious that poor people face many more challenges throughout life. But growing up rich is not always a cakewalk, either. There are many unseen obstacles that rich kids face, and, of course, they have a few silly complaints. Here are 15 shocking secrets from kids who grew up rich.
15 Money Doesn't Buy Happiness
You have probably heard the saying “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” If you grew up poor or middle class, your parents may have actually said this to you a few times if you ever complained about your family’s financial situation. And while it’s true that having money can certainly make your life a lot easier, it definitely will not solve all of your problems. Yes, it will keep a roof over your head, it will put food on the table, and it will put clothes on your back. But as this confession reveals, money truly cannot buy you happiness. Happiness is something that you have to work for each day, and no amount of money will guarantee you a positive outlook. Even the wealthiest people on earth can experience depression, anxiety, loneliness, and other mental health problems. Having a supportive group of friends and family is not something that can be bought.
14 Disowned For Being Who They Are
When you have rich parents, you might have everything handed to you. Some rich kids are encouraged to work for their own money, but some are spoiled rotten and given everything they want with no effort. Must be nice! Well, until your parents decide for whatever reason that they no longer want to support you, and all of that help suddenly dries up. While it is much more acceptable to be gay today than it used to be decades ago, many people in the LGBTQ+ community still face discrimination, even from their own family members. The person who wrote this confession has rich parents who were once happy to support their lifestyle until they came out as gay. Everything changed once they were out of the closet, and their parents disowned them. Being supported by rich parents might seem like a great deal, but if they change their minds, you’re screwed.
13 Unwanted And Unloved
Sometimes, we assume that all wealthy people are smart, hard working, and that their lives are just great behind closed doors as they look to outsiders. This assumption is often totally false. There are many wealthy families out there who may look picture perfect to people who have no idea what is going on behind-the-scenes, but if you look a little closer, you may see that they are seriously dysfunctional. Just look at the person who wrote this heartbreaking confession. Their parents had plenty of money and had no problem buying anything they wanted. But they were not loving parents. They were both physically and emotionally abusive towards their child. No amount of money would ever make growing up in such an environment worth it. Most of us would choose growing up poor or middle class with loving, caring parents over growing up wealthy with parents who do not care.
12 From Riches To Rags
When you grow up rich, you get used to a certain level of comfort and security in your life. After all, you never really have to worry about anything, your parents can always take care of it, right? Because of this, you never learn what it’s like to struggle. Even if they do make you get a job and save your own money, you know that they will always have the important things, like food and utilities, totally covered no matter what. Well, that’s all fine and good when you’re young, but what happens when you get older and your parents finally cut you off? Suddenly, you’re in a sticky situation, just like the person who wrote this confession. They are now much poorer than they were while growing up, and they are very stressed about money to the point where they will literally hoard food because they’re stressed about not having enough to eat.
11 Not Cut From The Same Cloth
Dating someone who does not make as much money as you can be quite tricky. Some people have no problem making it work. Sure, one person may end up “treating” the other more often, but if you really love each other, you may find a way to balance things out so that no one feels like they are being taken advantage of. However, for some people, dating a person who does not make as much money as they do can be a serious struggle. Is this totally fair? Well, no, but different people look for different things in a relationship, and some would like to date someone who is of a similar financial background to themselves. For example, this person would rather date someone who had also grown up rich. Maybe they’re a bit of a snob, or maybe they just want to be with someone they can relate to better.
10 Daddy Wasn't There, To Take Me To The Fair
Making a ton of money can seem like a walk in the park, sure, you have to hustle for a few years, but once you’re the boss, the cash just keeps flowing in while you get to sit back and relax, right? Wrong. Sure, maybe this is the case if you’re a trust fund baby, or if you win the lottery. But if you’ve actually worked for your money, that hard work never really stops. You’ve always got to keep grinding to stay at the top, and it is no easy battle. That means missing out on a lot of the things that make life so wonderful like family time, vacations, sunrises and sunsets, long walks on the beach. The person who confessed that their parents were never around did not get to enjoy moments like that with their family. It was all about making money for them and not about making memories.
9 Didn't Work Hard For Their Money
When you’re slaving away at some minimum wage job in high school and wishing you had a wealthy parent who could just pick up the tab on everything for you, your parents might tell you that you’re lucky. Why? Well, you get the satisfaction of knowing that you worked hard for everything that you got! And while it may sound cheesy at the time, and your first thought may be, “Sure, Dad, you’re just trying to make me feel better,” your parents are actually right (yes, we hate to admit it, but they’re right most of the time). Just look at this confession. This person inherited millions of dollars. They may never have to work a day in their life ever again. They can afford everything they need and probably everything they want. And yet they feel nothing but guilt because they did absolutely nothing to earn that kind of money.
8 Friends Over Money
Being wealthy can inspire resentment in some people around you, especially if they know that you simply grew up rich and didn’t earn it for yourself. If people know that you worked hard from the beginning, built a company from scratch, and sacrificed to get where you are now, they probably have a certain level of respect and admiration for your work ethic. But if they know that you had a lot of things handed to you on a silver platter growing up, that same respect and admiration will not be there. They’ll probably just think you’re spoiled. The person who confessed this states that their so-called “friends” are often angry at them because their parents had money. This is a tough situation, it’s hard not to be jealous of someone who didn’t earn their privileges, but at the same time, we should judge people on their personalities and not their income.
7 Ignorance Is Bliss
Some people say that growing up wealthy can leave you out of touch with people who make less than your parents did, and statements like this show that there is definitely some truth to this idea. This person grew up wealthy and clearly had plenty of advantages due to their upbringing. Their parents were able to provide many opportunities for them, and they never really had to worry about money the way that some young people do. Unfortunately, this left them with a very stunted view of the real world. They assumed that every child had the privileged upbringing that they did. This is a very skewed assumption. Obviously, many children are not so lucky, and they often grow up in poverty and deal with the many struggles that come along with it through no fault of their own. Not every kid gets to look back on an easy childhood.
6 Too Many Options
There is a phenomenon known as the “paradox of choice” that can really mess with people’s heads. Let’s say that you go to a grocery store and have a choice between two kinds of pasta sauce. It would probably be pretty easy to make a decision in about five seconds! Now let’s say that you go to another store that has a whole aisle of sauce. Well, you’ll probably be standing there for a while, tapping your foot, and checking ingredients, wondering what sauce would be best. And once you choose, you’ll probably wonder if you made the right choice, you had so many options, what if there was something better? That’s what the person who wrote this confession is experiencing. The paradox of choice is that when we have too many choices, we don’t feel lucky to have more options, we feel stressed because it becomes even harder to decide!
5 Feeling Guilty
While it must be somewhat annoying to deal with something like this, if social media guilt trips are the biggest problem you’re currently facing, you must be pretty lucky overall. And if the things that you’re posting on social media are cool enough to inspire that much jealousy from other people, your life must be pretty sweet! Of course, there could always be issues going on behind-the-scenes that you don’t show people, but from what they can see, things look pretty good. So if you’re biggest issue right now is people being jealous of the things you post online, just be thankful that what you’re showing the world is cool enough that people wish they could be living your life. Or if it’s really bothering you, you could always just back off from social media for a while, there is nothing wrong with taking a break from Instagram for a bit.
4 You're On Your Own
Growing up rich means that your parents generally handle all the financial duties that come along with running a household. It also means that while they may still stick to a budget, you probably never had to worry about anything like that. All of your needs were met, and you weren’t responsible for paying for necessities. Sounds like a pretty easy ride, right? Well, until you reach adulthood and your parents decided that you have to handle money on your own. And suddenly, surprise! You’re left with no skills to manage your money. You don’t know how to create a budget, let alone stick to it. You don’t know how much you should be saving or spending per month. You don’t know the first thing about investing or saving for retirement. That’s why it’s important for every kid to learn how to manage money on their own, no matter what their parents make.
3 Friends Wanted Their Money
Some wealthy people feel that others try to take advantage of them for their money. This can definitely happen. While it’s understandable that many people wish they had it easier financially, and naturally will feel somewhat jealous of people who have more money than them, you are never entitled to someone else’s money (unless they owe you, of course). As the person above confessed, many people do feel like they can take advantage of them because they make more money. It is important to remember that we are all responsible for our own spending choices. Just because a wealthy friend invites you out for drinks does not mean that they should be paying for your purchases. This is an unfair expectation that will lead to friction in your friendship. It’s always best to find some balance and choose activities that both of you can afford in order to avoid this conflict.
2 Do You Know Who Your Friends Are?
This seems to be a common complaint amongst people who grew up wealthy. Just like the confession above revealed, many people are interested in taking advantage of those with more money than them. If you have a lot of money, people may be super interested in hanging out with you, but it probably is not because they genuinely like you. In fact, in many cases, they really just want your money. As unfortunate as it is, some people are just total leeches. They only want to be friends with someone because of what they can do for them, not because they actually enjoy their company. This is not fair. As we mentioned earlier, money cannot buy you friends, but it can attract a whole bunch of people who only want to be around you because of the number in your bank account. Ouch! With friends like that, who really needs enemies?
1 Check The Sales Rack
Is this a serious problem? No, not really, but it does illustrate how silly it is to judge people for the kind of clothing they wear. Look, as human beings, we all make assumptions about people based on how they look and what they wear. And sometimes, those assumptions can lead to a personality judgment. For example, in this case, this person’s classmates have judged wealthy students negatively for wearing nicer clothes. Maybe they assume that they are bratty or out-of-touch. And for some, this might be accurate, but for others, it certainly will not be. Whether someone is rich or poor, we should not be judging them on their clothes. Come on guys, didn’t we learned this in preschool? It’s what’s on the inside that counts! So let’s all chill out on these silly judgment calls. You can’t tell what’s in someone’s heart by judging what they are wearing.