There was a time not very long ago when people felt the need to call themselves either straight or gay. People didn't talk as openly about the spectrum that seems to be growing by the day, and it was expected that everyone fit in perfectly with one group or the other. But the LGBT community has gained a lot of ground in the last decade, and has expanded to include anyone who feels like they fall somewhere in the middle of the two extremes.
LGBTTIQQ2S is now a more accurate acronym for all the possible ways someone can define themselves. But there's no rule that says you must pick a single letter and stick to it. What if you'd rather not define yourself? What if you'd prefer to remain neutral and free to love whomever you choose? Some people are most comfortable identifying as one thing, but others prefer to avoid the box that choosing a static sexuality will put them in. And celebrities are no exception. Here are 15 celebs who refuse to define their sexuality and are proud of it.
15 Kristen Stewart
Kristen Stewart had a high profile relationship with Robert Pattinson, but that doesn't automatically mean she's straight. Rumors have been swirling that she's in a relationship with visual effects producer Alicia Cargile, but she's never felt the need to confirm or deny those rumors. In a recent interview with Nylon magazine she said, "If you feel like you really want to define yourself, and you have the ability to articulate those parameters and that in itself defines you, then do it. But I am an actress, man. I live in the f---ing ambiguity of this life and I love it. I don't feel like it would be true for me to be like, 'I'm coming out!' No, I do a job.”
14 Maria Bello
After identifying as straight and dating men her whole life, Maria Bello realized she was in love with one of her best friends-- a woman. But that didn't mean she was suddenly a lesbian, or even bisexual. During a TED Talk, Bello explained that she believes "love is love" and she identifies as "whatever". Just because you believe you are one thing today, doesn't mean you'll feel the same way tomorrow, and that's perfectly okay. She told the audience, "I want to get rid of the labels that hold me back. And my hope for you is that you will create ones that empower you.”
13 Miley Cyrus
Recently, Miley Cyrus told Elle UK that she identifies as pansexual, which basically means she's attracted to anyone regardless of physical gender or gender identity. She also told Time magazine she identifies as "gender fluid" meaning she could be male or female, or both, or neither at any given time. She explained, “I’m just equal. I’m just even. It has nothing to do with any parts of me or how I dress or how I look. It’s literally just how I feel. I’m not hiding my sexuality. I just don’t want to label myself.” She uses the word pansexual because it's the best word for having no restrictions on who she dates. It's about the person, not their gender or sexuality.
12 Cara Delevingne
An article in Vogue's July issue called Cara Delevingne's bisexuality a "phase" which is something that a lot of people who identify as bisexual have to deal with. But Cara told The New York Times, "my sexuality is not a phase. I am who I am." She refused to directly answer the question of whether she was bisexual or a lesbian, either because it's no one's business, or because she would rather remain free to go with the flow and change her mind based on who she happens to fall in love with. She went on to say, "It took me a long time to accept the idea, until I first fell in love with a girl at 20 and recognized that I had to accept it."
11 Josh Hutcherson
In an interview with Out magazine, Josh Hutcherson discussed his fluid sexuality and how he's not sure what the future will hold and he's fine with that. “Maybe I could say right now I’m 100 percent straight, but who knows? In a f—king year, I could meet a guy and be like, “Whoa I’m attracted to this person. I’ve met guys all the time that I’m like, ‘Damn, that’s a good-looking guy.’” He even joked that his Hunger Games character Peeta would probably be into a threesome with Liam Hemsworth and Jennifer Lawrence's characters Gale and Katniss.
10 Raven Symone
During an interview with Oprah, former Disney star Raven Symone explained, "I don’t want to be labeled gay. I want to be labeled as a human who loves humans.” She added that she has been attracted to women since she was 12, but she “doesn’t need language” to define her sexuality. The need to have a word for everything is something we all do, but it wouldn't hurt to stop trying to put everyone in a neat little box and expect them to stay there. We shouldn't all be limited by a word that we thought defined us at one point in our lives.
9 Tom Hardy
During an interview with British magazine Attitude, Tom Hardy was asked if he'd ever experimented sexually with men. He answered with, "As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor for f--k’s sake. I’m an artist. I’ve played with everything and everyone. But I’m not into men sexually." Later, he clarified that he considers himself straight (he is married to a woman), but he was clearly open at one point with experiencing everything there is to experience and learning from it. During the recent Toronto International Film Festival he shut down questions about his sexuality, later saying it was "inelegant and humiliating" to be asked those questions so publicly.
8 Lily-Rose Depp
Johnny Depp's 16-year-old daughter Lily Rose Depp isn't shy about confirming that right now, as far as she knows, she's sexually fluid. She recently posed for the Self Evident Truths Project, which is meant to help young people feel good being true to themselves. In an Instagram post the project's founder captioned the photo, "I’m so proud of my baby girl @lilyrose_depp. She decided she wanted to be in @selfevidentproject because she falls somewhere on the vast spectrum, and I couldn't be happier to welcome her to the family."
7 Amber Heard
Now married to Johnny Depp, Amber Heard was never shy about talking about the fact she was in a relationship with a woman previously. In an interview with The Independent, she said "I don't want to have to deny my sexuality in order to be me. But I don't want to have to be defined by it." She's talked about the fact that just because she's married to a man doesn't mean she's no longer bisexual. It's about who you are, not who you date. Heard went on to say, "I don't imagine myself, my work, or my life, fitting into any kind of standardized path. In fact, the idea of there even being a standard freaks me out a lot."
6 Angelina Jolie
Angelina Jolie has been with Brad Pitt for years and has generally been put into the "straight" box. But she also had a relationship with model Jenny Shimizu right before she married her first husband Jonny Lee Miller. She has said she probably would have married Shimizu given the chance. Jolie is an example of a celebrity who is comfortable being herself and dating who she falls in love with. She's never cared about what it looked like, and she's always been a little eccentric. Her daughter Shiloh seems to be following in her mother's footsteps with her refusal to conform to gender norms.
5 Demi Lovato
While promoting her new single "Cool For The Summer", Demi Lovato was asked if the lyrics "Got a taste for the cherry. I'm a little curious too," were about her experimenting with women. She answered, “I am not confirming and definitely not denying. All of my songs are based off of personal experiences. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with experimentation at all.” Lovato has been in a relationship with Wilmer Valderama for the last five years, but as we all know, that proves nothing.
4 Ezra Miller
Known for roles in We Need to Talk Abut Kevin and most recently, Trainwreck, Ezra Miller talked to Out magazine about the "queer" label he uses to describe himself. "I am very much in love with no one in particular. I’ve been trying to figure out relationships, you know? I don’t know if it’s responsible for kids of my age to be so aggressively pursuing monogamous binds, because I don’t think we’re ready for them," he said. Committing to one person too young has a way of forcing us to accept whatever sexuality we thought we were and sticking to it.
3 Freddie Fox
Freddie Fox is a British actor currently starring on the show Cucumber which is written by the same screenwriter as Queer as Folk. Fox told The Telegraph, "I hope that I am the type of person who would fall in love with another person, as opposed to a sex. I’ve had girlfriends, but I wouldn’t wish to say 'I am this or I am that', because at some time in my life I might fall in love with a man." Putting limits on yourself is only holding you back from experiencing everything and finding someone you really love regardless of gender.
2 Jack Falahee
Jack Falahee may play a promiscuous, openly gay character on How To Get Away With Murder but he's made it clear that he has no intention of talking about his real-life sexual orientation in the media. In an interview with Out magazine, he said he doesn't think confirming his sexuality to the public "accomplishes anything other than quenching the thirst of curiosity," and "no matter how I answer, someone will say, ‘No, that’s not true.’" Basically, there's really no reason to assume an actor who plays a gay character on screen is also gay in real life.
1 Queen Latifah
Rumors have swirled for years about Queen Latifah being a lesbian, but she has never once confirmed or denied any of them. In a 2008 interview with The New York Times, she said, "I don’t have a problem discussing the topic of somebody being gay, but I do have a problem discussing my personal life... I don’t care if people think I’m gay or not. Assume whatever you want. You do it anyway." She performed at a Gay Pride celebration in Long Beach in 2012 causing people to assume that was her way of coming out, but she told Entertainment Weekly, "that definitely wasn't the case."