Weddings are supposed to be a magical, joyous occasion where everyone is smiling, laughing and celebrating the union of two souls in perfect harmony. At least, that's how it goes in the movies. But more than a few women have learned the hard way that weddings don't always go as planned. Sometimes, this is something that is totally out of their hands, but in many cases the bride refuses to walk down that aisle. She can have many reasons for doing this. Some might seem petty. But in other situations, we can all agree that certain brides made the right call by never walking down that aisle.
You'll be shocked at some of these stories from Reddit, and you might even get traumatized by some of them. But don't worry - these are total freak occurrences that almost never happen in real life... We hope, at least. Your wedding will probably happen without any crazy mishaps. Then again, you might actually learn some valuable lessons from some of these women, especially those who took a stand and refused to marry guys who were clearly not right for them.
Either way, there's something entertaining her for just about everyone. Who doesn't like a story about a wedding gone completely wrong. There's something undeniably and pleasant about hearing about other people's disastrous weddings. The Germans have a word for this... They call it "Schadenfreude."
15 "No one even knew that the wedding was a fake until we sent out a notice on the wedding website."
Does it still count if a girl walks down the aisle in a fake wedding? For those who don't know, the wedding isn't actually legit until both the bride and the groom sign the papers. And for this particular couple, they decided to go through with the wedding even though they both knew that getting married was a bad idea. They didn't want to call off the party and disappoint a bunch of people, so they had the wedding anyway. So she made it down the aisle all right - just not in an actual wedding:
"We went through with the wedding but then just didn't sign the papers, because everyone was already coming and we were breaking up amicably. All the money had been spent and everyone was already on their way, so we explained to the person officiating the wedding, cut out our personal vows, and just didn't sign the papers. No one even knew that the wedding was a fake until we sent out a notice on the wedding website. We still sent thank you cards and returned all the gifts. It was surprisingly undramatic."
14 "Over the next three weeks I discovered he was an addict and had been seeing other people for the entire nine years we were together"
They say you never really find out what a man's like until you marry him. Well lucky for this girl, she found out her man's dirtiest and most despicable secret right before she tied the knot. Imagine if she had married this guy without finding out that he had been sleeping with someone else the whole time. This is pretty much the definition of the phrase: "Dodged a bullet." Not only was she cheating, but he was a also a medically confirmed s*x addict... So you can understand why this particular bride never made it down the aisle...
"Didn't technically leave him at the altar but ten days before the wedding I found out he was sleeping with someone else. Took me two days to decide not to get married. Then over the next three weeks I discovered he was an addict and had been seeing other people for the entire nine years we were together. Got reeeeeaaal close to being stuck in that nightmare. Thankful every day that I didn't go through with it."
13 "I froze. I didn't love him as much as I craved the safety and security that being married would bring."
Anyone who has ever been through marriage knows that you can get quite the rush of emotions in the days and hours leading up to that moment. Some are quite confident, while others become a nervous mess. Sometimes, it can get so bad that women just freeze up, which is exactly what happened to this bride. She admits that she left her man at the altar, just like in the movies. She took a moment to think, and she realized that the marriage was not the right choice. It seems like a pretty harsh thing to do, but in truth she probably saved herself a few years of unhappiness...
"I left a man at the altar. I was in my dress and getting ready to go to the chapel, when I realized I couldn't. I froze. I didn't love him as much as I craved the safety and security that being married would bring. I was fairly recently divorced and very young and scared. He eventually found a lovely woman and they are very happy together. I don't think either of us would have had that with each other."
12 "I didn't have the courage to tell my folks so I just waited to see if he would back out. He didn't"
Of all the reasons to leave a man high and dry a few months before a wedding, taking part in an arranged marriage seems like a pretty good one. After all, arranged marriages are situations where the woman usually has no control over what's happening. While this is accepted in many cultures, most people reading this would probably never go through with something like that. If you agree, then you probably have a lot in common with this bride, who never made it to the altar of her arranged wedding:
"I backed out a week before the wedding. He had to leave the South Asian country where I lived so our interactions were strictly over phone. Talked to him very irregularly until the end of February and then I just couldn't. Should have been a huge red flag to him that his fiancé hadn't talked in 3 months. I didn't have the courage to tell my folks so I just waited to see if he would back out. He didn't. And well, that's when I told him that I wouldn't be marrying him. After the invites had gone out. And preparations were in full swing. Ugh. I can't tell what exactly turned me off about him. I do know the fake American accent absolutely killed it for me."
11 "I cried, finished up addressing the letters, mailed them the next morning and left him a few days later"
There are a lot of reasons not to get married, but sometimes it's the little things that finally push things over the edge. This bride never made it down the aisle, although it was really no fault of her own. Her man just never seemed that interested in marrying her. To him, it was almost like a chore, something he just had to get out of the way. But for most women, marriage is a magical moment that they've been dreaming about their entire lives. Having that dream stamped on repeatedly with no enthusiasm whatsoever is enough to make any sane woman call it off. And that's exactly what this bride did:
"I dated a guy for five years and things were going well enough. When we were both approaching 30 I really wanted to get married and start a family, but he felt he wasn't ready. When he proposed, he said, "Well, I suppose we should get married next summer." That's it. When I later asked if he was going to get me a ring, he said, "Why? You already said yes." The whole planning process was like pulling teeth. One night, I sat at the kitchen table, addressing all the wedding invitations by myself when he came in, picked one up and said, "huh, those look kinda cheap" and walked out. I cried, finished up addressing the letters, mailed them the next morning and left him a few days later, because I felt that I deserved someone who was excited to get married to me."
10 "There came a point where we were planning the wedding while I was realistically picturing myself as divorced in 5 years. That was stupid, and I ended it."
Many people get engaged for years before they actually get married. It's a pretty good system, because it allows you to really get to know someone before taking that final, important step of marriage. And many people are really happy that they stayed engaged for many years before tying the knot, because they found out just what kind of person their partner is. Sometimes women find out about the good sides of their boyfriends. But other times, their dark sides are revealed and it becomes painfully obvious that this is not someone they want to marry after all...
"First, he changed, big time. He became controlling, jealous, and seemed to really expect that we'd reenact his parents wildly dysfunctional marriage. Repeated long talks about it didn't change anything. There came a point where we were planning the wedding while I was realistically picturing myself as divorced in 5 years. That was stupid, and I ended it. We're both married to other people for over 25 years now, but he was bitter and mean the last time we ran into each other. I dodged such a bullet."
9 "He started reading the bible and believed he was the second coming of Jesus Christ. Not joking"
This has to be one of the most random confessions you will ever read from a bride. It almost sounds made up, but in a way it's actually too weird to even be fake. You definitely can't make this stuff up. And you know what they say - truth is stranger than fiction. What would be a good reason for calling off a wedding? How about if your husband suddenly started to believe that he was Jesus? Most people would say that's a pretty good reason to part ways, and this woman did exactly that. However, here's where the story gets sad - the guy actually hung himself, and she blame herself...
"I called off our wedding because he started reading the bible and believed he was the second coming of Jesus Christ. Not joking. This happened about 7 years ago. Today is my first time really talking about it. I feel like I let him down I should have done more to help him. He hung himself and I feel responsible."
8 "The bride's grandmother got a good look at the groom's grandfather - and started shrieking "KAPO! KAPO! KAPO!" while shaking and trying to run."
Here's another truly strange reason why a bride never made it down the aisle. Well, in all honesty, she did get about halfway down the aisle until her grandma did something really strange. This elderly woman looked over at the groom's grandpa, and had a flashback to World War 2. She was convinced that the groom's grandfather had actually been a guard at a Nazi concentration camp where she was interned during the war. Basically, the whole wedding stopped, and they decided to postpone it. However, the bride actually believed her grandma's story, while the groom denied it. In the end, they split up as a result...
"A wedding I was at was cancelled mid ceremony. The grandparents, all of whom were Holocaust survivors, and who had never met each other before, were to walk up the aisle. It was while she was halfway up the aisle that the bride's grandmother got a good look at the groom's grandfather - and started shrieking "KAPO! KAPO! KAPO!" while shaking and trying to run. Kapos, for those who are unaware, were prisoners in the Nazi concentration camps who received privileges from the SS guards and served as enforcers for them. The grandmother was taken out to calm down, and the grandfather was pretty shaken up, too. They decided to have the wedding another day, but the bride believed her grandmother, the groom believed his grandfather's denials, and they ended up splitting up."
7 "He had NO idea I had her phone in my hand. I simply stood up and walked the 10 feet to him, held up her phone and looked him in the eye."
Imagine trying on your wedding dress. This should be a monumental occasion, right? Well how would you feel if that magical moment of joy and happiness turned into the harsh realization of betrayal? That's exactly what happened when one bride showed a picture of her in her new dress to her mom. But in a complete coincidence, she was using her bff's phone to show her mom the picture... And that's when her bff's phone got a text... from her boyfriend! Once you find out what the text said, you'll realize why she never showed up to her wedding...
"While showing a picture of myself in a dress to my mother, which was on my bff's phone, she gets a text message from my fiance. This is odd because i can see him in the next room and i can see my friend in the kitchen. I read it of course and its a huge confession from him to her, addressing how they had fooled around a few weeks ago and he was really regretting he hadn't taken things further with her. He had NO idea I had her phone in my hand. I simply stood up and walked the 10 feet to him, held up her phone and looked him in the eye. The look on his face was priceless, and when i could speak me and my entire family let them both have it verbally."
6 "I had realized I was very unhappy. Largely because I couldn't watch him drink anymore."
When you're thinking about getting married to your partner, there are many signs that can tell you what kind of a marriage it will be. There are signs that he will be a dedicated, loyal and responsible husband... And then there are those other signs. The signs that he will give you nothing but sorrow and frustration for years and years and years. Well, this particular bride-to-be watched her boyfriend very carefully, and you guessed it, she saw some of those bad signs. There were a few red flags for her, but the number one thing was his drinking problem. She could see that it was going to be an issue, so she ended it before the wedding was even close to happening.
"I called off my wedding, but very early on so I consider it more "calling off the engagement." I had realized I was very unhappy. Largely because I couldn't watch him drink anymore. I later realized there were other reasons like misaligned money values, differing life outlooks etc. The shame is we really loved each other. I just couldn't make it work anymore. But I trusted myself and tried to convince him he could be happier with someone else too. I still miss him a lot but we are now both in much happier, accepting relationships."
5 "We DID NOT HAVE THE MONEY to do this. But he wanted to impress his father who always thought he was a failure"
Along with drinking too much, there's another sign that could potentially indicate your man will be a bad husband. And that's how he is with money. Finances might not be the most exciting part of marriage, but it's definitely one of the biggest and most important factors. As husband and wife, you'll be working together as a financial team, and that means you have to be twice as responsible. Because when you're married, your financial decisions don't just impact you, they also impact your spouse. When this woman saw how her husband behaved when it came to money, she just had to give walking down the aisle a pass...
"I got engaged in 2005 and I called off the wedding about 6 months before. We were broke, in our 30s and paying for it ourselves. My fiancée kept pushing me to make the wedding bigger and bigger and inviting more and more people and he really went off the deep end and wouldn't listen to reason that we DID NOT HAVE THE MONEY to do this. But he wanted to impress his father who always thought he was a failure and kept insisting. It really showed me his true colors and how crazy he could be, and I broke off the engagement and I canceled everything."
4 "I found out that he had some loans he hadn’t told me about. And that was it. That was the last straw"
There are many things that can cause a woman to leave her man at the altar. Some are reasons that everyone can understand, while others might seem small and petty to many. But even the smallest reasons can be enough, especially if it's the last straw after a long chain of disappointments and red flags. This one particular Costa Rican woman did everything she could to be a traditional and submissive wife, but in the end she realized that it wasn't worth putting up with this guy. What was the last straw for her? Her finding out her husband had tons of unpaid loans that he never told her about...
"I am Costa Rican, women here are raised to be wives; even educated women that go to college and have a degree are expected to a quiet lovely girls who worships her man and caters to him. So I did exactly that during my relationship with this turd, I was really young when I met him so that gave him time to mold me to his preference. Anyway, we got engaged and decide we are gonna get married in a year. A couple of months later I found out he’s cheating on me. We fight, he apologizes, I forgive him. He then proceeds to be a total sh*t for the next months, increasingly controlling and just being downright mean; and I took all this. Then I found out that he had some loans he hadn’t told me about. And that was it. That was the last straw. Something I can’t explain came over me. I suddenly had the courage to leave him. I made up my mind, there was no more forgiving."
3 "He asked her for my inheritance from my mother (she had passed a year previously) to pay off more gambling debts."
Of all the reasons to call off a wedding, this one might just be the most understandable. Compulsive gambling is a real problem that a lot of people face, and it's more common than you might think. The thing about this type of addiction is that people often try very hard to keep it secret from everyone they can. These people often lie and cheat in order to get more money to gamble with, all the while lying to themselves about using the winnings to pay everyone back. When he started to take money out of their joint account, that was bad enough. But trying to take her deceased mother's inheritance money? That was what finally made her call of the wedding a few days before she tied the knot...
"I called my wedding off 9 days before the big day. I discovered the he had emptied our joint wedding account playing online poker after he emptied his own personal account. The feeling of losing a down payment on a house, as well as the catering money wasn't anything compared to how I felt when he asked her for my inheritance from my mother (she had passed a year previously) to pay off more gambling debts. No apologies, no 'mea culpas,' just more money. I walked, and 8 years later I'm happily married to another guy with 1 boy and a bun in the oven!"
2 "He wanted to move his new, pregnant girlfriend into our house while I was out of town."
While it's often a woman's choice not to walk down the aisle, it can also be something they have no control over. Many women have been left at the altar, and it's one of the most crushing things that can happen. This woman wasn't left at the altar, but she was left several weeks before her wedding day. Although it might seem like a pretty painful incident, I'm sure she got over it pretty quickly. Why? Because she later found out he had a pregnant girlfriend that he was trying to move into their house in secret... Wow.
"Not quite at the altar, but I was left several weeks before my wedding. And by left, I mean my fiance insisted he was stressed out with work and needed some time... when in reality he wanted to move his new, pregnant girlfriend into our house while I was out of town. SO. The initial aftermath was indescribable, frankly - about 85% of our wedding was set up - calling and explaining this to vendors was a total blast. I lived in and was getting married in the South, so if I never hear "oh bless your heart" again, it'll be too soon. Not to mention the crippling depression I fell into and loss of a whole life I had built with someone I had trusted. I didn't leave my parent's house for over a month afterward."
1 "As I'm on my knees crying and begging him to please give me the baby and he's holding the screaming child above me like someone holding a piece of steak just out of a dog's reach, I started thinking twice about the whole marriage thing."
As shocking as this story is, the worst part is that it's just so common. You've probably heard stories like this before, and we all know how it ends. However, the ending of this story probably a lot better than what it could've been. She had to split up with her abusive boyfriend at the age of 18, although the plan was to get married. But all in all, she made the right choice and has sole custody of her child. After reading her story, you'll be thankful the father is no longer in the picture...
"I was 18 and had just had a kid with my first boyfriend. Unfortunately, said boyfriend was abusive as sh*t, but I'd been putting up with it because I didn't know any better and didn't have family to help me out. The wedding was 2 weeks away, invitations had gone out, I had my dress, everything was ready to go. Then, one night he starts up with his craziness. He runs into my infant son's room, wakes him up by snatching him out of his crib, and threatens to leave with him and never come back. As I'm on my knees crying and begging him to please give me the baby and he's holding the screaming child above me like someone holding a piece of steak just out of a dog's reach, I started thinking twice about the whole marriage thing."