15 Honest Phases Of A Man Falling Out Of Love

You’ve been with your man for a while now and you’re coming down from your honeymoon high, but something seems “off” about him. Once upon a time you were his everything and now you’re just someone he likes to spend time with. Is he distancing himself on purpose or is it just that he’s getting comfortable? How can you tell if he’s falling out of love with you or if he’s just relaxing in the relationship and letting his real side show? You can ask him, but that doesn’t mean his answer can actually tell you anything. After all, men are known to lie.

What’s the secret behind the complex emotions and thought processes that make up the male mind? Is there any way a woman can truly tell whether a man is still in love with her or is she doomed to forever wonder what’s really going on with him? Luckily, there are always plenty of signs he shows to reveal his true frame of mind, and some of those signs are impossible to misunderstand. There are certain phases every man goes through when he is falling out of love, so pay attention and see if he still loves you or if it’s time to put the relationship to rest.

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15. He Says You Don’t Give Him Enough Space

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The alternate route to accusing you of not loving him enough is for him to complain you aren’t giving him enough space. We all need a little alone time to recharge our batteries, get some work done, relax in a hot tub or whatever else we do to keep up with the everyday rigors of life. While giving him some space makes sense, unless you’re literally by his side all day everyday, it’s safe to assume you aren’t the problem here. Sometimes men who are falling out of love want to physically distance themselves from their significant others to help transition from a great relationship to a less romantic one. Men do this so when it’s time to leave, they can do so without regrets or a mourning period for the relationship. If your man is accusing you of not giving him enough space, he’s probably falling out of love.

14. He’s Making Lots Of New Friends

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Your man is displaying erratic behavior, telling you you don’t love him one day and claiming you aren’t giving him enough space the next. To top off his mad behavior, you notice he’s suddenly talking to people you’ve never met before and have never heard of. He’s making new friends and joining new social circles. Women beware! He’s not making “friend” friends, he’s making possible-future-love-interest friends. While it’s normal for people to make new friends here and there, if your guy is suddenly super popular and isn’t inviting you to the hangouts, he’s likely falling out of love with you. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but facts are facts. If your man is suddenly Mr. Popular, he’s already started shopping for his next girlfriend.

13. He Says, “I’m Confused” About Your Relationship

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Relationships can be hard to maintain and it isn’t always the easiest thing to fully understand your partner. What makes a strong relationship is understanding exactly where you stand. When you first met, you were acquaintances, when you got more comfortable, you became friends. Sparks started flying and those butterflies in your tummy told you you were in love and now he’s suddenly unaware of what your relationship is all about.

What a load of bull! He knows where the relationship is. You’re in love and he’s questioning everything. It’s normal to hit a few speed bumps while you’re dating but when he starts claiming confusion, you’d better start keeping an eye on him because he’s already got one foot out of the relationship. If you want him to stick around, show him that you’re a catch . There’s no guarantee he’ll stay but at least you can say you tried.

12. When You’re Together, He’s Not Actually Present

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Have you ever spent time with someone but they didn’t really attempt to engage in any kind of conversation or activity with you at all? The bored, lonely feeling you’re left with when things like that happen is the same as what your man does when he is physically present but mentally and emotionally distant. He’s tuned you out and is already comfortable just doing his own thing. Maybe you met up for some Netflix and chill and he’s been on his phone the entire time, or he’s intently watching the movie and doesn’t really try to converse with you or touch you in any way. These are all signs that he is falling out of love with you, if he hasn’t already completely moved on.

11. Date Night Becomes So Blah, Since He Doesn’t Make An Effort To Plan Anything

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Planning dates can be exciting. Everyone wants to plan the perfect date with their significant other because they want their loves to feel the magic happening and make unforgettable memories. When he stops planning dates and you’re not satisfied with the few dates you do happen to share, it’s a clear indication that he’s falling out of love with you. If he were in love, he’d be catering to your likes while planning dates, or sharing places and experiences that matter to him. When two people love each other, they plan awesome dates and are open to new and exciting experiences. The fact that he’s no longer interested in date nights speaks volumes regarding what’s left of your relationship. Sorry, but he’s definitely falling out of love.

10. There’s Suddenly An Excuse For Everything And He Disagrees With You On A Lot Of Subjects

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When people stop caring about something, or they are trying to avoid something, they suddenly have tons of excuses. Think about it – antisocial people always have an excuse not to go out, people who are on diets explain all the reasons they can’t meet up at a restaurant, and men who are falling out of love with their significant others always have an excuse for their aloof or poor behavior. To make matters worse, men who are falling out of love take things a step further by disagreeing with their significant others over the dumbest things. If your man suddenly seems resistant to your opinions, is full of excuses and has started to disagree with you on a lot of subjects, things aren’t going well in your relationship.

9. You’re Being Accused Of Not Loving Him Enough

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Have you ever noticed that when men cheat, they often accuse their significant others of the same relational crime? A guilty party is always willing to assume the other person is equally bad, and that’s when the blame game shows up. The sad part about this is he doesn’t even require evidence of your supposed lack of affections. All he has to do is say you’re not loving him enough or spending enough time with him and suddenly you’re worried he might be right. Well, he’s not. He’s just trying to cover up his lack of love for you. By projecting his issues onto you, he believes he isn’t “the bad guy” because now you’re on equal footing. If you’re the same as he is, then you’re practically even right? Wrong! He’s falling out of love fast and he’s trying to pull you down with him.

8. You Can’t Remember Your Last Sleepover

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It’s been a few weeks and another period has come and gone. As you think about how quickly time flies, you suddenly realize it’s been quite a while since you and your man have enjoyed a playful or passionate sleepover. How long has it been? Why didn’t you notice sooner? Why didn’t he call to talk about it or invite you over? Intimacy is a huge part of a healthy relationship, so if he’s fine cutting out all forms of physical interaction, he’s definitely falling out of love with you. That’s not to say you should just let him go; get out there and try to initiate a sleepover. If he continues to refuse without good reason, the future of your relationship is most likely in jeopardy.

7. He Doesn’t Try As Hard To Please You Anymore

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Once upon a time he was the perfect gentleman who took things a little too far sometimes by bending over backwards to please you. While it made you uncomfortable at first, you were also extremely flattered and, just admit it, happy that he was just as giddy about you as you were about him. Unfortunately, those days are gone now, replaced by a guy who does what he wants and doesn’t really consider whether you’ll like it, approve or be okay with his involvement. Suddenly your happiness has been placed on a back burner and he doesn’t even attempt to please you. Try pleasing him a bit to make sure he isn’t just tired of being the only one aiming to please, but don’t get your hopes up too high because the reality is probably that he doesn’t try simply because he doesn’t care anymore.

6. He Doesn’t Want To Pay For Dates Like He Used To And He Seems More Stingy

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Men in love prefer to play the perfect gentleman. They offer to pay for your meals, movie tickets, snacks and more, so what does it mean when all of a sudden your man starts pulling back? Even if he wasn’t spending lavishly before, suddenly becoming more stingy with money is one way to tell if he’s falling out of love. It’s okay to be the one paying sometimes, but if he isn’t suffering any financial hardships and he randomly goes from paying for everything to not wanting to pay for anything, it is likely due to his lack of lovey dovey feelings for you. Men want to spoil the women they love, so if he stops spoiling you, he’s low key trying to say he doesn’t love you as much as he used to.

5. Blame Lands At Your Feet In Terms Of Arguments

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Some men genuinely believe they can do no wrong in a relationship. You usually know the type before you start dating them because no matter what happens, he is either always the victim or is not involved in the situation at all, and is therefore ineligible to be blamed for anything whatsoever. So, unless you got together with someone who doesn’t know how to take responsibility for his own actions, guaranteed any man who suddenly plays the victim and tires to place the blame at your feet is only taking you for a ride. A man falling out of love becomes more critical of everyone but himself. Somehow it’s like a coping mechanism. It makes sense, doesn’t it, for a person to believe their significant other is the root of all their problems, thus making it easier to go their own separate way? Tragic, but true.

4. He Wants You To Lose Weight Or Change A Personality Trait

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He knew who you were before you started dating, so why is he suddenly demanding you lose weight or change an aspect of your personality? The men who do this are trying to tell you they don’t like you the way you are, also known as pushing you away because he doesn’t love you anymore. If he truly loved you, your weight and personality wouldn’t be issues – unless something big happened like you suddenly became a horrible brat who gained over 100 pounds in less than a year. Basically, unless you’ve been changing for the worse lately, his sudden urging is actually more of a sign that he is falling out of love with you than it is his actual desire for you to change.

3. He “Forgets” Plans You Made Together

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Was he always so forgetful? Does he need to keep his schedule on his phone calendar? If he hasn’t always had a problem remembering the time and place you agreed to in the past, then this new behavior is worth questioning. No one who is in love ever forgets the time and date when they get to meet their beloved again. Whether it’s been a day or a week, people in love are always eager to see each other again, so if your man really loves you, why would he suddenly forget about all those plans you two made together? Something is fishy here and, unfortunately, it’s pointing towards loss of love on his end. Is there any way to salvage such a thing? Not always. Just talk to him about it and maybe you two can try to work something out.

2. Your Texts Go Unanswered And He Doesn’t Return Your Calls

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When you love someone, you can’t wait for their calls or text messages. It’s unusual for someone to go from calling and texting all hours every day and night to suddenly going completely silent. Sometimes this can be due to a change in schedule, but if that’s really the case, he’d at least take a minute to send a quick text to explain his situation. If he suddenly stops talking to you in one of the fastest and simplest ways to communicate to another person, then something is up. Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship, so it’s safe to say when he stops talking to you, he’s really trying to hint that he is falling out of love with you.

1. He Doesn’t Make As Much Time For You Or Prioritize Your Schedule

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A huge part of any relationship is quality time. If your man is backing away from spending time with you, it’s a bad sign. If he isn’t accommodating your work, school or family schedule, you might as well throw in the towel. He’s pulling away and it’s not because he’s suddenly afraid of commitment. He’s backing off because he’s falling out of love with you. Think about it – when you love someone or something, all you want to do is spend time doing that thing or spending time with that person. If you can’t do what you love or can’t spend time with the person you love, then you spend your time talking about them to anyone who will listen. If he’s trying to put space between you, it’s time to confront him.